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When my ass is healed, should I start taking loads?
rawTOP replied to rawTOP's topic in General Discussion
Agreed - if nothing else it gives more variety... My sex life has gotten pretty routine. -
When my ass is healed, should I start taking loads?
rawTOP replied to rawTOP's topic in General Discussion
I should probably say I'm not going to do what a poll tells me to do. It's more like I'm curious what people think. The discussion here and opinion on the poll may get me to think differently, but generally I'll do what I feel like doing (as always). Where the discussion here and the poll will definitely make a difference is in management of my brand. If you guys want rawTOP to be an exclusive top, then that's the part of my sex life that I'll write up and present publicly. (It's not like you need to know everything I do). Thing is, it seems like it's split 50/50 - half of you want me to be a huge slut and give and take as many loads as possible. The other half wants me to be completely or mostly a top. Either way, it'll be months before I can even think about getting fucked. At the moment I'm just toying with the idea... In the past, the few times I've been fucked (other than 20+ years ago), I really sorta hated getting fucked. I don't know if that was because of the fissure or if it was something more fundamental. So who knows - maybe I'll experiment and find I still hate getting fucked. I know even now there are a lot of bottoming scenarios which will never work for me - I'm just too much of a top. The energy with the other guy would have to be just right for me to bottom... -
When my ass is healed, should I start taking loads?
rawTOP replied to rawTOP's topic in General Discussion
I'm really surprised no one has anything to say about this question... The distribution of poll responses is interesting as well. -
Part of the reason why I'm a top is because I've had a reoccurring anal fissure. I've never really felt the need to bottom strong enough to get it fixed (since it only flares up occasionally), but now I'm finally working with a colorectal surgeon to get it fixed since it was a major complication last time I was sick. You guys know me fairly well... When my butt is fixed should I start taking loads? I know it's a personal choice, but just wondering what you guys think... I think inherently I'm a vers top - I do really love to seed a hole, but once I've scratched that need and blown my load should I let guys fuck me? If so, how much bottoming should I do? Should I just do it rarely, or should I do it anytime the opportunity presents itself? And how do you think it will affect my reputation as rawTOP? I mean since I usually only blow one load a day, it's conceivable I could take more loads than I give if I start going to things like sex parties where I give one and take multiple.
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There are many threads on here about fuck flu. When you do a search put it in double quotes "fuck flu" - otherwise you're searching for fuck and/or flu.
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Another thing Jayson Park & I are discussing... He thinks "scary" isn't hot. While I can see where relationship-minded bottoms might not want scary, I think a certain level of scariness would turn on a lot of guys. What do you guys think? Do you like it when you're a little scared of the guy who's fucking you? How about very scared? What's your limit?
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Jayson Park wants to shoot a video with me, but he doesn't like the executioner's hood I usually wear. He wants me to wear a baseball cap and sunglasses. He doesn't think the hood is sexy, I think the baseball cap and sunglasses is creepy (sorta stalker-ish). What do you guys think? Which is the better way to conceal my identity?
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Just wondering whether bottoms mostly get fucked for the fuck or for the load? I guess if you put it another way - which would disappoint you more - a top blowing his load in your hole after a few strokes or a top fucking you for an hour and not cumming?
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Would love to fuck you. Hit me up... Here or same name on BBRT or nycFUCKER on A4A.
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Simple. Bottoms get the load blown into the part of their body that's built to absorb things. Tops at most get their dicks wet and skin is made to repel fluids. Only if stuff gets up in the urethra or if there's a cut or (maybe) if the top is uncircumcised is the top even at minimal risk.
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Simple - open relationship. I've been with my bf for 15 year (almost). He's also a total top. Even if I started bottoming I'm not sure I'd encourage him to fuck me - we just have different approaches to sex (I like anonymous, he likes 'connected'/'intimate' sex). I think it works because you think a lot a like... And if everything except the sex works in the relationship - its still a relationship worth having. There are plenty of other men out there to scratch your itch when you need a good fuck.
