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We won't provide a list because it's not about particular sites, it's about the concept. Do not post links to sites that have stolen commercial porn. So basically check out the sites "longest videos". If you see commercial porn (which can usually be identified by great lighting) that's more than 10 minutes long - then you have stolen porn. The exception is if there are banner ads all around the video for the particular site. There are some sponsors who upload full videos to tube sites - but that typically only happens on the really big sites like XTube. They do it under sponsor accounts and there will be banner ads around the video for their site.

OK, I'll get it set up. I just have to figure out whether I'm doing an EV cert or a regular cert. And then work out any issues with things that might be hard coded to http or linked from another site... So give me a week and it should all be up and running.

I'd like to find a boy for a situation just like that...

I'll fuck you...

Just curious - would it make any substantive difference to how you feel about reading the site and posting on the site if it had SSL encryption? I don't know if it's still the case but back in the day corporate firewalls didn't/couldn't read SSL encrypted sites, wouldn't cache them, etc. And do you any of you care about the type of SSL cert used (that's a question for the geeks - most people won't know what I'm asking). If it makes a difference to you guys, I'll migrate the site to SSL...

Yes, assuming it's consensual. Ditto for "poz talk".

Not exactly. The site started as a discussion forum where the person's location was sort of irrelevant. One of my goals this year is to get more "hookup site" features on here. In the meantime what you can do is look at the NYC forum and the Northeast US forum - that's where guys in your area would post for local action. Maybe you should post something in those forums (but please don't post the same thing - tailor it to the forum you're posting in).

Actually, that's exactly what I was trying to get across... It's more manly to be the aggressor, the breeder. Less manly to crave the load. But you remind me of phrase I heard a long time ago - "Butch in the streets, fem in the sheets". You've got a manly/butch lifestyle, but deep down you crave the seed of real men... Bottom line - it's a complicated subject - sort of a shades of gray sorta situation.

If I found out someone videotaped me without telling me, that would be the last time I'd go to their place to fuck.

A bathhouse will be dead in the morning (plus the ones in NYC aren't all that good). Ditto for hookup spots - they typically don't get active until the evening. Bars don't open until 4 or 5pm - so you can't do that either. Better to just line up a bunch of pump-n-dumps and do some load collecting.

I'll give you a load if you want

To me "masculine" and "feminine" are opposites. "Masculine" is made up of the physical and social traits that are most of commonly found in men. "Feminine" is made up of the traits most often found in women. Most people fall somewhere other than the ends. Big muscles = masculine Deep voice = masculine Extreme athleticism = masculine Aggressiveness & assertiveness = masculine A big dick = masculine Knowing how to use your dick = masculine (regardless of dick size) and so on... So you can see where they say Hillary Clinton has a masculine energy to her - she's extremely assertive to the point of being aggressive. But the parts of her that are a behind-the-scenes consensus builder are feminine. It's not that power is masculine, but assertive/aggressive power is masculine. I think in terms of bottoms & tops the reason why I think bottoms are usually less masculine is because they're getting fucked. The power exchange that fucking involves is often an aggressive top taking what he wants from a submissive bottom. The aggressiveness of the top makes him more masculine IMHO. Versatile guys who are playing around with fucking don't quite have the same power exchange energy going on.

How old are you boy? I'd also need to see more body pics...

If the age of consent allowed it, I'd go for it. But I think when dealing with someone that young you have to let them take the lead... I think it's natural for them to experiment, but wrong for them to be "used".

Probably about 2 weeks, though people with videos should contact me - I'll be doing tests later this week.

It's only an insult if you value feminine less than masculine or if you think men shouldn't be feminine. I don't. Masculine/Feminine are meaningful descriptive words. And yes, masculine gets equated with manly because there's a hyper-masculinity men can achieve that women pretty much never achieve. I don't have a problem with "less manly". Put me next to a steroid taking guido and I'm less manly, but I don't feel the need to be a caricature of a man. But while being less manly I can be more of a man than he is. If I'm harder working, smarter, more responsible, I can be more of a man - and none of those things have to do with being manly... And I never got called a sissy. I was called 'gay', but in hindsight they were right...

If you use the phrase 'less manly' instead of 'less of a man' (which is what the people who are saying that mean) then yes, bottoms do tend to be less manly. But it's a bit like women - there are some women that are more masculine than some men. But on average I'd say tops tend to be more manly, and bottoms less manly. But again, that depends on the individual. I've met masculine bottoms and presumably there are feminine tops out there too...

