LetsPOZBreed

Old bathhouse lore (what I was told by my best friend when I was younger) is that bottoms tend to stay in their rooms, ass up in the air, or hole otherwise exposed. Tops are more transient and walk around the venue looking for as many holes to fuck. A good jockstrap never hurts, and more recent trends in clothing (the "cum in me bro" t-shirt, "cumdump" socks, et al.) means you can practically spell it out as well; we didn't always have that option.

If the bowl is filled with just cum, then half-and-half (assuming the loads are all freshly produced); if it's even a little stale, just turkey baste them all in my hole - nothing tastes worse than stale jizz. That being said, I have a bit of a kink around cumming in a bowl of some type of food - think diced strawberries. Me and my partner both squirt loads onto them, and we spoon feed each other the resulting strawberries and cream, after we give the bowl a good mix and let our loads coat each piece of fruit. Yeah, I'm that kind of kinky... >:-)

I've had a mix. My preference is a guy who can really grunt one out with a good lion roar (natural, not "put on"). I find that even with the quiet ones, there's subtle hints - usually a slight contortion of the face. But the only real way I know is the change in consistency as the friction in my hole changes from lube to cum. If you know, you know. When I've been on top, I'd say I tend to grunt more now than when I was younger. Not sure why that is, but I do feel my orgasms have gotten more intense with age. I'm sure that's a factor to some degree.

I gotta say, London has become quite dead on there for the most part. Sure, you get the party listings (the same hotel for each of them) and the guys on there that I'd want to play with only sign up for those - it's not my scene anymore. So, yeah. I've occasionally gone to the saunas and got some play, but I want a good passionate rough-n-tumble 1 on 1. That's just not something I'm able to find anymore.

Full disclosure - I did this yesterday. Went to S.O.P for the first time in over 4 years, and casually mentioned to one guy that it was something I wanted to do. He found a guy who was "close" and into it, and pulled us in a corner and we knelt down to drink it together. I prob ended up with about 90% of it, though, as my other guy stood up shortly after. Kinda impressed I just started gulping it straight away; wasn't sure if I'd go that full on after so long. My feeder's stream wasn't particularly strong tasting (which actually helped), and it went on for a while in fits and starts. Was my only pissload yesterday, but I'll take the win nonetheless. So, yeah...I'm into it. Not very often, though, but when the mood strikes. I'm thankful to have a venue such as S.O.P here in London, though, as I'm sure it would be far more difficult to find otherwise.

Not that I'm the author of some dictionary on the topic, but here's my thoughts on what these terms mean - both from personal experience and the copious amounts of porn I watched under the various lockdowns: Breeding - The act of fucking bareback in which the seed is ejactulated inside the receptive partner. It is not a specification as to the status (poz/neg/unknown) of the top. Impregnating - A bit of a toss up. Obviously co-opted from str8 sex, so the general definition is to breed with the purpose of implanting something lasting inside the bottom. Can be used for poz play, but can also be used for Mpreg play as well, so the whole poz/neg issue is really down to the specific circumstance. "Knocking up" - along the same lines of impregnating, but I almost exclusively have heard this in poz play scenes (and may have said this myself during my role play sessions). When heard during a porn scene, I think it's understood that it's a pozzing (or role playing of such act). Don't think I've come across a situation where this is not the case.

I've had instances where I've not said I've been pre-loaded, but in those cases I was never asked. I could sense when the guys went in, that they noticed and weren't exactly thrilled by it. From the top's viewpoint, I get it; you either expect to be first or get off on it being already flooded. I think, though, that the ones who prefer the latter are upfront about asking his prospective bottom if that's the case. Personally, it's a consent thing. If I have cum in me, I tell the guy; that way it's up to him what happens next. Though, that experience is few and far between these days for me; if I have cum in me, it's because of the guy who just shot it in me and is (hopefully) willing to work it in me more - maybe give me a second one. There's just something that hits different about a hard dick pushing it's own cum deeper in your hole.

