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just left.. again lol. The prior post is from yesterday. He's versatile, loves and is very vocal when i give Him oral, and 3/4 of oral ends up being his ass over the last year. Fingered and sucked him and he tells me how much he loves it, so i fucked him for about 20 minutes. When i was married (to a woman) i trained myself not to cum till my partner does, plus, i really am bottom so fucking is something i'm doing because he likes it so much. Luckily, he cannot nut unless He's fucking, so even when i do manage to psych my cock into fucking, we end with Him breeding me. Also, fucking him really brings out the beast in Him, damn, He pummeled me, almost came a couple of times He was hitting the P-spot so hard. He's built like a brick house, so when He fucks hard, He's a force to recon with. my body finally went limp, no tension left anywhere in me and i'm full of His seed now.

Just left... my regular FB. just got back from Mexico, a gay resort. Highly recommend Casa Cupula in Puerto Vallarta. They had a party last Saturday, over 200 naked guys packed into a tiny pool area, plus a play area. And the food in the Zona Romantica is worth the trip all by itself. Street food and restaurants. Still, i go through withdrawal if i don't get my regular FB's cock and nut in me at least 3x a week lol. One of the hottest parts (and there's a lot of those parts) of sex with Him is when He is ready to fuck, He gets this high look in His eyes and says: "Let Me fuck you." i turn over prone and He spreads my ass and i always feel His warm spit drop onto my hole. idk why, but that turns me on so much, doesn't make a sound, i just feel it on my hole before He presses His cock into my hole, which He does with a lot of muscle behind it. Honestly, He's definitely opened my hole over 5 years and it's pretty easy to get into. i think He may have been saving it up, i'm very creamy.

For better or worse, i suffer from extreme optimism and am forever giving people the benefit of the doubt. i want to believe people are basically good and most only inadvertently evil. Cognitively, i know better... especially when i comes to scammers, eh? They're making a focused effort to exploit a persons intimate needs/desires. Really, i feel i've gotten pretty good a spotting scammers too. They all seem to work off the same script, which if many are using AI is pretty accurate, eh? Anymore, i'm naturally suspicious of anyone i meet online. Though discussion forums like BZ are different because you do get to know regular contributors. i wish there were gay meeting sites that had discussion forums like BZ (not talking the cursed chat rooms that are often more cacophony than intelligent, in depth exchange between people.

Hey thanks, It had an AI vibe to me, how did you know it was Chat GPT?

You're sweet, thanks. Honestly, at this point, i'm beyond frustrated or desperate and more bemused by it all. Part of my intent in posting this was to inform. BZ is one of the only online gay sites i know of that has serious communication between substantive, real people. i do know there are guys who want a one on one romantic tangle and some may be more vulnerable than others, so this is in part an effort to help my community to be aware an informed. and ironically, i wrote this from a gay resort in Puerto Vallarta lol. OMG, there were about 250-300 gorgeous guys all packed into a tiny pool side on Saturday.

i think you make some good points. i've found many scammers want to move to a different platform, usually initially, than the site where you meet. Usually email or WhatsApp. Unfortunately, i live in a smaller town where opportunities to meet other gay guys are minimal. Online has the real potential for shrinking the world and making the search pool huge. i question abandoning the pool, though there needs to be a way of dealing with the pollution in the pool, eh? i think your idea of video call is a decent start. i have been loathe to use that method, but honestly think you are right about a simple solution to help weed out scammers. It's not 100%, but it could go a long way in finding guys who are real, and who look like their online pics lol.

