Hey hot men, thank you for all of your responses, your support and advice. I will try to answer all your questions here in this one response. Do I take the initiative? Yes most of the time. If I just log in and wait for someone to contact me first, I will be in my grave before I get any responses! LOL! Most of the times that I do chat or get a person to play is when I have started the conversation first. I live in the heart of the city and would love to go to the baths here but unfortunately the bathhouse that Austin had closed and as far as I can see no plans for another one. I find it shocking that the capital of the state of Tx, one of the 4 major cities in Tx does not have a bathhouse. So you guys that have local access to one are quite lucky. The bar scene here in Austin, well to me ,is less than desired as well. Overall Austin has approx 4 to 5 gay bars. They are all pretty much designated to certain jaundras. One is a bear/so called leather bar, the other a twink bar, one is a drag bar, and one where daddies go to pick up little boys. All but one are located in the downtown area of Austin where parking is so very hard to find. You can drive around for an hour trying to get a parking spot. Eventually you get frustrated and give up. The one bar that was loved by most Hot barebacking leather masculine men closed 5 years ago and left a giant void for socialization for many gay men. It was easy to find, good parking and was always packed with hot men and I never had a problem finding fun. So over the years things have really changed as I guess it has in every city. I try to keep my profile fresh and updated most of the time, swapping out pics, rewording , editing but that seems to make no difference either. When I lived in Dallas, I never had a problem I could have had fun 3 or 4 times a day if I wanted. But thanks for all of your replies. Location is everything apparently!