Having a guy find me laying around the house in just my underwear. He sneaks up on me wearing a ski mask, so I never see his face. I get pinned down and interrogated - begging for it to stop and for him to leave, but he won't stop until he gets something he wants. After a while of negotiating, he finally spanks my ass and says "this....this is what I want". I resist, saying no and what-not. He restrains me and tapes my wrists together. Slips off his underwear, drenched in fresh sweat and shoves them in my mouth, then tapes over it for me to keep them there. From there, he's mine. But it's not just a matter of just stripping off my underwear too - no, he grabs hold of the back of them and just pulls as hard as he can. They rip open, which sends my mind into a panic. I start shaking my head "no" while I get ordered to stop fighting him off. Eventually, I calm down enough where my masked intruder sticks his raw cock inside. My eyes are watery with tears feeling no barriers between my insides and his bare skin. He's not rough with his thrusts - at least not yet - but he is using the remainder of my ripped pants as leverage, grabbing both sides as he slides each stroke inside me. There's a pace to it, in that he's savouring what he's taking from me. His verbal is a mix between "good boy" and calling me every name in the book. Finally, the moment arrives. He pounds me roughly until I feel the warmth that only cum brings. All while he's letting out a primal roar (like a lion) as I get flooded. I'm at full whining now, though this is somewhat muted by his pants still shoved in my mouth. Once he's done, he slips out and turns me over. Grabs a magic marker nearby and writes me a "message" on my ass cheeks for me to read in the mirror after he's gone. He zips back up, and dashes away. All I'm left with is his sweaty pants, my ripped pants, and whatever dirty message is written on my ass as a souvenir.

It's completely situational, even for the same top in different circumstances. I never kept track of my tops - or even myself when I do top. But personally, I like to savour the moment with a good bottom; that means I'll get close, then slow down (even briefly stop) to beat the urge back. Means I last a few iterations and blow a bigger wad. I love when guys that top me do the same. Quite frankly, I'm not clock watching during a good encounter, and that's the most important thing. If I'm concerned about the time, then I'm not having a good time.

There are a multitude of posts on the forums about this, as well as suggestions and pitfalls of hosting group sessions in general. For those types of things, I'd suggest you have a lookup and read for those. Something I don't usually write in response to these, but think newbies to this should consider - don't just focus on the HOW, but also think about the WHY. Are you going into this lifestyle in the right headspace? Is your body physically prepared to take that much dick in a night? Are you in the right mental space to not really care about the specific guy fucking you at any moment in time? Personally, I'd start small. If you're a bottom that's not accustomed to being regularly fucked, or if at most your daily experiences might be a fuckbuddy or threeway...you're going to need to build up some tolderance. Start with a small group of about 5 men taking turns on you, and prefereably personally know at least one or two of them; this might help settle some initial nerves. At least with a group this small, you can feel when you might be at your limit - if you're limit isn't quite hit, invite men to help themselves for seconds (or thirds). Consequently, if you're starting to feel a bit uncomfortable, you're not in a room of 10+ men and tapping out before everyone gets his chance. Another thing to recognise is that the different guys fucking you will all bring their own styles and techniques with them. Some will be gentler, some will be kind of moderate, and some might get a bit rough with you. You'll need to be able to take different types and also be able to draw a line when something gets a bit out of control and past what you're comfortable with. For this reason, I'd also recommend not doing a session totally alone - if you know someone well enough, I'd ask if they'd be interested in being your eyes and ears on the action. Someone who can monitor that nefarious things aren't going down while you're blindfolded, and also someone you can signal to if a top is getting particularly out of control and fucking in a way that you're not willing to consent to; after all, you want to remember this session for all the *right* reasons, not all the wrong ones.

As a younger top, I would be a 1 - cock got too sensitive when cumming. As an older rarely-top, I'm now more a 3 when I do the honour. More intense orgasm that way.

Level 4 when I hook up these days. Though, to refer to that level as being "safe" is a bit of a misnomer; there's def risk involved with anyone you have raw sex with. However, my mitigation practices is to avoid anyone with a status of "Don't Know" or "Not Sure" and anyone that gives off a weird vibe and appears reckless with his own sexual health. I accept that STI's are part of the game, and I've been proverbially stung by some in the past - but it has been a number of years since that's happened, and the previous statement is one reason behind that.