This is a really great topic. Thanks for starting it. I've stickied the thread to encourage discussion... Gay men have SO many hangups when it comes to sex and their bodies. It's part of the reason why I think this site is important - to let guys discuss and process their inhibitions. For me, when I was growing up I felt like I lived in a shell. My family was fundamentalist christian so discussing topics of sex was pretty much forbidden (unless the "Brother Falwell" was telling the congregation how awful homosexuals were). Talking to other people about my feelings just wasn't an option. When I came out the 1st person I told I was gay (still a friend today) told me to get into a gay mens therapy group at the University. I went and I remember sitting in the room the first semester unable to put my emotions and feelings into words. I literally didn't have the vocabulary. It was the beginning of a process where I faced my feels and learned to process them in a meaningful way. The social structure of shame that I was taught as kid actually started to fall away before I came out. A college roommate made the comment to me, "when I look into the stars the god I see is bigger than the god of the bible" (he was an astronomy major). Growing up I was told man was made in god's image, but what I realized was man had made god in man's image. It was a radical thought and hit at the core of my belief system. I was on the board of one of my Universities well-known christian organizations, but within a few months of that conversation I had resigned from the board and rejected christianity. (It wasn't a good semester for the organization - the same semester the president resigned and became a black muslim). A few months after that I was told (wrongly) that I had a brain tumor, which made me further examine my life. And then about a year after the conversation with that roommate I came out as gay. Because shame had played such a major role in my fundamentalist upbringing (church 3 times a week plus I went to a hardcore Calvinist Baptist school), when I rejected christianity I started looking at how it managed to control me in the past. I saw that shame and fear were major tools in their arsenal. That made me hate shame and fear - even to this day I just don't tolerate it. When I see it I confront it. So my experience isn't exactly like yours but I get where you're coming from. One thing that might help is actively being more selfish. Have you read "The Foutainhead" and "Atlas Shrugged" by Ayn Rand? They're seminal works that have shaped the world we lived in (Alan Greenspan was one of the people who would come over to her apartment every week to hear her read her latest chapter of "Atlas Shrugged"). She is the most eloquent spokesperson for selfishness. But if you find yourself going full-steam ahead with her philosophy read the biography of her which shows the flaws in her way of life (no room for children, etc.) The point is - if you're more selfish, you have the ability to stand up for yourself and confront people who would want to use shame to put you in your place.

This is the fiction section - phone numbers and the like wouldn't be appropriate. In the Sex With Enhancements section they're allowed. Email addresses are allowed wherever. I recommend you put them in your signature - it will let you remove them everywhere all at once.

OK, I've started looking into it and the videos on the site need to be legal in the US. For the most part we're talking about complying with "The Miller Test" which (sorta) defines the line between obscenity (which is illegal) and what's legal. In practice that means scat videos are out unless you can find a way to make them genuinely artistic, political or scientific... In other cases where there's extreme role play - like hardcore BDSM or stuff like race play or simulated rape, you need to make sure the bottom/"victim" in those scenes makes it very clear that it's just role play and he's good with it. And as far as drug use on video - among other things, it's sorta dumb to capture illegal activity on film and then post it publicly. But looking at the Miller Test, if you're shooting up or smoking and there's no genital nudity then it would fail the first prong of the test and not be obscene. Personally I see sex as a political act. We have the right to do with our bodies as we see fit - just as much as a woman has the right to have an abortion. But the question is not whether we think our sex is a political statement, but whether the average person would see it as a political statement. I know I'm a lot more liberal than the average American, so some of what I'm OK with personally won't be allowed on the tube site. I realize that doesn't clarify a lot - but that's sorta the nature of the law in the US - our law is literally based on "I know it when I see it" (a quote from a Supreme Court justice).

I personally find scat completely disgusting, but even though I feel that way I would allow them. HOWEVER - I need to check on their legality. Scat is often considered obscene (fucking is not 'obscene' because it has 'artistic merit'). Let me check on the legalities of scat and get back to you with an answer...

Please do not patronize Mr. S / Fetters. They are rather rabidly anti-bareback. There are other bareback-friendly places to buy things. The Leatherman in NYC is one option...

I've worn cock rings for YEARS, recently I couldn't find my cockring and there was a piece of rawhide string laying there - so I tied it so it was just barely snug when I was soft. It's worked better than any cockring - and it's almost zero cost...

My theory is... If you're a bottom by nature, you're clearly not straight - women just don't have the equipment to satisfy you. But for someone who's a top by nature, it's easier to take the easy route and be straight. To a point a hole is a hole - and women give tops more holes to fuck. You've gotta really be into masculinity to take the hard road and be gay when you're a top.