Iker80

I started as top only, I was not wanting anything happening in my butt. Still, guys I fucked liked it, but I felt an intense response to anything touching my hole. It's personal and not somewhere I was used to other people touching. But I wanted to know the feeling so I trusted it could be good and tried it, and after a few not great experiences I had one that felt good. I'm still a tight nervous bottom, so I choose guys I trust, but it can feel amazing when it's happening properly. So, first time it felt really good I knew this was something I'd do again.

16 here and I think that's fine. The bigger problem is age gap, because it would be legal for an adult my age with a 16 year old and there's a lot of issues with that. Some countries manage this by having age of consents, potentially higher than 16 but add rules for people being close in age, so for example the age of consent is 18 but they're not going to get involved with a 17 and 19 year old, but they would not be ok with a 17 and 37 year old. I recently had an experience with the youngest guy I've been with, he was 20. I am just old enough to be his dad. I asked extra questions and felt more comfortable that he actually wanted to be top. He wasn't my usual type to top me, but he was super keen to get his hands on a hairy guy old enough to be his dad and I was having a hard time to say no to that kind of energy, so we met up and was a good meet.

People have a long history of wanting stuff they can't have, like the hot married guy next door. Or so it seems in this situation because they can have some 'straight' guys. My experience, as long as you're talking about liking women, masc, stick on some plaid and jeans or whatever all the guys are wearing locally, you're 'straight' for a lot of guys. I'm not looking different to the guy next door that he's been wanting, so I'll good enough give him that experience. But I am bi, even if he does not see it. And the hot married guy next door might be bi as well. It's a problem that bi and gay men aren't seen as potentially being any guy, it makes stereotypes worse.

Injections aren't really a thing where I live but I keep hearing they're great. So your experience is good to hear. I had imagine you just go for your regular STD testing and they give you an injection and that's it until next time, but I guess you never imagine the annoying parts of something. Hopefully it will get easier in the future.

For sure, guys are normally very straightforward. not easy to upset/offend and you can usually go all the way very fast with a guy. The way most tops treat guys wouldn't be appropriate doing to a woman. If a guy says he is bottom I assume I'm getting to top and get on his hole pretty soon if he's not already offering it. Most guys let you in right away, a few need a bit more warming up and foreplay but it's not much compared to most women. Even if you're first time today meeting your guy, chances of ending up nuts deep in a guy who says he's bottom is very good. A lot don't ask for a condom, and even if his profile says condom once you're teasing his hole he's usually happy. Most women would think you're a pig if you did this stuff, probably feel very bad afterwards, but guys get it, they know what it's like to get horny and want to deliver your load. A lot of guys become more obedient when you're dominant with them, give orders, be physical, take what you want, they respond well to it. I have been on both sides of that, often giving the orders, but sometimes a big guy or at that time more aggressive mood guy wants to take charge and it happens. At the extreme end of that, I've been taken by some guys in ways most women would consider rape and ended up going back for more multiple times. Still figuring out my feelings about that! Still, even at less extreme levels our sexuality is often rough and loose with permissions and the goal of full sex is easy to achieve, often in minutes, that's definitely part of it for many guys who are otherwise straight presenting.

Party in any context on grindr or other apps 99.99% chance means some kind of drugs. Party and play (or PNP) means drugs and sex. Could be any drugs they're doing. parTy with big letter T means meth though because some people call it Tina.

It's a meningitis vaccine that's found to also have 30-40% protection for gonorrhea, this explains more. [think before following links] https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/meningococcal-b-menb-vaccination-against-gonorrhoea-guide/a-guide-to-the-meningococcal-b-vaccine-for-protection-against-gonorrhoea

For what it's worth, a guy I connect with really well has intense social anxiety, actually he has a lot of things going on, so I don't expect anything when we meet. Just see how it goes in the moment. And that's ok, he is how he is. Having social anxiety is something some people are accepting and relaxed about.

Throat gonorrhea. I felt very, very tired and had a monster sore throat for about a week, I kind of figured I had something from that and found out later when I tested. Very sure I know who it was from because of it happening few days after meeting and it was only in my throat. There were all the warning signs for a guy who doesn't ever get tested, very scruffy, didn't really speak Spanish much, seemed super down low. No bad feelings to him, mostly hope he's alright and not ill from lots of STDs! But that's his thing to figure out and I'll be more careful in future. It made my sense of fun about sex go down a bit after years of having casual sex and getting away with nothing bad, but I knew it would happen soon or later. Currently getting the vaccine for gonorrhea so hope it's a never again experience.

