How to enjoy bottoming?

[topstud127]

How to enjoy bottoming. Not just taking the dick or being glad someone's pounding you, but to really connect your mind and body and get lost in euphoria.... how do you? I can do it topping but bottoming, its great when my prostate is getting teased but general strokes feel... disconnected.

Edited September 28, 2017 by topstud127

[Guest KptNLine]

Not sure what you are asking here...it sounds like you're asking how to maximize the pleasure you experience when you're bottoming. What do you mean by the "strokes" (I assume you mean a Man thrusting in and out of you) feeling "disconnected"?

[theplayerking]

You touched upon the fact that bottoming is psychological. You have to get into the idea of being filled by a man. 

[rede4it]

There is a very real possibility you simply do not like to bottom.   I know a good number of guys who just do not like it.  Yeah, prostrate stimulation can feel good but that is a near "auto-response".....not much you can do about it. 

If you are good with that, then just enjoy being a top.  If you have some desire to really be vers or simply bottom from time to time, then I would suggest it is much more in your head than in your ass.    If you can accept that your brain is your largest sex organ, getting your body and mind in sync can be difficult.

While I am very much a bottom, I have resumed topping a bit.   For much of the past 3 decades I have only been a bottom.   My head and body were in full alignment and I enthusiastically enjoyed getting my ass fucked.   When I topped, I never felt much...yeah the automatic stuff happened...but it never felt really satisfying.   As a result, the poor bottom never got a first class effort.  At the most basic level, my head was still wanting to get my ass fucked, when my dick was buried balls deep.  No alignment-----no fun.

Fast forward and in conjunction with converting, I seemed to have a desire.  For the first time, my head and body were synced up when topping.  No doubt, the realization of what it means to top as a POZ man was the missing mental piece.  Once that was in place, alignment was easy.

I still much rather take dick thank give it.   But in the right circumstance, the stars align and all is good.

Perhaps one place to start is reading the book HOW TO BOTTOM LIKE A PORNSTAR.  Kind of goofy...but it may be a way to start training your brain to think like a bottom.....and stop think like a top with a dick up his ass.

[Anonversecuck]

Wishing you luck. The few times I did bottom, it was extremely hot just being on the receiving end. Being used like a bitch is what does it for me. 

[topstud127]

You guys hit the nail right on the head... aligning my brain with my hole... I’ll check out the book, any other suggestions or personal tips?

 

Ive previously had luck with tantric breathing and channeling my thoughts/energy but no dice when bottoming. 

Edited September 29, 2017 by topstud127

[NLbear]

At least you can take dick, not everyone can or wants to. Now it's 'just' enjoying it too. Getting your prostate worked over certainly helps but it takes a skilled top to make me pre-cum and shooting my load handsfree doing that. Doesn't always happen and actually I only have one fuckbud who does it to me every single time he fucks me (which is why he is my fav and FB I guess). I love the feeling of a dick popping me open and sliding in and out, pumping my hole and going balls deep. Hearing and feeling his balls slapping me is a major turn-on. I don't know HOW you can make yourself enjoying that to the extend that you get pleasure out of it though. I concentrate on the feeling of having that dick inside and what the top does with my hole and I follow his lead (I don't just lay there like a sack of sand). If he's very good he can reduce me to a shivering drooling mess fucking me. But even if he's less skilled I just enjoy the feeling of having him inside and knowing he's going to blow and fill me up. I move my ass to get the most out of his dick, milking him. This is why I like long fucks and not so much a 2 minute pump-and-go (although that is perfectly fine in a group setting or BH).

Maybe the book helps, I haven't read it. But I do hope you start enjoying it more than you do now!

[CumBustion]

Bottoming is not just an act, it is a lifestyle. True pleasure comes from feeling that connection with a top, like his dick is deep in you and tapping into your very being. When he releases his essence in you, he's giving you his very being, his DNA. When in a threesome or gangbang, just the thought of just me being able to completely satisfy multiple guys fires me up! 

Don't just concentrate on the physical act of fuckng or the sex will be mechanical. You want to fuck him soooo good that he's thinking of your sweet ass weeks after he blew his load all up your fuckhole.

[NLbear]

20 minutes ago, CumBustion said:

Don't just concentrate on the physical act of fuckng or the sex will be mechanical. You want to fuck him soooo good that he's thinking of your sweet ass weeks after he blew his load all up your fuckhole.

Amen!

[hungry_hole]

On 9/28/2017 at 1:18 PM, topstud127 said:

How to enjoy bottoming.

For me to enjoy bottoming I need to

1. Have a clean hole so the top can go deep without accidents and I don't have to be worried. I can't enjoy bottoming unless my hole is clean.
2. Have control over my hole so I can easily relax it or tighten up, depending on what the top needs at the moment. For instance, when the top starts to shoot and his cock is very sensitive, I like to relax my hole and let the top go deeper if he needs more friction. I don't like it when the top pulls out before he's unloaded all his juices.
3. I connect with the top by talking dirty to him instead of screaming like a girl. I like encouraging him to first plow my hole and then to breed me: "Your cock feels so good!", "Go deep when you shoot your load". What sometimes sets off the top and he quickly shoots his load is when I tell him "Let me know when you gonna shoot so I can open up my hole to receive your load". Some say "I'm not cumming yet" to whom I tell them that there's no rush, just for them to know where the load will go. But others start shooting almost immediately.

 

[BottomKink]

If you have to ask that question, then being a bottom is not for you. Bottoms are born into that role. When they discover their attraction to other men and fantasize about sex they subconsciously assume the role of a bottom. Being penetrated by men is not something you should force yourself to do because you could feel guilt, shame, or confused. Sometimes its best to leave it as a fantasy if you have second thoughts. But you've slept with men before as a top so experimenting as a bottom shouldn't be so daunting on you. Acknowledge it as an experience and move on. Lots of tops criss-cross to see what its like. Sometimes they like it, sometimes they don't. Not the end of the world!

[Ozpig]

Bottoming is not only a lifestyle for true sluts it becomes your life. You become totsally addicted to cock and you cannot do without it. I know I start howling for cock after a day without it. The feeling of complete contentment I get when men are fucking me is huge and my brain and my butt are intricately connected. I am just so grateful every time I get fucked.

[evilqueerpig]

For me, it's not just the cock but the man.