VersatileBreeder

I might just be overreacting but a couple of weeks ago I bottomed unprotected with a guy I met on Craigslist. He said he was neg and disease free and was looking for the same only... But I know that people may lie or not really know their status. Today I woke up feeling a little fatigued and then I started feeling a little warm. I took my temp- 99.6. I felt like I got a little warmer after that and I took my temp- 100.7 this time, then 101.6 a couple minutes later. The weird part is I wasn't feeling really feverish. No chills, no burning up. I went out and I've been taking my temp for the past few hours. Temp has been ranging between 100.3 and 100.8. I don't understand why. I don't feel sick at all, and I don't even really feel feverish. Knowing that this is the usual timeframe on which newly infected guys will experience ARS, I am getting very nervous. I just simply cannot explain where this temp is coming from. Am I overreacting? I want to go to CVS and buy an OraQuick test to get this question answered, but I'm so nervous. Thoughts?

I have done it both as a top and a bottom. As a top, not being super hung (7 inches here) it's challenging, especially if the other top is not very hung either. Once both cocks are in though, it is an amazing feeling... The hole gets tighter and your cock is rubbing up against another cock. The couple of times I have done it, I wasn't able to maintain the position for more than 30 seconds or so. As a bottom, I had this happen once with two 8 inch tops. They were just hung enough to make it work. At first I straddled one guy and the other came in from behind. The feeling to being stretched is extreme pleasure/pain at first. The position got a little hard to maintain and I found it easier to have both of them lie on their backs in opposite directions with both of their cocks held together as I straddled them. That worked pretty well. I was able to ride them for a few minutes and one of the guys came inside me which was really hot. The other guy then just put me in doggy style and pounded my ass that way, finished with his load deep inside.

No problem buddy. I haven't forgotten how shitty it feels wondering "what if" all the time. I also haven't forgotten how shitty I felt physically when starting the PEP almost to the point where I nearly gave up on it. And I definitely didn't forget how much damn money it cost me.... Any advice I can give you from my experience I will. After all, it's Christmas... ;-)

mj206, I wouldn't say that you are doing anything wrong, it could just be the way your body is built. Some guys have the rectal anatomy that will allow long cocks to make full penetration without pain, while others do not. I am vers. In my experiences, I have fucked guys who will let me slam them balls deep without feeling an ounce of pain, then I have other guys who tense up and say it hurts when I get a little past half my dick in them. As for when I bottom, I can take long cocks no problem. I have a fuck bud with a 9" cock and he can actually get into my second sphincter. When he does, I think it is the most amazing feeling ever. I would recommend for you- ride your top a bit and see how you can get his cock all the way in you. It may take a little while and may take some practice at finding the right rhythm and groove to get you there, but if you are persistent, you should be able to get the results you want.

AusExploring, if you were on PEP within 8 hours of the sex, chances are very much on your side that you will be OK. When I had my episode with PEP last year, it was just about that- 8 hours- that I got on PEP also. Now, the top I was with was of undetermined status. You are almost certain based on your sources that your top guy is poz and not on meds. So we have a little difference in our experience. After I started PEP, I wanted to get an opinion of a specialist about the situation I was in, and what he thought my outcome might look like. The doctors who prescribed me the PEP were ER doctors and not to impugn their qualifications, but they were not specialists in the field of HIV. I consulted a highly regarded doctor who specializes in the field of HIV/AIDS and deals with HIV/AIDS patients. He told me something to the effect of, "well, you definitely did the right thing by going on PEP, but I cannot tell you what your outcome will be as I cannot see into the future. You will have to get tested again in three months." I wasn't really happy with his lukewarm response, so I pressed him a little bit for a little more of an opinion. I assured him I would not hold anything he tells me against him, regardless of my outcome. What he said to that was, "well, I don't like quantifying these things into numeric odds, but I will tell you this... Let's just assume your partner was, worst case scenario for you, HIV+ and not on meds, the fact that you went on PEP so soon after the event will lower your odds of infection to probably somewhere between 1 in 5,000 and 1 in 10,000. The odds are very much on your side that you will be OK. Take that as comfort to get you through the next three months, but still, I urge you to get tested in three months time." So I pass these words onto you as you are in the same boat I was. What I will tell you is this- don't miss a dose of your meds. I set an alarm on my phone for 10am and 10pm everyday and I took the pills almost perfectly 12 hours apart every single day for 28 days. If you miss doses, it can lower the effectivity of the drugs if they are actually suppressing an HIV infection from taking hold. Good luck to you and let us know how it turns out.