Guys having sex with other guys aren't probably so straight I think. But I know some guys I play with think I'm straight because how I look and because I sometimes have gf, and I let them think it because they like it. I guess fag means gay? I mostly want dl often bi men because they're more discreet, but I like gay men just the same. Men are men if they're willing to play. So why do it? It doesn't really feel like cheating. Other men feel different. Men are always borrowed. I can be very close and intimate with other guys, but they're not competition for my gf and I'm not for theirs. How could I replace a gf? The sex is different, it is for a different need, and if we're friends outside of sex we don't do boyfriend/girlfriend stuff, we'd do regular friend stuff. I can love a man, but I'm not romantic with, monogamous to or want to keep one or be kept by one as a dedicated partner. He's going to want to do his own stuff, have his own gf if he's bi, and that's totally fine. With a gf I want a woman who likes a gentleman, and likes to be treated well. Taken to nice places, kissed passionately not messily. Do romantic things. With a guy it's a different energy, often more like grab his beard, pull his pants down, fuck him hard, chew on his ear and say dirty things to him about making a big cum mess inside him. And sometimes guys want to do it back to me. Even when it's not rough it's a lot about being able to take charge of a guy and be dominant. Love wanking a guy while I'm inside him and being in charge of his prostate and his dick, really make him moan and grunt as I edge him. Also happy to be that guy sometimes myself. There's a lot of dominance play with a guy, that's one of the needs I have that only other men can satisfy. Making him feel properly and totally taken feels good. And sometimes I want to be fucked. I guess a gf could do it with toys, but that's not how I imagine a sexy woman with me, it's kind of a turn off! Men are for the messy or rough stuff. Still, I have very intimate connections with some, it's not all about being rough or dirty, so for sure there's more to it.

Is there one guy that stands out for you in all the guys you've known? I'm curious because until the last year there's not been a guy like that for me. But now there is. And he's not the guy I would have expected it to happen with. I'll say more about what I've found soon I'm sure, but for now I'm wondering what makes for the hottest guy for someone else?

Recently met with the oldest guy I've been with, he's 61, and had a lot of fun fucking him. Friendly hairy guy with a great stocky rugby player kind of butt. Had a massive orgasm in him. I don't really care about age, just having fun. Never understood these profiles saying "no over 45" or whatever. Like what's so sexy about being under 45 and what's not sexy about being over 45? There's a lot more to a guy.

Interesting question I figured similar, it should increase the protection % but I don't think we can known the number at this point. Logically, when they work in different ways there two possible outcomes when using both vaccine and doxypep at the same time when exposed to gonorrhea . 1. Overlap where both methods would stop the same infection - this causing no increase in protection % 2. Just one stops the gonorrhea and the other wouldn't - this causing increase in protection % I assume both situations will happen to people at different times. So I don't expect a complete overlap every time resulting in no benefit, but also I don't expect for the percentages to just be added together because of the overlap sometimes happening. I guess in the future with a study we'll know real world numbers, but for now I think using both is something I'd consider doing and expect to help some % even if how much is unknown. Plus doxypep works on other STDs too.

Well, doxypep is harder to get in some european countries I know of, so that's a not so great difference here. As for the vaccine, I just said I wanted it for meningitis, that seemed to work. Will be interesting to see how it works out for gonorrhea in the UK. I figure how that goes will change how other health organisations see it.

Well, that would sometimes be me then! It's cool, can't be hot for every guy. But it's interesting because I think you've found a big thing I was asking about, because there are now a lot of men online locally who are fem and guys who are saying they are looking for them. I don't have the look or personality to work for them and I wonder what they're thinking and feeling. I'm the opposite of what you said as top too, I like guys who stay more traditional masculine and find the opposite a turn off. Same for the guys I meet, most of them want to go back to familiar acting after we've done whatever we've been up to. One guy I meet with likes to fist bump after we've blown each other and tell me it's been fun. I feel confused if a guy switches around to be more fem. I know I just grew up in a very gender focused world. Lots of brothers, lots of sports, 100% expectations to be that type of guy. So I don't really leave that headspace ever, not really sure how I could or would.

Well, the difference between status unknown between testing and knowing you have an STD is like the difference recommending an investment you expect will be fine but has some risk vs recommending one you're very sure will fail. The first one feels fair enough, the second feels not fair.

It's salty, musky and usually has a very small hint of cooked onion. Guys with a more potent musky smell - I don't mean unwashed, just how they smell even when fresh, they usually have muskier cum.

