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A quick reminder: this is the porn forum, so discussions here should be about devil's dicks in porn. There are other discussions about these in personal use elsewhere in the Breeding Zone.

At first my thought was "I don't see how that can possibly be legal" but then I realized it's Florida. Nonetheless, I think any medical licensing board would look askance at a medical doctor collecting fees for 27 years BEFORE performing a procedure, especially if that money is not being set aside in a secure account and not being squandered by the doctor on current expenses. There's a real ethical problem with collecting fees from a patient for a procedure that may or may not be performed decades in the future.

There are discussions in the Backroom area about Telegram and other services. The fundamental problem that keeps coming up, though, is that even Telegram has terms of service, and there are things likely to be discussed in a BZ discussion that would likely violate those terms, and the group would likely be canceled in short order (with the *possible* side effect of its promoters getting banned). I'm not saying no one should create a private group on Telegram for this purpose - just reminding that if it's not very closely monitored by whoever sets it up, it could very quickly get shut down.

I did not say you are the only one. I said you can't speak for anyone but yourself, especially not in the broad, sweeping way you seemed to speak for everyone when you said "we" seek something in particular. But even if, as you say, the "huge majority" of guys you read about are after men who look like men: 1. Many trans men DO look like men - probably as much, or more so, as you do. 2. Any time you base an opinion on things "you read about", you are dealing with a self-selected group of opinions. I doubt seriously you would read much that's written by trans men or their fans, because it's not of interest to you. And that's fine - it certainly doesn't have to be. But you're navel-gazing, and then imagining that the world around your navel constitutes how everyone else feels.

At this point, as a new member, you don't have the privileges of messaging another member at all - photos or not. Private messages are something you earn after a certain amount [not publicly disclosed] of public posting in the forums here.

Both, although the stigma against being gay is vastly decreased, compared with a distinct but more moderated stigma about HIV. To this day it's not uncommon to find profiles on gay dating/hookup sites that say "disease free, u b too". There's really no way to spin that as "undetectable is ok". You don't, of course, which is one reason among many that such an attitude is silly. Someone who cops to being poz and undetectable is (in my opinion) most likely telling the truth - he's already getting the "strike" of being poz, so why would he lie about being infectious? Meanwhile, there are a lot of men - a LOT of men - who assume they're negative because they had a negative test five or eight or ten years ago and have never checked again. Those are the ones who are more likely to be positive, not know it, and to be infectious.

Many of them are settled down and seldom, if ever, go out cruising. That's not to say they're all monogamously coupled, of course, but a surprising number of them don't have much need to go out cruising. And as we age, quite a few of us don't look at staying up at a cruise bar until midnight to be a particularly fun way to spend an evening. Pretty boys who can sleep until their first class in college starts at 10:30 AM can be out a lot later than men with careers whose offices open at 8:30 AM. There's also the issue of "the apps" - many men who don't want the bother of paying vastly inflated prices for drinks while listening to crappy music over a sound system last updated in 1997 are content to stay in and arrange hookups online.

I'll add that quite a few bars "used to" have "dark rooms" in the back. There's a scene in Torch Song Trilogy where Harvey Fierstein's character goes into one after getting drinks at the bar itself. Many such bars are now gone, but a few live on here and there where they typically operate with an unspoken truce with law enforcement.

The guy you're asking - the responder you quoted - was last online on this site not long after he posted that reply, back in 2011, or more than 12 years ago. I don't think he's likely to see your question. So I'll take a stab at it. I came out (or started the process of coming out, at any rate) in the late 1970's, at a time when yes, hostility and horror were very common responses to that news, especially here in the southern United States. Certainly those who came out as poz (or who were outed as poz) in the early years of the HIV/AIDS epidemic faced both of those reactions, often from family and friends. By the time I was diagnosed HIV-positive, in 2015, much (though not all) of that stigma had abated. There are still guys who are horrified at the thought of sex with a positive man, even if he's undetectable and can't pass on the virus - usually because they don't understand what "undetectable" means for risk or they're science-deniers who think the risk is unacceptable. And I don't generally tell people who "don't need to know" about my HIV status, so I don't get a lot of reactions/responses from people other than acceptance/rejection over sex.

That's the gist of it, I'm pretty certain.

You're not in a position to speak for others, so please change the "we are interested" to "I am interested".

Marcus is the founder of Home Depot, and at the time of his retirement (in 2002) from the company held an estimated 60 million shares of the company, but analysts believe he has since sold essentially all of his shares. Meaning: while Marcus is vile in many ways, money spent at Home Depot no longer enriches him in any way. There may be other reasons not to shop there or other big box stores, because of their impact on local retailers, but that's not one of them.

