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We have regular feet/sock/sneaker parties in London once a month - check out http://www.feetonfriday.com

There's one tonight, actually. 

Anyone else in Berlin for New Year/Silvester? 

I am around from 27th Dec to 2nd Jan. I'm planning on attending a few of the usual venues, like Lab, Stahlrohr, Connection, Ajpnia, New Action and Bull. Always interested in meeting others for fun - send me a message if you're around. 

Andy

Yup i've experimented making stuff. I have a decent 3-d printer and a CNC laser cutter. The problem with 3-d prints is the rough-ish finish and structural strength. I have been thinking of using a 3d-print as a pattern to make a mould which can then be used to make silicon rubber toys which I think would be better.

I'm looking for info in the silicon rubber they use in toy-making  - does anyone have any sources or info?

Occasionally use one to protect my toys if I’ve been using Crisco or Vaseline but that’s all. 

Heading out to SOP today should be there 3:30pm until about 9pm. Anyone else around?

9 hours ago, insatiablebot said:

Ummmm... Don't places like 'The Bull', Lab, etc have a coat check facility? Or some sort of a locker service where you could leave your belongings/clothes safely? 

Lab has a bag check facility but you can't access your stuff until you leave. They write a number on your arm and you have a drinks tab so you don't need money inside. It's a good system. I've never had a problem in there.

Bull has a coat/bag check and I think some customers who are in the know leave items behind the bar. I'd never take a wallet or phone in there - my friend was a bit daft in that regard. A couple of weeks ago I lost quite a decent bottle of poppers - it got passed around and 'vanished' in the darkroom. 

My mugging experience was on the street so nothing much I could do about that - although my phone and wallet were in the hotel safe. If he had succeeded he would have only gotten an unmarked hotel keycard and about 30 Euros.  

I have a bit of a thing for bottom guys who also give loads. I love it when I see a guy taking loads of cocks in a club, backroom or sauna and then when he's done get his load knowing what a slut he's been. Maybe it is living vicariously through someone else's loads, but for me it's a horny fantasy to think of him shooting a mix of all the loads he's taken. I think this stems from being taught in late 1980s sex-ed that 'if you have sex with someone you're effectively having sex with all their previous partners'. Since this is fairly specific it's a rare occurrence in reality, but when it happens it's awesome. Last time was a guy at The Boots in Antwerp. 

On 10/24/2018 at 2:58 PM, barecubtop said:

I live about 40 miles away from a bigger city (Indianapolis) here in the US. I guess my question to you with your app usage is what you do at home?  Do you just have enough regulars in your town to keep you satisfied sexually? Do you go into London on a regular enough basis that you just have your fun there?  I ask as there are really no other options to meet men in my town other than the apps.  We do not have any gay bars or clubs.  And despite the fact that I'm a graduate student at a major university, we don't have any kind of graduate student gay organizations or anything (it's a very conservative campus in general, unlike most universities).

Sorry for not responding sooner, barecubtop. To answer your question:

Where I live is very conservative too. There's a gay-friendly night once a month in a local bar (which begs the question are the unfriendly the rest of the time?) Guys here tend to be older couples moved here for retirement, or younger guys stuck at home with parents or living in shared accommodation as property and rents are so expensive here. Neighbours will say "Oh yes I listen to Graham Norton on Radio 2 sometimes" thinking this makes them gay-friendly, its all very friendly-folksy-churchy-community, but it has a dark and sinister side: I've come home to find "SCUM" painted on my door before now.   

The gay population is small enough at home that frankly its not worth bothering with for apps like grindr. Its aways the same guys, and in the 15 years i've lived here it doesn't change much. I know very few are into actually meeting for fun. I'm probably known locally for being into the fetish and BB scenes and that puts the fluffies off.  Besides my partner, I have three close friends that live locally. That's more of a friends and very occasional play kind of deal. Regular FB locally would make my partner uncomfortable, so thats not something I have pursued. I do keep an eye on more specialist apps like NKP and BBRT to see if anyone might be travelling into the area but thats quite rare. 

I'm in London once a week on average - 50% of the time with my partner - SOP, Vault, Feet on Friday, HardOn, Hampstead Heath, Locker Room sauna, etc. It's £15 return and a 30 minute train journey away. You can waste a lot more than 30 minutes online finding someone, and these clubs offer guys who are genuinely up for it and physically present.   A good day/night out can be one of these parties and a couple of app-based hook ups. I do miss CumUnion in London...

On 11/8/2018 at 9:53 PM, Pozlover1 said:

How do I block nuisance numbers and calls with caller ID blocked?

All incoming calls with the number blocked go to voicemail. Although that might be my provider not the phone doing that.

Anyone visited this venue? What did you think? 

I’m in town for Snax. Here from today until Monday. Hoping to also take in Sportlads and Berlin Bastards (BB) parties and as many loads as humanly possible! 

6 hours ago, Ranger Rick said:

If it's to the point of "come on over," I'll give it out. But if the third email/chat exchange is "what's your number so we can text," that's too soon. Also, I gave my number out once to a guy who then spammed me with porn and constant texts, which makes me less eager to share it. 

