Sharp-edge

1 hour ago, tallslenderguy said:

i was raised in a religious culture, and i also went deeply into religion for a long time.  i think American culture has a lot of overt and subtle religious influence. i'm guessing the same is true in Your country (Greece?), though it seems You were able to get free of much of that influence at a younger age than i did, and come to a place of self acceptance.

Well in Greece things were always weird with religion. A bit of a long story but even though in terms of law government and church are separate entities, in practice they are not. We've seen many times priests blessing with holy water sterile equipment in ICU during the pandemic, we've seen priests talking against gay people and even saying they will ban from the church (maybe the word is aphorized if i use the greek one with a bit of imagination) whoever votes in favor of some laws that support gay people. But in our capital (more than half of our population) you will not have to marry for religious reasons

1 hour ago, tallslenderguy said:

The healthcare system in the US is broken. i work with amazing, caring people. i love working in a teaching hospital, the doctors i work with are beautiful people and we all get along very well. The policies of the healthcare system make the job very difficult and exhausting. Also, shortages of healthcare workers mean we are often functioning in triage mode, which can get tiring very fast.  i am "happy," though i (and anyone in this profession i think) have to develop and maintain coping skills to keep going. 

I've heard terrible stories about people adjusting their insulin dose because they can't afford the needed quantities, is this true? 

In Greece things are broken in the healthcare section for other reasons. We have public hospitals where every citizen can receive the help he needs (and even expensive drugs such as antiviral drugs for HIV/HBC/HCV etc). BUT.. we have many shortages in stuff because nobody actually hires. We have people migrate to find better salaries and work environments. There can be patients not in beds but in portable beds outside the rooms because clinics can be too full. I could be going on and on forever about this.

1 hour ago, tallslenderguy said:

but cannot imagine being a maternity nurse or midwife.  i think we probably agree that a woman has some advantages to working with women because they have the same equipment and can better relate to how it feels and works

when I had gynecology I was like oh my, this is how this system works? I feel lucky to be a man.

1 hour ago, tallslenderguy said:

I've had both male and female patients with altered mental status who pulled their catheter out.

two days ago there was an old guy who had tremor and a bit of dementia. He would grab anything. My stethoscope, my arm, the sphigmomanometer and any catheter.

1 hour ago, tallslenderguy said:

A part of me wishes You want to be a hospitalist instead of anesthesiologist,  think people would benefit from Your caring attitude, Your desire to understand and relate.

thanks for that. but doesn't hospitalist means someone who works inside the hospital and not in private practice? Cause anesthesiologists almost excusively work in hospitals. I think it's easy to care and it doesn't take time to just cover with a blanket a patient who complains instead of getting to the other doctors and complain altogether about the complaining patient.

1 hour ago, tallslenderguy said:

i'd like to have the added education and understanding of diagnosis, but also like being with the patient for 12 hours vs 15 minutes.  

I didn't know that doctors spend considerably less time with the patient compared to the nurse. But now I see how this happens. I get you on wanting to have that knowledge. My first degree was in dentistry and my desire was medicine so I did medicine after dental school just for that.

1 hour ago, tallslenderguy said:

withdraw from alcohol, and we end up having to treat that as well

Also true. But some people don't even realize their addiction. Plus, I'm not a drinker myself so even a glass of wine surpasses my semester intake.

1 hour ago, tallslenderguy said:

 i find the people who are as you describe, gossips or religious in a way that judges, do not last very long in our setting.

Unfortunately in my hospital they last. And they make us acclimated with the toxic behavior. And another unique thing. Nurses here don't feel like drawing blood. We tend to do it. Or even medical students. We have even some not measuring pressure because it's a doctor's thing. lmao

53 minutes ago, Pozguyinchi said:

I have a gay Dr and it does make things very easy. From the explaining of HPV to STI diagnosis and treatment gay men have a whole host of “issues” that can come up that straight men do not. I don’t take my Dr’s comments as criticism where I have from straight Dr’s. He has also related to me that he is in a dom sub relationship and as a sub what I should look for with a dom in regards to body mods. He never told he he was the dom in the relationship but I figured it out. Lol. I am also HIV positive and there is also not that under lying perception that he is judging me. 

