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The sub bottom standing me up yesterday has me thinking... Can a true submissive bottom reasonably expect to stay HIV negative? I mean good sub bottoms don't say 'no'... Take a look at these rules someone came up with... The funny part was the sub who had that list as a pic in his profile failed to address me as SIR. Why is it so hard to find a good submissive bottom these days? So the question is can a good sub bottom reasonably expect to stay HIV negative? Rule #9 says "forget limits". And in this particular context #8 basically says a slave's master may want him to take poz loads (and even become poz) to make him a better slave. You can see throughout the list that slaves are never supposed to say 'no'. Neg slaves sometimes do say 'no' when the top is poz, so a poz slave is a "better slave" because he doesn't say 'no'. That's the heart of the issue - the best slaves don't say 'no' and as a result they usually wind up poz. The sub who disrespected me yesterday isn't just a bottom with submissive tendencies. When you meet him you can tell he's a real sub. He'll lick your dirty toilets. He likes reeking of stale piss, etc. But he's got this strong desire to stay neg and it's in conflict with his being a good slave who doesn't say 'no'. Do any of you identify with this conundrum? Are you a sub who had to come to terms with the fact that not saying 'no' meant you were going to wind up poz?

So the question yesterday was do poz guys tell the truth when they're asked about their HIV status? Seems most at least say they do. So today I'm wondering how many how many poz guys have online profiles (they actively use) that say they're neg instead of poz. I realize most of the time when it happens it's just poz guys not wanting to be public about their HIV status so they lie on their profile to throw off casual acquaintances, coworkers and the like. I guess the follow up question is when you say you're neg in your profile do you actually tell the guy you hookup with your poz before you hookup? Based on my experience there are lots of guys who say they're neg who I just don't believe and they never say anything. Is that just because they're bottoming and think there's no risk for me? Do you say something when you top? Or if you're undetectable do you just figure it's the equivalent (risk-wise) of being neg, and it's none of their business?

I've got a PA... Would I recommend a top get one? Not sure... For a bottom, absolutely, but a top has to stop fucking for a pretty long time to wait for it to heal. I'm not sure it's worth it for a top. I mean a bottom doesn't need his dick to be a bottom. A top needs his dick. Now if you're versatile you can always go into bottom mode for a while... If I remember correctly, I got mine January 5th, 1996 on the one year anniversary of my boyfriend's death. I was dating a guy at the time - a total bottom who got me into thinking of myself as a bareback top who just dumps load after load in a bottom's hole. He was pretty insatiable - we'd spend whole weekends just fucking seeing how many loads I could give him. Anyway, Valentines Day came around and I hadn't fucked for nearly 6 weeks and it was killing me. I took it out, fucked him, and then tried to get it back in and couldn't stomach sticking a piece of metal through a hole that was still very sensitive. The other problem I had was that I'm a grower not a shower, so they underestimated the size of the ring I needed (or pierced me further back than they should have). As a result, every time I got hard I'd upset the healing of the piercing. In both of those cases I should have gone back to the piercing shop and let them fix the problem, but I didn't. I gave up on the PA, thought it had closed up and then realized over a year later that there was still a very small hole there. At that point I really wanted the PA again so I spent months stretching it until I could fit the smallest of rings into it. At that point I was able to stretch it pretty quickly. So that's a lot of the negative stuff. The positive side is that now that I've got it, I'm glad I do and I wouldn't want to give it up. I've gone months without wearing it, but it's cool that whenever I feel like putting it in I can. In terms of sensations, when I first got it I loved the sensation. Made me get hard all the time feeling it tugging on my dick, constantly reminding me of sex. Even though I've got a really heavy ring in I don't get that sensation any more, but it's still cool to have it. In terms of fucking... I like fucking with it, but a lot of bottoms can't take it, so I remove it before fucking unless they say they want to get fucked with it. The bottom does have to be extra clean. The PA goes deep and digs up shit fairly frequently. But on the plus side once the PA is in the hole it doesn't come out until I'm done, so I don't see the shit until I'm done my business. Bottom line is if you can go without fucking for 2 or 3 months, get one, but that's a hard thing to do for a total top...

Well put. Case and point is a guy who started by taking neg loads, then two years ago at IML he started taking all loads, no questions asked. I was there at Steamworks when he started doing it. It was sorta a special moment. He wrote up his thoughts and I put them on my blog 'cause I thought it was important to document what goes through someone's head at that moment. I highly recommend reading what he wrote... http://www.rawtop.com/blog/2008-06/thoughts-of-a-neg-bareback-bottom-taking-all-loads He became poz a few months later. Now he's a proud cumhole who gets as many loads as he can. He's on here actually. He was at the last IML and posted here saying he was looking for loads. Not all bareback bottoms become cumdumps, but it does happen - even when you start out "Neg4Neg".

Do you ask the top his status or just wait for him to bring it up? While I realize there's a legal obligation to disclose in some places, personally I don't feel the poz top should be required to bring the topic up. I think the old "assume everyone is poz" is still good advice today. If the neg guy needs to ask.

This is Pride Weekend in most major cities in the US... Enjoy! I remember one gay pride weekend long ago when this guy came up to me and when I was hesitant to take him home he said "it's gay pride - you gotta have sex on gay pride." If I remember right I did take him home So guys - get out there, let down your inhibitions and give some loads and take some loads. Personally, I sorta want to hookup today. I've got a 3 day load in my balls, but I've only got a couple hours before there's stuff I have to do with friends and Saturdays are usually the ay when I just veg out. So it looks like I won't be hooking up until tomorrow. Still, I'll do what I can to give someone my load this weekend.