@nanana i think ^^^THiS^^^ is so well assessed and summarized. i work at a teaching hospital and have found that helps moderate the culture. It's estimated that it takes about 20 years for new research to become part of medical practice. i believe having a continuous influx of newly educated doctors into a hospital results in some of that new info reaching doctors who have been out of school and may not be up on all the journals ("all" being an impossible task). And that is just one example of the medical profession and practice. In mid life, i made shift from one profession to a wholly new and different profession. One thing that change has helped me see is how your question of trustworthiness is a universal one. i think the same question exists for all professions, from housekeeping to doctor, from DMV employee to president: what makes any professional trustworthy? While i do not feel any trust for Trump, i didn't have much of what i'd call "trust" for our former leadership, so it's impossible for me to make a holistic judgement. i think most Americans would agree we need change. i have been disappointed by the status quo and corruption. Going after corruption and waste resonates with me in a big way, but we have to be able to trust the people doing it. i think an answer to the question is what makes any professional trustworthy is numbers of eyes on. For instance, one of the reasons i like science based professions is because there is (ideally) rigorous method and approach applied at the front end, scrutiny of conclusion at the back end, and ongoing research. In its ideal state, the scientific method is about many professionals scrutinizing and having the opportunity to weigh in to ultimate decision and subsequent policy. To me, that seems to be the intent of the American government structure. A system of checks and balances where no one person, or even branch of government, gets to make policy independent of scrutiny or debate. Back to the example of the medical profession. What makes a medical professional trustworthy? In my opinion, it is that persons continuous intent to be participant and a part of a system where they purposefully submit to scrutiny, debate because they do not want to make decisions independently. I.e, they are consider themselves as part of a process, and do not consider their self the process. i don't think any person or system can be 100% trustworthy, but i see more trustworthiness in a system that employs all qualifying professionals as part of the decision making process than just one lone person have much, most or all of that power.

i've broached this topic on BZ a wee bit before, and have seen a few discussions over the years. No doubt to me that gay relationships have a lot of differences from traditional hetero, this particular thread is not so much about that, but more about how the process of finding someone, for more than a hookup, is affected by so much of our interactions being online. i have an ongoing desire/effort to have a more special intimate relationship beyond just hooking up. Hooking up is fine, but to me, hooking up is to relationship as fast-food is to dining. What this thread is more specifically about is the number of scammers (for lack of a better term) who try to take advantage of those looking for more than a hook up. in my experience, these guys do not engage in (much if any) talk about sex. Which to me, in a gay setting, is a red flag lol. They are usually the profiles claiming to be "serious, looking for love, their soulmate, ltr, etc.." i've noticed that "scammers" often seem to be working from a similar, if not the same, script. A lot of what you get from them seems copied, cut and pasted. Which to me speaks of some sort of organized group effort vs some random individual out to con and exploit. i am noticing an evolution of scamming via the relationship channel, and yesterday my suspicion of something more organized going on, was confirmed. i was having an exchange with a potential connection and he was doing a good job of it. i was still suspicious, but this guy was way better than most of my encounters. Enough for me to continue with several exchanges. Then, he mistakenly sent me something that exposed what he was doing (i'll do a cut and paste of it below in yellow). It became obvious at first because the wrong name was used (and he knew my first name at this point, my name is not "Roger"). But more than that, what was evident is this guy was sharing my side of the conversation with someone else, a supervisor or coach? in order to construct a manipulative response to me. i was surprised and bemused that there would be this level of sophistication from a scammer? That, again, online scamming is becoming much more than some individual on the net trying to scam, that it's becoming more organized, refined, sophisticated. Check it out: Wow — Roger really poured his heart out here. He’s offering deep vulnerability, philosophical thought, and a desire for true connection. Here’s a romantic, heartfelt, and intimate response you could send that meets him where he’s at, honors his openness, and continues building that emotional bond: ⸻ Hi Roger, Reading your message felt like opening a window into your soul — and it’s a beautiful place. I’m genuinely moved by how deeply you think and feel, and by how courageously you put your heart into words. That kind of self-awareness and vulnerability isn’t just rare, it’s magnetic. Your puzzle analogy is so on point. Relationships are like building a picture out of pieces — some fit easily, some need adjusting, and others we don’t even know we’re missing until the right person brings them to the table. I think you’re absolutely right: love isn’t just something we “fall” into — it’s something we build, carefully, intentionally, and with a deep understanding of ourselves and each other. And that takes work, honesty, and a willingness to stay present even when it’s hard. What you shared about the energy between Top and bottom — that blend of emotional, physical, and even spiritual connection — gave me chills in the best way. I don’t think it was crude at all. In fact, I think it was incredibly poetic. You’re describing a kind of intimacy that transcends the physical act — something soulful, mutual, powerful. I feel the depth of what you’re yearning for, and I resonate with it. That kind of merging, of becoming known and received in all your fullness — that’s rare, and absolutely worth seeking. Your passion for your work shines, too. The way you talk about your team, your patients, your love of physiology — it’s clear that you’re someone who gives of yourself fully. Teaching hospitals have a different energy, and you’re right — that collaborative spirit makes such a difference. It’s amazing that you’ve been in the same ICU for 11 years — it speaks volumes about your commitment and the trust you’ve built. And I agree — the system can feel cold and bureaucratic, but the heart of healthcare will always be people like you. I’ve worked with labs in various settings across Oregon — both urban and more rural hospitals. I manage testing operations, quality systems, and help coordinate with departments like yours to make sure critical results get turned around fast. I’ve always admired nurses, especially ICU — you juggle so much, and the emotional weight of the job is something most people don’t see. It’s a calling, not just a career. Also — thank you for sharing your journey. You’ve seen and experienced a lot, moved through life with a quiet resilience that I really admire. Your insight into love — about how it gets tangled up in sacrifice and obligation, especially when shaped by religion — that resonated so much. It’s something I’ve wrestled with, too: the tension between what we’re taught love should be, and what we actually need it to be to feel whole. And that quote you live by — grace, forgiveness, kindness — I feel that deeply. I try to live by those principles too. They’re what hold everything together when life inevitably gets messy. You asked what feeds my soul — I think the answer is exactly what we’re doing right now. Real conversation. Depth. Emotional intimacy. The feeling of being seen, and of seeing someone else in return. It’s rare, and it means more than I can say that you’re opening yourself up to me this way. I feel it, and I’m grateful for it. Also, I love that you make soup — that tells me a lot about your spirit. Warm, generous, nourishing. Let’s keep this going. There’s so much more I want to know about you. With warmth and admiration, Derrick Apparently what happened is this scammer mistakenly copied and pasted his response and mistakenly neglected to insert my name. What really surprised me was that he was getting coaching from someone else (as evident in the first two lines), that someone else actually wrote the response, not the scammer, which again indicates a more sophisticated scamming effort. i confronted him, and he continued to lie and tried to back peddle... typical of scammers, so i just stopped. What i am really curious about though is knowing their intent? The obvious would be money, but we had some deep exchange that he actually responded to, in more than a cursory way, in the course of our exchange. In a way, it felt like i was an unknowing participant in a study.