Very recently, I started getting into poppers when I bottom (I'm vers). I have come to LOVE the euphoric rush I get when I am on my back with my legs over a top's shoulders and he is pounding me with his thick cock. It feels like sex has been brought to a whole new level for me. That's about as chem as I get during sex, I haven't gotten into any harder stuff than that. I can easily take 8-10 hits of poppers while I am getting fucked during one session and it makes me literally feel like I can just get fucked for hours on end. As I said, though, I am vers. I have tried poppers a couple times as a top and it really just doesn't do it for me when I am doing the fucking. Another issue is, after I take a hit while I am topping, I start to lose my hard on a bit. And if I take a few hits, I will go totally limp. So naturally, I have come to reserve the poppers strictly for when I am getting fucked. So here is my question for all you tops out there who like poppers... What does it do for you when you are fucking a guy? Does it ever make you lose your boner? I have seen tops in BB porn hitting poppers and it seems to have no negative effects on them. Any way to counter those effects? I would like to be able to get that euphoric rush even as a top.

Call me conservative, but I think the ages that we set forth in the law, which in the United States is pretty much universally 18, are just about right. Of course, there are states that allow 16 (or perhaps even 14) as long as the partner is within 3 or 4 years older than you. My reasoning behind this is because though teenagers may be mature enough physically to have sex by age 13 or 14, I honestly don't believe they are mature enough for the emotional impacts that can come along with sex at that age. In my adult age (I'm in my late 20s), I am mature enough where I know how and where I can either attach emotion to sex (passionate love making) or detach emotion completely (just straight out casual fucking). I don't believe that teens know these lines and boundaries yet. If I were 16 and I had sex with an adult, I might believe I am or should be in love with that adult. I wouldn't know yet about how sex works in the adult world. I could be wrong. Because I am a high school teacher and am around teenagers all day long, I know pretty well how their minds work and operate. I can read them well enough. Many are not mature enough yet. And kids that get too deep into the adult world of sex as teenagers may pay for this in their later years when they have psychological issues around sex rooting from when they were teens and did sexual things they should have waited until adulthood to do. If kids want to experiment with each other, sure, why not? We've all done it when we were kids I am pretty certain. And I am pretty sure that given that they are likely to be on the same mental level, there is not a whole lot of connection to be made, they are literally just testing out the equipment. But to engage in sexual acts with an adult is a whole other story. Many teenagers put up a front that they know everything, because let's face it, when you are a teen, you do believe you know everything. But the fact remains that they are still very naive about the world of sex and how it really works in the adult world. It is something that needs to be transitioned into in early adulthood, not jumped into as a child.

Tiger, I still think it's bullshit and not even a little bit okay that the suggestion is being made again and again that you didn't belong there. And I'll tell you why... The club advertises itself as that it "caters" to men of color. "Caters..." is very different than "serves only..." and that is not just in the sex club/bar world, that is universal. Here is a good example. When I was younger and just out of college, I was working in an upscale restaurant that "catered" to people with money. A lot of money, I mean. It was a high-end clientele. Imagine a working or middle class guy who saved up a few dollars so that he can take his girlfriend out for a special dinner where he can propose to her. Should we turn this guy away because we "cater" to rich people and this guy showed up driving a Honda? The answer is no, we shouldn't. And why not? Because he came with the same purpose as everyone else. He shows up with his girlfriend, both dressed appropriately, and he had the money to spend that night. You, my friend, showed up to that club with the same purpose as every other guy there. You had the naked body, you had the ass, and you wanted to get action. You weren't there to spectate. You weren't there to socialize. You were there to get action and that's what you got. The fact that you're white is neither here nor there. Perhaps there were guys there who are simply just not into white guys sexually and that's fine, we all have our preferences. But to say that you didn't belong there simply because you were white is wrong. In my honest opinion, saying you didn't belong there because you were white is a statement with traces of racism it it. Not outwardly and obnoxiously racist, but still somewhat racist. I'm also not saying that it's wrong to have a club that caters to men of color either. It's the belief that you didn't belong there that I have a problem with. And as long as we live in a world where people believe in principles such as that clubs like this are necessary to segregate races and a white man just "doesn't belong," then that nasty little social bug we have called racism is NEVER GOING TO FUCKING DIE.

