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@viking8x6 i'm not posting about hardcore stuff, just asking questions about the site - if I fucked up putting it here, let me know. I AM SICK AND TIRED of our Gay Websites. And yet so thankful for them at the same time. A lot of these sites were born out of bringing difficult communities together by someone who was passionate about it. Hosting and maintaining an online platform for others is hard work, and that's before you consider regulations on the subject matter/etc. I try my darndest to support administrators, provide meaningful and helpful feedback, and even solutions. I've worked in cloud/AI/tech for 25 years now so I've got some knowledge that might be valuable. But why are there these issues?- there are plenty of people on these sites that have tech backgrounds that could chip in and help. Barebackbastards has been down for a while. NKP was offline for about 1.5 weeks for certain users. Moreover, most of the sites out there feel like 1980s had a wet dream about the internet. NKP is the worst. I'm gonna try and chip in, reaching out and seeing if there's anything I can do. Thanks to everyone in the BZ admin team for all you do! IN THE MEANTIME: Does anyone know any contact at barebackbastards? I've uploaded a shit ton of videos (months and months ago), they are counted on my dashboard, but are stick in some limbo. I can't access them or see them. I tried the "WRITE US" link on the site but it is worthless because you can't prove you're not SPAM.

I have LITERALLY no recollection of that - I'm sure I was. I remember he was wearing shitty khaki pants and a really ugly lump sweater and he was overweight white dude with bad hair.....and the smell of the Jergen's Almond lotion.

Wow - similar to @Bokkierob - he was 34. I knew I wanted to get fucked, this was 1994...dial up modems and text only chat rooms. I rode my bike there. I didn't really think much it...he invited me inside, pulled down my pants, gave me head, i did the same, Jergen's almond hand lotion for lube (I can still smell it in my mind), a few minutes and I was back on my bike headed home. I don't think either of us actually took off our clothes. I could tell you where the house is, not who he was. It was a shitty house by the mall and he lived in some converted garage as a renter. It wasn't monumental for me - it was more like "breaking the seal" after which I really did never stop.

PIG: [think before following links] https://barebackbastards.com/playlist/21493/pig/

POZ: [think before following links] https://barebackbastards.com/playlist/16337/pozzing/

FUCKING: [think before following links] https://barebackbastards.com/playlist/21438/fucking/

PARTIES: [think before following links] https://barebackbastards.com/playlist/21432/pnp/

There aren't enough words....

Thanks @SlampaBay -that means a lot. Really open to feedback. I've learned a lot about writing a "based on a true story" story. The editing is taking a while because, for example, I created continuity issues all over the place - I called them ghosts - Alex in particular seemed to vanish and then reappear multiple times with no explanation. The gear switching would get confusing because sometimes I'd have a ball gag in then suddenly it wasn't there - not because it was an error, just because I didn't talk about that explicit moment where it was removed as it wasn't significant as whatever else was going on. Anyone who knows me (everyone in my life) has heard about this experience (only the dog cage part mostly), and it was only the prompting of a lifelong friend (who knew the full story) last year that got me to finally write about it. The sadness over the loss of those people was grieved, long ago - so writing this was mostly a sequence of really happy and horny moments. 🙂 Chapter 10 was originally one really long chapter and I must have jerked off 5 times writing it. The only thing that I was frustrated about is all the things I don't know that I will never know. Example: The space in which the 6-days took place was large enough that any number of things could have been happening I wouldn't have heard and (obviously) not seen. One of the Doms was always in the room with me to make sure I was safe, didn't need water, etc. But I don't believe for a second that whoever wasn't on Boy-watch weren't having some fun during the parties...but I'll never know. I also hope that someone who participated reads this and reaches out and can fill in some details. It's a really big longshot, but stranger things have happened.