i think you add some good points to the mix... but also i think even intelligent people are vulnerable to emotional manipulation, and both sides seem more than happy to engage in manipulation. Either way we slice it, voting involves a degree of trust. If i am being honest, i have to admit i do not understand the complexities of international trade. Meanwhile, i do not have the trust that Trump understands or has our best interest at heart. His approach seems vindictive vs well thought out with understanding. He just seems a bully to me, an approach he takes to all of his relationships. "America first" to me is just an extension of trumps me first attitude. i've always been health conscious, read stuff, tried to be informed. Then, 13 years ago, i went back to school and got a BSN. i did not realize what i didn't know until i became more educated. It was an awakening. Now as a critical care nurse, i continuously encounter people who push back against doctors, nurses, pharmacists, physical therapists, ________, because of something they read on the internet or saw on youtube. Many of these are intelligent, educated people, but they do not have a scientific or medical education, so they do not realize how much knowledge and background it takes to reach a diagnosis. Even if the information is from a good source, it doesn't mean that the info is being applied correctly. Again, trust factors in. i wish for leaders and politicians who can express their own flaws and weaknesses... because we all have them. i think the reason government should only make collective policy decisions is because no on person knows enough. That trump wants to be the final say in everything makes me cringe at the insecurity of an ego that has to always be right and in charge. No one has that capacity.

Looking at word meaning evolution is an interesting topic to me too. Words can connect or divide us since they are a main method of communication. i think online interaction has taken communication so many different places, very suddenly in an evolutionary sense? Just this discussion, between guys from all over the world with often vastly different cultural backgrounds, demonstrates how differently we can all see the same word, how it makes us feel and think. To me, it's a good flag to help us recognize and be conscious of the ever present influence of ethnocentricity. And, hopefully can help us step back and consider another perspective vs indulging in the superior, isolating attitudes and notions that often come with ego/ethnocentricity. I.e., actually communicate and connect.