Couldn't have said it any better myself. If it were a club advertised for white men, Al Sharpton would be down there in two seconds calling for a public protest and for the place to be shut down.

Actually, Tiger, I just checked out their website and I am curious... It looks like this place is a members only club... How did you get in without applying to be a member?

No, you had every right to go there and check it out. And they did the right thing by letting you in. If they turned you away, it would have been bad form on their part. What does it matter that you were the only white man in the place? I am surprised that whereas you did get action, you also got turned away by some guys and there were others who didn't even notice you. I would have thought being the only hot white bottom in a club like that might have made you the center of attention. Even still though, I can totally understand how you felt out of place. A few years ago, I was on vacation in Rome with a friend and we were club hopping one night (dance clubs, not sex clubs). Not being familiar with the club scene in Italy or the area there in Rome, we mistakenly stumbled into a club that looked just like any other on the outside, but inside turned out to be a thrash heavy death metal club. Whereas everyone in there was dressed in heavy rock-n-roll gear, we were just two preppy looking 20-somethings who wanted to bump and grind to some house music in a dance club. We felt COMPLETELY out of place, so I know the feeling.

Sharing a top can be awesome as long as all three guys are into each other. It can go sour very fast if the three guys don't all have a connection with each other. Perfect example: I had a 3way with a fuck buddy of mine and another guy recently. The other guy we met on craigslist and though he was pretty hot, he just lacked something I can't quite put my finger on. The best way I can put it is, he made an awkward presence. My fuck bud was fucking me at first, then when the other guy joined us, my buddy started fucking him. They just didn't have any sexual connection though, so my buddy went back to fucking me and his cock was in my hole most of the time. The third guy I guess started feeling left out. I tried playing with him a bit as I was getting fucked (sucking him, playing with his ass, etc.) but he really wanted to get fucked. My buddy just wasn't into him. And though I LOVE every second of getting fucked by my buddy's big thick cock, this third guy's lack of sexual connection with my buddy just made the whole time very awkward and not fun. But he WOULDN'T leave until he got fucked. This is the funny part... My buddy, sensing that this guy would leave if he got a load in his ass, decided to fuck him a little more. About two minutes later, he picked up the pace and started fucking him hard. He grunted and groaned and shot a load in his ass. The other guy got up, washed off, got dressed and left. As soon as he left, my buddy jumped back on the bed and started fucking me again. I looked at him and asked, "you're ready to fuck again? That was fast." His response: "You don't REALLY think I gave him my load do you?" And they say faking orgasms is only for women... LOL

