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In addition to what drscorpio mentions, the key to getting the regional forums to work effectively is to mention your area in the title. FAR too many posts are have titles like "Looking to get fucked" and you have to click into the thread to see where the guy is. Basically adding your location to your title achieves the same effect as having more sub-sections. But getting people to figure that out is easier said than done.

American companies (like mine) are technically bound by EU laws like GDPR. But it's difficult for the EU to penalize a company that has no presence in the EU. That said, I do try to generally comply with GDPR. Data is encrypted when at rest, account deletions are possible, etc. However, if a person uploads an image they own or have a license to use, there is no way GDPR applies unless they ask us to take it down claiming it contains personal information, and we fail to do so. We do remove personally identifiable information from posts when a person can prove they're the person in question – so that's a non-issue. In most cases, no. If it's a watermarked promo image from a porn studio, those are intended to be spread around. The watermark is advertising and porn studio model releases typically warn the model that the image/video may be used in contexts that they find embarrassing or offensive. If it's unwatermarked and shows personally identifiable parts of the body like a face or distinctive tattoo - then you might want to report it if you're reasonably certain the person who posted it doesn't own the image or have a license to use it. But please DO report it if you believe it's "revenge porn" or child porn – those are both totally prohibited since they're illegal.

Also, don't forget that you're liable for copyright infractions. Do not upload pictures that you do not own or do not have a license to use. Images watermarked with the porn site that originally featured the video are generally safe - they're promo images that are meant to be distributed. And thanks to Google Images a court case has determined that "hotlinking" images (e.g. using "insert image from URL") is OK as well. That said, often those URLs break over time and they create an unsightly mess. And remember - just because "you found it on the internet" does not mean it's "public domain"!

Getting infected while on PrEP is so rare that if it happens to you your case will probably be written up in a medical journal. Most of the cases that are reported turn out to be situations where the person was positive when they started PrEP (the doctor did an antibody test rather than a viral load / RNA test). There are literally about a handful of known cases of it happening when the person has been taking PrEP as directed. For all practical purposes it's impossible. It is possible for a strain to be meds-resistant for Truvada. But apparently the mutation is unstable/fragile and the resistance goes away fairly quickly. Which is one of the reasons why Truvada was chosen for PrEP.

Good points. That said, nothing is foolproof. Members should always think about what information they're putting out there. Making most of this site open to Google drives home that point. On the security side I do what I can. I implemented HTTPS before most other sites. I encrypted personally identifiable data "when at rest" before the vast majority of other sites. I've now set up "HSTS" and CAA DNS records both of which work together to ensure that your ISP or employer can't eavesdrop on what you post here. When ESNI is usable, I'll implement it. I've urged people to use DoH (DNS over HTTPS). And so on… But even with all that, I can't say things are bulletproof.

Just to set your mind at ease, my understanding is that you have to get up to roughly 1,000 to infect someone (who isn't on PrEP). So at 200 it's unlikely you were a danger to anyone.

One final, and I think very clear way of summing up the new policy… ALLOWED: “joining the club” / becoming part of a tribe / helping someone achieve that goal — without harming anyone else in the process. BANNED: wantonly spreading disease, illness and death (aka morbidity and mortality) with no regard for others. The caveat being that PrEP means “gift giving” of HIV is not banned because people who don’t want it can protect themselves. And one last thing I’ll add… The things that are banned are harmful to the poz and gay community. If the trend/fetishes were to grow beyond the current, small group of mentally unstable drug addicts, you would see an increase in HIV criminalization, increased stigma and discrimination, and reduced funding for HIV/AIDS and gay causes in general. We can’t afford to be our own worst enemy.

The term "guest" is used in a few instances. First, anyone browsing the site who's not logged in will show as a "guest". These are real people who may or may not be members. They do not have the ability to post on the site, except in the Tips & Tricks section. They're allowed to post there because it may be a case were a member is having problems logging in and that's the best way for them to get to the bottom of their problem. Second, "crawlers" / bots will show up as a guest (because they don't log in). Googlebot and Bingbot are two examples, but there are others. Third, when accounts are deleted their old posts will show up as "Guest TheirOldProfileName". These people aren't on the site any more. At the core of the original question seemed to be the fact that large parts of the site are open to the public and anyone can see the content in that area. That's just the nature of the site. If you're not comfortable with that, then don't join the site. If it's particularly access to your profile page that's bothering you, simply don't put personal information in your profile. Use a handle you don't use elsewhere, etc. Also, never assume just because you posted in a members-only section of the site that your post will stay members-only since it may be moved to another part of the site that's open to the public. Also, in a few years the content on the site will be moved onto new sites that I'm developing. Things that are currently members-only may be public on those new sites. The biggest example of this is the poz fetish content - it will be moved to PozPigs.com and made public.

