SissyKink

That's because bears have a stereotype that even those who are just experimenting as a bottom will always think that a heavier set guy will only top lol. When I'm cruising, I can usually tell the difference by how they look. The ones that have a 'soft', sheepish face, or sometimes babyfaced are most-likely versatile or straight-bottoms. The ones with a more assertive "manly" look are the mascs who will top. I will bottom for a less-masc bear who eyes me in an adult theater though since even if they do want to 'switch' they know I won't do it lol. Its not 100% accurate, but it has worked for me so far.

Well yeah if I'm wearing tight clothing to an adult theater, tops know they have a strong possibility of dumping their load in me. If I want to have quickie sex with the guy slowly stroking his cock a couple of benches away from me, I'll make my way next to him and sit at the very edge of the seat with my knees pointed towards him which means my next move is on my knees. I do tend to fag it up a slight bit more than I would if I wore regular clothes, yet tops still sense that I'm a bottom even if I don't express myself that way and just act like a lurker. Even if I'm at a gas station with no intentions of hooking up with men, I still catch a few looking at me like they're wanting to fuck me. Its always the older ones too which is okay since I bottom for older bears. I know I shouldn't question it this much, especially for something like NSA, but I get horny thinking about how (masc) men can get a hint of "fem" qualities in me when I'm not cruising. Unless I've just got that natural sexual attraction thing that certain tops instinctively know that I would most-likely at least give them a blowjob. I'm at that point where I'm being turned on by (masc) top mens' raw sexual nature that consists of groping, poking, prodding, and penetrating their cocks into anything that accurately appears "feminine" to them; rather than just liking the sex.

I have a question for older tops (35+) who cruise for bottoms in places such as adult theaters, arcade booths, hotel swimming pool, sauna, slightly empty rest areas, etc. How do you know that a guy you're eyeballing and wanting to fuck is a willing bottom? And, how do you sense feminine qualities in these guys even if they're wearing normal clothes? When I cruise for cock its like the men instinctively know I'm there to suck cock. In a crowded theater, men would either approach me in a dominant manner, pinch my ass when walking past me, or sit next to me and fondle my legs. When I approach a guy there has never been that awkward moment where both of us get on our knees. Its like he was expecting me to put his cock in my mouth. When I cruise for cock at the small arcade booths, the top guys bunched along the ramp next to the arcade would give me room to walk into a booth knowing what I was there for. Sometimes when I cruise, I do make it obvious what I'm there for by wearing a tight t-shirt that shows my natural gyno breasts, and black tights that outlines my ass and legs. Plus I completely shave my whole body. But there are other times when I just wear track pants and a regular t-shirt and still men can sense a potential hole to fuck. While I do consider myself to be 'fem' based on how I am sexually with men, I'm not a Bailey Jay and I don't regularly CD unless I'm hooking up with a top who wants that, or teasing on cam. Even when I was real young, my friend (who later came out gay) and we would get fondled, groped, and dry humped convincingly by other boys in the hallway at school. I'm just curious if (masc) top men just subconsciously know what qualities in other guys makes them a bottom, or is it just based on instant sexual attraction with hopes of the guy they're seducing is a bottom (whether looking or not).

I accepted my role as a cum dumpster when I first had NSA with a guy and naturally assumed my role as a (non-recip) bottom.

More like "never underestimate the power of your mouth" lol. How my bottom pussy gets fucked is determined by how good I suck his cock. When I put his cock in my mouth and gently stroke it until it gets hard I take control of his load. While I suck his hard cock I'll also work his balls, his shaft, and I'll have my hands on his waist and pull him back and forth signaling for a deepthroat then I'll move my hands to his thighs while sucking him. If he begins to caress my shoulders, move his hands around my head in a pleasured state, and call me baby names like "good job baby" "god you suck good dick" I know I will get fucked real good right when I begin to taste his pre-cum. And this is usually with random men I encounter at adult theaters who are usually just interested in busting a load. My fuck hole is just for him to stick his cock in. Its how he does it that counts.

I wasn't molested by a grown man, but I was groped several times by 3 boys when I was really young. One of them even told me he'd get me pregnant lol. I also almost got penetrated by a friend after teasing him and 2 cousins would take my pants and shirt off and rub my legs and waist. Given all that plus wearing my mom's dresses and heels at night, it was pretty much clear where I could be headed. Its amazing how femininity can be pointed out by masculine boys at that age. I'm pretty certain that early experiences whether it'd be molestation by adult or same age males, and other experiences, makes having sex with men easier and the feeling of being in "her" position is more natural. Being molested, touched inappropriately etc etc is like a calling card for bottoms. So for any guys fantasizing about m4m sex and think it'd be soo fun to be a bottom, it'll be harder for you to let men penetrate you and stick cock in your mouth, if you didn't have these things done to you.

