NiceHard1
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great story though!
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I think that it is possible to bareback but also use some harm reduction strategies. Just because you want to bareback doesn't have to mean that you want to become poz, as you indicate. If you want to bottom though, It is important to realize that there will be some risk to it - and that you very well may become poz at some point. A harm reduction strategy is not as black and white as asking a guy if he is neg or poz. A truly neg guy of course has no risk, but you really don't know how neg he is. It may not be that he is lying, but that it may have been a while - even a short while - since his last test and he might really be poz - and with a high viral load. A guy who is poz and on meds may be undetectable and could be even lower risk than the guy who tells you he is neg. But if its been a while since the poz guy got his viral load tests and if he's not taking his meds regularly, he really may not be undetctable. So how do you know? You really don't. You can ask some simple questions that don't sound like you're trying to take his complete medical history: -If he's neg....."how often do you get an HIV test" - if the answer is that not for a while...hmm scratch your head... -If he's poz... "what as your last CD4 and viral load counts?" - Most poz guys will know their numbers and be open to talking about it - even will be impressed that you know enough to have the discussion. But the "bottom line" is that if you want to bottom, then you need to make friends with the fact that you'll probably become poz at some point. Happy to chat more about it if you'd like
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Agree. Find either a gay-friendly/pig-friendly doctor to visit, or gay-friendly health clinics. STDs do go with the turf. If you are having a lot of anonymous sex, you're probably going to have some STIs a couple of times per year, and it is important for yourself and your other partners to get regular checks.
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I continue to find many of the responses of so many people on this site to be amazing and valuable. I completely agree with AO and HH on here. Great comments. It can be such a struggle to be both true to yourself and true to your partner at the same time, but it is so important to do both. You owe it to yourself to give yourself what you need, not only in an emotional relationship, but also a sexual one, which may mean getting those two things from different places. But if you want to stay with this man, it is because you care about him, and would be hurting both of you to be lying both about your desires and about what you are doing behind his back. If you start barebacking on a regular basis, and even if you only bottom occasionally, you will likely become poz sooner or later. And then even if you're only having sex with your partner occasionally, you could bring HIV to him at some point. Being open and putting it all out on the table is the only way. If he is not willing to work with you to understand that you have important needs apart from your relationship, then perhaps you might want to change the type of relationship that you have. Its important to have a partner who you can be honest with who knows what you're doing, and you know what he's doing, while you both know that you care about each other and want to be together.
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I am pretty new to this site, and I continue to be impressed with the amazing thought provoking questions and equally thoughtful responses by so many people. What great words of wisdom MMM that you share. CD - I don't have children myself, but as MM shows, many of us balance our private and public lives. Years ago, merely being gay was something that was hidden by most people from nearly everyone out of fear of discrimination in work, housing, and even life; Many grew to be comfortable being public about being gay, but when HIV came out, many went into the closet about that aspect of themselves. Now more and more people are comfortable being out about their HIV status with family and friends. The next level is regarding the extent of our extreme sexuality. Few people share the details of the kind of sex that they have with families, and that is probably a good thing. Only on rare occasions have I seen or heard heartwarming stories - such as seeing a guy dressed in leather at a San Francisco leatherbar christmas party last year with his elderly mother (who loved hanging out with all the gay guys in leather!) Or a gay guy who I know who has a gay son, and his son texts his father when he is hooking up with a trick, and then again to let his father know that he got back home safe. Those are pretty rare and extreme, and something that comes to few of us. You don't have to share these intimate details with your family, but the one person you have to be honest and accepting with is yourself.
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Same here - I love it both ways; I love to be with one or more tops tag teaming a bottom, and I love to be a bottom getting tag teamed by two or more tops. Anyone interested??
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Treasure Island's Dawson (poz porn star)
NiceHard1 replied to risklover's topic in Bareback Porn Discussion
He's really a nice guy. I've fucked him a few times in some TIM videos. He really enjoys taking cum and piss. -
Where did you get (or give) your last load?
