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I’m letting a young Japanese friend stay at my place for two months till he returns to Japan when his 1 year visa expires. I met him through Grindr 10 months ago within a day of him arriving in the country. Within 24 hours he’d bred me three times so I’ve been pleased to have him as a fuck buddy over the year. He was 24 years old when I met him, shy and with limited English and I felt a kind of fatherly concern for him and helped him to find a place to live and a job and helped him to enjoy himself in a strange land. It has been great to see him grow in confidence, improve his English and find friends and a succession of boyfriends. It is sad to see his time coming to an end. In these final weeks we’re sharing a bed again which is nice. He has what he calls a boyfriend but I’d characterise more as a friend with benefits, so he slips off to him occasionally, can’t really call him a fuckbuddy as I understand they don’t fuck). He struggles to take my BWC so I only get to top him occasionally (I wish he’d let me teach him to take a thick cock more willingly, it would be a handy skill to return to Japan with) and I mainly suck and rim him then let him fuck me. He’s bred me a couple times in last few days.

I just had my first visit to Phuket having previously been to Bangkok a dozen times and once each to Chiang Rai, Chiang Mai and Pattaya. I stayed at Kamala Beach one night and the other 7 nights at Patong. Although I fucked every day I think it was a mistake tourism-wise to have stayed at Patong so long, I found Phuket town much more interesting but it was a 30+ minute hair-raising motorcycle taxi ride away. Sex wise it was easy to find fucks in Patong. Although I had much the same experience in Bangkok. I used Grindr and Hornet with equal luck on both. BBRTS didn’t yield anything. Most guys did bareback. One guy who insisted I on a condom was happy to bareback a second time we hooked up without even raising the topic. I didn’t want to pay for sex. This was a problem in Patong especially as my hotel was in the heart of the gay area which mainly involved sex-for-pay whether on the apps or at massage parlours, clubs or bars. I tried to screen out money boys with a ‘no MB’ on my app but it was a constant battle to the satisfaction of neither party. I was happy to pay token travel money in a few cases. Guys looking for paid sex will have a good time in Patong but it is back to Bangkok for me next time.

On Phuket I stayed at the huge Royal Paradise Hotel in the tower block. No key card was required for the lift so could get guys up to the room no fuss. Most local Thai seem reluctant to come directly to the room and I met outside although one breezed in. Probably different for money boys (I wasn’t paying) who may have more confidence. The hotel room could have been used for an anonymous-type hook up although I just used it for regular hookups.

Just missed you, arrived later in March.

On holiday in a beachside city. Had been bred previous evening in a hotel in a nearby beach but had just checked into the hotel I was to spend a week of vacation. Checked Grindr and was contacted by a guy who sent multiple photos leaving no doubt he was into barebacking. He was local, not a tourist, and mentioned he had a shop nearby where he sold beachwear and sexy underwear and fashionable clothes. While he was happy to come to my hotel suite I had a fantasy of fucking in the shop and he was obliging. Five minutes later I was walking into his shop, a customer left and he locked the door and put up the closed sign. My fantasy would have had us fuck near the picture window but reality, almost as good, had us climb stairs to his living quarters. When we chatted he mentioned he had previously had staff working on this level but moved them elsewhere so that he could more easily hook up with guys there. A slut after my own heart putting ass before profit. He had a practised routine and a special mattress close to hand was quickly in place on the floor and after some hot kissing and sucking I was soon on my back naked having my ass stretched before taking a big load. Took several videos as holiday souvenirs.

After a long flight arrived at my Phuket hotel about 9pm. Had a guy off Grindr there in 30 minutes breeding my hole. That should help with the jet lag.

I wish more tops would tell me specifically how they perceive my asshole when they’re fucking me as when they do it gives me a real buzz that is better than the encouragement I get from an ‘oh, yes’, ‘fuck that’s good’ or whatever. I don’t know why it’s good to hear it but know I’ve liked hearing it’s warm, tight or, yesterday, that it’s smooth. Sometimes, I’ll squeeze on the inward thrust and am not always sure how the top perceives or appreciates this if they don’t say - years ago I assumed guys would like it until a guy with an especially large cock told me to stop as it was making me too tight (having a thick cock myself I came better to understand this in later years). So I sometimes ask tops whether they like this but often don’t hear what they reply if they reply at all, as they’re often in a kind of focused trance. when I top I know I perceive guys’ holes differently. But I think it has to do as much with my own mood and hardness. I’ve become a little wary of telling bottoms after a bad experience with one fuck buddy when I messaged him to postpone a hookup as I would not be hard enough for his tight hole as I’d just come. The message was meant kindly, and I know of other guys being pleased to be told their hole is tight, but he described me as treating his body like a piece of meat. I admit my communication skills in email often come over as a bit cold but I was really upset that I had caused such offence at such a description (standing him up also annoyed him, but that was why I was messaging him in advance, but in the end I think I realised I had been a bit of a jerk).