As mentioned by others above, the man attached to the big dick has a major impact on whether or not I allow him to impact me (so to speak). As far as sexual specifics go, trying to go in me sans lube is a big no-no (to guys of any size, but especially the well hung ones). If he approaches my hole wrong, I tense up and it just isn't going to happen. Big pluses go to the hung men that know how to use their contours, curvature, and length/girth to really work me over. If he starts off gentle and really opens me up, then I'm perfectly fine letting him get a little more intense as things go along. To me, size alone is no reason to refuse a guy, as I've taken one as big at 10" once. It's all about how he approaches me that makes all the difference.

I've had overcomplicated situations before apps were even a thing. I don't think this is something new; however, I do feel that it's gotten worse over time. I've come to assume that any guy chatting with me with the idea of hooking up "tonight" is mid-wank. The more detailed he gets with what we're allegedly going to do with one another, the closer I assume he's getting to busting his wad. These days, I refrain from over-scripting an encounter on the apps. Sure, we can negotiate any role playing, but I prefer that negotiation to happen face-to-face before we start playing. That being said, I'm not going to have a guy negotiate a role-play scene with me for more than just a couple minutes.

If you've seen the size of Greek men's cocks, this isn't necessarily a bad limitation to have 😄 But by and large, I'm with @ErosWired here. It's a symbol that would have to catch on for it to be truly worthwhile in the broadest sense. With the plethora of emoji's out there for various things, adding one more might just add to confusion and make some profiles that already use these even more overkill.

If attendees negotiate this directly amonst themselves, that's totally fine. I'm speaking about situations where that didn't happen (for whatever reason) and one person decides to try and go through the host. If there's not an agreement ahead of time, just err on the side of caution and not divulge.

This cannot be understated. I had a mate in the US who hosted his parties about once a month (an ideal frequency, if you ask me - I think weekly is too frequent). Each month would feature a designated cum-dump - one guy in particular proved really popular; wasn't me, but man did I pump gallons inside him. Only rarely would his parties be what he'd call a "free for all" in which there wasn't a specified bottom for the evening. Sure, some peripheral bottoming might happen when guys were waiting their turn; however, this was more along the lines of "fluffing" like they'd do in porn. The cum-dump-du-jour would be getting all the loads like the rules of the party stated. Just like you'd need a mate or two to be your eyes and ears for purposes of making sure there's no theft or craziness, these same mates can help out if some unscrupulous bottoms start hogging the attention away from a designated cum dump. End of the day, it's your party - cump dumps aren't going to trust you if their night is a bust because all the tops are allowed to bust their nuts in someone else. That being said, being a regular party host does requrie building up a good repuatation as a host. You will become the face of these events, and guys want to feel safe and relaxed at your events - otherwise, you're finished. Most of this is covered above about specific behaviours on the nights themselves. A few others I might add to ensure that your frequent events continue to be successful: - seriously, once a guy gets naked, make sure you (or your mates) get a good look at what's being presented. Don't be afraid to put a stop to a guy with any obvious, visible signs of STI infection or some other condition that might put others at risk. Sure, there's always risk of contracting stuff when barebacking is involved - but there's a big difference between a risk of something happening and a certainty. - make sure your designated cumdumps are really knowing what they're getting into and are prepared for what will happen (i.e. not showing up in front of 20 guys but too tight to take them). Also, making sure your bottom(s) are cleaned out and are reasonably not going to have any unfortunate accidents during the party. - If your cum dump is a novice, have a trusted vers buddy there as a back up. This way, if guy #1 doesn't work out, you have someone else there willing to step in and take it for the (literal) team. - anonymity is key. You'll likely get men who go to these parties for the fun of it, yet they have no interest in being identified on the outside. If you see your attendees outside of the party, I wouldn't bring it up unless you know them well enough to know that it's okay to discuss such things. - Along the same lines, if anyone from the party asks you about anyone else at the party ("hey, can you put me in contact with that hot guy with a scorpion tattoo - I want to play with him again"). Don't be tempted to give that info out. Just like the anonymity bit above, it's not your place to be matchmaker. - if there's any fetish play that's allowed to go on during the party, make sure the guys attending know this in advance. For example, if you intend to allow fisting to happen - say that to everyone who is invited. This way, if any prospective attendees are put off by that, they can politely give it a miss.

