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48 years difference... as far as i know. i've had a FB who breeds me 3-4x a week going on 6 years now, and there's 41 years difference between us. i'm a critical care nurse... i have patients in their 70's, 80's and 90's and i have patients in their 20's, 30's 40's and 50's, It's not uncommon for the younger to be in worse shape than the older, age is only one of many factors when it comes to health, and is by no means the primary cause of ill health where one needs a "nursing home." Oh, and the guy who said that has obviously never been to a gym.

Along with others, i'd stop shy at calling it "addiction to cum," though the feeling definitely resonates with me ;-). i think the feeling is real/valid, but i think the definition "addiction" is too absolute, maybe narrow? The sex drive is well documented as natural, but then people with beliefs get onboard and want to regulate it, it seems, since the beginning of recorded history. Coming from a conservative religious background, i was conditioned from birth to think and feel about my attraction to guys as "sinful." As a kid, i went to the library and looked up homosexuality and medical books prior to 1973 labeled it a mental disorder, so: "sick and sinful." le i was still processing out of my religious conditioning, i went through "reparative therapy" and the term "addiction" was used liberally if you were gay. A lot of conservative religions still consider gay as "sick," and being gay is also often automatically associated with pedophilia. Gay attraction is commonly compared to alcohol addiction. Religion is a huge part of US culture, so if you grew up in the US, you've been exposed to it's influence and a lot of the homophobia that goes with it can become internalized and fly under the radar. i look at our sex drive as similar to hunger, we get hungry, we eat to satisfy that hunger... that's an arguable comparison, and it can fall apart, but my intent is to put sex in neutral territory when it comes to the moral question of being gay. Back to my feel that "addiction" is too absolute and narrow a term to describe the intense drive. There is some evidence of correlation (but not causation) between absorbed semen in women and reduced depression (excerpt and linked info below). i don't think it's a reach to assume a similar correlation with bottoms because the colon is highly absorptive too. But i know for me, my drive to receive a Man into me goes well beyond the "cum." In both my thoughts and feelings, i identify several distinct desires in me that correspond to what i identify as "Top." E.g., His desire to penetrate, open/mold ("fuck"), to possess, control, orgasm and breed. i see and experience all of those collectively from a Top, but the mix varies individually from Top to Top. For me, there's the physical fuck, but equally, if not more, the mind fuck (with all of the listed factors). my crave and drive to be fucked always includes all of those desires, not 'just' the cum, and the degree of corresponding response of my desires (needs?) to be penetrated, opened, molded, fucked, possessed, controlled, receive His orgasm/pleasure inside of me, and cum... varies and is a reflection and connection that i experience with the individual Top. "Several studies have investigated the potential link between semen exposure and mood. One widely cited study found a correlation between unprotected sex and reduced depressive symptoms in women. However, this study did not prove causation and other factors, such as relationship satisfaction and sexual intimacy, could have contributed to the observed effects. Other studies have explored the effects of specific semen components, such as NGF, on brain function in animal models. These studies suggest that NGF may have antidepressant-like effects, but further research is needed to confirm these findings in humans." [think before following links] https://advancestudy.org/does-sperm-help-with-depression/#google_vignette

did a search too, eBay has several vids by Verow, but not Bottom, this link may have it, but may only be the trailer [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.themoviedb.org/movie/420345-bottom

That i do not like my nipples pinched. i rarely get fucked face up, but a Guy was fucking me with my legs over His shoulders and He suddenly, and unceremoniously, gave both of my nipples a painful pinch. He was instantly on the floor and me standing over Him. lol, i didn't hurt Him, it was reflexive from 25 years of martial arts training. We somehow managed to resume, sans 'nipple play."

i whole heartedly agree with this. i've only ever had two actual orgasms from being fucked (i.e., that involved ejaculation), and both were mind blowing incredible. One to the things that stands out to me was how surprised i was (shocked really) when it started happening. The complete and utter loss of control, or really the incredible effect of the Top having that kind of control, for me, is the mattress biting, "You own me" kinda feeling that cuts to the core of me. i'm not sure i have had the official "assgasm?" Either that, or o have them all of the time. i get knock down, satisfying pleasure from getting fucked. The word "satisfying" feels to weak to me. i don't quite go into refractory like with a penis orgasm, but i have found i can go a long time without an ejaculation when i am being fucked and bred often, especially if it's the same Guy. So, for me it's a definite combination of mental and physical. For several years now, seems i always achieve that state, both physically and mentally, when i get fucked.

