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18 hours ago, Ranger Rick said:

I don't give out my phone number unless there is a actual meeting IRL. Some guys get really pussy about that but I don't see giving out that info to someone I haven't really met and probably won't actually meet. 

Actually that's one of my authenticity tests when cruising online. If it looks hopeful, I'll give out my number and say give me a call to arrange the meet. If they do, then the meet is more likely to happen. If it's arranged purely online, it likely won't happen. 

Being contacted by other bttm guys who are totally convinced they will be the special one to turn you from a bttm to a top.

In my more versatile days, met a guy who really wanted to be tied up and used - went on and on about it - but when it came to it insisted on 'pretend knots, not really tied'.

Guys who are dead keen to meet, but when you try and arrange something there is always a last minute emergency why they can't. Best example of this is a guy who wanted to meet and was messaging for several hours - when I agreed and offered to drive over he said he was expecting the cable TV/internet guy and didn't want to play in case he showed up in the middle of it. Three hours later he was on at me to meet again, "for play, and maybe you can help me get my internet working?"    

I firmly believe many guys (especially on mainstream apps like Grindr) are more into the fantasy of meeting and not into the reality. A bit of wank fodder before going to sleep maybe? Hm. That's why I prefer visiting venues where guys are generally there for a reason. 

Yeah - I look for guys who play rough and push it as far as I can by encouraging them (I'd never pay though). I am careful enough to only play with sober guys as it can go out of control otherwise. A few bruises are the sign of a good session, but I pushed it too far once and ended up with cracked ribs which served as a painful reminder for six weeks after...   

One thing that strikes me about this is expectation setting: when we read posts on sites like this one, we read about guys having successful hot encounters with other guys they've met online. People skip the flakes and the details that aren't so horny about when it doesn't quite work. So we hold ourselves up to a benchmark that is a bit artificial. I enjoyed reading the thread "When hookups get.... strange" which was mainly about guys partying, but it is amusing to see that behind the scenes things go wrong for other guys too, and it's not just me. 

As for apps, I've changed how I used them. When home (small town 40 miles from London) I only use it to keep in touch with people I already know - although I try and move conversation to WhatsApp as soon as I can. I tend to only use the apps for trawling when staying away from home and when I can actually meet or host. I think a lot of guys are on the apps because they are horny and arent really prepared to meet (their flat mate is home, they haven't cleaned out, etc). I dont want to be one of those. 

On 10/17/2018 at 11:25 AM, 1hornyjohn said:

Really- Go there quite a lot for the Wednesday naked days and always get my hole loaded on the bench, over the cage or in one of the slings. 

  

Hm sounds like Wednesdays are worth a try. I always imagined weekends would be busiest so only tend to visit saturday or sunday afternoons or evenings. 

Well into feet here. Socks boots and trainers too. 

There's a number of stories doing the rounds today about someone who caught Bacterial Meningitis in the Kit Kat Club in Berlin.  They're advising anyone who attended to seek medical attention as the individual is not well enough to communicate who they were with or where in the club. None of the staff have symptoms, but all were offered antibiotics.  BBC News and The Daily Telegraph were both reporting it. 

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-45757836

I'm off to check my travel insurance medical cover as I am there next weekend! 

Agree with PhoenixGeoff above but would add that negativity in profiles comes off bad. Some guys list a whole bunch of "No" items without mentioning any positives or things they like. Making the profile read like a shopping list of wants also puts people off because you think that if you don't match all the requirements then you'll rejected. 

I'll also skip profiles that are largely blank or contain lots of "Ask Me" entries. 

In terms of the text, if I see someone's copied in that bit of text you sometimes see about "Goventment institutions may not use this profile for research or...." then I'm thinking this person is part of the tin foil hat brigade and best avoided. The cut & paste of BDSM test results also isn't interesting. Write something original that makes you stand out from the rest. Every time I read something in a profile that has made me smile or laugh, I've messaged the guy to say so, and it's a great icebreaker. 

So based on your advice and exploits I've finally decided to plan a trip - are there any other good places to visit around that area? Someone mentioned a sauna in Carlisle?  

Yup its been like that for a while and really grates on my OCD every time I see it! 

Haven't been in a few weeks, but my favourite is Friday evening - earlier on you get an after work crowd then there's a bit of a lull and then there's decent up for it second wave that comes a bit later. The after work crowd I am a little cautious of as many won't have cleaned out and a mess really puts me off. Like any similar club it can vary week to week  so give it more than one chance. 

Yup I was also going to mention Greenhouse Sauna in Luton. There is a bench and a cage in one of the rooms on the second floor. The cage lid is padded and 'the right height' so you can use that if the bench is occupied. 

I've always found the guys here kinda shy - especially as compared to some of the reports on this site written about guys exploits in saunas or bathhouses  in other countries. Maybe it is the British 'reserve' - I don't know... but I've spent long periods in the slings and bench at Greenhouse and found guys to be very shy to get involved. 