I recently began posted a series of blog posts telling the story of a very significant BDSM experience I had. You can read more here - new publications happening multiple times a week. In finally sitting down to write about this, it became clear to me how little I knew about BDSM overall. Like many, I had preconceived notions - whips and chains, spanking, bondage. That did not really describe my experience fully, yet I knew those involved in this experience with me were, in fact, very huge in the BDSM culture. I started to do research and learn more. I put together this Glossary to sit side by side with the Blog. It started to help me - make sure I was using the right terms. But if there are people who read the blog and you come across a term or Activity, this may help. It also explains the core Principles and Approaches. If you feel something is missing/omitted, or incorrect, please add a comment and I'll work to include. T&C UNIVERSE - BDSM Core Tenants, Belief Systems & Terminology

Yeah - outside of the gay community, a "party" in BDSP does not connotate PNP (so I've learned). There's a note at the top of the blog page that states (which is true) that this entire experience was drug and alcohol free. I'm not a tea-total'er but any stretch, but in this case, it was a substance free event. I struggled using the term "party" for that reason - but that's what it was called to those participating, and how it was described to me during. Before night one, when it was referred to as a party, I thought initially there would be drugs - and given I was not in control of myself, I was apprehensive about that. Ethan then reassured me that it was D&D free. The one that popped with me is the focus on Aftercare. When I used to go on gay cruises, we could call it "cruise crash." In the BDSM community, there is far more a focus on the days and weeks after. Checking in, making sure veryone was healthy, etc. Compared to a PNP gay party where that, IMHO, rarely occurs (sometimes, but not often). Thanks for checking out @onlyraw!

