but it is part of the SEXUALISED identity…one can never escape, with few exceptions, the association of race with certain stereotypes…yes, we’re LGBTQ, and we’ve been stereotyped all our lives, and we should know better…there are some who’ve been guilty, moi même, of the bbc phenomenon, and not seeing people as entities. People have said …you top? Yeah, occasionally…But you shave your chest…Nope…
as far as expressing a preference racially, yeah it’s annoying…am I going to change their opinion of my suitability? Depends on how much I have invested in this situation.
I see this as less problematic, because it’s someone presenting their sexuality as ‘fem sissy’, and not having their partner defining this person…that’s probably not something I have described myself as, but more power to this person.