Sheer curiosity. I remember when a guy let me give him my first blowjob. Totally inexperienced and just going off of what it looked like in the porn that I'd watched. There was some gentle guiding, yes; I wouldn't say I gave him awesome head. He did take a while to cum, and at some point I did wonder what would happen if he needed to shoot while my mouth was on it. So, I asked...he said, "I can cum in your mouth if you want me to". Pretty much from that second, I knew I wanted to taste it. Took a while longer before it happened, but the moment did arrive. Remember the taste being a bit odd, but somewhat appealing. For a while, I loved blowing a guy much more than actually getting fucked. When I started regularly getting barebacked is when my swallowing frequency really dropped off, though. It happens once in a blue moon these days, but love when I get to do it. Really depends on where/how I meet the guy and what we end up doing. In the cases were I end up on top, I love when my bottom lets me blow him after I've bred him and finish him off. Nothing really beats that mutually spent feeling when you're lying next to each other catching your breath.

My bathhouse initiation was Club New Orleans back in the day. It was never the same after Katrina, though...the upper two floors withstood a ton of damage, and the year after for Decadence, the a/c wasn't working that high up meaning it was unbearably hot in the big cruisy area. They eventually did renovate it, but closed for good a few years later. Pretty sad, really; although, the busiest times were always during the big events in the city (i.e. Mardi Gras, N.O. Pride, and Decadence). When I lived in Dallas, I much preferred Midtown Spa over Club Dallas. I understand Midtown has sadly gone as well. Here in London, I never went to Chariots prior to its closing (despite literally living on the other side of the Thames from it). Pleasuredrome is meh...it was a bit so-so the few times I've been inside. If I had to take my pick, I'd go to Locker Room in Kennington....skews older crowd-wise, but it means those of us there are fully aware of the bathhouse "culture", and it's a bit more laid back than the other cruisy spots.

I love when old threads are resurrected. Interesting to see how the comments have shifted over time with new members joining, others falling away, etc. Honestly, I don't ascribe to these "top" rules; even when I'm actually doing the topping. I think any successful sexual encounter is about a mutual level of respect for the guy(s) involved. If I'm topping, yeah...I want to be in the drivers seat for the session. Not that I'm going to order you around or anything (unless that's agreed on beforehand). But the idea is that you're letting me give you that kind of pleasure. Yes, I want to play with your hole, rim your hole, and finger it (within reason). That, however, is just to get warmed up to the actual event. And based on my countless experience as a bottom, I tend to fuck guys the way I like to BE fucked by guys. So, yeah...I'm going to insert and let you guide me in however you feel comfortable. And I'm going to work through at different paces, intensity, positions, etc. All while paying attention to the feedback you're giving me. If I'm fucking you, it's about YOU; I get off getting you off, if you will. Consequently, as a bottom, I take the time to prepare for a session. Nothing chaps my ass more than getting all that work done only to be disappointed by what happens (or even IF it happens). So, yeah. I'm going to clean my flat before you come over. I'm going to have the lube out in a place that's easily visible for you to grab and use. I'm going to have a towel nearby just in case. And I insist on eye contact during a session. I want you to see how much I'm enjoying you fucking me...and give you those unspoken words to give you direction on where to go - more, faster, slower, hard, rough, intimate, etc. This is the same behaviours that I enjoy from guys who bottom for me. My only rules nowdays are to be respectful, don't break limits, don't take it too seriously, and just have fun. We can even make each other laugh for a bit, then get right back into the intensity.

I didn't use them at all for a while. Got into them more when I was a regular sauna attendee, but have recently gone off my dependence on them when bottoming. I know it's fairly prevalent with the bottoms at the saunas here - even tops carry them (which knowing how that can affect an erection is kinda disappointing). Honestly, it's all down to personal tastes. If you don't want to use them - don't. No one is going to judge you for it.