That's good to hear.

Maybe the world needs a specialty about sexual health. But not one where I'm going to give advice to gay women because I've no idea what they do between them. But advising gay guys, that I can do it well.

16 hours ago, brnbk said:

Also, I Imagine different personality types likely make different choices. Some people might prefer to work with females just coz they find the male body too attractive and don't like the distraction or  interference it may bring. while others might feel more comfortable working with the gender they are attracted to rather than avoiding it. 

Wish I had that dilemma. You will rarely meet someone attractive. I think that str8 gynecologists tend to have lots of appealing women because every woman needs a smear test, an ultrasound or whatsoever once every year or more, but not every health young man needs a doctor to check his dick. So the ones we check are not appealing.

I'm an anesthesiologist trainee so the body parts that I touch are the hands for a catheter (the genitals are usually the nurse's part) and I have to pass down a tube from the throat and that's pretty much it. Unless it's trauma. But everything is too bloody there to even have the time to think.

14 hours ago, tallslenderguy said:

i'm a critical care nurse in the US. It's actually a newish career for me. i spent most of my life in executive management. 14 years ago, i left the corporate management world, went to nursing school and got a BSN, and now am in my eleventh year practicing in a teaching hospital on a critical care unit.  In the US, and particularly in the hospital where i work, nurses are considered partners with the doctors. Here's some of my thoughts and experiences responding to the 4 topics You note.

I've read your story before, I think you have said that this was due to your religious background? It's very interesting what you have experienced. So are you happy in nursing now?

14 hours ago, tallslenderguy said:

ntually learned female anatomy in order to make her orgasm, but even with as much time as i spent going down on her orally, i didn't really notice or pay attention to her urethra. I.e., my experience with her did not equip me to cath a woman.  my only real familiarity with her vagina was learning how to make her orgasm. In the last 11 years as a critical care  nurse, i have seen probably thousands of vaginas.

I've only see some porn with women (just because the dude was hot) or (even worse) I've seen fem porn so the genitalia were a bit altered due to hormones I guess. So I had a bit false expectations about the size of a clitoris which was not an enlarged as was expecting. I also had practical issues of identifying urethra from vagina but I got over it. But if I could chose to never see female genitalia I would pick it. Thankfully I did not chose to become a gynecologist.

14 hours ago, tallslenderguy said:

LMAO. i have put in more catheters than i can count, male and female. Whether you're a male or female practitioner, the consensus amongst my peers is guys are always easier. With guys, the only obstacle is the prostate, which we encounter a lot as the primary reason  for putting a cath in (urine retention from obstruction).

I know this may sound weird, but putting catheters on guys has helped me because I like sounding. I'm trying to help people who like that to do it in a safe way so as not to cause any harm. I think that many medical practitioners demonize some sexual practices. But in my eyes, whether they like it or not some practices exist and will exist and if we wanna do something useful we should teach the right way. My worst fear in a catheter is filling the balloon inside the urethra. I hope this will never happen.

14 hours ago, tallslenderguy said:

 Rectal bleeds. That gets complex

Of course it does. And that is why I want the patient to feel freely to say you know what I got fucked and I saw blood. It would be a crucial knowledge to have regarding where to search and what pathology I'm expecting. And I can't tell it's the patients to blame. How on earth do we expect patients to be sincere if we make fun of them being gay? And I don't know about USA or other countries, but in Greece I would be too skeptical of being sincere. And nurses are the worst on that. I don't know if this is a Greece's thing but a typical nurse is woman and religious and likes to gossip people. And I don't know what should I do. Put a flag on my head and say LGBTQ+ friendly doctor?

14 hours ago, tallslenderguy said:

Like you, i agree that as a professional, gender shouldn't figure in. But, the reality is, sometimes it does.