The rules were made a bit tougher as of yesterday. Please read the following… In short, STD fetish is now banned because it harms the community. And the kind of AIDS fetish that glorifies becoming sick and/or dying is now also banned for the simple reason that I don't want this site used to promote that level of self-harm. DO NOT QUESTION THESE NEW POLICIES IN THIS THREAD. THEY'RE NOT UP FOR DISCUSSION. You will get an infraction if you do question the policies – they're explained a number of different ways in the thread linked just above. However, you may ask if something you're planning on posting would violate the policy.

The rules were made a bit tougher as of yesterday. Please read the following… In short, STD fetish is now banned (even in fiction) because it harms the community. And the kind of AIDS fetish that glorifies becoming sick and/or dying is now also banned (even in fiction) for the simple reason that I don't want this site used to promote that level of self-harm. DO NOT QUESTION THESE NEW POLICIES IN THIS THREAD. THEY'RE NOT UP FOR DISCUSSION. You will get an infraction if you do question the policies – they're explained a number of different ways in the thread linked just above. However, you may ask if something you're planning on posting would violate the policy.

Escorting is the only way I know to monetize being a sub, but you won't earn as much as you would if you were a top. And doing porn is basically the way escorts do publicity. These days you don't have to work for a big studio to do porn and get a name - you can do OnlyFans / JustForFans / RFC Channels. Thanks to FOSTA/SESTA, not much more can be said here. Maybe DM a sub pornstar on Twitter to learn more. Most of the big names escort.

Just stop the video and do a screen capture. On the Mac that's Command+Shift+4 and then you drag a box around what you want captured. But as ShotsFired mentioned, there are players that will do it as well.

You're using unlicensed images in a context that the owner would most definitely freak out about. I just went through and deleted the ones I saw. I probably should have given you sufficient infractions to ban you from the site for a while. What you were doing is NOT OK. It's illegal. Plus, Getty Images actually has a crawler that goes all over the internet looking for unlicensed use of their images. If they had tried legal action against the site I would have made sure you were named in the lawsuit. So no, you may not have the ability to upload more images. Actually hosting/serving images is incredibly cheap. New members are generally restricted in what they do because otherwise they'd create a huge mess that needs to be cleaned up. Because suitslave was limited there wasn't much of a mess to clean up.

This picture says it all… Democrats will treat you as their equal, while to the vast majority (98.6%) of Republicans you are a second class citizen.

As an addendum… Based on the content of this thread New Members and Junior Members seem to be a problem. So I've changed the limitations - New Members can now only make a maximum of 3 posts per day (down from 5), and Junior members can now only make 5 posts per day (down from 8). Junior members are now also limited to 3 reactions per day (down from 8). Senior Members - please use your ability to down vote liberally. When you see something that bothers you - down vote the post. Doing so will make it much more difficult for those members to progress to higher levels of membership. This site has a history of having a really wonderful, supportive culture - please don't let newcomers destroy that culture. (I really miss @bearbandit - he embodied the kind of wonderful, supportive, kinky spirit that I'm talking about.) This change will bother people who don't belong here, and not bother the people who do belong here.

Nothing in this discussion had been particularly productive, so I’m locking the thread. It’s not really up for discussion - just explanation and I’ve explained it a dozen different ways. The policy is going into effect. If the policy bothers you that much - find another site. I really don’t want you here if you can’t understand the basis for the policy. It’s boils down to caring for your fellow piggy bothers. If that bothers you, go away!

If you look, nearly all the comments by Senior Members are positive with a few neutral/confused. Then it's maybe 50/50 pro/con with Members. Most of the criticism is coming from New Members and Junior Members. What that tells me is I've possibly been attracting the wrong type of members recently. Or some of the new members haven't gotten enough infractions yet to help them realize this isn't the place for them. The people who've been with the site for a long time are the type of guys who didn't need these rules - they were respected each other as human beings and wanted to nurture the #bbbh community. But among the newer members there is a fairly high percentage of problem members who don't respect others or care for their community. All I can say to them is that they're more than welcome to leave. And just to streamline things a bit - profile deletion is requested in Settings (it's the only way to have your profile deleted).