As a roleplay scenario, this is pretty fucking hot. But I would never do it outside of that context. I will say that I've started to stick to this concept of "one squirt, all squirts". Basically, a bottom has up until the moment I start shooting to say no (and I'm upfront about that before a session starts so we're both aligned). But once that first shot goes in, it's too late. If you've taken that first squirt (usually the 1st or 2nd most voluminous of them all), then you've already gotten a good portion of the load already...might as well go all the way.

I love this post. Thanks to the OP @Philip for starting this thread. I came of gay-age in the mid 1990's. HIV and AIDS were still the big elephant in the room regarding gay sex and dating. There were fishbowls full of condoms at the gay bars, and they got properly used. It was incredibly common to ask your sexual partner if they had any protection ahead of anything starting - and I remember walking away when there was an answer of "no". Too many gay men knew too many others that succumbed to the disease, so the barebacking scene was underground and/or unspoken. That prob started to change about 5 years in. It started to become easier to find "recent" bareback porn videos to watch. I always wondered what it would be like, but never really wanted to take the risk. Sure, I had a couple early instances of getting fucked raw (one really good experience, and one really NOT good one). Just didn't feel like taking that risk as there was still a huge stigma around poz guys. I didn't really start barebacking regularly until I was nearly done with college around 2005. It was with a regular fuckbuddy that used condoms previously - we didn't have one on a particular night and figured we'd just go for it. Never looked back when playing with each other. There was a risk, sure; we weren't exculusively playing with one another and had other playmates. While I might have played wrapped with my others, I didn't really ask about his practices. So, yeah...there was a risk, but thankfully nothing ended up happening. When I first started barebacking full-time, I wasn't really being all that slutty. At least not until I started attending regular bareback parties at this one guy's house. There was a small stable of us "regulars" there with the occasional newbie. Never really caught anything from them either; most guys there were UD or neg and would test regularly. Still a risk, yeah, but we mitigated it as much as possible. I didn't get super reckless until I started drug use. And sure enough, that's when things went off the rails. I was being so indiscriminate about it that it was kinda crazy. Wasn't really "chasing", but not really asking either (nor would I have probably cared either way). Some months afterwards, I wound up with a case of syphillis and converted over to being poz. Not the best experience, really...really bad night sweats, complete loss of appetite, etc. I'm lucky in that was all I'd managed to contract, though. These days, despite my profile name on here, I try and be really careful about playing bareback. A big part of that is just because my views on sex have changed the last couple years (I made a separate long post about this some months back); but also, I'm not really interested in taking chances with another guy that appears to be reckless about his own status - namely, the guys on the apps who have "not sure" or "don't care" in that box. I have played, and yes there's still further risks involved, but I've managed to avoid any other nasty bugs over the years as a result. If the last few years of COVID and MPX has made me realise anything, it's that I'm not willing to put my health in danger for an experience of potentially questionable quality that I'm going to regret.

I've had the listen over voice call before. Though, the guy didn't offer to pay me for it...(not that it would have made a difference; it was a "no" regardless). Don't get me wrong, if I happen across hearing natural sex sounds, I'd be really turned on. But part of that thrill is the fact that the couple is unaware that I've stumbled upon them in their natural fullest. The minute there's an agreement for me to "watch", it becomes a bit too much of play-to-the-camera type porn which just seems unrealistic.

So, I've heard of these cuddle events. I'll be honest, if I'm in the mood for just that, then I'd go. But if I'm at the saunas, this is the last thing I'm willing to settle on. This convo is going on at just the right time. I went to one of my local saunas last night - was relatively slower than usual, but I still got some action. Ended up having quite a good session with a guy; went on for a while. Figuring that things would have largely died down toward the end, I didn't think I'd get any other play for the night after we were finished. He asked me if I'd cum in his mouth - agreed to only on the provision that he kiss it back to me and that I'd be too tight for more fucking after that. He agreed...finished fucking and loading me, then we did the afterplay to get me to cum. Actually was a great finish to the night. Had the sex not been good, I'd have just tapped out at some stage; however, I felt the need to reward my top for a good fuck of the night. 🙂