Most guys make me wonder how could they look when they were younger. Some guys make me feel that they were always sick and weird looking. And you can see others that are old but you can see it in their eyes that they are alive and have many things that keep them going. There was a patient who was straight and very good looking. Actually I think that I am rarely attracted by a "stereotypical hunk". I have some triggers. Shorter guys, lean, preferably gingers. I had such a patient who needed a central catheter. I was very stressed (it was my second time). Long story short we've been together many weeks in the hospital. He was very afraid (and I was very worried about the outcome). Eventually everything was okay. Since then he will always send me a gift during my birthday which is very touching and we may go out for a coffee once in a while. He thinks he owns me, I've told him that helping people is what we do in medicine. It was not personal because we help everyone but at the time it is personal because we are happy for each and every one that goes well.

Sometimes I believe sexuality can interfere with medical practice and different sexual orientations could mean different "clinical" knowledge. What I mean. 

1) The first time I saw female genitalia was during gynecology in my life (porn won't count). I "had to" touch them to see if there was bleeding (some liquid after labor actually). It was unpleasant. Well, when you see a patient it's not a matter of what you want but of what it must be done so I'm learning to get over this. But a woman knows the female genitalia, a str8 guy does to, a gay guy does not (usually).

2) When I had to put urinal catheters. It was easy with men. I know how to grab a dick (joking) and I know how sensitive it can be from personal experience as an owner of a dick. So I know which things hurt and which don't. In women however I just know there is a pee hole somewhere, I've seen the location from anatomy books etc but I've never made out with a woman so the only real contact that I've had with "a pussy" was only during medicine. Not from my sexual life. But str8 guys and str8 women have experience with both.

3) There were 2 dudes yesterday that came with rectal bleeding (they said they saw blood but we didn't). One of them in particular felt that he was lying. When talking about blood from the anus, especially in a young man I will think hemorrhoids or anal sex (or toy). He was insisting about a food poisoning theory that did not make sense. I tried to make it more private and nobody to hear us (because there are several pairs of ears willing to hear in the ER I'm afraid. During the rectum exam with my finger (it also feels very weird do something that you do during sex but for a medical purpose) I was pretty sure I found lube there. We discussed a bit. He eventually told me that he was having cam sex and he was using a dildo and saw blood. I think that it helped that I was gay. It's not that straight people are bad at this. But I think a gay guy may more suitable to make the patient feel comfortable and guide him.

4) I am not sure how sex drive works from after a certain age. Based on the physiology of female system, it should decline greatly. I don't know any women beyond menopause that I could ask that question, but I hope this is not true because it would be so sad. I also have the curiosity of whether very old men can get aroused. Especially those that are in elderly house I suppose they never ejaculate. It makes me sad. I feel that some people (who live long enough and who have dementia or related pathologies) end up forgetting what they enjoy, forgetting who they are, they beloved ones. They actually stop from being the person their loved ones thought them to be. Now that I think about it, this does not have to do with the title of my topic, but still it makes me sad. Maybe the fear that gays actually don't have kids to look after them and many end up alone is the reason I'm touched by this. Anyway. 

A final remark. We are told that (at least in my country) it is illegal for a guy to examine a female patient without the presence of another woman. I think this is sexism. I do not like to be viewed as a potential sex assaulter. And if law regards me as a potential one, along with all the male colleagues, why isn't the law the same for women examining a man? I also find totally ridiculous that I should need the presence of another female when I examine a female. I've never hit on a woman in my life but several women have hit on me.

These were some thoughts I'd like to share.

I'm  currently having a training in internal medicine. I've had many rotations and met many people but this dude is unique. I've spent so much time thinking, fantasizing or even having sex with guys. But this guy is different. It's not a matter of hotness (he's rather tall and lean, I think the word that would describe him best is not hot or good-looking, it's "cute"). I've heard many times people "worshipping" useless, selfish doctors. People claiming for other doctors to be true to their purpose etc. Most of the times all these were lie. I'm sick of meeting self-centered doctors only caring about how rich they can become.

