norefusal
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sex is 50% selfish and 50% empathy. i havnt worn a rubber since the last century but thats not a flex. for the first 20 of the 21st i only fucked my husband and the last 4-5 i can keep track of the times i've topped. no one asks for a condom. but most of these guys were cumdumps. one str8 guy had me impressed. trying anal to see what it's like, gettin raw dogged by an anon daddy in a seedy motel room while the wife waits at home? that recklessness turned me on 😈 but i mostly bottom these days and the only guys who use condoms are str8 guys on the dl. selfish: i'd rather get fucked w a rubber than not fucked at all empathy: when i tried to talk the last one out of it he said "i know. this isn't about you though" and i get that. if youre cheating on the reg anon youre gonna catch something at some point and who wants that drama. women take this stuff so seriously 🤬
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it depends but i have noticed in general that younger guys are much more open to kink and rough play than i was at that age, and that other guys my age still are. myself: i'm much more open to it as rollplay because things are so much safer now and ive gained so much confidence. this past WE i hooked up w a much, much younger guy and damn was he a nasty pig - it was wonderful. then i had a 3 way w 2 older guys and every time i tried something a tad outre it was "no not that. no i don't like that. "etc eventually i got bored and left 😜
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prepared to have your mind really blown: some people spend all day in the rain, cold or blistering sun protesting women going into clinics that also perform abortions. 😜 that's not including the people who go ahead and blow the place up
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i didn't see this one coming, given the types of stuff we discuss spreading on this site. 🤣 i've never even considered going celebate for an outbreak of jock itch but then again, i've been to 12 steps and therapy to try and curb my "sex addiction" so....
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this has been a great place to get info, connect w likeminded people, be challenged to think more openly by people w dif views, feel supported, see hot pics and i gotta say, the quality of the writing for the amateur porn is impressive. keep up the good work BZ 😘
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it's more a vibe. sometimes i can just tell that the anon guy really doesn't want to be cheating on his girl but he's so blueballed desperation has led him here where his body is relieved but his mind is disgusted. i just shake it off as what's the whole point of nsa hook ups if you're gonna let yourself get emotionally involved in your nameless guy's personal journey im more bothered by it on dates. ymmv but im shocked at the guys i meet. if they're out they're half my age and if they're my age, they somehow didn't realize they were gay until the kids were off to college. i sometimes mentor the young gays at work as it seems more natural. but on a recent date where a retired guy went "how does this work? if i asked you out do i have to pay? i don't know the rules of gay dating its all so new to me" and i repressed the urge to just scream STFU. 😜honestly, i have no patience to educate Rita. you're older than me dude, figure it out.
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this! i think why we even try chem sex is that it shortcuts the process and makes it easier to shut off all the voices and focus on the task at hand and living in the moment. i've tried to recapture that feeling sober and it's made me a much better bottom. overthinking has pretty much ruined me as a top. i've got to learn better how not to be triggered but today's climate is terrible for me. back in the day, you were lucky if a guy let you fuck him. since prep, suddenly the market is flooded with demanding bottoms screaming "breed me daddy!" as soon as you penetrate them. it basically throws gasoline on the fire of performance anxiety. that coupled with decades of "cuming inside is a fast pass to a grisly death" aids anxiety and the whole thing is a therapy session on steroids. nothing a good lobotomy won't cure 😜 -
lol which is the part you are now sorry about? your protagonist is an illegal drug taking dishonest adulterer. are we now suppose to condemn him for also having a personal taste for well hung black men? 🤣 this is the fiction section. but should the woke police get words like "bbc" banned, we'll still have the majority of the fiction left to discuss rape, stealth pozing, older men emotionally manipulating naive teens, incest, etc. and all that will be fine just as long as we don't venture into morally objectionable areas like saying attractive men w dark skin and big D are 🔥 anyways, you did leave us with a cliffhanger. perhaps you can continue w the "sequence of events" storyline but make Reggie a multi-racial, polyamorous, gender neutral, entrepreneur who's fluent in sign language. 😜
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Am I too vanilla? How are you vanilla, or not vanilla?
norefusal replied to NWUSHorny's topic in General Discussion
the first thing i did was try to see the OP's age and yes, i was far less kinky at that age. i don't know if other guys feel the same, but ive def morphed into a dirty old man. 😜 -
How stupid is to propose taking a HIV test before sex?
norefusal replied to soki's topic in Making The Decision To Bareback
it's somewhat of a fool's errand imo the only time i ever did it was back in 2001 when my ex and i decided to become exclusive we both got tested, showed each other the negative results, then threw away the condoms. as an er dr pointed out to me circa 2009, trusting a man not to lie about cheating is not a 100% fool proof plan. 🤣 either u trust people or you don't but im on prep now so i never even have to ask. -
it's only gone in one direction for me: i've become friends w guys i originally just fucked, but i have never later fucked someone i started out as friends with. but people move on, or move away. sexual compatibility is hard to be enough for a sustained relationship.
