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  1. norefusal
    questions like this throw me off: before prep almost everyone used condoms and although i successfully talked a few single gay guys into taking my dick raw it does come w a certain % of guilt, as it always took emotional manipulation and that gets "iffy" morally when it comes to consent. after prep the only guys i ever meet who even bring u the c word are top cheaters on the DL and honestly it's easier just to either give in or say forget it. it's not like there's not plenty of raw-only guys all over the apps to choose from but again, morally, do i really wanna be responsible for helping someone getting cheated on also getting the clap?
  2. norefusal
    it's low level chem sex. like booze it helps u relax but also makes you lose some motor coordination like weed it hightens emotions so even banal sex seems good but that in itself can become addictive where it's hard to have sex sober anymore. like T its chems, unnatural and a health risk. it's not as addictive as T but then the high isn't nearly as good. but it's somewhat of a similar head-in-the-clouds high and of course party type behavior is its own caution. i e had nights where ive done all 4: booze, weed, poppers and T. i've never heard of anyone going to poppers rehab but it's still a chem addiction, or can be. i've noticed that since going sober from T, my poppers usage just skyrocketed as a sort of "safer alternative".
  3. norefusal
    not at all. i'm just saying for me personally i don't see the fuss. but i get that so much of sexual assault is subjective including difference of opinion between the two involved as to weather it was consensual or not. strictly speaking you could say my sat night wasn't CNC because we didn't discuss it beforehand. i also suppose my letting him come back for more is consent. and the follow up DMs of "come back anytime" wouldn't help a case 😜 but i'm probably a bdsm weirdo anyways because i'm most turned on by the nonconcentual stuff. 😈
  4. norefusal
    well, it's good that we all get to do what works for us and not be restricted by rules set for others. for me, this isn't such a black sheep. BDSM is largely CNC. other than maybe a bar fight, when else are we like "ok, now you hit me hard and i'm gonna enjoy it" 😜 i do it w friends where we pretend they break in to the house not realizing i'm home n napping. they then tie me up and "force" me to bottom for them. the only time ive used my safe word is one time one of them got a bit too eager w the taser on my nuts. anyways, the whole CNC thing is up for interpretation imho. i've had peeps on here tell me getting really rough fucked isn't CNC and honestly i don't see the difference. is it verbal rape talk? because most actual rape doesn't come w verbal "i'm raping you" talk. this one dl str8 guy that sometimes rough fucks me if i'm blindfolded fucks me so angrily it sure feels like CNC to me. but rape is in the eye of the victim. and if it feels like i'm getting raped but i'm enjoying it, who's to say it's not CNC just because it didn't fit some rule i don't know about.
  5. norefusal
    how was it. i've heard good things.
  6. norefusal
    with my luck i've probably only taken 999 😜 but seriously: eliminating relationships (repeat fucking) i've only been slutty for a total of about 15 years, so to reach over 1k i'd have to have bent over for 1.3 guys per week, which tbh seem doable. 😈 but who knows? i'm probably underestimating how many "unlucky" weeks i've had over the years 😜
  7. norefusal
    to me the most important thing to remember is being aware of what you can and can not control. the most important being: do i really want this? i was more like 27 and very attracted to the guy who spent time talking to me and then fooling around for a long time so by the time we got to it I was very ready willing and able. if you rush to just do it right away w just anybody you're pretty much setting yourself up for a "a don't think it's for me." situation. when i was younger i bottomed more like a top in the sense that my primary motivation was how getting fucked improved my orgasm. when i got older i learned to focus more on the actual pleasurable sensations of getting fucked and enjoying that rather than just focusing on if i cum or not. it's like a whole different thing. i mention this in part because being present and focusing on the moment also highlights how every top cums differently. some guys you can actually feel the cum hosing down your insides. other guys you can feel the cock pulsating inside you as he pump out the load. some guys are verbal, some guys are showy, some guys just breath a bit heavier and some guys stealth. likewise you body reacts differently. sometimes it trickles out n down your leg. sometimes your body expels it either in a wet fart or cramps that send u to the bathroom. sometimes it comes out the next day w your morning dump and sometimes your badly absorbs most of it.