I have been in the same boat as you, AusExploring. Only for me, there were a few guys I fucked who told me they were neg and I found out only AFTER the fact that they lied. This happened with three different guys. But all three I got to find out each time were undetectable. I am still neg. I have read on various medical websites claims made by doctors specializing in this field that a neg top fucking a poz bottom without a condom is at about 1 in 200 risk of contracting HIV. Now that is poz and NOT on meds or undetectable. I am sure this number varies depending on how "toxic" the bottom is, how high is viral load is, etc. But, these doctors have also mentioned that the odds lower to somewhere between 1 in 1,000 to 1 in 10,000 for a neg top to contract HIV from a healthy, undetectable bottom. I once went on PEP. I slipped up and let lust get the best of me. I let a very hot, very hung black top fuck me raw. When I say hung, I mean 11 inches and aggressive. I really, really wanted to experience letting a top like that have my ass. He bred me twice. When he was done, I got off and instantly regretted everything I did with him. He was very shady and standoffish about discussing his status and I just could not trust him. Six hours later, I was in the ER of a local hospital asking for PEP. I am not sure if this is standard practice in the medical field, but the two doctors I spoke to were VERY hesitant to put me on PEP. Apparently, having a partner of unknown status ejaculate inside me was not enough risk to convince them. It got to the point where I had to lie and tell them that I "heard from a reliable source" that this person was HIV+. They relented and prescribed me 28 days of PEP drugs. Just to let you know, in case you ever have to cross this path in your future, PEP is not fun. The drugs they put me on, Zidovudine and Truvada, are initially very harsh on the system. I was able to get used to them after a week or so, but the first few days were rough. Lactic acidosis (basically all the muscles in your body become painfully sore), nausea, trouble sleeping, etc. Plus, this happened right at the start of the new year, so my insurance deductibles reset and I had to pay almost full price for the Truvada, which was almost $600. Between that, the other drugs and the ER visit, the whole ordeal cost me near a grand. Good luck to you, I hope everything turns out fine (and I am confident it will).

I have seen the Home Access test at CVS, but I think it is WAY too complicated. I never bought it. Plus if I am not mistaken, it is $54.99. To have to draw your own blood, send it in a FedEx package, wait 24 hours (for me, that would be a nerve wracking 24 hours) and then have to call some number is just too much. I used to take see it in the store and think, "why the hell don't they just sell the instant tests like you get at the clinic???" Then, not long after, they made the OraQuick tests available for purchase... I have purchased the OraQuick test and do so every 2-3 months to keep my neg status current. I think it's great and it's worth every penny. Here are MY reasons why: 1) You get instant results. No waiting, no fidgeting, no what-ifs running through your head. Instant results. 2) It saves a trip to the clinic. I know there are free clinics, but the one near me, I don't like because they love lecturing you and ask you 50 million questions I would rather not answer. Now, for me, a trip to Planned Parenthood is a $40 insurance co-pay anyway, so it's a wash cost-wise. Plus, I get a lot of waiting room anxiety when I go there. In the past, I've done testing there and when they are busy, you may have to wait 30 minutes plus after taking your sample to get your results. The longer I wait, the more anxious I get and start thinking something MUST BE wrong. None of these issues with the OraQuick test. 3) Regardless of what your result is, your status stays between you and you. People have said to me, "but what would you do if the result came back positive?" My answer is, "I'm a big boy. I mentally prepare myself in case the result is positive." I know that I would have to inform anyone I have been with in the past three months and then go to a doctor to get a confirmatory test done, and then get consultations done about meds and all that. But that initial shock, I can deal with myself. I don't have to be surrounded by 5 people asking me a million questions during a hard time. 4) You can do it any day, any time. If there is a 24 hour CVS by you where these are available, it means that you have 24-7 availability to have an HIV test done. No need to schedule out appointments or try to figure out your local clinic's crazy hours (I swear the hours of the free clinic and Planned Parenthood near me change just about every week). 5) You can keep two on hand in case you ever want to test with a partner before engaging in bareback sex. Now, I know the little booklet that comes with it says that the test should not be used as a testing measure to determine whether or not to engage in safe sex and condoms should always be used and blah blah blah, but let's face it... If you or a potential partner have any doubts or uncertainty about engaging in BB sex, this is the best tool you can use. I know there is still the window period risk, but using this test is better than nothing. I have used it with a guy who only wanted to use a condom, but I wanted his ass raw. He told me that if I could furnish recent test results, he would let me have him raw. I told him that I would do him one better and do this test right in front of him. I did and he let me fuck him raw and it was AMAZING sex. So there you have it. I am sure other people can furnish other reasons why this test is great, but these are my reasons. Hope they help.

