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Once the piercing is established it actually stays pretty open. I can take mine out for months and it will only have gone down a size (e.g. 2ga instead of 0ga). I got mine January 5th, 1996 on the one year anniversary of my lover's death (not sure why I commemorated in that way, but I did). I was in a rebound relationship at the time and Valentines Day came and I wanted to fuck the guy I was seeing (the guy who got me addicted to bareback sex). So I took out the piercing to fuck and then couldn't get it back in after we were done. I left it out for a year or so and then noticed a small drop of piss where the piercing used to be. I went to the piercing shop and they gave me tapers that I used religiously to reopen the hole. So even when you think a PA has closed, it may still be open - even if just slightly. But to answer your question, yes, the PA can be rough on the guy who wears it. I usually take it out to fuck. Even when I have it hang out of my jockstrap on jockstrap night at the Eagle it can get sore from all the guys playing with it. So treat it with respect and be sensitive to it's limits. As far as cleaning, piss is sterile to your own body so every time you piss you're cleaning your PA. But I noticed that when I got up to 0ga crusties (from precum) could form on the ring and irritate the piercing. So it's important to keep the ring clean and smooth.

@BustANutInYourGut - A few comments… My understanding is that the difference between starting immediately and starting before <300-350 is that HIV may not get established in the weird little places that it likes to hide out in your body. So when people talk about possible cures for HIV that actually get rid of HIV completely, they always say it will be easiest on people who started immediately. So then the question becomes how much damage does HIV hiding out in obscure places really do to your body? I'm a little skeptical of your claim that the immune system can basically get tired and may not respond after a while. That's sorta the opposite of what I've heard previously. One study basically found that poz guys who took poz loads (and hence had repeated exposure to other strains of HIV) had lower viral loads because the new strains of HIV exercised their immune system and created a stronger immune response which in turn lowered their viral load from their own strain of HIV. Age is also a factor. If someone is mid-40s. The difference between something that will keep you alive for 40 years vs something that will keep you alive for 60 years is rather academic since it's unlikely you'll live for 60 years anyway. Even though I'm on PrEP, I'm actually quite skeptical of the pharma industry. There is so much outright lying by the pharma industry. Studies that contradict their message never get released, etc. Just today I called my doctor asking if some pain I was having could possibly be a side effect of Truvada. I'm actually thinking of going off PrEP for a week or two to see if my symptoms go away. I'm extremely conservative when it comes to taking meds. So I think the possible side effects could outweigh the benefits of early treatment. Mind you, that argument is becoming less of an issue as ARVs get safer, but still I'd hesitate to tell someone to go on something that powerful when their immune system isn't all that compromised. And lastly, I personally think it's valuable to see how your particular body responds to HIV. Some people are "HIV controllers" and honestly won't need meds for years, etc.

That is simply not true. I'm tempted to give you an infraction. Those are not the only two choices. Going on meds "when needed" (before t-cells <300) is the other widely accepted option that many people have done well with.

Your immune system won't start falling apart. There are decades of data on this and as long as you go on ARVs before you drop below 300 t-cells, then you'll be fine. Typically that point doesn't come for at least 2 years. From what I hear that's the standard treatment plan in Europe - to wait a while before going on meds. It's the Americans who hit hard early and there's some evidence that helps, but the advantage of starting early vs starting around 300-350 is relatively small. Both groups typically live a long time, etc. As soon as you find an HIV doc and get a prescription, contact the manufacturer before you fill the script. They'll cover your co-pays. I'm not sure about your deductible - you'll need to ask about that.

Read the error message. Read this thread.

Must be something on your end. The average page load time has been pretty steady for over a year now…

Someone (even you) have to use the "rate this thread" feature. The problem with rate this thread is that people don't bother to vote unless they're giving 4 or 5 stars. So all the stories with stars have nearly the full compliment of stars. I'd like to change it into a likes system that shows the number of likes. Seems like that would be more meaningful.

Definitely take a deep breath. Things WILL work out OK for you. If you're poz (and it's still an if), you're catching it early. When caught early, life expectancy is completely normal and possibly higher than if you stayed neg (because poz guys do a better job of taking care of themselves). You don't have to go on meds right away, but I'm guessing you'll be like my best friend and hate the concept that HIV is in your body and want to battle it from day one - but if you can't afford it and you wait a year or two to go on meds chances are that won't be a problem. You just need to make sure you go on meds before your t-cells drop below 300 or 350. The worst case scenario is that you move across the river into New York City where coverage for HIV-related issues is really good. That's not a horrible prospect. So again - take a deep breath - it'll all work out and you'll be fine.