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Finding guys online for relationship
norefusal replied to tallslenderguy's topic in General Discussion
spam and scammers are annoying but i find them relatively easy to spot and avoid. im more triggered by how unapologetically rude some regular folk are. there will be guys who are openly racist, ageist, body shammers, etc and then try to hide behind the excuse of "it's how all gays are, you should be used to it" um, no. it's just how YOU are. in a lot of ways, going online helped exposed the hidden ugly underbelly of the community - grindr is like a 60 Minutes expose 😜 -
i wonder if it's a dated expression? prick, like dick and cunt was used to not only refer to genitals but also a person who's a jerk. a real asshole 😜 vs pussy which is someone weak or cowardly.
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🤣true also, when a blank profile cold DMs me "sup" i know im about to get black dick 😜
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once in middle school my best friend told me in all seriousness: penis is a tiny dick dick is average like what most guys have cock is a big fat dick prick is when it's long but thin 🤣
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same
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ok, the answer is either, 19, 29, 39, 59 or never. 😜 at each of those stages i discovered new and more intense ways of enjoying sex w my hole but still, the dime is taking forever to drop. 😜 i've recently gotten into FF so maybe once i experience my first gape i'll finally accept that i've got a cunt between my legs as far as pleasure goes.
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Bareback Bastards video links go here
norefusal replied to HardOneLA's topic in Bareback Porn Discussion
i had the same but opposite. because it was back during "the crisis" he always either fucked me w a condom or his fav to straddle my head and give me a facial, which yes, made a huge mess with jizz flying everywhere. not getting fed or bred by him is one of my biggest life regrets but young people are dumb. he's probably still walking around spewing huge neg loads all these years later. 😜 -
Reconnecting with my gay uncle
norefusal replied to Jaygusher's topic in Bug Chasing & Gift Giving FICTION
speak for yourself! 🤣 i suppose it's weird that i get paid to sit at a desk and read BZ m-f 925 but unlike T this addiction doesn't have as bad a comedown 😜 -
i can only remember doing this once because i was very triggered. generally i stick by the rule "don't yuck someone's yum" but some guys seem to use "we like what we like" as a cover-up for bad behavior. so... you wanna write fiction about bad behavior, or share rRL experiences from your past, go right ahead. but don't encourage people to do awful, technically illegal things in RL and then get all hurt if someone downvotes it.
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it's funny how much changes in just a year. i've doubled down and gotten far more into blindfolded anon than before so have come to regard the muteness as part of the kink 🔥 but i still prefer a verbal guy. at least a smack on the ass signaling "job well done" but also, although i've gotten used to being present and reading the signs - i recently had a few very verbal guys who shouted all sorts of shit out loud as they came and i gotta say it made me realize how much i missed that. especially str8 guys seem to be masters of the silent orgasm and while i've come to accept it, i really appreciate a good verbal cummer. 😜
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😮this is by far the 🐷-est thing in your whole story 🤣 im not sure i would have done it. im not sure i could have done it. here in the NE most campuses and their dorms don't let outsiders in. the closest thing i ever did to this was once a grown adult snuck me into his sober house. still, it was a "what am doing w my life?" moment. possibly getting caught being somewhere youre not supposed to be sometimes sounds hotter that it is in reality. like gettin bred in a car that has child seats in the back 😜
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how did i get into it? a hot guy goated me into doing it 😜same way i first sucked dick way back when 🤣 i was at an outdoor cruising spot one nite and he was i guess what you'd call an experienced kinky dom bottom. he walked me thru how to fist him and although i'd never been particularly drawn to it before, i loved it. i was 59 and let's be honest, my top a stranger on demand stud days were behind me. this provided a nice way to top w out topping 😜 but we continued to hook up and the more i did it w him, saw how much he loved it and the big orgasms he had, i now wanted to try taking a fist myself. i've tried a few times w various guys but thus far i havnt gotten past 4 digits. but im gonna keep trying.
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Faithful Husband Tempted By Poz Neighbour
norefusal replied to Tommy Tank's topic in Bug Chasing & Gift Giving FICTION
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i guess it just goes to show how much we all live in little bubbles of our own experience. it's shocking to me to hear of this parallel universe where the AIDS epidemic didn't affect BHs which not only remained open but were full of guys raw dogging their way through a heath crisis like a bunch of MAGA anti-vaxers 😮 but i think it's also about fads too to a certain extent. when i was a kid in the 70s BHs were a famous symbol of the gay lifestyle so to me theyre like liking the dorky music your dad listens to. i'm sure it's different for younger guys who weren't around for the village people 😜