Author's Note: Writing "The Trunk and the Cage" led me to explore my own experience more deeply. While I'd organized sex parties before—mostly logistics and coordination—this six-day event was different, shaped by months of careful planning by the Doms. They attended conferences, held working sessions, assigned roles, and consistently championed the core principles of BDSM. I knew little about these principles until I started writing and researching. Like many, I once thought BDSM was mainly about spanking, bondage, and pain. It can include those, but at its heart, it's about trust, communication, and respect. Below is a BDSM glossary compiled from various sources to help demystify it. My hope is that more gay men feel empowered to openly discuss their limits—preferences, dislikes, and hard nos. Clear boundaries don't kill spontaneity or anon hookups; they make deeper, more intense play safer and ultimately more liberating. Concepts or Activities boundaries incorporated into this specific event are highlighted in blue. T&C BDSM Glossary BDSM encompasses a wide range of consensual practices involving power exchange, sensation play, and role dynamics. At its foundation are ethical frameworks that prioritize participant well-being. Below is an outline and summary: Core Principles CONSENT: All activities must be explicitly agreed upon by informed, enthusiastic participants. Consent can be withdrawn at any time without repercussions. COMMUNICATION: Open, honest dialogue is essential before, during, and after scenes to discuss desires, boundaries, and feedback. SAFETY: Physical and emotional risks must be minimized through education, preparation, and harm reduction strategies. TRUST and RESPECT: Relationships and scenes are built on mutual trust, with respect for each person's autonomy, limits, and identity. INCLUSIVITY: BDSM communities emphasize diversity, non-judgment, and support for various genders, orientations, and experience levels. Standard Approaches SSC (Safe, Sane, and Consensual): A foundational guideline ensuring activities are physically safe, mentally sound, and fully consensual. RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink): Focuses on acknowledging inherent risks in activities while ensuring all parties are informed and consenting. PRICK (Personal Responsibility Informed Consensual Kink): Emphasizes individual accountability for understanding and managing risks in consensual play. 4Cs (Caring, Communication, Consent, Caution): A holistic approach integrating emotional care with practical safety measures. Methodologies Negotiation: Pre-scene discussions to outline activities, limits (hard/soft), safewords, and aftercare needs, often using checklists or contracts. Scene Structure: Sessions typically include warm-up, main play, and cool-down, with ongoing check-ins to monitor well-being. Safewords and Signals: Standardized systems (e.g., traffic lights: green=go, yellow=slow, red=stop) for immediate communication, especially in non-verbal scenarios. Aftercare: Post-scene support to address physical (e.g., hydration, wound care) and emotional (e.g., reassurance, cuddling) needs, helping prevent subdrop or topdrop. 💡While not exactly the same as a roller coaster, the highs and lows of sex in the kink community can feel the same. This is known as sub drop and top drop – “sub” referring to the submissive partner and “top” being the dominant partner. Education and Community: Involvement in workshops, munches (social gatherings), or online forums to learn techniques, etiquette, and risk management. Risk Mitigation: Use of safe equipment, hygiene practices, and emergency protocols; avoidance of intoxicants during play. These elements ensure BDSM is practiced responsibly, enhancing pleasure and connection while reducing harm. Alphabetical BDSM Glossary Author's Note: I have highlighted the specific BDSM activities I believe were a part of my 6-day adventure covered in this blog. Note also that these are just some of the words and definitions associated with BDSM. Abrasion Play: A form of sensation play involving scraping or rubbing the skin with rough materials like sandpaper to create intense tactile experiences. Aftercare: The period following a BDSM scene where participants provide emotional and physical support to each other, such as cuddling, hydration, or debriefing, to ease back into normalcy. Age Play: Role-playing scenarios where participants adopt childlike or parental roles, often involving nurturing or disciplinary elements, but always consensual and non-literal. Ball Gag: A device placed in the mouth to restrict speech, often used in bondage or humiliation play to enhance submission. Bastinado: Impact play focused on the soles of the feet, typically with canes or rods, requiring caution due to sensitivity. Bondage: The practice of restraining someone using ropes, cuffs, chains, or other materials to limit movement, often for sensory deprivation or power exchange. Bottom: The person receiving sensations, actions, or submission in a scene, not necessarily implying a submissive role. Breath Play: Restricting airflow through choking or smothering for erotic asphyxiation, considered edge play due to high risks. Cane: A thin, flexible rod used for impact play, delivering sharp, stinging sensations. CBT (Cock and Ball Torture): Activities targeting the genitals with pain or restriction, such as clamping or slapping, for masochistic pleasure. Chastity Device: A lockable cage or belt preventing genital access or erection, used in orgasm denial or control dynamics. Collar: A symbolic item worn around the neck to signify ownership, submission, or commitment in D/s relationships; can be temporary or permanent. Consent Violation: Any breach of agreed boundaries, considered a serious ethical issue in BDSM communities. Contract: A written agreement outlining rules, limits, and expectations in a D/s dynamic, often used in long-term relationships. Dominant (Dom/Domme): The person who takes control, directs the scene, and provides structure or discipline. Dungeon: A dedicated space equipped for BDSM play, often found in private homes or clubs, with furniture like crosses or benches. Edge Play: High-risk activities pushing physical or psychological limits, such as knife play or fire play, requiring advanced skill and consent. Fetish: A strong sexual arousal from specific objects, materials (e.g., leather, latex), or body parts not typically eroticized. Figging: Inserting peeled ginger root into the anus or vagina for a burning sensation, used in sensation or punishment play. Flogging: Whipping with a multi-tailed implement like a cat-o'-nine-tails to create thuddy or stingy impacts. Gorean: A lifestyle inspired by John Norman's novels, emphasizing strict master/slave dynamics with rituals and positions. Hard Limit: An activity a participant absolutely refuses to engage in, non-negotiable. Impact Play: Striking the body with hands or tools (e.g., paddles, whips) for pain and endorphin release. Kink: Any non-traditional sexual practice or interest, often overlapping with BDSM. Knife Play: Using blades for sensation, threat, or light cutting, emphasizing psychological fear and trust. Lifestyle: Full-time integration of BDSM dynamics into daily life, beyond occasional play. Masochist: Someone who derives pleasure from receiving pain or humiliation. Mummification: Wrapping the body tightly in materials like plastic wrap or tape for total immobilization and sensory deprivation. Negotiation: The process of discussing and agreeing on scene details, limits, and safewords beforehand. Orgasm Control: Dominants regulating when or if submissives can climax, often through denial or forced orgasms. Paddle: A flat implement for spanking, delivering broad, thuddy impacts. Pet Play: Role-playing as animals (e.g., puppy, kitten) with behaviors like leashing or training. Party Play: A social event where BDSM scenes occur publicly or semi-publicly in a safe, monitored environment. Power Exchange: The consensual transfer of authority from submissive to dominant, which can be total (TPE) or partial. Queening: A form of facesitting where the dominant sits on the submissive's face for oral service or smothering. Rope Play (Shibari/Kinbaku): Artistic Japanese-style bondage using ropes for aesthetic restraint and suspension. Sadist: Someone who enjoys inflicting pain or humiliation on consenting partners. Safeword: A pre-agreed word or signal to pause or stop a scene immediately. Scene: A defined BDSM session with a beginning, middle, and end, focused on specific activities. Sensory Deprivation: Blocking senses (e.g., blindfolds, earplugs) to heighten others and increase vulnerability. Service Submission: A submissive's focus on performing tasks or duties for the dominant's benefit. Soft Limit: A boundary that might be pushed under the right circumstances with negotiation. Spanking: Striking the buttocks with hands or implements, a common entry-level impact play. Subdrop: Emotional or physical low following a scene, due to endorphin crash; mitigated by aftercare. Submissive (Sub): The person who yields control, following the dominant's lead. Suspension: Hanging someone partially or fully off the ground using ropes or harnesses, requiring expertise. Switch: Someone who enjoys both dominant and submissive roles, alternating based on context. Top: The person administering sensations or actions in a scene, not necessarily dominant. Top Drop: A dominant's emotional dip post-scene, often from responsibility or adrenaline drop. Vanilla: Non-BDSM, conventional sexual or relational practices. Violet Wand: An electrical device for delivering static shocks or tingling sensations. Wax Play: Dripping hot candle wax on the skin for temperature sensation play. Whipping: Using a single-tail whip for precise, intense strikes. Key References Wikipedia Glossary of BDSM — Comprehensive community-maintained list of terms. [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glossary_of_BDSM The Aftercare Lounge: Exploring the World of Kink: BDSM Glossary and Terminology — Detailed explanations of core terms and practices. [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.theaftercarelounge.com/post/bdsm-glossary Obedience App: Glossary of BDSM Terminology — Covers roles, dynamics, and common activities. [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] https://obedienceapp.com/blog/glossary-of-bdsm-terminology Passion & Soul by Lee Harrington: Kink and BDSM Glossary — Educator-focused definitions emphasizing consent and variety. [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.passionandsoul.com/blog/info/kink-glossary Grindr Blog: SSC Kink and Other Safety Terms — Explanations of SSC, RACK, and related frameworks. [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.grindr.com/blog/ssc-kink BeMoreKinky: SSC vs RACK BDSM Safety Frameworks — In-depth comparison of SSC, RACK, and PRICK. [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.bemorekinky.com/blog/bdsm-fundamentals/boundaries-and-consent/ssc-vs-rack-bdsm-safety-frameworks BeMoreKinky: The Complete Guide to Post-BDSM Care and Recovery — Detailed on aftercare, negotiation, and safewords. [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.bemorekinky.com/blog/bdsm-fundamentals/boundaries-and-consent/bdsm-aftercare-guide