I've been flaked on through Craigslist before. I used to get irritated until I realized that m4m sex isn't for everybody and those who flaked probably had second thoughts. That or they found another guy.

I've sucked cock with a condom only once. I even put it on him while giving him head. Since then I've put bare cock in my mouth. He feels it better and I taste precum. Plus cock just tastes really good even if its like unflavored meat

I tried A4A, along with other sex apps. Its good for generic hookups but isn't good when looking for real men. But if you just want quickies then its as good as the others. Plus there's more serious guys there too than others

You're talking in terms of marriage. OP is a sex pig orphan. Its normal for marriages to go slow with kinks and taboos and what not. Sex pig ownership or partnerships have an understanding and it wouldn't be out of the ordinary for a top owner to challenge his adopted sex pig's willingness to adapt to his pace. Also, a bottom with those strong levels of kinky fantasies are not too different than a top of equal tastes. There may be a few things that the top likes such as hogtying or S&M but OP can adapt to his kinks. Compromise is a factor too so in the event that OP is eager to be in a gangbang but has second thoughts because 3 men in the group greatly vary from OP's tastes, he could either not go through with it and lose his chance to finally perform raunchy sex acts for his top owner, he could go through with it but disappoint his top by intentionally not giving his fuck holes to them which would make him a disowned sex pig, or he could use an ace card substance and perform successfully while being numb to those 3 men. Sadly, tho, OP has oversexualized himself and is now too extreme for "taboo" tops. Reducing his sexual preferences all around is like throwing away years of sexual self-development. There was a time when bottoms struggled to keep up with tops. Back in the day, bottoms like OP would be offered money by underground sex club owners and other m4m sex groups. Now highly sexed bottoms like OP have to tone down their kink levels because real tops have disappeared. So unreal! Marriage is so much easier and makes more sense.

By NSA lifestyle I don't mean cruising adult theaters, servicing truckers, and answering sex ads. I'm talking about the types of sexually beneficial relationships that this activity leads to if you follow the horny brick road of seeking an "owner" in the form of sex pig, sex slave, and dom/sub "partnerships." My first time having sex with another man was with a trucker at a truckstop. NSA encounters have been the only way I've gotten cock from men. As I became more and more comfortable with my role as a bottom I looked for sex clubs online and came across this site that is dedicated to the raw nature of m4m sex. As I scrolled through the site I came across a classified section for sex pigs. I immediately became intrigued and was excited at the idea of performing my kinks for a top. My idea of a relationship with a top is not being boyfriend and "girlfriend" but being his bottom pig in a relationship based on ownership and mutual sex tastes. A typical date night would be me and him in a hotel where I'm kneeling in front of his cock....but also surrounded by a handful of other men. I also feminized myself psychologically to complement my physical feminine attributes. I also cross dress to complete the fem process for just in case a top likes for his pig to dress up for him. Fast forward to now I completely changed a simple but degrading hobby into a total sexual and lifestyle change and did it with no hesitation. I didn't know that these types of "partnerships" started to fade away along with the tops that looked for sex pigs, slaves, or subs. Now I'm overly sexualized and have really strong fantasies with no equal or more explicit top to perform them to. I am not the only hyper sexed bottom, and there are others who are more sexually charged. The simple answer would be to go back to cruising at adult bookstores and get my fix there, but I've evolved (or willingly degraded myself) that I need something more. I don't regret going through the process of preparing myself for a new lifestyle, but I'm stuck with no way to move forward. So is going past the NSA cruise scene and seeking those kinds of partnerships worth it for new bottoms coming into the scene? Most will stay in the cruising scene which is okay, but others who are destined to push their sexual limits won't have a compatible top to adopt, own or be their master due to a shortage in (real) tops. I know there are aggressive tops here, but the entire group is out numbered by more sexual and more eager bottoms who are self-taught and create their own form of fantasy. Should these bottoms go through that process of enhancing their sexuality and scoop up the few remaining masculine tops, or should they wait until the rest of the tops convert to versatilism and see how they handle untrained and hyper sexed bottoms along with the different approaches to being a "top" that bottom and top versatile each bring?