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Well, I'd just say do what you enjoy and are comfortable with. Anytime you have sex there's a risk, whether bareback or with a condom. I got one of those little lectures this morning from a healthcare provider about using condoms even though I'm poz - he went on about how I could catch another strain of hiv or get stds. Well, duh. I'm damn private about my sex habits, so it made me wonder if he watching me on bbrt or manhunt or something... (then again, I'm in a small town where people love to gossip so I pretty much assume everyone here knows I'm a slut - that won't stop me). The fantasy of bare fucking is great, for some that's all it is (like the getting pozzed thing). The reality is certainly different, so you need to assess the risk vs the pleasure and short-term gratification. I hate getting stds - I don't like having to take time off from fucking to get better. And there are some nasty things, still -- anal warts, hpv, hep-c -- that don't go away, but I don't know anyone who's contracted those. I know more guys with hiv than any other "std". Anyway, "be safe," however that translates for you. Take care of yourself and have fun.

When they pay me for sex they definitely have better sex

I thought shyness was now classified as an anxiety disorder. Don't they have meds for that? I think it helps to have a system for picking guys up. I have three questions I ask to see if they meet my basic criteria. When it comes to sex I'm not shy at all. If I tell a guy I want to fuck him and he says no, there's always someone else. And I've only wasted the time it takes to ask three questions. But it took a while to get comfortable being direct. I used to be really shy about hitting on guys who I thought were super hot, or guys who were younger than me, thinking they would look down on me. And I wasn't really into most of the guys who hit on me in bars. Then I had a really hot 20-year-old muscle kid pick me up at a sex party and it completely changed the way I looked at myself. I had a bit of a complex about how I looked for a long time. I hated my clothes, I hated my hair, I hated my body. So I hid. But then I started paying attention to the times that people complimented me. Huh, people tell me I have beautiful eyes when I'm wearing blue. That black jock strap really got me lots of action. Guys I find hot really like the beard. My piercer told me "you have a really nice dick, and I see lots of dick." Listening to the good things people said really helped me get out of my shell.

I only keep track on special occasions, or if I have a particular goal in mind. I counted the first hundred this summer in ptown but lost track after 4th of July. And I counted 53 loads over the course of the Southern Decadence weekend, and that was a new personal best for me. I usually can't keep track very well since I'm pretty occupied thinking about other things. I've never kept track of how many guys I've fucked, but I know I tend to top more than I bottom. I doubt I'll be able to ever fuck more than I did last summer, though. 2011 was a really great year

I do this all the time at Dick Dock during the summer in Ptown. I start sucking a guy and make sure my ass is up in the air (I never kneel when I'm giving a blow job) so tops can just stick their dicks in and breed me. And the best is when a top starts telling others how hot my hole is and gets other guys to come over and breed me. It's a great feeling to get a few loads from guys I never see and just feel the different cocks pounding away at my ass and releasing their cum inside my ass.

Um, it's not rocket science. We bareback cuz it's hotter than "safer sex." But I'd separate out bug chasing as a tiny percentage of guys who bareback. It may seem that's what the whole world is about since that's the theme of this site. But there are plenty of guys who are hypocritical, act holier than thou, and still bareback. They may bareback only with other neg guys, but they bareback nonetheless. Paul Morris of Treasure Island Media gave an amazing lecture about the allure of danger (and barebacking) at the 1996 World Pornography Conference: No Limits: Necessary Danger in Male Porn It's definitely worth the read!

I think of myself as vers, but it's complicated. I used to have one of my profiles set as versatile/top, since I was in a fucking mood, so I got tons of hits from total bottoms, which was great. If I wanted to get fucked, that vers/top profile was keeping guys away. Changed it to vers and hello! the vers/top and top guys who ignored my profile before were all about wanting to fuck me. So I think it's a marketing thing. If a guy has a pic of his dick and you're looking for a bottom, you'll skip that profile. Goes the other way too. I dont want to look at a top's ass, I want his cock. I rarely flip when I'm playing 1 on 1, but give me two or more and I'll want all my holes filled and I'll want to fuck and piss and get fisted. And I get what I want

Let's do it, man!