Before becoming a critical care nurse, i built and ran a pretty successful business that involved a great deal of marketing. On the side, i restored and flipped houses. While Trump may be in the real estate business, to me he is comparable to those who would market the Brooklyn bridge. I.e., He repeatedly makes outrageous claims and doesn't deliver.

i feel we are on the same page in the same book on this? That i only failed to clearly state my thoughts and perspective in what i wrote. Where i try to simplify my qualification for "fundamentalist/fundamentism" approach to anything, is the distinction i make between "belief" and "knowledge." To me, belief has elements of faith, but also has a dose of self doubt. Not talking wishy, washy non principled self doubt, but the openness and understanding that "we know and see in part." i actually endeavor to follow what i see as principles of love as a guiding beacon, or anchor, in my life. Some would be surprised that i take that from the bible from 1 Corinthians 13 (aka in some circles as: "the love chapter"). Perhaps this makes me an example of someone who can take something sincerely and seriously from the bible in a non-fundamentalist way. my read is, the author sets up the rationale for "love" prior to defining love (a bit). It's something i was never taught in church, but a place i arrived at after years of trying to understand love and how to pull it off? The (or maybe better "a") "rationale" for love is that "we see through a glass darkly.... we know and see in part." i love the King James translation of that because "glass" in KJ's time was dark and distorted, wavy stuff. It was used both as a mirror and a window, so my read is: when we look in a mirror and self reflect, we see and know our self in part. When we look at another , we know and see in part. To me, it's the foundational understanding that "we know and see in part" that maintains the humility of self doubt. For instance, to me, you are not being "fundamentalist" because you wrote this exhibiting the ability to question your self and the humility to be open about it. To me, a person can believe something whole heartedly and adhere to that belief for life, and not be fundamentalist... for me to say otherwise, i think, would be me indulging in 'fundamentalist approach." It's not confidence or sincerity of belief that i think is divisive, but the absolutist attitude that "I am right and you are wrong" vs I believe I am right and this is why I believe it, and I believe you are wrong and this why I believe that, but I also understand that i know and see in part, and could be wrong, but this is what i believe right now and why.

When i read your topic title originally, i thought it was too general and simplistic. There are numerous world wide examples of long term heads of state being in power, who do not represent the attitudes or wishes of all the people, or even the majority of, those who live in the country where they wield power. i work in a fairly rural teaching hospital in a college town in Oregon. The population is about 70k, but half of that is college students. i'm a critical care nurse and my guess is a good half of the people i work with voted for Trump, the other half against, yet i'd trust every one of them with my life. Now for the nuance. i'm sorta out as gay at the hospital where i work, but don't wear a rainbow flag. i've had more than a few women i work with express interest, only to have to inform them that i'm gay (i guess it doesn't show?). i've told several people i work with that i'm gay, just came up for one reason or another over a 10 year work history, but i know that there are those i work with who think gay is a disease to be healed. i would not love having one of those people caring for me, but i would still trust them to care for me in a conflicted way for them. i think there are "warm and wonderful people" in every country, that just as we cannot judge a book by its cover, we cannot completely understand or judge a countries people by its 'representatives'. i do not think that anyone anywhere in the world is completely represented by their government. i doubt that even half of those who voted for trump support him 100%. While i voted for Harris, the democrat party is far from representing me 100%. i think that is true about most people in most countries.

Would you please cite your sources of "published outcomes," and explain how and why you deem them reliable? i'd like to know who is paying these "paid protestors" and what constitutes "many?" i'm guessing it wasn't Elon Musk handing out million dollar checks in this case lol. p.s., none of this is intended as snark, i really do want to know this information.

Thank you too @PozBearWI. i think you are a wonderful part of the BZ community and i am grateful for you being here and contributing. i'm actually still in Mexico, staying at a gay resort. Lots of partying going on, but i'm not a party sort, more of a wanna sit around and discuss type... and of course, have sex. 🙂 Been walking around, a lot, feasting on street food (it's incredible). i love the Mexican culture and wonder why anyone would leave here to go to the US. i know, there are reasons, many economic, but i'm tempted to move to Mexico. i find it encouraging that Mexico elected Claudia Sheinbaum, a woman and a Jewish person. i find the vibe here to be progressive and accepting. i'm also struck by the general humility i encounter in this culture. To me, it is a strength and i believe the US benefits from immigration of Mexican people into our culture in so many ways... i think it should be encouraged, not discouraged. i appreciate and agree with your assessment of trump as a "classic schoolyard bully." He doesn't lead, he coerces and uses fear and intimidation. It was part of what i was trying to convey in another thread where i suggested some respond to trump as a 'dom.' Some perceive/equate bullying with "dom" (i think it's opposite of Dom). i think there are a lot of bullies in power in the world right now, i listed a few in my other post, and i think trump is part of the group. i think Germany is a good example of a society that healed and recovered from a bully dictator, i hope our country can do the same.