These examples of hook ups that are set up then ghosted are so depressingly familiar. They drive me off the apps for a time, although I always go back. I’ve enjoyed reading these posts as these always leaves me wondering about the motivations (and vowing to be less gullible). Since we are unlikely to hear directly from these losers (or not believe them), perhaps some buddy of a serial time-wasting ghoster will reveal what’s going on some day!

I remember hunting through Penthouse magazines, and H&E nudist mags, at a secondhand bookstore when I was about 16 looking for pictures of cocks. I’d only buy the Penthouse magazines, and I got quite a stash, as I could pass them off as straight. They’d occasionally have raunchy letters having a bisexual theme or describing some young guy to get me off. Proper gay porn I only saw when I was about 26 by importing videotapes by mail order from the Netherlands. Boys in the Sand was one of my favourites.

Trip to the sauna looked like it was going to be a write off when suddenly things turned around. I’d been there an hour with only a bit of sucking when I get a soft cock poking through the glory hole. It was quite a mouthful and when it was hard I could see its mushroom head made it even wider. When I judged the time was right I removed my lips and lined my asshole across the gloryhole. After a bit of delay, I think to lube his cock, I was feeling his delicious girthy meat squeeze and force its way into my hole. It was a great fuck but no load. Next I was in the steam room. Only one guy there so I made my moved and touched his leg. No resistance so I moved in with hands and mouth. Another large cock, this one attached to a hot brown young guy, Latino or Asian I couldn’t quite tell in the semi-darkness. After sucking him I asked if he’d like to fuck. With his yes I moved onto his lap and eased his thick cock into me. i took a pass out for a meal and returned 3 hours later. This time the action moved upstairs to the private rooms. I was groping and sucking an older gentleman with a big cock when a younger Asian guy coaxed us both into a private room. He was determined to get fucked by the gentleman’s thick cock and my own. I was dismayed when he insisted that we wear condoms but went along to be accommodating. After we,d nothing fucked him I encouraged the old guy to fuck me which caused the Asian guy to leave for some reason. After he’d fucked me with a condom I asked him to go raw which he was keen to do. It was good to take the big raw cock. He asked if he could cum and I told him I wanted his load which I duly received.

Probably too late for your trip but I’ve had most success with Grindr and Hornet. Also some use of BBRTS.

I’ve had DoxyPEP for 4 months now, and learning to use it in a way that seems appropriate to me I.e. that follows the instructions I’ve been given and that doesn’t overuse it. What has worked really well has been where I have sex on Friday-Sunday and I take the meds on Monday. That has naturally worked several times and occasionally I’ve gone out hunting for another hookup to make a three day stretch! What I’ve found most difficult in respect to aligning DoxyPEP use to higher risk sex is where I’ve just had a single sucking session with no cumming in my mouth. I realise I can get STIs from sucking (and have in the past) but haven’t bothered to take DoxyPEP. I worry that maybe I’m being too restrictive and perhaps I should take it every time. I wonder what guys that are more experienced with DoxyPEP think.

Took a friend for a 3 day road trip. I made the accomodation bookings which all featured one double bed. First night settled for rimming him, sucking him off and swallowing his cum. Second night he fucked and bred me mumbling something about a boyfriend.

I went to the same session, it was sure busy. I did better than usual topping 6 times, bottoming 5 times, and taking one load. I did best this time on the fuck bench in one of the dark rooms which goes in waves being packed for 10 minutes with a changing cast of 10 or 12 guys to being empty for 10 minutes then busy again. I found that if there was only one guy there bent over I could fuck him for a minute or two and soon the room was buzzing again and I could pause from topping, let someone else have a turn on the guy I was fucking and I could crouch up on the fuck bench alongside to get my hole fucked. My best stretch that afternoon was feeling 3 guys’ cocks entering in turns and pounding me - I never saw who they were but could only guess their height by whether they wanted my ass higher or lower. One left his load in me.