It seems a lot of guys have enjoyed being forced or think they would enjoy it. I've heard many say this. It's not a surprise, sexual aggression is intense. I've felt it and been that way, and I've had guys be that way with me. But unless you agreed otherwise, no and stop are everyone's safe words and need to be the point where things stop.

I looked him up and he's a very sexy guy! So I think we do like similar men :)

It's like that, they ask to hug without asking for other things. It's a recent thing for me. I haven't taken a guy up on the idea, I'm not sure what to think about it. But I do think wanting to be hugged can make bigger guys seem better because they fit easier around you. Some I see are gay or bi, others unknown. My only hugging with a known straight guy is my stepbrother. It happened first when we were at the cabin and it was very cold and he was ill. We had clothes on because it was cold, even with the blankets, and we wouldn't hug naked anyway. Sometimes when we're out there and it's cold we still do. He likes it, it just is something that sometimes happens. I know it's nice to feel safe and that's all for him, and that's all I want it to be. I don't think that feeling would happen with a random guy though, but also I think maybe to feel safe is what the guys online want? However, the difference is we know each other properly and I always look after him. So it's different when I hug him vs. a guy you don't know from online. But of course people will have to accept what they can get when they have needs. Cis is the opposite of trans, it means you're born the gender you are. It actually has no connection with sexuality. I'm a cis man and bi.

Interesting. Maybe I just need to take it for a while every day and see if I get used to it. It's not something I've tried yet anyway. The side effects aren't extreme for me, but enough to be uncomfortable sometimes so I'd be happy to not have them.

I also am finding guys online now who ask me to hug with them. That's everything they want they say. Being tall and big I think they like me for that. I'm curious what they're about. Are they gay or bi? I mean they're on an app for men so probably somewhere in that place, but just hugging isn't a type of sex. And I know guys can hug as friends, I have some experience of that. It was sleeping/hugging fully clothed and didn't cross any weird boundaries. I'm sure he's fully straight.

It is extra steps and work, there's planning ahead sometimes, and extra risks. For a long time when I was a younger guy in my 20s I liked to have sex with guys by rubbing my dick between their thighs, or them between mine. It felt good doing or receiving like that, no pain or difficulty to fit, and it's safe without a condom. I was young too, so going for STD screening was still embarrassing and I don't think I knew where to go anyway, I didn't know what kind of condoms to buy and felt awkward shopping for them, I didn't have vaccines, and sex education in school didn't say same gender people have sex at all. Prep didn't exist either. I didn't even know guys usually douche. Anal sex felt intimidating and maybe more for gay men, not a bi man like me. A more relaxed way to have sex without being risky was good. Plus I like 100% full body contact with my guy, there's something extra intimate with nothing between us and it gives you that too. So I've had many good times spooning and kissing with a guy as I stroke between his thighs. I still sometimes check out guys and think fuck, those strong thick thighs would feel so good. Thinking about it again, maybe I should look for a nice side guy :) Anyway, I think for younger guys who are not consistent with condoms or prep, maybe less going to sex health clinics and aren't comfortable with catching anything, sex without anal is a good choice. I've noticed a lot of sides online are under 30 years guys. Same for guys who live in countries where access to healthcare for men who have sex with men is limited too, so they've not got prep, not had vaccines, etc. Or a bi guy with a gf or wife and he finds it is difficult to access these things discreetly too. It's very fair to weigh the choice differently.

Super frustrating to hear you didn't get healthcare you want to get and could be helped by. I'm wondering how accurate what they said was. The CDC website say about a Bexsero schedule so I think some people are getting it in the US. I think I understand one medical are a insurance company? I didn't try with insurance, I didn't expect they'd do it for me for this reason, or another reason I could say to them, so I did have to just pay for it. That of course comes with it's own barrier when you have to do that, so not itself a perfect option either, but it did work. Can you just go to a pharmacy and get vaccines you pay for in the US or are they more restricted than European countries? With a pharmacist approval you get so far in my experience whatever you want. I have had a lot of vaccines this way for many things and they ask few questions normally. Where the CDC mention it: [think before following links] https://www.cdc.gov/meningococcal/hcp/vaccine-recommendations/index.html

Yeah, I thought I was good with it at first. My first few times it made my stomach bad, then I seemed to get used to it for a bit, then after a while my stomach didn't like it again. So I have to be careful when I take prep, not too much coffee, maybe no coffee if it's being very difficult :( avoid spicy food, just eat more carefully than normal. And not go hungry too long. I take it and half hour later I have a weird feeling in my stomach, but have a bagel or something and it's ok. I'm learning how to manage it when taking prep and it's helping. Maybe my stomach will get ok with it in time.