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I have a question that I cannot ask to any regular health specialists. Covid-19 is contagious with nasal and mouth fluids getting into someone else's nose or mouth. But what about having sex using a gloryhole?

I have a private gloryhole that I've used a lot, especially in the past. I used to be the only private gloryhole available in the area so I had a lot of traffic. I'm sure sucking a cock would not be recommended because the infection goes directly where it wants to go. But what about if I have a guy come in and only fuck me through the GH? Would I expose myself to Covid-19? Only my hole would be in contact and the GH serves as a shield against droplets.

This is not a question I can ask to an expert on TV.

NOTE: I'm only defending anonymous stealthing, when the hook-up is between a hard cock wanting some pleasure and a hungry hole. It could be a Grindr hook-up or at a bathhouse, Adult bookstore, or any other anonymous setting.

Anonymous stealthing is OK because I consider it another fetish that many guys like to enjoy, both guys looking to top or bottom. Many years ago, when it was very rare to see bareback sex I hooked-up with a guy who wanted to fuck me. He started fucking me with a condom, when something happened and I didn't realize he had taken the condom off, but his cock felt so nice in my hole. It felt different when he shot his load and when he pulled out he grabbed the condom because he didn't want me to see it, whispered in my ear "I left you a present" and left. I touched my hole and felt the cum dripping out which made me very horny. This anonymous stealthing event was such a hot fuck that I jerked-off thinking about it many times. I never wore a condom again and began taking all kinds of loads. Thank God for anonymous stealthing!

I don't see anything wrong with a BB bottom at the bathhouse getting stealth by a poz guy who lied when the bottom asked "Are you clean?".  The same bottom could have had his hole bred by a guy who doesn't know he's poz so he doesn't know he's lying. Basically the same thing.

On 3/15/2020 at 6:40 AM, GermFactory said:

We have a huge power. With power comes responsibility. Remember that word. Responsibility.

Each of us takes responsibility and if someone doesn't want to be poz avoid quick anonymous sex and instead meet a guy first and get to know him first. Boring, I know, that's reality.

22 hours ago, bbzh said:

I just saw a tweet that Berghain and the Laboratory have been closed until April 20th (at least) because of the coronavirus outbreak. 

When these places close means the outbreak is serious.

1 hour ago, str8cumhole said:

...when the top is getting close is my ass muscles, I try to squeeze every last drop out.

There are many guys who don't like too much friction in their cock once they start shooting and it's uncomfortable  for some. That's why when I'm bottoming bareback as soon as I notice the guy started shooting I open up my hole and let him go deeper if he needs more friction. Otherwise, applying too much pressure on the guy's cock may force him to pull out.

I'm sure that the concept of "sexual addiction" comes from women or men who've only had sex with girlfriend/wife.

Older guys will get rejected because many young guys don't like older guys. I didn't when I was young and it was annoying when older guys insisted, so I completely understand and I never chase a young guy unless he initiates. But there are really hot guys who still get rejected for many reasons, like for instance, if they remind you of a guy you know and it's then a turn-off.

Where and when are you having the event? Is it a party on a website?

Earlier in this thread I mentioned that the condom is more of an obstruction for the guy fucking because for him the pleasure comes from the friction of his cock against the walls of the hole. The condom ruins all that for the guy topping. I find that for the guy bottoming the thrill of raw sex is more of a mental one. What's exciting about getting bred is not a physical sensation but a mental one. The rubbing of the condom against my hole was something that bothered me too much and in terms of the fucking itself, the feeling of a free cock going in and out is so much better physically, not a mental one. Even more so for the guy topping. But during the breeding itself the condom reduces more the pleasure of the guy cumming than the guy bottoming. As I said before, one of the reasons I enjoy bottoming bareback is because I know that the guy about to cum and while shoots inside my hole is experiencing  an emotional/physical excitement and my hole is providing the pleasure and will be the place to dump their load. Very exciting for most guys who like getting bred, but it's all in our heads.

On 5/2/2015 at 9:15 AM, CashSpreadem said:

.... but how did you get over the rejections?

Rejection is something I realized when I was a hot guy in my 20's. It was easy for me to hook up but there was always guys who would not want to have sex with me. I'm glad I knew early because as you get older rejection gets worse.

I've never been on a Gay Cruise. I imagine that there is a lot traffic of horny guys between rooms. I was wondering what would happen if Corona Virus appeared in a gay cruise. Could they all stay in their cabins?

4 hours ago, gangbanger said:

Can someone please explain the mindset of NO LOAD REFUSED in gang bang scene?