It is definitely possible, it happened to me a few years ago when I was 24. I was cruising online and started talking to a 32 year old guy from craigslist. He had just moved in with his sister a few towns over from where I lived. I got the jist from him that his life was kind of at a transition period, where he was unemployed, not really making money and trying to get his feet on the ground and start over. We exchanged numbers and he called me. Where I would usually just try to make meeting plans with a guy off craigslist, maybe discuss what we are both into sexually, etc, it was different with this guy. We chatted on the phone for about an hour as if we were old friends. Our personalities just kinda clicked. We made plans to meet that Saturday night. That Saturday night, we met up. I picked him up in the early evening and we went for drinks. He told me a lot about his life and it sounded like he had been through a lot. Still though, he was a really nice guy. He illustrated the point that a lot of people who had been through what he went through typically end up being out on the street, then end up either prostituting themselves, getting into drugs, alcohol, etc, but he fought through everything and is trying to make a better life for himself. I liked that about him. Anyway, we went back to my car and started making out. When it started getting heavy, we went back to my place. Apart from the emotional connection I had with this guy, it didn't hurt that he also had a nice body, beautiful thick uncut latin cock (about 8.5") and loved to fuck. We had sex and it got pretty passionate. We started out with a condom and halfway through, he took it off and went in me raw. We went for probably 2 or 3 hours in the sack. After that, we got hungry and went for a late night bite. Back to my place and more sex, then sleep. Next morning, even more passionate sex. I dropped him back at his sister's place and went home. That whole week, I could not stop thinking about him. I had no desire to meet anyone else. I just wanted to see him again, even if we didn't have sex. We made tentative plans to meet again that weekend, but I had to break the plans to see family instead. So we made plans for the following weekend. Well, the day I was supposed to meet with him, he didn't answer any of my texts, calls, or e-mails. Just completely unresponsive, like he disappeared off the face of the planet. It went on like that for days. I was really confused as to why, also was a little hurt. It drove me crazy. After a few days of trying to reach him, I finally gave up. About two weeks later, he texted me and told me he moved back in with his parents, about 3 hours away. Said that a lot was going on with his life, mostly family stuff, and when his life gets like that, he tends to push everyone in his life away. He apologized and said that maybe we could meet again one day soon. It never worked out. I still remember him though and I don't think I will ever forget him.

I've seen this happen twice... Once with me as the top and once as the bottom. The time it happened when I was topping, the guy who was riding me was this 24 year old latino dude who didn't have very much experience with getting fucked. He claims only two guys had "tried" to fuck him before me and he just wasn't into them and it didn't work, but claims that I completely opened up his outlook on getting fucked and he loved it. Anyway, the second time I was fucking him, he was so turned on. He was rock hard the whole time. Finally, when he was riding me, I shot my load in him and the timing couldn't be anymore perfect... Without him even touching himself, his dick shot a big load all over my chest and stomach, practically drenched me. I think the fact that I came inside him just set off such a heated up mental trigger in him that his body just couldn't hold back and orgasmed from the sheer hotness of knowing he just took a load of cum inside from a guy. The time it happened to me as a bottom was 3 years ago, when I was 26. I was with this daddy type guy who I still to this day say is the best fucking top I ever had. He just had all the right elements of a daddy top- very dominant, talked filthy to me, made me genuinely feel like I was "his" boy and that he owned my "pussy," he had a great cock, fucked with the perfect rhythm and aggression, etc. I can go on and on. Anyway, he had me on my back and was pounding me with my legs over his shoulders, his big fat cock just pummeling my hole. I was loving every second. He would never kiss me, but he always did something that would turn me on 10 times more than ever getting kissed... In that position we were in, he would press his forehead right up against mine as he was fucking me, look me straight in the eyes, breathing right on me, and would say the dirtiest things to me like, "I own that pussy," "you want to feel daddy's seed just breeding you right up?" "you know I love fucking that cunt," etc.... Well, after a couple minutes of that, and his cock just working my hole perfectly, the heat of the moment got too great- I felt the pressure start building up in the head of my cock, working its way down to my balls, and finally, SPLAT! I shot a huge load all over his and my abdomens. I apologized for cumming before him, because I knew he was supposed to cum first. He actually wasn't upset at all and was actually quite fascinated by the fact that he made me cum without even touching myself. Normally, I would need a break whenever I cum, but I just wanted him to keep fucking me, I didn't want it to stop.