Had a monogamous relationship with a guy for 15 years. In retrospect, the sex was pretty bad (a new world opened up for me after we broke up). I don't know if I'd do the open relationship thing. But relationships are complicated and I'm definitely of that "I don't want an LTR" mindset right now and make that pretty clear up front. NSA all the way.

I agree there are some tops who just aren't fun. I had a guy once with Viagra dick who clearly wasn't going to cum and there was a line of guys waiting to dump loads in my ass. I politely told him I needed a break (I was bored), he obliged, and once he was gone I just turned around and said "who's next?" If you're in control, why don't you just tell him what you want? I've found most guys take direction pretty well when they're naked and fucking, especially if they're newbies. (I like newbies since they tend to cum quickly and then I can move on to finding the next trick to give me a load.)

Yeah I only go to parties where I know I'll be able to have sex. No use stripping down that much and not fucking! The one exception is Sat night at Pugatory in Ptown. It's a decent scene for hooking up and going back to his place. All the tourist wear their undies. I just wear my clothes and just pick out a guy based on his dick.

Awesome article! Thanks for passing it on

Don't beat yourself up over how you think other people see you. There are *plenty* of guys who would love to see you fuck on camera! There seems to be a studio for every taste these days. But I think it's hard to break into video if you don't live in one of the major production regions (LA/SF/Vegas, NYC, Montreal, I'm sure there are other hotspots). If you don't live near the places where the studios shoot, even if the studios think you're great, I don't think you'll get anywhere (I keep trying and keep getting told I should move to SF). Without a studio nearby, you're kinda stuck shooting DIY amateur fun videos with your buds That, in itself, is not a bad thing. I have a little POV fuck video I put on Xtube a few years ago and promptly forgot about. I found it yesterday and it had been viewed over 61,000 times. That's the equivalent of it being watched 55 times a day, every day, for three years! That's a lot of exposure and I'm getting hard thinking of all those guys watching it Now I think I need to go shoot a little vid of me jerking off...

I was showing a friend this site the other day and noticed that nonmembers (people without accounts who are not logged in) can view member profiles. Is there any way to hide your profile so it's not visible to the general public?

The hookup sites seem to vary a lot from place to place. Manhunt rocks in London, but BBRT works a lot better for me in NYC or Boston or SF. Grindr was amazing in Greece; those boys are not shy! I used the word "bareback" in the video chat room on Manhunt the other night (someone asked to see one of my xtube vids) and got the 3rd degree from a whole bunch of 20-somethings. They just went on a tirade (which is easy to do when you're in a chat room and not showing your face). When I told them I'm poz they finally shut up. On my iPhone I now have six hookup apps: Grindr, Growlr, Manhunt, Mister, Scruff, and u4Bear. Plus the BBRT web site. I think we need a Cumdumpster site and app so we can get rid of all these others!

Doesn't work here either. I use the chat on BBRT. I've met some hot guys there and have a much higher success rate when we chat than when we have those endless email back and forth things.

I just block them, no discussion, no reply. If they can't bother to read my profile, I won't waste my time and be courteous. Every now and then I do a search for guys who have neg only in their profiles and go on a blocking spree. I wish Manhunt had a similar field so I could do the same. I get a lot of messages there from guys who say they're neg in their profile but tell me they're poz in their messages to me. I don't mind having sex with neg guys. I just find the time waters obnoxious.

Yep I've had that happen a couple of times with guys I've met outside of the context of sex parties and the like. Both guys were not supportive of my slutty ways though and we just kind of drifted apart. I've discovered I don't like the friends with benefits thing either - I prefer to have friends for social and emotional support, and that gets awkward for me when I need support and all I get is "I want you to come over and cum in my ass." it actually makes me not want to have sex, and that's saying something. I pretty much keep my sex life and social life separate these days. It's kind of odd sometimes, and a few guys have moved from one to the other over the years, but it always changes the nature of the relationship for me. I still enjoy the occasional cuddle or sleepover but it's always in the context of some piggy bareback fucking. Enjoying someone's company is one thing; dating is something else entirely.