Because it's about the load

On 2/1/2020 at 7:55 AM, Spunkinmyarse said:

When a top enters the last stage of his rut and embarks on the final leg of his journey towards orgasm, I try to stay as still as possible for him. 

It makes a lot of sense for the bottom to stay still. Depending on the size of the cock and the sensitivity of the guy's cock, while staying still I may squeeze and relax my hole, depending on the feedback. But once the top has gone over and is ready to start shooting, without moving I make sure to open up my hole to reduce the friction on the top's pulsating cock . If the top feels he needs more friction he can just go deeper into my hungry hole that way the seed goes deep too. 

The few times I've fucked a hole one of the things I really dislike is a bottom who moves too much or squeezes to tight.

On 2/20/2020 at 8:19 PM, Barebackpiggy said:

I have had experiences in the past where I've had to stop as it was too painful.

I try to stay away from huge cocks especially at the bathhouse because I don't want one fuck to ruin my hole for the night.

I enjoy the feeling of a cock in my hole but I like to have control over the friction by squeezing and opening up my hole as I get fucked. If the cock is too thick I'm forced to open up and I no longer have control because squeezing is no longer a possibility. Yes, a thick cock in my hole is an different experience but the risk keeps me away.

When it comes to size of cocks apart form the width, is the length. Getting fucked by a long thin cock is sometimes a bit uncomfortable when the cock hits the back wall. It's weird. I really don't mind the size of a cock as long as it's not too large, best under 8 inches and not too thick. I sort of enjoy getting fucked by a small cock, as long it it's hard and will eventually spew some cum. When I get fucked by a guy with a small cock, I just squeeze my hole a bit more. The exception to the rule are gloryholes where it becomes difficult to suck a small cock.

In the 70's fucking meant fucking bare and condoms were for preventing pregnancy simply because condoms are a big obstruction in the fucking for both, the one fucking and for the one getting fucked. One of the reasons I like to bottom bareback is because I know how much more enjoyably fucking bareback is for the guy topping, especially when the guy is shooting and his cock is free inside my hole. As a bottom I cannot stand the feeling of the condom rubbing against my hole so I only get fucked bareback for that.

On 12/16/2012 at 10:04 AM, NLbear said:

Used to be vers in the past, but found out I just cum too quickly when I top,

Shooting too quickly seems to be the main reason why many guys stay away from topping. I know that if I could maintain a hard-rock cock for a long time and if I was able to pound holes for a long time without cumming, I would be a top or at least versatile. I envy guys who can fuck for 10 15 minutes especially those who fully enjoy the fucking itself.

13 hours ago, Sunovabesh said:

But, the thing is, I just kinda feel like older men are just kinda wanting younger guys as a means of a trophy, more so than genuinely want them.

I liked what you wrote but this sentence caught my attention because, in my view, it summarizes the ideas you express.

Throughout my life I've needed men (1) for sex and (2) for platonic intimacy. Keeping those needs separately has been the strategy that has worked for me.

I will start with my need for platonic intimacy. I found this concept somewhere that I really liked and that means to feel emotional intimacy without needing to touch or have sex. A nice conversation may give me this feeling, but what I've realized is that my need for platonic intimacy works much, much better with young men than with anyone else.

I don't think of myself as gay because many of the things that define gayness in men are perfectly normal behavior in women, such as platonic intimacy or enjoying the view of other beautiful women and being able to comment on them.  If I'm in a bus, especially in a route that connects with a college or university, I enjoy looking at the young men and wonder why these beautiful men would loose the sex-appeal as they grow older. No matter how gorgeous I find them, I don't want to have sex with any of these young men. Just enjoying the view.

The range of age that I like best for, call it erotic experience, is in the 20's or 30's, It doesn't mean that a 45 yr-old guy can occasionally catch my eye or an 18 yr-old. If I see a nice bulge I may wonder what their tool and ball look like. But again, the idea of fucking or sucking is not part of this particular experience. Why should I feel gay to have these experiences when women are not labelled lesbians for doing the same?

My need for sex with other men cannot be explained with "I'm gay" either. For instance I prefer to have sex with men because I like the STYLE men like having sex, unrestrained, few limits. No need for flowers or dinner invitations because most of the other men I'm hooking up with, just like me, are looking for anon NSA action. I'm sure that many good male baseball players would accept an invitation to participate in an afternoon for charity softball mixed game, with both men and women. But nothing beats the high they feel when they confront another all-male team of their same level, with the same aggressiveness, very challenging. But that doesn't make them gay.