Competitors? Probably only NKP. TIM had a forum back when I started this, but I don't know if it still exists. I'm not dissimilar to JustUsBoys, but they're far more mainstream - and far larger. I know who I want to compete with - I want to compete with BBRT. I want to compete with Squirt.org. I expect Twitter to ban adult this year - I want people to go to one of my sites when they get kicked off. So the lesson to be learned is that if I want to grow I have to be able to appeal to more mainstream guys. Barebacking is mainstream. Breeding is mainstream. Being a cumdump is mainstream. Poz guys are becoming mainstream. And because of PrEP mainstream guys don't even care of the poz guy is on meds or not. So that's where I need to be. That said, if a mainstream, poz-friendly cumdump comes here and thinks it's all guys who are into STDs and dying of AIDS they'll run away as fast as their fingers and mouse can take them. I'm more than happy to lose the morbidity and mortality guys to NKP if I can get the mainstream, poz-friendly cumdumps in return. It's what interests me and it's the bigger better market. It's really not that hard to understand - treat other people with kindness and respect. And look out after your community. Oh, and don't do anything clearly illegal, and don't make it seem wonderful to get sick and die. Do those simple things and you're fine.

Since some of you are confused with the new policy and where the lines are drawn, here is a decision flow diagram which should clear things up… 1) Is this a case of a victim telling his story in a factual manner that’s not overly fetishized? Yes- ALLOWED No- continue to #2 2) Is this a case of a guy asking a sincere question? Yes- ALLOWED No- continue #3 3) Does the post try to initiate or specifically encourage illegal activity (not just mention it happened or generally discuss such activity)? No- continue to #4 Yes- 3.1) Is the illegality due to the criminalization of HIV or anti-LGBT laws? Yes- continue to #4 No- 3.2) Is it fictional? No- BANNED Yes- continue to #4 4) Does the activity physically harm other people? No- continue to #5 Yes- 4.1) Is it a real-life situation where the harm is temporary and limited to consensual participants? Yes- continue to #5 No - 4.2) Does this contribute to building a community of people who encourage each other to get debilitating illnesses and/or die? Yes - BANNED No- 4.3) Is it a real-life situation which is non-consensual but there is a way for victim to protect himself from harm? Yes- continue to #5 No- 4.4) Is it a fictional story that is likely to inspire others to engage in the harmful activity? (The more perceived consequences, the less likely it is that people will follow the example.) Yes- BANNED No- 4.5) Does this harm the sexual ecosystem of piggy gay guys? Yes- BANNED No- continue to #5 5) Othersise… ALLOWED. So let's go over a few cases: Consensual bug chasing / gift giving… ✅ 3.1) Where gift giving is illegal it's because of the criminalization of HIV – because these laws are proven to be counterproductive I'm not going to ban it for that reason. ✅ 4.3) Because neg guys can protect themselves from harm with PrEP. I won't ban it for the issue of harm. Encouraging others to get and spread STIs ❌ 3.0) Intentionally infecting another person with an STD is often considered assault, but is rarely prosecuted, so we continue to #4 ❌ 4.1) Not limited to consensual participants ❌ 4.2) Some STIs do cause debilitating illness and death if left untreated (syphilis, hepatitis) ❌ 4.3) No way for victim to protect himself ❌ 4.5) Upping the chances of catching an STD at a bathhouse or sex party harms the sexual ecosystem because fewer guys are willing to take the risk. Saying "AIDSy" looking guys are sexy ✅ 3) Not illegal ✅ 4) Harms no one Encouraging other guys to stay off meds and go "full blown" ✅ 3) Not illegal ❌ 4.1) Harm is likely to be permanent ❌ 4.2) Creates a community of people who encourage debilitating illness and death Consensual permanent scars ✅ 3.0) Because it's consensual it's unlikely to be considered assault. But the top does take a significant legal risk if sub later regrets his consent. ✅ 4.1) Not temporary, but is consensual ✅ 4.2) Even severe scars are rarely debilitating if treated promptly and properly Encouraging someone to engage in "Gainer Fetish" (intentionally overeating to become morbidly obsese)… ✅ 3.0) Not an illegal activity ❌ 4.2) A community of people encouraging each other to get debilitating diseases that will most likely lead to an early death. If you're wondering if something is allowed, just go through those questions.