This dude is unique. He loves his patients. He loves being a doctor. He works very hard. He is always cheerful. I see a myself inside him and I can relate how tough are all these and how he can hide it behind a smile. Instead of having me thinking that he's hot or whatever, I think that he is a very nice person. He makes me wanna protect him. I'm trying to do my best to help him because I know he ends up sleepless. I wanna protect him from burn out because I know it will come. This guy shines bright, he acts as a true inspiration. He makes me wanna be the best, study hard and care for my patients. I really hope all his hard work will pay off because he deserves it.

It may sound silly-poet-ish whatever that word I just invented means, but I've seen too much darkness and his light is piercing. It feels good being around him. He's caring. I'm a considering my feelings towards him. I have two basic modes when it comes to men. Getting horny and falling in love. None of them is really triggered. I don't plan to fuck with him (unless he asks) and I'm not falling in love in a romantic way, but I love what I have met from him. I know the world needs more people like him.

I tend to overthink. Maybe this post is one of these times. I keep on hearing that the real issue is not how we look but what other people see on us. That if we lack confidence etc this will bring a negative outcome. And that makes some people think okay I will feel confident and it will do the trick. But that couldn't be further from the truth. I do believe that what we feel is what we "radiate" and it is this "radiation" that catches one's attention. But it's not a simple thing. Everybody knows what makes him feel nice and what not. So wearing something nice will definitely show. But it's more than that. We live in an era that promotes the "body positivity". But while it started with good intentions I think people are becoming a little deluded about it. Deep down everybody knows what he likes and what he doesn't. There are cases where a mental disease (such us anorexia) that can afffect that. But if we think of an average person he knows if his body looks bad or not. Or better yet, he knows if he likes what he sees or not. So I think that we should try and be the way we want to be and not take the easy approach that someone should just take us the way we are. In my eyes the magical feeling of flirt is all that struggle to attract.

When I fell in love with someone many many years ago I thought that I had no chance. And I was right. He was a man and I was in a "slumber". The feelings he generated inside me help me awaken. Somehow in that process I felt that I was getting better. I felt that I was no able to participate in the game we call love. 

I would be very happy to meet an FTM guy

3 hours ago, viking8x6 said:

Men are willing to have sex with other men despite the risk of imprisonment or execution -- that sounds like a pretty powerful attraction to me.

I haven't thought of that but that's a very strong argument that could convince people with bricks instead of brains

That was an interesting one. He experienced several difficulties in understanding that. I wonder if there are other str8 guys out there wondering the same.. how to put it nicely.. questions.

I told him that there is not a particular trait to look for. You look at someone and you body reacts to it. It's what you see. It can be even what you smell (at least for me, the scent of a man and I don't mean a bad smell but one's natural scent). Based on his thoughts it's hard to like hairy people (so men cannot be liked) and it's also difficult to like "big" people. He meant that in order to be attractive you have to look like a stereotypical woman "smaller" than a man, hairless (I suppose waxing is praised). 

When trying to explain that maybe he should think since women find attractive men, then so can men who like men. But in his minds we're men and so that does not work.

He also asked about sex, whether or not we get erections. I told him that he's a handsome guy and I could fuck him until he gets convinced but he was not up for the challenge.

He then said that he can't be fucked because he's tight (can't recall his wording though). I told him that this is easy to fix.

I'm glad he asked me all these, he tried to understand more. However I do feel his world is shattered because he was thinking men cannot be fucked.

I still haven't practiced sounding. It seems there is not a single guy in Greece (spare me) that is into it. 99% of people don't know it and those who do loathe it. I wouldn't like to practice it on my own. 

I'm not a fan of condoms (who is?). But when I barefuck it's always via an app and we discuss that just before. I met a guy recently at work. He is cute and friendly. He's 21 (I'm 31). It ws the first time I fucked someone younger (I was always into guys 40+). It felt nice that I was more experienced than him. He did enjoy it. But he let me stick my dick inside. He said if we should use a condom. I asked why and then I got inside him. It told him it would feel nicer and he enjoyed it. I'm glad about the way things turned out. It could have been his first bare dck.

I remember seeing ads late at night to call a weird number for telephone fun. People would even pay for that back then.