This is largely being run by the same scammers who do this for prostitution rings. The other format it can take is: TARGET is engaging in elicit / illegal behavior - straight people get hit with hiring prostitutes, they are target gays will to engaging with those of questionable age. SCAMMER may purport to be 18+ (or legal age in locality) - laws resoundingly state that even if the SCAMMER lied to the TARGET about their age, the TARGET is responsible for validating the age. TARGET is still prosecutable for sexual assault + statutory rape even if the SCAMMER provides a fake ID, has a profile that states they are of age, tells them directly verbally or in writing. [IF YOU HAVE DOUBT, shut it down.] In the online cases, it gets a little bit more malicious. SCAMMERS in these cases are likely well over legal age and would never engage you for sexual activities. What they do have is your email communications back and forth, and if you've exchanged emails or phone number, they now have the ablity to back-trace you and get all you, your family, your workplace info. SCAMMER is blackmailing you to avoid your exposure for engaging in communication with someone underage. Often the scammer will then send messages with your personal information, your family names and phone numbers, etc. They are looking for a payoff to keep quiet and are unlikely to ever expose you - they aren't that sophisticated. For straight males, this happened a lot with female prostitutes. The next day, guys would get text messages with pictures of chopped off heads, addresses of family members, etc. telling them that not only did they want money, but ALSO, that they would personally go after their family and friends and kill or cause harm to them. In the Gay male case, it's more about exposure, embarrassment, etc. For me, I avoid certain topics entirely when online for this reason. We all know how anything taken out of context doesn't get its full explanation. Be safe out there.