For me the best sex is always of the anonymous kind so I prefer bathhouses and other sex-oriented venues. When I'm in the mood for raunchy sex I don't care about age or race or looks. At a bathhouse, like many guys here, I mostly bottom and I don't care if the cock is too small or the guy shoots too quickly or he's not "my type". I've never chased younger guys at bathhouses but I rather like it when a sexy young guy chooses me for anon sex. There was one bathhouse that I used to go when I was in my 40's where there was was attendant who during my time there would come to my room and quickly fuck me and breed me, trying not to me seen. He was in his early 20's, slim body but a very nice cock. But at the same time I wouldn't mind if the attendant is older, because when it comes to sex age is not part of it very much. It may be part of a sex fantasy.

Mixing platonic intimacy and sex gets complicated so I always keep them separate. It's possible to combine them but keep in mind that in terms of a relationships getting along living together and sharing spaces is vital as getting along sexually. I don't think that anybody can fulfill ALL my sexual kinks and fetishes, which is one of the reasons monogamy doesn't make much sense. 

16 hours ago, Sunovabesh said:

Here's my dilemma, and this goes into the poll: Do Older Men really want younger guys?

I hope that what I wrote answers some of your questions. Men really want younger guys? In terms of non-sexual activities and spending time together I would say yes. Older men love to relate to young men in all kinds of ways including sports.

In terms of sex I think that not all older men are fixated on young men and that some older men in fact even avoid sex with younger guys. But in terms of anonymous sex where a young 25 goes to a bathhouse he would be hounded by most of the other patrons, and in this case I would say that a high percentage of older men would prefer sex with younger men. Sometimes even older guys who mostly bottom are interested in fucking and breeding a young hole. Plus a young guy offers a body with a skin that is nice to the touch. So in terms of sex yes, there are also men who would enjoy younger men.

Young guys who prefer older men, I've met many of them, prefer them for different reasons, sexually and in terms of intimacy. One young guy once told me that he liked having sex with older guys because he would explore sexually things he would not with guys his age. Some young guys are fascinated by the sexual experience of the older guy.

Another reason young guys like older guys is the attention they get from the older guys, dinner invitations, a trip together, etc.

17 hours ago, Sunovabesh said:

Do Older Men really want younger guys?

I think that yes, many older men really want younger guys and that many of these relationships can be beautiful experiences. But first decide on what you are looking for.

I've found that there are a lot of guys who have trouble letting go in a bathhouse scenario and need hard drugs to let go. For me anonymous sex is in itself very exciting and don't see the need to affect the experience with hard drugs. I can understand guys who use poppers and/or joints. I myself take a few puffs but I never loose control and I feel I'm there enjoying the cruising and sex. I would hate to not remember what happened the night before at the bathhouse. I usually jerk-off thinking about it.

On 2/17/2020 at 11:05 AM, CumDump15 said:

My question is do you think there are times in that scenario the top says “yes” but really didn’t cum?  Is he saying yes just so he wants me to feel he satisfied me? 

I'm sure it happens but it's so difficult to know the truth because men react so different while breeding a hole and after they finish breed it. Some are silent while they're breeding a hole while other are very verbal. Right after finish breeding some may pull out and leave without saying a word while others continue fucking for a long time.

At the bathhouse whenever I've had a doubt that maybe a guy did not shoot inside my hole, maybe a small load or whatever the reason, if I see the guy is still cruising around looking for a hole, then I know he didn't cum. If I see the guy taking a shower and then leaving the bathhouse I probably got his load.

a couple of weeks ago I was on the sling at the Blackout event in my local bathhouse and a guy approached me, fucked me it looked like he had shot his load, he pulled out and left. I reached over to my hole and it was flooded with dripping cum so I knew it was true.

20 hours ago, CumDump15 said:

If I had a guarantee that I would get the load, I’d love a long session taking raw big dick.  But there are no guarantees, so the longer he fucks me, my mind gets preoccupied with the load.   I use all my skills to milk it out of him, but if he is purposely edging, that usually won’t get him to cum.  

What most cumdumps forget is that guys at the bathhouse try to "save" their load the same way cumdumps avoid shooting their load because once they shoot, they're done.

On the other hand, what most guys forget is that once you shoot it's just a matter of waiting for 20 minutes or so and you are horny as ever. So, no big deal if you shoot your load. On the contrary, guys who enjoy fucking after shooting once and waiting a bit their second fuck is even better, they last long and the orgasm is amazing.

On 2/3/2020 at 10:29 AM, Lockedsub said:

So I wonder aren't these ass-hungry bottoms just hidden vers-bottoms or verses? No offence though. 