me too. i lived in Roanoke Virginia for a year when i got my first nursing job. There was this one Guy Who hit me up frequently Who had a very girthy, but maybe 5.5" Cock? He was the type who'd just shove in without taking any time to open. i've only ever had one anal fissure, and i never want another... that tear put's you out of commission for some time, though that is not much of a factor for me anymore, i'm pretty opened and have easy access. Anyway, after my first experience with Him, i was hesitant the next time He contacted me, butt couldn't say "no" lol, so i ended up dilating myself before He got to my house, and that worked. i can still remember Him as a stand out fucker though, the combination of His desire and the girth of His Cock really set me up and off both mentally and physically, definitely experienced the "scream" with Him.

i did a quick search of studies about anal orgasm... didn't find much and what i did find underlined that this has not been studied much, butt this study has some pics about where to stimulate. Also appreciate the study notes the role "mental factors" plays. "Orgasm function with RAI [receptive anal intercourse] Our third aim was to query the orgasmic potential of RAI. As previously stated, the pudendal nerve plays a key role in achieving orgasm and may be a source of pleasure and orgasmic potential during RAI. The pudendal nerve also innervates the external anal sphincter and perianal skin, creating pleasure from anal play and insertion. Our findings showed that men were significantly more likely to endorse achieving orgasm from anal penetration alone, compared with women. One explanation is that the prostate and adjacent neurovascular bundle could be contributing to the experience of orgasm with RAI. Although the exact mechanism of prostatic stimulation induced pleasurable sensation is unclear, it is hypothesized that it may derive from nerves passing along the outer surface of the gland or through the nervous innervation of the prostate itself.7 Separately, the experience of orgasm is also influenced by mental factors, including people’s self-esteem, desire, and experience with sexual practices.35 Thus, men who may engage in RAI as a primary sexual practice may learn how to orgasm from this practice better over time. Additionally, we found that approximately 50% of both women and men reported experiencing orgasm from RAI with the addition of co-stimulation, compared to 19% of women and 36% of men who experienced orgasm from RAI alone." [think before following links] https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12128925/

i'll be the first to respond with some of my own thoughts and feelings. i'm convinced that there is no such thing as "just sex." i know, i may be wrong, but so far am not convinced we can totally fragment our emotional self from our sexual self. i do think we can parse that connection down though. i believe i have gotten some form or degree of emotional nurture from every sexual encounter i've had with Guys, even though it may not have been emotionally fulfilling. And that would be the distinction i would make, i think our emotional self (well, all of our self really) is made up of pieces that fit together to form our whole self. i think one of the reasons we seek out sex is to connect some of those pieces with another, and i am not convinced it's ever "just sex" (i.e just physical). i can only speak for myself, but if i am being completely honest with myself, i think there is always an emotional component that is indeed being nurtured. This is a complex topic, i don't presume fully grasp it or have any hard, absolute conclusions. The last 6 years i have had the experience of an ongoing FB (i frequently talk about Him in the "last load" thread). my experience with Him has shown me a lot about myself. We have sex 2-4x a week for about six years now. He's Bi, on the DL and we have very little in common. i'm really big on communication, He's very quiet and rarely shows His emotional self... except during the actual sex. He's very vocal during sex, but as soon as He has an orgasm (always, our sex always culminates with Him breeding me, probably about 1000 times by now), He withdraws and takes a shower. After He showers He always asks: "you good?" And i always reply honestly how incredible i feel. i've shared a lot with Him about my psychosexual make up, He has shared very little. So, most of my understanding of Him is reading between the lines, and the fact that He is and has always been the one to initiate (since He is on the DL, i always wait for Him to text). From the outside looking in, our relationship could easily be labeled "just sex." We do not socialize together, we don't have much in common to base that on, but we have a decided bond that i think is both physical and emotional... at least, it is for me. One big thing i have found is, as long as i get to connect with Him at least 2x a week (it's usually 3-4x), i do not feel the need to have sex with another Guy. i do still get horny, but for me, that is a big part of my 'bottom' wiring... i.e., being "horny" and maintaining that desire/need for a Guy Who has a reciprocating need/desire to penetrate and breed. As long as i am receiving His orgasm inside of me often enough, i do not feel the need to get that from someone else. If He skips a week or so for a variety of reasons, i feel my need coming back. i also continue to be on some apps and have a profile out there, so i know/believe that i still would like to have more emotional bond with Someone, but i am very grateful for what i have also, and would not be cavalier about giving it up. That is one thing we have both touched on. He told me a couple of years ago that if He found a woman, He'd no longer hook with me... but that has never happened. He used to have a GF, but has not had one for years. Yet, last year when He vacationed with friends in Mexico, they hooked up with women... and i think He has occasional hook up sex with women, He'll occasionally casually allude to. But i believe Him when He tells me i'm His only guy hook up (though it would not matter to me if i learned otherwise). None of this fits the traditional heteronormative mold most of us have been culturally conditioned by. Am interested to read others thoughts, feelings and experiences. ❤️