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It's generally much more difficult for a top to convert. I've been fucking raw for a long time now and it still hasn't happened. It's not like I'm trying to stay neg... My best friend converted apparently just from topping. He's a versatile top, but hadn't taken loads for a while before he got fuck flu. And HungLatinDom (who works for me) also converted as a top. He thinks it was from being a fisting top. I'll let him go into more detail. I used to discount stories of tops converting - thinking they were guys who didn't want to admit to bottoming. But I'm close enough to those two guys to believe them - so it happens. I'd say everyone who barebacks actively and regularly should count on becoming poz. Let it be a pleasant surprise if you stay neg. Bottoms can generally count on it within 6 to 12 months of becoming a cumdump. With tops it'll probably take years - but there's a decent chance it will happen.
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Some tops like a loose ass, others light tight asses. Your trick as a bottom is to figure out which one your top likes. Pay attention to whether things are working for him and once he's in a groove, keep things consistent. So it's good that you're having less pain and can take cock more easily. That will really please the guys who like a loose hole. Now the only trick is to learn to tighten up during sex for the tops who prefer a tighter hole. For me, I'd say it depends on the position. So on all fours I want a tight hole. Ditto for riding my cock (which is almost impossible - since in a squat position you can't really tighten up your hole). But on a bottom's belly loose is fine. Then it's more about does the sensitive part of my dick rub up against something or is it beyond the sphincter muscle in sort of a void.
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Bacterial Meningitis in the poz community in NYC - 1 death so far...
rawTOP replied to OKJOE's topic in New York Metro Area
This is via Josh over at Positive Alliance - the folks who run Poz Thursdays at The Ritz... -
Maybe you didn't understand me, but by adding undetectable bottoms to who you fuck you will lower your risk since you're less likely to get HIV from them than from a bottom who claims to be neg. No, you weren't introduced too early. You're in your sexual prime. You should enjoy sex to the fullest.
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Barebacking is an addictive, one-way street. Just accept it and ditch the condoms. IMHO, you're at lower risk with an undetectable bottom because neg bottoms may be poz and not know it in which case they could possibly infect a top. lol It's never too early.
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1000 anon load challenge and self documentary
rawTOP replied to weiss_wolf's topic in General Discussion
I know I keep saying this, but I'll have a tube site up soon. (It's mostly done - should launch in a week or so). Please upload your videos to the site... It'll be hot seeing you progress into a total pig bottom... Second - the best way to get loads is to go to the big sex weekends - IML in Chicago (Memorial Day weekend), MAL in DC (in January), CLAW in Cleveland, Folsom in SF, etc. I'm planning to be at MAL... -
What is the best clinic in NYC for STD testing?
rawTOP replied to Freddiboi's topic in New York Metro Area
Callen Lorde on 18th Street between 8th & 9th Avenues. You can call and make an appointment during the week, or just go to the Saturday morning drop-in clinic. -
You can edit your posts for a few minutes after you post them. Then they become locked. The reason is because you wouldn't want someone changing their post substantially since it could alter the flow of the conversation and the posts below it may not make sense after the edit.
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Just curious what kind of tanlines guys find sexy... For me, a lot depends on the guy. For example a thong tanline can look great on a guy with a muscular ass. But kinda pathetic on a bear. I also don't get into tanlines where the guy was covering up too much.
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Every now and then I've gotten a request to add a section for transexuals and cross dressers. That's now done. Like the Straight/Bisexual sections there are three parts - general discussion, fiction and bug chasing / gift giving. Similar rules apply to the straight / bi sections only I'm less concerned if you post in the wrong place. Still, I would rather not see pics of trannies in the general areas - so please keep everything (including photos) restricted to those new sub-forums.
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Just wondering what body type turns fellow tops on the most... For me I'd say lean muscle, though there other types that are really hot. But if I just had to choose one, that would be it.
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There are tons of bareback bottoms in NYC. I have very little problem finding a hole.
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I gotta disagree. I think HIV is much more tightly wound into bareback culture than you think. Unlike soldiers where a few come home wounded. It's rare for a barebacker to stay neg. Barebacking pretty much equals poz. Only a few tops and the lucky guys who are immune/resistant escape that. The bareback brotherhood is a poz brotherhood. And bug chasing and gift giving are natural parts of that milieu.
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A bunch of you contacted me (mostly via PM). Give me the day to take care of some stuff and look over what you've written here on the site and I'll get back to you.