I don't like using labels and as an example of why, here is an example. There are many guys who go to bathhouses to "collect loads" but who before taking a break from bottoming or before going home, some of these same guys find a hole and breed it. If on their Barebackrt profiles these guys said "versatile-bottom" or "versatile" they would be approached by guys looking to get fucked and bred. But these guys only fuck and breed holes in a bathhouse/group environment where failure to get hard is not a problem and where there is lots of hot action around to get them horny.

13 hours ago, Pozguyinchi said:

By the time I was 14 or 15 I was already an insatiable bottom. My sex was only with my dad at that point. When I had my first relationship I was asked to top once and couldn’t get hard. It was sort of embarrassing but it also didn’t feel right in my core. 

But have you tried fucking in a bathhouse scenario once you are maybe loaded and very horny? I can understand that on a "date" being a bottom can be a problem if the other guy wants to get fucked. But a bathhouse scenario is different where no one will judge you because you can't get hard.

7 hours ago, Ozpig said:

The thought of topping has never entered my head

I would accept this from a woman because she doesn't have the equipment to top. But I find it hard to believe that a man who enjoys getting fucked has never wondered how fucking a hole may feel. Unless there's a problem with the equipment or there is a reason for not wanting to fuck.

I have a friend who describes himself as a bottom and likes young guy in early 20's. About 5 years ago he started a relationship with a 22 year old "top", according to him, and my friend was very happy. Things were OK for about a year but then my friend started to complain to me that this 22 yr-old was now wanting to bottoming, and he was furious and felt cheated.

My position is that instead of focusing on the predefined roles like bottom, top, versatile and combinations of those, I rather focus on what I enjoy doing. There are guys who at the bathhouse like getting fucked and take loads for hours. But some, with loads in their hole, before leaving the bathhouse go to the gloryhole area and fuck the and breed the first hole that becomes available, take a shower and go home. Guys who like labels may call him a "bottom-versatile" but that would be deceiving because he only likes fucking and breeding holes in a dark room or gloryhole area.

Cum that has been in my ass more than 8 hours gives out a particular aroma when pushed out. 20-25 years ago when bareback bottoms were not easy to find, I was at the Sauna Plateau in Montreal for the night and it was the first sauna in Montreal with cabins and gloryholes. It was so hot, but barebacking was not the norm. I had already cleaned out and before leaving at stopped at the dark area and gloryholes. Some guy approached, played with my hole, started to fuck me, but all of a sudden he pulled out and took off. I had to leave, so I went to get dressed and went home. The next late morning I get up to go to the bathroom, I fart out a slimy stuff and smelly. Last night guy had bred me and I never noticed it.

10 hours ago, Scottyrim said:

So I am a bottom and a slut. A cumdump.  But I also love ass. The times I have topped I have loved, but I lack confidence.  In a Bathhouse I can getting fucked over and over but when I try to top I panic. I feel I will disappoint. I feel I am going to miss the hole or lose my erection , but I want to top as well.

Anyone with a cock that can get hard can top, including bottoms. Some bottoms may not agree because they think that being a bottom is in their DNA. Well, it's not. Self-defined bottoms just like to get fucked over topping.

10 hours ago, Scottyrim said:

Anyone have any advice ? 

A bathhouse is a good place for a bottom to try topping because there are all kinds of situations that can help relax and not worry about cock size, keeping the erection or shooting too quickly. Once you are horny enough and wanna top, find a willing hole already loaded or a guy getting fucked in public and join in.

11 hours ago, Scottyrim said:

In a Bathhouse I can getting fucked over and over but when I try to top I panic. I feel I will disappoint. I feel I am going to miss the hole or lose my erection , but I want to top as well.

Panic or disappoint who? Never worry about cumming to quickly or the size of your cock because most bottoms are happy to just get their hole creamed.

I went to a Cumunion party in Montreal. It was on a Thursday night. I really couldn’t tell what the difference was from a regular Thursday night at Gi-Joe. I much prefer the Lights Off or Blackout events at the saunas because the atmosphere is different and I find that in general darkness promotes raunchiness.

1 hour ago, viking8x6 said:

When I moved to San Francisco in spring of '94, I got a new doctor and discussed the issue with him - he said that as long as I wasn't bottoming bare, I pretty much didn't have to worry about HIV.

I think it's true that it's very unlikely that a guy who only tops can get infected with HIV. The problem is that it's very difficult for Health Departments all over the place to be honest about this fact because every time someone fucks bareback someone is getting fucked bareback, a big dilemma for HIV HIV prevention! Their approach is to play down the differences in the risk of transmission.