If you haven't read Chap 13 yet, you'll see that I get exposure to my first round of "combo" toys. I would have died if those two things had been combined.

I think this is really well said @ridedenver (hi, also in Denver) - glad you topping turned out to be as good as you expected. I'm happy to continue showing you how good it can be! 🙂 @submwmhole - I'll simply say this - I've recently written a blog series about an experience I had at the age of 31 which had me playing a very Submissive role for 3 Doms for an extended period of time (6 days). This wasn't the first experience Sub'ing but definitely the most significant ever and since. And I was 16+ years into my gay sexual experience as a person who was significantly above average in terms of sex. As Ride says, you're making a big jump just going straight into a full experience, but that is one way some people break the ice. You can also dip your toe in a little more gradually, like Ride suggests but it might be better just to rip the Band-Aid. Whichever way you do this, I think you need to find someone who will have an honest conversation with you about your limits. BDSM, even in its most aggressive forms, still has tenets of limits, communication, trust, and safety. So you may not have a limit around barebacking - but your dom needs to know that. And you need to push yourself and recognize the impact of using your safeword to tap out. I'd suggest started making your limit list. I use this format to help my thinking: LIKES / PREFERENCES (not in priority order) DISLIKES / DON’T PREFER (willing if you really want it) NON-NEGOTIABLE NO’S (absolutely unwilling to do, no discussion) I'm happy to share mine with you via DM if you're interested. Even in a situation where you give up full control, there can still be limits. Knowing your Dom understands those, is committed to your physical safety, you having food drink and water and bathroom, etc. will allow you to relinquish control without worrying things will get out of hand. You face additional challenges which could become limits - if you need to hide this from your wife - then you'll need to make sure that your Dom knows that you can't be gone for X days or whatever. And also at the end of the day, you have to be okay with having this hidden from your wife. I think it's great you're exploring this and I think many more "straight" men should allow themselves the latitude to explore things they are interested but considered not okay for them to explore.

@viking8x6 yo bruh! Do you know where I can look for this? It's weird in the blog section how it treats images and I haven't been able to put my finger on (in lol) it.

Does anyone else map lists on Bareback Bastards? I'm happy to share my lists which are categorized BBastards has been down for like a week now.

I just saw this video. If you’ve never heard of the Humbler neither had I. It worked similar to this though the one used on me was different. [think before following links] https://www.extremerestraints.com/products/the-enforcer-black-wooden-humbler i just saw this vid on twitter which made me think of the Humbler. It doesn’t function the same way, but the effect is the same, which is any motion that you make one way or the other to try to relax your body becomes a yanking pulling pressure on your balls and your dick. This vid shows it yanking on both, the Humbler was more isolated to your balls. Doms can adjust the Humbler to provide more or less freedom of movement, but ultimately the goal is to get the bottom sub in a position to get his ass used and not have any way to escape. [think before following links] https://x.com/lockedtf1/status/2009396277814211038?s=46

Mothafucka is supernatural. I had seen his videos with his multi cumming, and vacuous bottomless hole but never thought it was real. He was part of some sex show at a Cumunion in Vancouver like...14 years ago...and I saw it in person. I couldn't even watch after a while - it was like staring into the sun for too long.

I just started publishing a many-part/chapter narrative re-write of the Six days I spent a total Sub for Three Doms - who were coworkers. I won't recap here, but I took plenty of loads from them...one of the Doms I continued to work closely with afterwards. THE TRUNK & THE CAGE I also worked at Starbucks during college, and everyone was fucking everyone 🙂 It was California, so I even got fucked by the straight guys! I loved Sunday closing shifts because I always worked with the same two guys and while one was manning the espresso bar, the other one and I would sneak back to the back room and fuck really quickl.

@RAWSRAW I did add this indicator at the top of the blog homepage. It's small, but it's there.