I certainly find it helps if there is some bareback porn on too. It's definitely some kind of mental block and I have to find ways of unlocking. The problem is I start fucking with the expectation that I'm not going to shoot properly and that doesn't help.
One of my recent fucks that wasn't quite as tortured was with an older bottom, not usually my type, but I almost shot when he sucked me - and that was unusual. Most bottoms aren't great at oral - he was great. Then I slid into him and I came sooner than usual. It was almost public as it was near a window in a tower block in Manchester, technically Salford,- but the dawn was rising so there wasn't anyone about. I suppose the risk was there.