I’m visiting another city and contacted a couple of past Grindr hookups in advance saying I’d be in town. Both were interested but as I only had one night in town I’d have some juggling of time slots to do. One guy was a ‘discreet’ type easily scared away but with a good cock and body I didn’t want to miss out on, the other guy was one of my all time favourites and had to have priority. Both were going to top me I thought. Last night was my night in town. I unexpectedly became available earlier than expected and eventually arranged to be at the first guys home at 7pm, the other guy was arranged to come to my hotel after 9pm. While driving to the hookup the second guy messaged me at Grindr asking room number and I had to say I was temporarily unavailable which led to a playful exchange where he wanted to know cock size of the guy fucking me etc. I got to first guys place 5 minutes later and we were soon naked. After I’d sucked him hard he started fucking me raw with my legs in air after which we switched and I fucked him in the same position. He screamed a bit when the cock first went in as my cock is pretty thick but he settled down in a minute or two. I’d told him I wanted to rim so he had me rim him then. At his request I alternated between rimming then shoving my cock in and ramming for a minute or two before rimming again. He was in ecstasy. We then switched to him fucking me doggy them me fucking him doggy. However by this stage he was flagging and so we called it a day, neither of us having come, but I was happy to save something for my next hookup. As I stepped back in my car I checked a message on Grindr. The second guy said that he was close by and instead of coming to my hotel downtown why didn’t I stop by for a quickie.it turned out he lived in the next street. He shared his apartment with two other guys so I was fairly quiet as he let me into his somewhat darkened room. He was also an Asian guy, but very short, really fit with a smallish cock. He’d earlier messaged to say he wanted me to suck him really hard so that’s where I started. Then he was pounding me with my legs in the air which he continued to do for a long time. I could feel his legs which were rock hard as he is really fit. He kept saying how much he loved my hole which was great feedback as his cock was quite thin and the other guy had been stretching my hole minutes before. He said he was close to cumming but hoped to go longer as he was enjoying it so much. So he kept going but then rammed a big load as deep inside me as his cock would reach.

I think a minimum of 5. But it has to be 5 active participants, I don’t think someone who just watches can be part of the quorum. I agree with others that if there’s just one bottom with 4 tops fucking him that is a gangbang and not strictly an orgy. Qualitatively, I think there needs to be some interchange not necessarily involving everyone but at least some crossover. What I mean is if three couples are in the same room just fucking their own partner that doesn’t seem like an orgy to me. There needs at the very least to be some caressing of a non-partner, so it has a group activity vibe.

It’s funny how hormones and fantasies work but for me it was, ironically, a girl who aroused my gay interest. I still don’t really know how that works. It was Kristy McNichol in the series Family from 1976. Funny I have no recollection of the show but can still recall her as a ‘tomboy’. I could imagine her as a boy and have little doubt I may have jerked off to her image in my head. I actually can’t recall any male celebrities I lusted over at the time though I knew I was gay.

I took 64 loads in my ass in 2024, a record for me (2 more than the previous year). I deposited 8 loads in other guys’ asses, my best in years but well down on 28 loads in 2019. I took 6 loads in my mouth, not very many perhaps but still a record for me, beating the 4 loads of the previous year.

I started this post 4 years ago and had hardly ever rimmed in my life, only a few times, and had not been rimmed by other guys that often either. I since found that I really enjoyed it and rimmed 20 guys last year. I prefer to rim, rather than be rimmed, it’s the thrill of giving pleasure to a partner in the most intimate way.

Urban Dictionary describes a ‘flake’ essentially as someone who promises to hang out with you and then cancels at the last minute. We’ve all experienced that on the apps and it can be infuriating especially if you’ve invested effort in preparation, forgone other opportunities and are really looking forward to it. However, ‘flake’ doesn’t quite do justice to some of the bad behaviour sometimes encountered and I wondered if there is a better word to describe these guys. First of all, many don’t cancel they agree to hook up and then merely block you. I guess that is ghosting although since they’ve agreed to meet up that label is insufficient too. Last night I was a 5 minute walk from a bottom who‘d agreed to be fucked, he gave me the street address but blocked me 2 minutes away. I think he was just nervous and I shrugged and headed home but it has happened before. Once when a guy in an apartment block was watching from somewhere to decide if he liked my look in person. Another time it was some kind of prank and I was sent to someone else’s address (I realised when the elevator was locked and the person sending detailed and real time instructions had no advice then blocked). It seems too generous to call some of these guys ‘flakes’, which is a term better applied to an unreliable friend who remains a friend notwithstanding the unreliability, but they seem to fall into a more callous or even cruel category.