In a 1-on-1 situation see if you can find a way to continue servicing the top after he's cum. Immediately after orgasm a light touching with the tips of your fingers will feel incredible to the top - the skin is super sensitive at that point and it increases the sensation of the orgasm. Of course you can't do that if you're on your belly, but if you're on your back with your legs in the air just slowly caress his back and arms with the tips of your fingers (while thanking him for the load). Once he's pulled out and after you've cleaned off his cock, see if you can get him to lay back and let you service him. You could do a foot massage, or even a full massage. Just get him to relax and enjoy himself. If he doesn't respond to what you're doing, change things up or even just stop completely. You don't want to be a pushy bottom. Though if you just can't read him, you could always ask "Does that feel good, SIR?" Basically, just find ways to serve the top. If the opportunity presents itself (like he goes into the bathroom to clean up) - do something like make his bed for him.

I just ask the guy if he's into race play. Or I flat out ask if he likes to be called a nigger. I never say it unless I know he's into it though.

No. I think it's probably impossible to find someone who's the right combination of young, slutty, and focused enough to write a blog.

Absolutely report the doctor. First to the state licensing board, then to the board of health (or the equivalents where you live). Both need to know that he's not giving approved treatment and putting the health of his patients at risk as a result. Hopefully one or both will issue him a stern reprimand. Then find a new doctor.

If you don't routinely bareback, then PrEP probably isn't a good choice for you. There is a risk and an expense to taking PrEP, so it's not for everyone.

Tell the truth. It's a doctor's job to deal with the patient before them, in whatever state they're in, and wherever they're coming from. And assuming you live in a place with proper doctor-patient confidentiality, what you tell them can never be told to someone else (outside their organization). Now, if they start lecturing you, try to politely shut down the conversation with comments like "I understand the risks and I've made an informed choice about what is right for me." If that doesn't work try confounding them with the facts like "5 times more gay men will die from smoking than from HIV/AIDS." and then say you're comfortable with the risks your taking. I'd also suggest you think about PrEP. Saying you're on PrEP is a great way to shut them up (at least in regards to HIV) - you'll still hear about how dangerous gonorrhea is becoming, etc.

That's tough. I have an intergenerational category on my porn blog, but there aren't really good intergenerational bareback sites. The intergenerational sites tend to be condom. Jake Cruise was bareback for a while, but then went back to condom. Plus he seems to be getting away from personally doing porn.

If you're good at PHP, Ajax, MySQLi, etc. and want to work on the project, send me an email at rawtop@breedingzone.com with details of your experience and skills.

Long story, but I had some confusion with the Facebook page. Things are working now, and the page is located here… https://www.facebook.com/pages/The-Bareback-Brotherhood-BBBH/632349136825893 I'll use that to post updates on development.

The site will be fully functional for free members. Escorts and commercial sex party promoters will pay to have their profiles (once I have critical mass of members), but that's about it. If you're on Adam4Adam it'll be a bit like that – mostly supported through ad revenue. There will be an enhanced membership that will give you bigger buddy lists, and more photo albums, etc. and there will be a paid upgrade option for that, but I doubt anyone will buy the paid upgrade. It's more there as a reward that I can give to active members.

I'm writing it from scratch, so it'll be mid-year before it's got a decent feature set. The last few weeks I've been working on a registration page. There's a surprising amount of complexity to do things right. I hope to have registration working later this month. And at that time I'll have a rather basic browse profile functionality. Then it will be a matter of layering on features.

Most, if not all, of the guys who say they were pozzed while topping (and I believe) are uncut. But even so it's incredibly rare - even for uncut guys.

As a top your risk is quite low - just a bit more risky than a safe sex bottom. Especially if you're cut. So don't worry.

And that's the sad part. The drugs have been this effective for 18 years now and the establishment PR is still refusing to believe the science.

Yes. Period. I don't believe there are any documented cases of a poz guy with a consistently undetectable viral load and no other STDs making someone poz. There are plenty of documented cases of the virus being transmitted while wearing a condom - condoms fail 5 to 10% of the time.

Then you don't understand this site at all. Most people here will tell you to get yourself on PrEP and stay neg. There is no need for you to be poz. HIV is not an essential part of being gay. Stay neg.

Most of the Russian/Slavic guys are in Brooklyn and Queens. Homophobia is a huge issue with them. I have no clue how you go about finding them.