  8. norefusal
    this is just me. we all have preferences but at the end of the day the most important thing to me is the shared experience: two people engaged in mutual pleasure. this is no longer a 1 an done. he's now a reg FB by stressing that he'd rather have no hair than you being yourself he's saying his pleasure is more important than you as a person. so let him go get it from someone he doesn't have to engage with. and you concentrate on fucking guys who appreciate you for who/what you are.
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    holy fuck i think i'm in love 😜
  10. norefusal
    i can't think of an example of this exact scenario, but i also spent most of my life living away from my family in places where i could get more dick. when i was younger i used to sometimes push it w going mia during work hrs because i was cruising instead. i suppose that comes the closest to "have u ever skipped obligations just get anon dick?"
  11. norefusal
    this my only advice to the OP is to keep doing what your doing. if you leave the blinds up and the lights on while getting pounded and he watches so be it. that might be kink enough. wait for him to decide he wants to potentially blow up his whole life for a meaningless fuck. but be prepared to live w front row seats to all the ugly drama if this blows up his home life. you're literally considering shitting where you eat and maybe you wanna keep this as a wank fantasy, where it probably belongs.
  12. norefusal
    i'm the exact opposite. 😜 a young twink who wants desperately to be bred is a huge turn off for me. but a str8 guy, esp a masc str8 guys, taking dick up the ass for the first time? huge turn on.
  13. norefusal
    something must have gone down, cause i was on it fine earlier today but you're right, i just tried again now and buffer buffer buffer do you have much luck there in general. its worse than bbrt for me in the lack of frequent engagement. but at least i do hook up from bbrt. NKP thus far is just guys way far away hitting me up to see if i wanna buy T 😜
  14. norefusal
    What do you feel when you're called "faggot" by a top? turned on complete a good lay sexy like i'm home
  15. norefusal
    i'm the same way. i've always taken time to cum but when i was younger, especially with women, this was seen as a good thing. part of the reason why it's become "problematic" is everyone is way too obsessed w jizz these days. they want that load like it's a crack fix and it can't ever seem to come soon enough and the vocal demands just stress me out. tbh i've never once enjoyed receiving head. by the time i cum it's like I passed the fucking bar exam. 😜 but it also stresses me to hear the dry/tight jerk off method is problematic. it's honestly the only way i can get off. i fucking hate jerking w lube. everytime i try it i end up quitting half way thru. easy to say, but can one really retrain a habit they've been doing daily for almost a half century?! 😮honestly it might be easier to just retrain myself as a total bottom 😜 oh, and about the whole gay world suddenly being bottoms only all of a sudden: i've found that Str8 guys on the DL are still happy to top, especially for door open face down no questions asked fat ass 😈
  16. norefusal
    all clothing is uncomfortable if sized improperly. but in my case "uncomfortable" doesn't = painful. i just have never gotten used to the floss up my butt crack, permanent wedgie feel. i also don't like if the top wants to fuck w it on. it just gets in the way and gets messy. different strokes for different folks
  17. norefusal
    i used to think exactly like this. but in recent years i've learned to enjoy exploring new things and giving things a chance. pros: damn my booty pops in a good thong. it's like a miracle bra for your butt the guys who love it, love it and that triggers the whole i get pleasure from giving pleasure dynamic cons: they're so fucking uncomfortable you can basically only wear them to turn a guy on and then thankfully they pull them off you. i could never wear them as real underwear. mostly they're only good for photoshoots theyre just not me. i feel much more at home in a jock but then we get into the whole curating your sex life automatically limits the number of partners and while most guys default to a quality over quantity lifestyle, i'm currently feeling my ill fuck anyone and everyone oats so why put a red velvet rope up at the door to only let in certain types
  18. norefusal
    i've never been in this situation because for me when things go wrong it is primarily due to the emotions and not the sex. my first attempt at a OR went south not because we were fucking other guys but because my BF increasingly started making them the priority over me. they were easy and didn't expect emotions from him like i did. my second attempt was probably too little too late w my ex husband. i was happy when he agreed to open things up but once the suggestion by a hook up that we do a 3 way repulsed me i realized that i was way more angry w my husband then i even realized and that the relationship was damaged way beyond "im bored w monogamy".