First, great to see this discussion here. I haven't seen any other forums where people actually go this deep into this topic (please point me to any if you know of some). As I mentioned I'm another thread, I was in an early PrEP study and they put me on meds (I was neg then). Six months after the study ended I tested poz and it turned out that the HIV I had was resistant to those meds. That left a bad taste in my mouth about playing guinea pig in the future. When I tested poz they asked me to participate in the START study and I declined. I've been lucky enough to live in a city with some of the best research and teaching hospitals in the world, and I used to be thankful for that. After this experience I'm not so enthusiastic about it. I've seen two docs who are leading researchers in HIV and each of them were on different sides of this fence about starting treatment early. When the decision is staring you in the face you make the best choice you can based on the information at hand. I've chosen not to start meds since my cd4 count is over 1000 and my viral load is consistently around 10k or lower (with some weird fluctuations that the doc has said may have been bad blood samples) . But to add to RawTop's anecdotal evidence about top docs acting not always in the patients best interest... I was diagnosed with a neurological problem in childhood and treated by the head of the epilepsy program at a top hospital. He put me on Dilantin and Mebaral and I took that combo for nearly 20 years. When he retired, his successor thought that was unnecessary and stopped the meds. There was little evidence that the meds actually did anything to prevent the disease they originally thought I had, and I had been taking large doses of a barbiturate for most of my life. I was told the diagnosis was wrong and I shouldn't have been on meds all that time. My parents consulted a lawyer and really wanted to sue the hospital, but due to the hospital's inability to produce med records from 20 years before it was hard to put a solid case together. So I just went on with my life -- and experienced significant personality changes after finally ending the meds (it took two years to safely titrate down the meds). I lost out on a lot of childhood experiences because of fear and stigma associated with epilepsy. So personal experience has led me to always get a second opinion and read the current literature whenever I've been told I should take a prescription med. And I'm fortunate to live in a city where that's easy to do (it's not easy to get an appointment with the top docs, but persistence pays off). At the end of the day it's a personal choice, and the docs I've seen still present it that way. There's risk either way, and it's up to the individual to make an informed decision. When a doctor tells me they don't know what the long term effects of a med are, and I might not really need to take it, I remember my 20 years on two meds that are rarely prescribed today and make a choice that makes sense for me.

My first instinct was to post something saying "no meds, no side effects" but I realized that isn't possible for everyone. My docs thought I was an elite controller when I was fist diagnosed (cd4 560, viral load 66) and it turns out I have bad levels and good levels but my cd4s went up to over 1000 and have stayed there for a long time. I've been healthy with no immune related issues. They are really aggressive here since getting people on meds seems to be more of a public policy thing about reducing transmission -- they just want to get us all to undetectable. The stuff about the spread of the virus into the brain and other tissues seems to be an attempt to grasp at some rationale for handing out meds. One of my docs told me she'd rather have me on meds for ten years and avoid dementia than take the risk of waiting until I'm at an AIDS diagnosis to start meds. The long term effect of these meds are unknown, and since I'm not symptomatic I'm avoiding taking anything until I need to. I was in a PEP study (post-exposure prophylaxis, to see if drugs can prevent HIV after you've been exposed to it) back when I was neg and they had me taking a combo regimen... When I tested poz six months after the study ended it turned out my virus was resistant to those meds. Anyway, I totally get why someone would want to go on meds as a preventative measure. It's just not something I'd do until there's more science to convince me that it's necessary. Everyone needs to find their own comfort zone, and It really is important to do the labs and have those conversations with your docs to make the best choice for you.

Yeah that's how I got double fucked the first time. I was playing with two guys, one was fucking me and the other was online trying to find a fourth. I was on my back with the first guy inside me when I felt my ass opening up and the second guy pushed his cock in with the first one. I didn't see it coming but it was fucking amazing. We fucked like that for a while and then they went back to tag teaming my ass until they both shot inside me. I've done it a few more times but none were as good as my first

I have a 4g PA which I'll upgrade to an appy this spring - going in behind the head on the top and out through the PA hole in the bottom, if I can get my piercer to agree to do it that way. Also have 10g nipples that I love, I go so fucking hard when they're sucked, but they really act up if I get them played with too much. The worst thing about having piercings is the damn healing time that puts you out of commission for a while. But it's well worth the wait!