Any time you're in a public setting like a sauna or bathhouse, the chances of a given fucking resulting in being bred are significantly lowered, because a lot of guys are simply going to save their loads for later in the evening. If a guy shows up at 9 PM expecting to fuck around until midnight, he's not going to want to cum at 9:25 because he may well not be able to get going again before it's close to departure time. If number of loads matters more than number of fuckings, you're much better off seeking one-on-one situations, where the top is unlikely to be "saving" his load for later. At the sauna, you almost certainly could chart the participants on a given night in a bell curve - few people very early on, and few people there very late at night/early morning, but a surge of men showing up and later a flurry of men "finishing up" and leaving. Knowing how that curve tends to work, time-wise, is your best bet, because you can make sure you're available and ready as the first wave of men who want to get off and go home starts doing just that. Even so, it's quite possible you'll only get a few guys to do that on any given night. If any, given that you're probably up against a lot of competition.

I think (from the outside) that there are still headwinds to battle here. You and I (and other educated people) find what DeSantis did to the state educational system a travesty, but the vast majority of Republicans approve - not necessarily that they've thought about it, but it's "anti-woke" and causing pain for the people they hate, so naturally they approve. Insurance is another big issue - but are they going to blame the Republicans, or will the Republicans be able to convince them - as is often the case elsewhere - that the "real" problem is runaway lawsuits from trial lawyers (read: Democrats)? And yeah, prices aren't really out of control, but the GOP will convince a lot of their base that prices are astronomical and they'd be a lot cheaper if only we could deregulate all the food processing industry and the like. In other words, a lot of issues that (to the educated eye) should clearly favor Democrats can be spun in such a way that their value in campaigning is neutralized or even becomes a liability. Abortion rights are much harder to spin that way, because the Republicans are very, very publicly wedded to restriction of those rights, and almost always to a level well beyond where moderate Republican women are willing to go. A ban on third-trimester abortions, for instance, might well get majority approval in the state, but the GOP is always going to insist on a 6-week or 10-week cutoff, if it's allowed at all (there are places, like Louisiana, where it's essentially functionally banned entirely, and that's a popular position here). So yeah, this is one issue - maybe the key one - that can peel off Republican voters, if the GOP continues to shoot itself in the foot.

I think you're on the right track, with the caveat that it depends on what kind of sexcation you're looking for. Fort Lauderdale has what I would politely call a large mature population - it's a retirement destination, so there are a lot of guys who are in their late 50's, 60's, and 70's. That's not to say there aren't younger men, too - there are - but the usual age distribution tables in FTL are not like those in, say, Orlando, which skews much younger (lots and lots of 20's and early 30's guys working the tourism industry, including the theme parks). Other members who live there can give more specifics, obviously. @hntnhole, your feedback would probably be valuable. The caveat I mention: there are places all over where one MIGHT - and I stress MIGHT - luck out for a huge run of anonymous sex. Getting a room near a city in a reasonably cheap motel that caters to truckers, for instance, might land you both transient types as well as the usual run of married guys looking to sneak out for a fuck. But if you want to actually know who's fucking you - to have met at a bar, or online, and have some idea about the guy - you're probably better off in Ft. Lauderdale. Miami, as you note, might be nice for a side trip but you'll be dealing with a different crowd there.

One thing he might consider is getting Plan B from a pharmacy before the trip, and taking it.

Right, but there's also a difference between the two: one you take to avoid infection with a virus that can kill you and even if it doesn't, it will beat the crap out of your system unless you vigilantly adhere to your treatment. The other is that treatment, trying to keep you alive.

I'm unable to find any medical literature (in a quick, not a thorough, search), but this is probably a question you need to ask your physician before you even begin Rituximab. Don't wait for him to bring it up - ask, and if he doesn't know, tell him you need to find out. It's his job to know what he's treating you with and what it can and can't be taken with. Assuming there are no contraindications for taking them together, I would strongly recommend getting on PrEP (if you're not already) and staying on it while being treated for an auto immune disease. If your body's immune system is already under attack from within by something like GPA vasculitis, I guarantee you that you don't want to heap HIV treatment on top of that along with HIV hammering your system non-stop trying to break through the treatment.

Not just "everywhere [he] go[es]" but most likely this is his admission that he's had an account here, got banned, and is back with a new name. What's especially funny is how worked up some twit from 4,000 miles away gets over an elected official in another country that I'm guessing he's never visited. Right-wing trolls gotta troll, no matter where they are.

From a crowd-reception standpoint, I tend to take the position of "If they don't like it, fuck them", so bear that in mind. From a medical perspective, keep in mind that a bathhouse is far from a sterile environment. It's far from a clean environment, for that matter. If your injury involves any open wound (ie surgical sutures, a cut that left things exposed, etc.) you might consider waiting a bit; even with a boot on, you might find your bandages getting something pretty nasty on them and possibly set back your recovery. And if you mean from the perspective of the bathhouse, you could always contact them during normal business hours, when a manager type person is likely to be around, and ask if he thinks it presents any problems.