Generally I use j-lube inside but find that does get absorbed so I also use some Vaseline which lasts longer and isn’t rubber friendly... 

This was a long time ago, probably only a few months after I 'came out' in my youth... but it sticks in mind as being one of the first: It started when I met with a guy who was going to teach me rollerblading in Hyde Park in London. After the lesson we went back to his place for a shower and drink. He had an interesting 'sculpture' in his room that was of a pair of boots and being into boots and stuff I commented on it. It turned out it belonged to a friend of his and after some conversation he was adamant we should meet that evening for drinks as we would surely hit it off. So we headed into SoHo and met his friend in one of the bars for a few drinks, and sure enough we really did hit it off. One thing led to another and we needed to find someplace more private to play. It turned out this guy worked in an office above the Clone Zone shop in Old Compton Street, so we headed there and then onto the flat roof on top of the building. It was pretty amazing being up there four floors above London's gay centre looking down on the Saturday night crowds. We spent most of the night up there  fooling around, and I think the memory that really sticks in my mind is kneeling, leaning over the little wall at the front edge of the building looking down on the street and across at Comptons Bar while getting a good deep fucking. Anyone looking up could have seen us, but people rarely look up. 

Yeah, I'll be there. ?

Bit last minute ...  So I’m in Antwerp this weekend and wondering if anyone is around?

Can play in hotel (holiday inn Antwerp city north) or The Boots 

Andy

Count me in!

I'd check squirt.org as they have a database of cruising spots and each has a virtual message board. You can gauge how busy spots are from the number of recent messages. They also post warnings about security patrol and stuff (eg see entry on British Library) 

Nice fetish session last night - someone I've met and played with a number of times before came over. We started in full rubber (fetish gear - not condoms!) and did quite a lot of play in gear. Breathcontrol, forced poppers, gas masks, trampling... I wanted to get trampled full weight in MX boots which happened, but he chickened out of using the football boots/cleats on me which is a shame. Culminated in swapping loads - both our rubber suits have 3-way zips so we could stay in gear. Nice end to a 3 hour session... slept in my rubber gear all sweaty and kept his load inside. A couple of bruises today to remind me of a good session.

8 hours ago, Ocelot2000 said:

Same but without tops, this is gonna get awkward, lol

Yeah that's always the problem! 

I'm up for that, but I reckon a meet-up of guys from here at a venue like The Vault, Underground Club or Locker Room Sauna might also work. 

13 hours ago, Treehugger said:

Okay guys I had a new problem crop up at Cummunion this last Saturday. The place was packed and I got fucked plenty. Early in the evening I climbed in the sling with a blindfold on. I love the excitement of being in the dark plus I think more inhibited guys get braver when they know they won't be turned down.  I had fun, two guys fucked me and I blew a third. Mindful more than ever of hogging the sling I got out after the third guy.

     Later in the evening I thought I would try my luck in the sling again. There are two and one was filled with a hot guy. I got in the other one. Two minutes later a hot tattooed guy comes in and asks us how long we had been in the sling. I told him. So he proceeds to strike up a conversation with a guy who had been standing there  jerking. Meanwhile hot bottom has two guys working him over.

    More guys show up and tattooed guy keeps mentioning he's waiting for his turn in the sling. He stood there in front of my sling shooting the breeze like he is at the water cooler. He keeps talking and talking. Guys show up in the doorway see the crowd in front of my sling and move on. It sucked. I gave up.

Oh yeah - I have experienced similar - a couple of guys discussing Union Politics and the finer points of Brexit quite loudly in a darkroom - I am quite sure specifically to clear people out, then they jumped into the sling. 

Very much into feet, socks, trainers/sneakers and boots. Around 200 pairs at last count! See my Instagram

Also see http://www.feetonfriday.com and http://www.sneaxonsaturday.com which are London based clubs for guys into this kinda thing.

So this place is on my list of places to try this year. 

Has anyone been as a staying guest? Is it any good for BB? Any tips or stories (good or bad)? 

On 5/25/2018 at 8:00 AM, AirmaxAndy said:

So it's a holiday weekend here in the UK. And I'm making plans for where to find my next loads...

• Friday evening (tonight) will probably be Hampstead Heath.
• Saturday I'll spend with the BF 
• Sunday we are counting on SOP at Central Station being busy as Monday is a holiday
• Monday likely chill after Sunday and see who's around online.

I'll report back on what happens here...

What plans do you have? And how did they work out?

Well posting this must've been tempting fate. That day, I got a call that my Mum was in the hospital Accident & Emergency so, of course, I had to put my plans on hold.

And it just goes to prove when you plan a weekend like this, it rarely happens as you expect. When you don't plan it you're often surprised.

I have had plenty of fun since, at Hampstead, on Grindr and at SOP so it's all good!

A. x