I used to be more worried about that until I discovered you can 'block' nuisance phone numbers on the iPhone - and you can also do so in WhatsApp. 

18 hours ago, Ranger Rick said:

I don't give out my phone number unless there is a actual meeting IRL. Some guys get really pussy about that but I don't see giving out that info to someone I haven't really met and probably won't actually meet. 

Actually that's one of my authenticity tests when cruising online. If it looks hopeful, I'll give out my number and say give me a call to arrange the meet. If they do, then the meet is more likely to happen. If it's arranged purely online, it likely won't happen. 

Being contacted by other bttm guys who are totally convinced they will be the special one to turn you from a bttm to a top.

In my more versatile days, met a guy who really wanted to be tied up and used - went on and on about it - but when it came to it insisted on 'pretend knots, not really tied'.

Guys who are dead keen to meet, but when you try and arrange something there is always a last minute emergency why they can't. Best example of this is a guy who wanted to meet and was messaging for several hours - when I agreed and offered to drive over he said he was expecting the cable TV/internet guy and didn't want to play in case he showed up in the middle of it. Three hours later he was on at me to meet again, "for play, and maybe you can help me get my internet working?"    

I firmly believe many guys (especially on mainstream apps like Grindr) are more into the fantasy of meeting and not into the reality. A bit of wank fodder before going to sleep maybe? Hm. That's why I prefer visiting venues where guys are generally there for a reason. 

Yeah - I look for guys who play rough and push it as far as I can by encouraging them (I'd never pay though). I am careful enough to only play with sober guys as it can go out of control otherwise. A few bruises are the sign of a good session, but I pushed it too far once and ended up with cracked ribs which served as a painful reminder for six weeks after...   

One thing that strikes me about this is expectation setting: when we read posts on sites like this one, we read about guys having successful hot encounters with other guys they've met online. People skip the flakes and the details that aren't so horny about when it doesn't quite work. So we hold ourselves up to a benchmark that is a bit artificial. I enjoyed reading the thread "When hookups get.... strange" which was mainly about guys partying, but it is amusing to see that behind the scenes things go wrong for other guys too, and it's not just me. 

As for apps, I've changed how I used them. When home (small town 40 miles from London) I only use it to keep in touch with people I already know - although I try and move conversation to WhatsApp as soon as I can. I tend to only use the apps for trawling when staying away from home and when I can actually meet or host. I think a lot of guys are on the apps because they are horny and arent really prepared to meet (their flat mate is home, they haven't cleaned out, etc). I dont want to be one of those. 

On 10/17/2018 at 11:25 AM, 1hornyjohn said:

Really- Go there quite a lot for the Wednesday naked days and always get my hole loaded on the bench, over the cage or in one of the slings. 

  

Hm sounds like Wednesdays are worth a try. I always imagined weekends would be busiest so only tend to visit saturday or sunday afternoons or evenings. 

Well into feet here. Socks boots and trainers too. 

There's a number of stories doing the rounds today about someone who caught Bacterial Meningitis in the Kit Kat Club in Berlin.  They're advising anyone who attended to seek medical attention as the individual is not well enough to communicate who they were with or where in the club. None of the staff have symptoms, but all were offered antibiotics.  BBC News and The Daily Telegraph were both reporting it. 

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-45757836

I'm off to check my travel insurance medical cover as I am there next weekend! 

Agree with PhoenixGeoff above but would add that negativity in profiles comes off bad. Some guys list a whole bunch of "No" items without mentioning any positives or things they like. Making the profile read like a shopping list of wants also puts people off because you think that if you don't match all the requirements then you'll rejected. 

I'll also skip profiles that are largely blank or contain lots of "Ask Me" entries. 

In terms of the text, if I see someone's copied in that bit of text you sometimes see about "Goventment institutions may not use this profile for research or...." then I'm thinking this person is part of the tin foil hat brigade and best avoided. The cut & paste of BDSM test results also isn't interesting. Write something original that makes you stand out from the rest. Every time I read something in a profile that has made me smile or laugh, I've messaged the guy to say so, and it's a great icebreaker. 

So based on your advice and exploits I've finally decided to plan a trip - are there any other good places to visit around that area? Someone mentioned a sauna in Carlisle?  

Yup its been like that for a while and really grates on my OCD every time I see it! 

Haven't been in a few weeks, but my favourite is Friday evening - earlier on you get an after work crowd then there's a bit of a lull and then there's decent up for it second wave that comes a bit later. The after work crowd I am a little cautious of as many won't have cleaned out and a mess really puts me off. Like any similar club it can vary week to week  so give it more than one chance. 

Yup I was also going to mention Greenhouse Sauna in Luton. There is a bench and a cage in one of the rooms on the second floor. The cage lid is padded and 'the right height' so you can use that if the bench is occupied. 

I've always found the guys here kinda shy - especially as compared to some of the reports on this site written about guys exploits in saunas or bathhouses  in other countries. Maybe it is the British 'reserve' - I don't know... but I've spent long periods in the slings and bench at Greenhouse and found guys to be very shy to get involved. 

Generally I use j-lube inside but find that does get absorbed so I also use some Vaseline which lasts longer and isn’t rubber friendly...