eightndeep, you bring another interesting point I did not think of. This behavior conditioning you speak of might be an issue for him. But the thing that throws me about your point is this... I'm not a woman. He can't get me pregnant. If he shoots his cum inside me, there is absolutely 0.00000% chance that I will be calling him up in 3 months saying, "Ummm, I'm pregnant and it's yours..." He knows all this. So, shouldn't all that allow him to get away from that conditioning? Maybe even allow him to get "a break?" If I were in his shoes and I messed around mostly with women and knew I had to either wrap it up, make sure she's on the pill or at the very least pull out to avoid a girl on the side getting pregnant and destroying my family life, then I would find it to be a total fucking treat to be able to drive that seed home inside a guy's ass and get that breeding satisfaction without the worry. Just a thought. But to your next point, I will throw that at him next time he is fucking me. When I can feel the fucking getting heated up, I will say something like, "just cum in me man." If he still refuses to, but doesn't give me a reason why not, I'll add, "dude, you can't get me pregnant. What's the worry?" And see what he says to that. Thanks for your response.

Deaner, yeah next time, I am just gonna follow his lead and see where it goes. I know from my past experiences, especially when I used to play safe all the time with guys, there were a few that I met a few repeat times and each time, I was able to feel a little more comfortable and a let myself be a little more uninhibited with them. Perfect example was a married 41 year old guy with a monster thick rock hard cock and extremely dominant manner in bed. The first time, I insisted on condoms for him to fuck me. The second time, I still insisted on condoms, but halfway into the fucking, let him go raw as long as he didn't cum in me. The third and fourth time, he was allowed to fuck me raw, but no cumming inside. Finally, by the fifth time and beyond, I was letting him breed me 3 times or more each time we met. So maybe it will just take time for him to become a little more uninhibited with me.

HMR89, what is interesting about your response is... Out of the three, I find #1 to be the most far-fetched, yet in this situation, it is the one that actually would make the most sense. #2 and #3 I am not worried about with him. Now, don't think that means that I'm naive enough to think that it's impossible that he or any guy who might fuck me is surely neg and disease-free just because they say they are. I KNOW that there are guys that don't know (or don't care) about their status and that there are guys who also lie. I try my best to have as good of a talk with any guy I meet to mitigate these risks, but with this guy in particular, all evidence points to him truly being disease-free and neg. HE was asking me the 21 questions about my health and status before we started playing around because he couldn't bring anything home to his wife. HE was the one who insisted on wearing condoms on our first few encounters. Now, back to your #1 about how it's possible he could be scared I could collect it and prove its his cum and use it as proof to turn his family against him if I fell for him... Well, that sounds a little far-fetched, but lets face it, some people have far-fetched thoughts and fears. Reading that made me recall that the first two times we met, he took the used condoms with him. A bit odd, since he could have just trashed them where we were. But he took them. Then the third time, when he came in my mouth, as soon as he was done, he told me to spit it out in the sink. I mean, what difference if I would have swallowed it? What did he think I was going to do with it, spit it into a test tube and take it home with me to plot something evil later on him? It definitely is a bit odd and to the normal person, irrational, but seeing the history with him, it surely is a possibility.

slowfuck, that is a possibility. I didn't really think of that. He knows that I do take loads, but I only do so occasionally (I wouldn't just be ass up waiting for any top to dump a load in me). If that were to happen (me getting infected), I hope he knows that I would not pin the blame on him or anyone else for that matter, at the end of the day, my health is my own responsibility. Maybe I need to talk with him about that.

Interesting to know that guys actually thought (or think) like that. Though it's an interesting observation, I don't think that is what's going on here. We are also talking about deep south early 80's versus NY 2013, different times, WAY different values. I don't think this had anything to do with him not breeding me. I mean, we are fuckbuds... We have a mutual respect for each other, but at the end of the day what matters is his cock and my ass. He knows I had no objection to him cumming inside me, in fact, I welcomed it. I don't think he was thinking of it as a disrespectful act as what was holding him back. Something else there. But thanks for the response.