I was in the steam room at the bathhouse and there were a couple of guys sitting and a stream of pretty young things stepping inside and heading back out. Eventually it quietened and a noticed a guy who had been sitting for quite some time quietly hunched in a corner, body language indicating unavailability. Suddenly and unexpectedly he got up moved across the quite large and near empty steam room and lay on his back on the tiered bench just above me. He had his towel wrapped about him and had his hands over his cock, still body language discouraging contact. I waited a minute or two and tentatively touched his nipples and chest, in my position I couldn’t reach much else. He didn’t really react but didn’t flinch or push me away so that was a good start. I could now see that he was a fit muscular young Chinese guy with smooth pale skin and a nice face and body. I moved and kneeled up so that I could better caress him and suck his nipple and he moved his hands and towel giving me access to his cock. What a beauty. Big and thick. But as I made it hard the most distinctive feature became clearer. The head of his already reasonably thick cock was even bigger. I have sucked thousands of cocks and have heard the expression mushroom head but have never seen anything like this. It was really attractive to look at and not ugly despite it’s slightly unusual proportions. It seemed to be nearly a centimetre wider than the shaft around the head. It was a delight to have in my mouth and savour. In addition to sucking his cock I managed to rim him although the way he was lying didn’t allow much of that. I had been in the steam room a long time was was pretty hot and I asked him if he’d like to go to a room and fuck. He said he wanted to stay a while longer. Awkward. He then said he was a top, more promising, and I said that was good. He probably saw my hard cock and having rimmed him though I was top, but actually I’m versatile. He still hadn’t touched my cock or done any reciprocation which was less promising but is sometimes usual behaviour for sexy young guys . I stepped out of the steam room, quickly showered and waited by the steam room door. Eventually he emerged and without acknowledgment raced away. Disappointed I still followed and saw him go in a gloryhole booth so I took the next one. I coaxed him to drop his towel and pulled his cock into my mouth. When suitably hard I put my lubed asshole to the gloryhole, waited, and the dome tentative pushing. He was in and starting to thrust. After a minute or two he withdrew and asked me through the hole my status. I told him negative and in PrEP and we started fucking again. Within a couple of minutes he stopped and I discovered he’d deposited a large load.

It’s happened to me occasionally, of course. What I’ve learned is that how the top reacts makes a big difference to pleasure and self-esteem. It’s probably happened many times I care not to recall but I do remember a time with two young guys in my hotel room in Santiago, Chile, the guy just stopped and we dealt with it with no fuss and reassurance and we all started again. For such a young guy he was really compassionate and respectful. I’ve had similar matter of fact responses in Thailand. These young guys seemed quite in touch with the realities of their bodies and were careful not to shame or embarrass the people they were intimate with.

Grindr remains my mainstay app but I have found very little action locally in the last 6 months. I have a few theories why but really aren’t sure. I may becoming unattractive, perhaps beards are no longer sexy. The local pool is saturated, guys who see me online have seen me before and skip past, maybe I need to change profile somehow. Users have applied more filters. On the other hand I get plenty of sex on Grindr when I travel. So I tend to think all the local guys have already fucked me if they want to. I must go somewhere to be fresh meat. I also use BBRTS which I like but it is very dependent on location. Lots of users in my city but very few in other cities in my country. Overseas seems to be the same, there are BBRTS hotspots surrounded by deserts. In Asia I do ok on Grindr usually but also use Hornet which is strong in some Asian countries. There are other Asian apps that are strong locally but generally they confuse me with their idiosyncratic layouts and features. Even Hornet is confusing when many features I don’t understand but I do ok getting sex on it so I understand enough.

Went to the sauna yesterday and took two loads which wasn’t bad as it was dead quiet as I think guys had gone early for holidays. The first load came from a white guy when I was in a glory hole booth. He arrived in next booth and I started sucking his soft cock and it took ages but got harder and bigger. We switched and he sucked my already hard cock and then switched back. I was sucking again and he started gently thrusting his cock in and out. I took this as a signal and moved my already lubed asshole up to the gloryhole. He pushed his cock in. At last, a warm thick raw cock in my hole, something I’d been needing for more than an hour in the bathhouse. He fucked for a while but kept pulling out and sometimes using his fingers which I don’t like. He giant seem to be able to get the angle right. Eventually he left the booth, disappointment until he tapped on my door. I let his in the small booth and soon he was fucking twice as fast and with hard deep thrusts. Soon he was panting as he pumped his load in my hole. As it was quiet I tried the sling, no luck, then later the reverse gloryhole, where you enter a small room and lie on your back, legs in the air which your ass poking out a gap where guys can come along and fuck you but don’t see your body other than the ass. No meaningful action but a couple of guys touched my ass. One guy stopped and was trying to prepare to fuck me. He was having trouble getting hard so I reached down and tried to jerk him hard. His cock never go fully hard and felt like it was no more than 3 inches long. In any case he gave up. Later I was in the corridor and a fairly old black guy started chatting to me, I asked if he’d like to fuck me and we slipped into a room. I saw his cock and could tell straight away it was the 3” from before. No matter I take all comers. He asked me to suck him hard and I set to work, it took quite a while and I was amazed at the transformation. Once it started to swell it got bigger and thicker and I has a shiny black cut 7” cock ready to impale me. He fucked me standing from behind then on my back, legs in the air, before he shot his load in me.

Grindr, BBRTS and Hornet. Grindr is my mainstay while BBRTS is quite active in my area. I recently paid for Hornet which is quiet where quite active in some Asian jurisdictions (Bali, Thailand) where I’ve travelled. It was a toss up paying for Hornet but the advertisements were driving me mad and almost losing hookups as I would be held up in mid chat.