I remember that there was like a division between raw and condom porn. Some sites were raw and some were not. There was (and still is) the category "bareback". But not it's useless. Porn is bareback so it's a useless filter. The biggest shock was when Tim went raw. Now when I see a condom in a porn movie I know it's vintage. 

And regarding real life fucks, I mean come on. Nobody likes a condom does he?

I've done some anon bareback, that "danger" felt nice

17 hours ago, dickluva said:

Recently, was with a BB homeless young man who approached me on Sniffies. Great sex, wrote about cemetery man on here. Really regret it, butt not going to post details here.

would you mind share these in a personal message?

That's a fantasy topic. Alchemists can create a homunculus. That is, an artificial person. They gather the elements that make up the human body and they transmute it into a living puppet. If the result could be better in terms of appearance than that of Dr Frankenstein's (who was not an alchemist), would you use it to create an army of lovers? 

Now that's an idea for a new porn movie, too bad I don't have Tim's number to discuss this.

13 minutes ago, norefusal said:

do guys fetishize the homeless now? not sure how i feel about that one hmm

my experience: a cute young guy hit me up on grindr. i agreed to host. we met. he was nice, polite and intelligent. he admitted to being homeless. then explained he was recently made homeless by getting kicked out of a post-rehab sober house for relapsing. i agreed to let him smoke in my house although i didn't partake. 

the T made keeping hard difficult for him but he ate my ass like it's never been eaten before or since. we fooled around and chatted for hrs. 

i agreed to meet a few more time and often gave him hand me down clothes or small amounts of cash for the bus etc. he was interesting and well read and one of the nicest guys i ever met off grindr. but in addition to struggling w addiction he also struggled with mental health. the two combined made him volitile and super paranoid and he could go from mr wonderful to a raving lunatic in a heartbeat. it was too much and i had to step back and stop contact. 

I don't know if he's homeless. It's just that that guy triggered something on me.

About the guy you mentioned, drugs can make mental health issues to arise because on the impact upon brain neurophysiology (and potentially morphology changes). That guy sounds really cute but lost in the drug world. I know it sounds bad, but theoretically I'd love to fuck him hard and have him at my place for some time offering what he needs and eventually help him become independent, find a job etc.

Just now, Nagato20 said:

One of them reeked of alcohol so told him I’ll buy him a case of beer if he bred me. He initially told me to get lost but then yelled from across the street for me to come back. He said he not into that faggot shit but he willing to fuck for the beer 

I try to understand if the guy  I was talking about was a drug user or just homeless or who knows maybe into alcohol? He asked for cigarette which does not clarify things.

If that guy like beers or vodka or whatever I don't mind buying him a bottle as long as he takes my cock. Although I'm not sure if drunk or high whether he could function. And if I give him poppers I dont know if it's a good idea.

56 minutes ago, Nagato20 said:

For me I’m pretty direct with it I ask em if they wanna mess around if I get them some door or some cash or whatever that way we know what we in for and get straight to the point. Can’t say it works all the time but it has worked rough times to fuck and get fucked by a few

Were those drug users, homeless people or both? What exactly did you tell them?

I was thinking of telling me that I could give him cigarettes and my place for a couple of hours and I'd like to play with his body if he's not into sex

30 minutes ago, Oldercumslut said:

About the same precautions. I try not to play with the ones who are homeless because of mental illness. A few couldn't get it up.  I'm not sure I'd go down on some of them though.

by getting up you mean get hard? I don't mind, I'd prefer being me the one who fucks

53 minutes ago, Nagato20 said:

I have fucked with multiple homeless guys. They are willing to fuck especially with some nice incentives and it’s a win win situation so it fulfills your urges and it helps them out too.

That sounds hot. I had an incident yesterday and maybe it gave rise to a new fetish or something.

I was at work, having to move from point A to point B which was a 10 minutes walk. Halfway, a guy around his 40s that I found sexy stopped me and he asked if I could give him 25 cents to buy some water or something like that. He kept on talking but I wasn't really paying attention I was looking for some coins. I gave him 2 euros. I'm not sure if he was a drug user (could be but not sure) and maybe he said that he was homeless. I continued my way when he asked me if I can also give him a cigarette and I said I don't smoke (true). 