This post made me recall a hot daddy guy with a great thick cock who used to fuck me and whisper in my ear, "I love fucking that pussy." I just remember how much of a fucking turn on it was that he used the word "pussy" to describe my hole. I never had a guy refer to it as a "cunt" but I think I would be equally, if not more, turned on if he did. It's just such a dirty word, I love it. The words, "ass," "hole," "butt," etc are all a little too vanilla for me. I wouldn't object to a guy using them, but they just wouldn't have any turn on effect for me.

Aghhh sorry to hear you had a bad experience, 0 for 3 it seems like. I have had similar experiences. From what I can recall: 1) I once had a guy who we seemed to have amazing chemistry in bed. He was a top, loved fucking me. Started off as a great, passionate fuck. Problem was, for whatever reason that night, he couldn't cum. But he insisted that he could and kept on fucking me... And fucking me... And fucking me... Then he started losing his boner on top of it after a long while. I told him not to worry about it, that we all have our off nights when it comes to sex and we could try another time. But he kept insisting that he wanted to give me his load. So now, not only was he trying to fuck me, but he was trying with a half-hard dick. After another long while, he just gave up. 2) I hosted a group session at a hotel, advertised it on CL as a gang bang with me as the bottom. I had two latin guys who were buds show up and they wanted to tag team my hole. They were taking turns fucking me and it was going awesome with the two of them. Then there was a third guy who wanted to show up. His pics were real hot, he was hung, etc. So I gave him the info. Keep in mind now I had advertised this as a BB gang bang. This third guy shows up, gets on the bed, and as I went to start sucking him, he stopped me and put on a condom... He wanted me to suck him with a condom on! I told him I don't suck on latex. So, he turns me around and starts fucking me a little bit, with a condom, which I wasn't all too thrilled with. Then when he went to give one of the latin guys a turn, he was shocked to see the latin guy fucking me raw. The latin guy blew his load in my hole and then passed me onto his buddy who started fucking me again. The third guy got up and went into the bathroom to wash up, told me he wasn't "into this scene." So yeah! Those were a couple of bad fuck experiences I had.

I have to agree with the consensus here. If your friend turns up poz after barebacking with "this guy" for the past decade, then the damage is already done, there is nothing you can do about it. You telling your friend what you know can only make things worse. "This guy" sounds like an asshole. I doubt it makes any difference to you if he will dislike you because you ratted him out, but why make an enemy that you will have to worry about? But also, it sounds like the other guy in the equation here, exBF2 is a friend of yours. If you do tell him this, he may be angry that you watched him have a relationship with this poz guy for 10 years and didn't say anything to warn him. It's hard to gauge how that will go, because I don't really know how much concern he had with staying neg. Has he not gotten tested in the past 10 years? If so, that means that he is either: a) not concerned with turning poz or so trusting of the man he was with that he saw no reason to get tested. Best thing at this point, don't say anything unless doing so will help protect anyone from getting hurt going forward.

Bearbandit, thank you, I didn't really think about that, but your response seems to make the most sense. Especially as this is a married man, that could be what holds him back. I am not sure how much of an emotional attachment he has with his wife and since he cheats on her, it would seem that it might not be all that much emotion. I could be wrong, however. He and his wife might have a great relationship and he might love her to death, but his bisexual nature drives him to also need to be with a man sexually. I can tell this man has no aspiration for wanting intimacy or a relationship with me or any other man for that matter. At age 50, he has come too far as a "straight" family man with a wife, kids, etc to possibly want to forsake any of that just for some guy. I wouldn't say that you're over-romanticizing this at all. You are right- there is a connection formed when a guy cums inside another guy. Many gay men will probably overlook that all in the heat of "breeding" another guy or "using a cumhole slut" etc, but there definitely is that bond. So, maybe he does not want to make that connection to me. Maybe he is afraid that if he does breed me, I will become more attached to him. I didn't think of any of that, but it surely does make sense.