And I will add: Even if we recognize (as we must) that much of the lifting here was done by key administration officials, like the Secretary of State, that doesn't negate Biden's role in any way. For starters, knowing how The Former Guy got fed up with his own officials that he kept swapping them out for more and more MAGA-esque replacements, we can be sure that if there's ever a second Trump regime, there won't be any thoughtful, reasonable conservatives in his administration quietly distracting him and blocking the most horrible impulses that people like Stephen Miller and Hobo Bannon push on him - he'll have patsy yes-men who will indulge his every whim. As bad as things are in Israel and Gaza right now, Trump would be pouring gasoline on the fire. And second: having qualified, expert help in your administration is exactly how the system is supposed to work, with the direction set from the top and implementation entrusted, for the most part, to the Cabinet and their deputies. Biden has chosen well for his leadership team and as bad as things are in parts of the world (and indeed, in parts of this country) I sleep better knowing the buck stops with him and not the AllAboutMe guy.

Bluesky is a pseudo-clone* of the basics of Twitter, developed in part by former Twitter people. It doesn't have all the bells and whistles that Twitter does, but it also doesn't have a nutty nazi-and-apartheid-apologizing, transphobic, insecure, antisemitic billionaire running it and making decisions on a whim, either. The user base is a fraction of the size of Twitter's, but it's growing. Right now, there are two main ways to join: You can submit a waitlist request, from which they regularly pull batches of applicants and make them members; or an existing BlueSky member may have an "invite code" s/he can give you that lets you bypass the line, so to speak. (I assume the reason for that is new members who already know existing members will more quickly form networks of followers and people they follow, so as to generate discussion (which, in turn, creates a reason for companies to want to advertise). I've seen a fair number of guys who have Twitter accounts with lots of gay male content also begin posting (or switch to posting) on BlueSky, so there's no issue around posting nudity. One thing that looks promising: BlueSky is one of the key partners in an effort to establish a new standard for interoperability for social media. Right now, if you want to send a message to someone and all you have is his Twitter address, you have to either be on Twitter or sign up for Twitter to do that. Ditto for Instagram, or whatever. The idea for social media interoperability is for the standards to work more like email: you don't have to have the same program or service; all you need is the person's social media address (which might be MyName@bluesky.social or OtherPerson@otherservice.social or SomeoneElse@yetanotherplace.social). Just like right now, to offer email service to people, you basically have to support some established standards and protocols like SMTP - so that a gmail user can contact someone who still uses AOL mail and they can both write to people at corporate addresses. That doesn't mean that WITHIN a given provider, you can't enhance the standards or offer additional features that are "filtered out" when email goes off to another service; it just means anyone can get the message, and any attachments. That's how this would be for social media, as long as two social media apps (say, BlueSky and Twitter) supported the new standard, my BlueSky account could be followed by someone on Twitter and vice versa, without having to have an account on each service. Mind you, this is only in the early stages and no such standards have been worked out among the key players, but they're in development. *I say pseudo-clone because Bluesky doesn't yet support a lot of things Twitter has long done, like posting video clips or direct messages (DMs).

Can't say that I have, if only because I've never had a ton of sex crammed into a short period. But regardless: if you aren't feeling it, don't feel like you need to do it. Your body may well be trying to tell you something, or it might be part of your brain telling you that you need a break for mental health reasons.

There are always exceptions to every rule, of course, but vision loss-level neurosyphilis is frequently the result of an untreated long-ago infection, not a recent one. Theoretically, if you were infected in April, that June panel should have picked it up (it's certainly enough time for the infection to be detectable). Luckily, treatments have improved in recent years, though as you note, you may not have a full recovery. Hopefully it will be complete enough to let you live a relatively standard life.

That's actually a very good thing - not 100% of the time, obviously, because there are times when you're going to need to get things out, and HE will need to listen - but active listening is a good skill to practice. That does sound like something that needs to be worked on - but I think the fact you're aware means you're probably smart enough to deal with that, and if it's not solvable, to end things amicably (or decide to accept what it is for what it is). The only thing I'd suggest you consider is this: might you be seeking random loads because you know if he finds out, he'll lump that in with "leaving him for someone else"? In other words, are you looking to trigger him to accuse you of cheating to find someone else, and engineer a breakup, so you can leave while telling yourself "I'm innocent, I didn't try to find someone else, it was just sex"? Not saying this is the case - I'm just always curious when someone who's in a relationship with issues would be playing with gasoline close to a fire.