But while i was walking I thought the guy was really hot. I'm not sure what I could have done. I like the win win situation that you mentioned. I'm not sure how should I approach him. Any advice? I haven't done such a thing ever but damn it makes my dick hard. I thought of buying him a packet of cigarettes and ask him to smoke some in front of me somewhere quiet (because I also have a smokiing fetish). I'd appreciate some advice.

I'm very curious and feel weird about it. It's the moral vs the horny part which sometimes indicate towards different directions. If someone was cute enough would you try to have sex with him? Is there a way to approach them? And, most importantly, do these people have "apetite' for sex or not at all? Would you take any precautions or it would be as with a typical guy?

18 hours ago, ErosWired said:

An Amp is an Ampallang piercing, a piercing that goes horizontally through the  center of the cockhead, but not through the urethra.

A related piercing is an Apadravya, which runs vertically through the cockhead, and intersects the urethra. Both of these types that pass through the cockhead take 6 months to a year for full healing.

oh I know this piercig but didn't know its name. nice dick:)

7 hours ago, ErosWired said:

Be aware of a couple of things before you start:

1. A qualified piercer will almost certainly not start you with a thick piercing, nor should you try. You should expect a .10 or .12 gauge piercing to begin. From there, you would work your way to increasingly thicker gauges -gradually- over time, giving your anatomy time to adapt and heal after each stretch. It’s a process, and you will need to exercise some patience for good results.

2. A Prince Albert piercing will likely change the way you urinate. You currently piss through one opening that directs the urine in one direction (more or less). You’re about to make a second hole that may divert part of that stream in another direction and make control more problematic. Other PA owners here can speak to their experience with this. I chose an Ampallang instead partially because I didn’t want to deal with the urine problem, and I have read accounts of men with PAs who have to sit down to piss to keep it from getting everywhere, but I’m sure experiences vary.

3. Men without piercings are weird around men who have them. They act like magpies. Expect guys to get grabby with your cock even if you’d rather they didn’t. They either can’t resist feeling it or seeing what it feels like in their mouth. For some reason it’s as if they think you having a piercing gives them license to touch without asking. Also, they tend to assume that since you got your cock pierced you must like pain in your cock, so they get bitey and rougher with it than they might have otherwise, and pull at the jewelry, sometimes too hard. Occasionally they may try to take the jewelry off you - I had one this last weekend trying to figure out how to get my Amp off, and I don’t take it out, ever. And, as @Kurami says above, get used to being asked if it hurt. Every. Fucking. Time.

Since I don’t Top, I can’t speak to how often you may be asked to remove your metal by some nervous bottom before he’ll let you fuck him, but I can see how that might be a potential liability. Others may wish to weigh in on that.

I know it starts from small, I even like the idea of watching it getting upgradated after months. However I haven't found a piercer who does that in Athens and that's an issue.

About the guys that are weird about it I don't care that much, my bf is okay. I mostly worry about a possible infection. Regarding peeing.. well.. I never had a good shot, it will get worse but whatever. 

What's a amp?

12 hours ago, Kurami said:

I had a PA for years! It was fun. I was initially pierced at 12g, and it was not comfortable for sex until about 6g. But after the first stretch it stretches very easily. Took about two weeks before I could jerk off normally and it felt fully healed by a month.

I got tired of guys asking "did that hurt?" Or having me take it out first. So I eventually stopped wearing it. But one thing to be careful of, if you heal it and stretch it to a big gauge, it'll never fully close. Which makes peeing weird. I ended up cutting it to a meatotomy, and that is pretty cool. Gets less attention and feels great. 

If you like the look, go on and get one!

I always had the feeling that a piercing becomes part of someone and they keep it forever, but especially about PA and nipples people are somehow forced to take them off because something just jappened.

I really don't get that question about hurting. Of course it did but it's obvious. I like the hole it leaves behind, am I a [banned word]?

I wouldn't like to have a meatotomy though, I want it whole with a hole (no pun intended)

Here's mine