Seriously, you're going to trash what I'm doing because of an error rate of 6 out of millions of hookups? SMH… I posted the study to the HIV/Sexual Health sub-forum a few years ago. Poz guys who never progress to AIDS, and are meds compliant actually live slightly longer than neg guys (though with more complications along the way). The theory on why they live longer is that they're seeing their doctor more frequently so problems are caught quickly and dealt with before they become major issues. You've never had free speech on privately owned websites. This has been the case since the web first started. It is not something new. Your right to free speech only entitles you to start your own website and take on the legal liability for what happens on that website. These are simply things I don't want to be associated with. Things I see as harmful to our community. I believe I have a responsibility to do what I can to mitigate their negative effects. The other issue is that barebacking and being poz are being equated with inevitable significant disability and death. Our community worked hard to shed that image after ARVs brought an end to the AIDS crisis. It harms the poz community for that image to be perpetuated. For the most part I've hidden threads. In a few cases I've edited some of the text to make the post compliant. But when someone starts a thread with (paraphrasing) "Isn't isn't death and illness sexy? I wanna get sick and die." - there's just no way to fix a thread that starts like that.

This site is NOT dedicated to becoming poz. WTF gave you that idea? The discussion of bug chasing and gift giving are confined to very specific sections of the site (ditto for chem sex - the site isn't dedicated to that either). As far as HPV… There's a vaccine for that. Please take it if you haven't already gotten HPV. At the end of the day this site started with the idea that people can do what they want with their bodies. If you support a woman's right to have an abortion you should support a person's right to intentionally get HIV. Abortion ends a life. I wouldn't call it murder since I believe "personhood" starts at birth, but bug chasing doesn't end a life. So of the two bug chasing is the "better" one. (It's important to have mainstream reference points because of the stigma of anything related to sex.) The extreme AIDS fetish that's being banned is like abortion - it can end a life early. You're free to commit suicide, but I don't want to have helped you towards that goal. But STD fetish affects other people. You have the right to swing your arm - as long as it doesn't hit me. Your STD fetish ups my chances of getting an STD, so it's not something you have a right to do. In transportation articles they've been very careful lately to end the use of the word "accident" and instead use "crash" because many crashes aren't accidents - something caused them. Yes there are crashes that are genuine accidents, and no one is at fault for them. Similarly there's a baseline of STI infections that are "accidents" - and we have to live with them. But when I catch an STD because the bottom had an STD fetish and thought it would be fun to infect me - that's not an accident - it's assault. So anything supporting that form of thinking is banned. Bottom line this is not about "my fetish isn't as bad as your fetish". Coming up with a clear delineation between "acceptable" and banned took some time. And it boils down to taking care of the people around you. STD fetish doesn't take care of the people around you. Neither does the "let's get AIDS and die" fetish. And even then I defined taking care of the people around you pretty narrowly - if the person can protect themselves from what you're doing to them (e.g. PrEP stopping HIV infection) - then it's OK.

That's my hope. Hell, if guys want to play with self-harm, try flogging and then move up to whipping. You can get permanent scars with the most extreme forms of whipping. Provided you take care of the wounds properly, they'll heal and you'll live a completely normal life - just with a few scars. [But tops - please learn to do whipping properly - done improperly you can harm the sub's kidneys. The tails of the flogger/whip should never "wrap" around the side of the body - they should only hit squarely on the center of the sub's upper back. There - that was my BDSM 101 lesson for the day.] The point being - there are safe ways to be a sub that don't include disability and death. Provided it's all consensual, those forms of self-harm are fine. They're on the level of bug chasing and getting HIV and going on meds - they won't ruin your life or kill you.

You joined last month and ^^^this^^^ is your 2nd post. You don't have a clue what the site used to be like.

Please report any cases where you see people encouraging others to do illegal drugs on this site. It’s been against the rules since the beginning of the site.

@seattlebbbtm - yes, as I stated STIs happen. Mentioning they happen, and talking about how to minimize them are all still allowed. What’s not allowed is eroticizing them. @neg4charged - the stories already are in their own section. If you see one outside the backroom please report it and a moderator will kick the person off the site for a few days. This is a long-standing policy.