Glad you guys approve! I sorta thought he'd be good. He's intelligent and piggy - always a good combination... Looks like I might be starting French and Portuguese and maybe even a Japanese porn blog... I'll know more in a week or so. I'm looking forward to reaching a broader audience.

Be VERY careful answering this question. I do not tolerate links or discussion of illegal tube sites, or things like rapidshare sites. However, there is plenty of free legal porn out there which you're more than welcome to discuss...

I've put up my first non-English porn blog - it's Spanish. There are still a few finishing details (which are somewhat obvious), but it's 95% ready. Here's the URL... http://www.rawtop.com/porno-es/ If guys who know Spanish can take a look at it and comment on it, it would help a lot. Here are some of the issues... Overall, does it "work" for a Spanish-speaking audience? Is it appealing, interesting, etc.? Second, what do you think of the writing of the guy I have working for me? Does he have a good writing style? I've given him a lot of latitude... And lastly, do you see anything that needs to change? I know there are still a few items left in there that are English. Hopefully I'll have time to get them out tomorrow... I should mention I understand sending Spanish speakers off to English language sites is not ideal. That's just a limitation of what I'm working with. This is a bit of an experiment to see if that makes any sense... Thanks for your help!

What name did you go by on Bear Films? I'd love to feature the scenes on my porn blog... As far as other companies - you'd be perfect for StockyDudes.com - they're a really small producer though - don't have big expectations of them. A lot of their stuff is condom, but they're very bareback friendly. I'm guessing amateur porn is the easiest for you to do though...

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So those of you who said they don't like their current hookup sites, what features would make you like something else more?

After a failed attempt yesterday, finally unloaded my 6 day load into my black fuck bud's ass. Wearing my PA is really working in terms of getting me not to cum between fucks. I never would have lasted 6 days without it.

I've participated in forums a fair amount in the past, but getting this up I've had to think like an admin and moderator. The other day I was reading about how to keep people coming back and one of the things was don't allow personal attacks. On that count, I think you guys deserve a huge 'thanks' - I don't think there have been any personal attacks yet, which has made my job really easy. And I'll just say now that personal attacks won't be tolerated at all. If you see one, click on the moderate button below the post and the comment will be hidden until I have a chance to look at it. You guys also deserve 'thanks' for participating. I'm reading other forum owners talking about paying people to do posts or faking multiple identities and doing it themselves just to get things started. You guys jumped right in, which was great. I believe it will grow, but for a relatively new forum I'm pretty happy with the amount of participation. If you're a blogger and want to link to the site, let me know and I'll give you a link code so you can get credit for sending new members. I am thinking of maybe doing some promotions to take things to the next level, and trying to figure out what sort of promotion will help the site the most. Sending members would probably be something I'd consider in the promotion. I'm also sensitive to the fact that some people don't want to be around certain things. I've moved bug chasing and "partying" off to defined areas. If there's anything else that I can do to make participating more enjoyable, just let me know...

You gotta admit - 1) this guy is a very cute bear, and 2) he's got serious balls doing this on national television. His name is 'Fafo'.

As long as it's not ugly, I don't really care. And if it's ugly just keep it in a jockstrap. That said, I've got one guy I fuck who probably had a thick 9+ inch dick. He can cum while you're fucking him without touching himself and still continue to get fucked. That's cool. I can just use his cum for additional lube and keep fucking him. He's actually versatile. Here he is fucking a bottom we tagged together once... But in general if a guy is being a bottom his dick should never something that's focused on unless the top feels like sucking a dick or something. Sex between versatile guys would be different, obviously. But if someone is completely in a bottom role their dick is irrelevant.

I'm just curious - on a day-to-day basis, do you like being poz or not like it? In other words, do the pros outweigh the cons or vice versa? On the plus side, the sex is probably better, but then all the medical stuff can be a hassle...

If you had to choose, which do you prefer most of the time - a quickie or a long relaxed hookup? Personally I just get harder and more into it when it's a quickie pump and dump. Usually I do something a little longer just 'cause it's sorta rude to kick a bottom out right after cumming in his ass. Still I get to fucking quickly so the first part of the hookup is structured like a pump-and-dump, even if it goes on a little longer after I cum.

Thanks guys! I appreciate it.

He's totally clothed, but he's so cute - and I think he dedicated it to 'Gerald' - so he's probably showing off for his boyfriend. He strikes me as more of a bottom - I know I'd fuck him and I'm guessing most of you tops out there would too... So vote on whether you think he's top, bottom or vers...

Cleanliness is first and foremost. I'll let others go into the mechanics of cleaning out - it's hardly my specialty. But in the end there shouldn't even be a whiff of shit. Muskiness is sometimes acceptable, but you won't get rimmed as energetically if your musky 'cause the top is going to worry that there's more to it... Otherwise, I'd say lightly lubed with a silicone lube like Wet Platinum or Gun Oil to give your hole a soft supple feel. But not so much that it's messy or greasy. I have one fuck buddy who uses a flavored oil based lube and I hate it. Also think about using a Lube Shooter to get lube up in your ass, but again - moderation is key. While others will disagree I'd also add - don't shave your ass. Just make sure all the hair down there is clean. And since the OP mentioned it, my doc told me that Citrucel is better than Metameucil 'cause it's not as gassy. You don't want to be farting in the middle of sex if you can help it!

Sub Cumhole is right - Your own piss is actually sterile to your body due to the filtering your body performs internally. You can use piss to wash out cuts and the like. But he's also right that you can't quite assume the same of the guys you play with. Chances are it won't be an issue, but there's the possibility they've got something you could catch through piss. But compared to taking loads of cum up your ass, it's a FAR safer activity. The other thing I'd add is that tops will not assume you're into piss play. If you want it, say so... Most tops would be happy if you drank their piss (provided you don't try to french kiss them afterwards - piss breath is pretty awful).