Thought i'd share this with the BZ community. i need to re-watch, not sure i agree with all of his conclusions, but He is pretty damned cute and maybe naked (love the cowboy hat)... which can distract from content. Kidding aside, i appreciate that He is discussing the topic of gay sex, hook-up culture, in more of an examining way vs judgmental, and also manages to bring some research to the discussion (with links). Haven't looked at the research, so cannot attest to the quality of the cited studies, but appreciate the added layer of possible evidence to assertions He is making. Hope y'all will find it worthwhile ❤️

Just left... texted me while i was making dinner and it's been 3 days since He last bred me. i start getting twitchy after going two days without being bred lol, and i have to go back on rotation at the hospital the next two days, and typically don't do any fucking when pulling 13 hour shifts. Totally relieved when He called and needed to fuck, instantly connects to my need to be fucked, like pulling on a leash and collar :-). i'm full of seed now and can resume making dinner minus the withdrawal symptoms. So grateful for Guys and sex and that amazing connection we can have with each other. Life is good.

i left a couple of comments on this discussion on the "Getting Close" Youtube site, i edited to include the BZ name. i think BZ could be a good resource for the kind of research and discussion this vid is discussing.

i hear the attitude more than the word. i don't connect with meanness or disdain, it strikes me as disingenuous. So it a guy calls it or me a "cunt" or "pussy" meaning it as an insult... i'd just as soon pass. Not because i'm insulted, but because i want to connect with a Tops lust, His desire to penetrate, fuck and breed me. If i see that look of lust/need in His eyes, and hear His desire to possess me and He connects with the word "pussy" or "cunt," at that point, so do i, because it's not just the word or label i'm hearing/feeling. Heteronormative culture doesn't have sexy words for gay guys, and we haven't developed a lot on our own, so we borrow from straight culture. Pussy or cunt carries the meaning i'm wired for cock. i don't use the word "cock" for my penis because i related to a Top or a guy Who wants to put His cock in another, fuck and breed as having a "cock." i don't have one of those, and when a Top realizes that, it's a huge turn on for me, it's very affirming. The only cock i have is the one a Top puts inside of me. Nature makes opposites, and to me the most profound connection we can have is that bonding of opposites. So, hell yeah, i have a pussy or cunt if You have a Cock You want to put in it.

No, i mean i'm part of the "we" on BZ that has discussed online hookup. 🙂

We discuss online hookup a lot on BZ, so thought this would be Interesting to many in this community.

1. i've had some great cum dump experiences, too many to count really. In a public venue, like an Adult theater, i've had experiences where many are shy or jacking off in a corner, but not hooking and i've experienced if i lie on a sofa or obviously present, that it can lead to a feeding frenzy lol. It often only takes one guy to start it off, but making it exhibitionist can help the more shy to participate and go for what they really want. 3. make it easy for the Top. I've done cum dump at home for most of my life, but i'm always the gate keeper. post an add without an address and screen potentials. i've found the longer apps are in use, the more difficult that has become. CL used to be a treasure trove for cum dump and i could line guys up one after the other. in more recent times, i will go to a gay resort if i just wanna do the open door hotel room scene. i've encountered a few tweakers that way, but nothing too serious, and it's a lot easier and safer vs a motel 6 or non gay locale. There are several gay resorts in Palm Springs that have worked for me CCBC comes to mind, where i just left my door ajar and had a pretty constant stream of cock and cum.