NiceHard1 replied to rawTOP's topic in General Discussion
* Thanksgiving night (after dinner) met up with a guy I've chatted with on BBRT for a while, and had a great time with him. He wanted to play one of the porn films that I was in, but I was glad that he didn't. I wanted the experience to be about him, and not about watching me fuck another guy on screen! We made out for a while, and I fairly quickly got my spit coated cock inside of him. He did ask for some lube, and so I added some for him. I fucked him for quite a while before giving him my load. He then fucked me for a while too, but didn't cum inside of me. We jerked off together. I came again, and then he jumped on top of me and shot an enormous load all over my chest and face. Sometimes that is even better than getting the sperm up my ass. Such the dilemma. A great evening was had by both of us. Then later I called my new boyfriend/fuckbuddy who I met online here (Ok we don't know what to label our connection yet...) and told him about my evening - and jerked off on the phone with him. -
Greetings hot man. I used to live in CT and can easily get there - or invite you here to Ptown too!
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Many of us believe that poz/undetectable guys may be a lower risk to hiv negative guys than other negative guys who really may not know their status for sure, and could really be unknowingly poz with a high viral load. There is of course little formal research on this subject, and so I would like to start my own. I'm interested in hearing people's stories, and would love to compile data to prove (or disprove) this theory. I would love to hear about your personal experiences considering the following: * Are you neg and choose to bottom only with poz/undetectable guys as an HIV prevention strategy? If so, how long have you been doing this? With single or multiple poz/undetectable partners? Do you take loads in your ass? Do you get tested regularly and continue to test negative? * Has anyone had the reverse - attempted to bottom only with poz/undetectable guys only to eventually become HIV positive? Do you truly attribute your seroconversion to poz/undetectable guys, or do you think there might have been other factors affecting your conversion? - How about guys trying to become poz? Did you find yourself staying neg from poz/undetectable guys, and did you find that you needed to find guys with higher viral loads in order to become poz? Thanks much for replying regarding your personal experience from any angle of this subject. I would look forward to more discussion on this with anyone. Thanks!
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Would you still keep your status if there was a cure?
NiceHard1 replied to bacchi1486's topic in General Discussion
Yes, for me, its about the sex, not about the virus. I have learned to live with HIV, and take meds to keep it in check, with the hope that one day treatment will be better than what we have and we can come up with something that will truly cure the virus. I am also a believer that since HIV is a virus, once actually cured, I believe that we will then have immunity to getting it again. -
Some years ago, nonoxynol-9 was show to be abrasive and cause cuts to the rectal lining, thereby defeating its intended purpose. I think it has been pretty much removed from most lubes now. If barebacking, best to use a good oil based lube.
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Hey Bobbie- Wondering if you have since tested positive? - either from this experience, or from subsequent experiences getting fucked, possibly by guys who were not undetectable?
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Where HIV Came From & How It Spread
NiceHard1 replied to rawTOP's topic in HIV/AIDS & Sexual Health Issues
Thanks! Interesting article. Showing more of how HIV/AIDS is more than a gay disease -
True. It is good to get a Hep A and B vaccine - particularly if you like to lick butt, as they can be easily transmitted that way. Hep C is not as easily transmitted, and does not have a vaccine. It was once thought that it was only transmitted through IV drug use/needle sharing for direct blood/blood contact, but lately, gay men who identify with rough pig play have had an increase in transmission of Hep C. I have found it amazing that some serious medical journals talk frankly about fisting and gay sex parties as possible risks for Hep C, particularly when rough and where partners either fist or fuck multiple people, allowing for passing Hep C from one to the other through rough play. While many people, particularly on this site, have grown to accept the risks of HIV, Hep C adds another layer to be aware of, and to try to prevent if possible. http://www.natap.org/2006/HCV/092106_01.htm