  19. norefusal
    two pieces of advice come to mind: 1. try to accept that it might not even be about you. cruising areas always have a % of nervous guys who are either newbies or jaded and feel something about you reminds them of the cop who did arrest them in this very spot last year 2. lean in and work it. if you give off a str8 cop vibe, most gays will be on you like flies on shit. work that porn rollplay angle and they'll be nice to officer friendly before you make them do "hard time" 😈
  20. norefusal
    to me this is 3 separate things. crabs came first but to me that's not an sti/std as i once got them from sleeping shirtless between the sheets in a "no-tell motel" 😜plus anything you easily Rid yourself of w over the counter stuff is not the same thing imo also, it's kinda a blast from the past for me. years ago when i was a newly out youngster freshly moved to a gay metropolis sleeping w tons of other guys in the same situation like a bunch of kids w a new toy it's no wonder we just seemed to be spreading the same craps over and over again amongst ourselves as it was in retrospect a "small" group of young horny just out guys and degree of separation between us was a lot less than 6! 😜 it took over a decade before my first sti chlamydia - but that was a direct result of "condom fatigue" and the increased risks i was taking w frequent BB sex. it's a whole other ballpark imo from the seriousness of the illness, to the more intrusive cure, to the having to go "public" w the news and make a dr apt and talk face to face w someone etc vs a quick trip to walgreens w jackie o shades on. 😜 still neg but this really is a whole nother ballpark imo vs chlamydia which was 10 days of pills and then like it never even happened. there's no do over w hiv. whenever people bring up the negative effect of regular prep usage i say "yeah. you know what else really fucks your body up too? hiv" there's no such thing as free lunch, just personal choices
  21. norefusal
    it's the law of burt backarak 😜 "what do you get when you kiss a guy? you get enough germs to catch pneumonia. then when you do, he'll never phone ya!"
  22. norefusal
    slightly off topic but i don't know how coincidental getting sick after a hook up is. i know i often feel mild or vague "i think im coming down w something" illness particularly after a busy weekend w multiple partners. logically, sex is dirty and especially since most of the guys i do it with are as slutty as i am, it's no surprise some germs got swapped. i'm not talking sti or hiv but stick 6 random piss sticks in your mouth at the eagle and it's not rocket science that some bacteria may have made a home in your throat.
  23. norefusal
    it all gets a bit meta 😜if like me, you're turned on by repugnant guys, then they're not really repugnant anymore 🤣 there's this one guy that hangs out at the eagle, i usually see him during quieter hrs, and i know that people, especially the staff, dislike him so there must be a story there. i suspect he's homeless and hits people up for cash. he's short, older, got a barrel chest/belly and barely speaks english but he's got a massive uncut dick i can't ever say no to. not that he would take no for an answer anyways as he's persistently dom w me and i've lost track of the times he's bred me in the backroom or toilet. sure, the side eye i get from others afterward is a shame thrill but how can i call him repugnant if im a norefusal hoe for his homeless hog destroying my hole as the highlight of my evening 😜
  24. norefusal
    BBRT is definitely "dated" and in need of a refresh for better user interface. that being said, i find that a separate issue from success rate of hookups. in my experience the main problem w niche sites like recon and bbrt is distance. apparently i live in the vanilla sex capital of the world (i dont believe that but have yet to figure out why the local kink scene is so undercover) and having to cross state lines for a hook up gets old fast. at least IME bbrt has hookups. i was on recon for 2 years and never got anywhere past chats. another issue imo is that sites change focus and tone over years. i've always had a soft spot for the interface of scruff but i have noticed it's gotten far more vanilla "dating app" over the last couple of years - getting rid of a lot of the headless torso look for a face pic centric out gay look and getting rid of the search feature. and don't get me started on grindr - talk about taking a great idea and slowly ruining it!
  25. norefusal
    after 4+ decades of sex i'm almost the complete opposite

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