When your top/bottom can't perform.

[topstud127]

How do you respond when your top has an issue keeping a firm erection?

This tend to happens as I commonly go for guys in their early 50s. If they bottom, no problem. Tops, if its a first time hook up with not much pre planning or chatting there won't be a second time. If its a long term bud or someone I know a bit better, I'll take the top bunk. In my head, I've knocked them down a few pegs on the fuck bud list. I have one guy that I'm seeing next week and  I plan to mention it and will provide a Cialis or Viagra if he's comfortable with it. He was a great tight when I first got to know him. Good size, passionate, connected, but can't keep wood these days so I end up topping or limited his top time and then flip him over.

Messy bottoms: unless we hit it off really well, there won't be a second time.  I'll normally rinse off and excuse myself. Later on in the relationship, once or twice, no biggy, go clean up and we'll finish another way. If it consistently happens, I demote or remove people down my mental fuck bud hierarchy. One guy I don't see anymore because he's made a mess and shown that he doesn't clean or know how to (guess the first clean time was a fluke) AND he suffers from ED. Sucks cause I'm quite attracted to him.

Btw, as a top, I can tell when you didn't make an effort to clean out or when you "missed a spot" or put too much water up there. Either way, I have no problem with you saying "you're unsure" or "not today."

Edited October 17, 2017 by topstud127

[tallslenderguy]

I ran into a guy yesterday who couldn't get it up, was pretty soft the whole time i was sucking him. I could tell he had anxiety, which doesn't help his cause. I sucked him for awhile, but then when i saw he was just working me and couldn't even seem to cum, i was done.  

I'm pretty sub, but not so much so that i can forgo the reward of making a guy cum. So, if he cannot get hard, that does not make him less than for me, but if he cannot cum, i see no point. I understand there are Tops out there who just wanna fuck or be sucked without cumming, that's a disqualifier for me, as long as they can have an orgasm, i will find a way to give it to them, soft or not.

[Llcj]

I had two the other day within an hour of each other. They were both `nervous` and `beginners`. So now I no longer entertain guys who say this. I don't have enough energy to train men up.

For me when i'm feeling ready to top I make sure I take a blue pill - also when I go to a group as I know guys that are only into oral or tops that want to see an erection. Most guys over 45 that have the means and have the health to sustain Viagra/Sudenafile etc should keep a store in the house. I might think of providing some of my own however I don't think it would have helped the guys the other day. I even put on the straight porn they wanted.

If you really want to top (and also bttm) exercise, maintain penal health and if you can/need to take a blue pill.

[Llcj]

7 hours ago, topstud127 said:

How do you respond when your top has an issue keeping a firm erection?

This tend to happens as I commonly go for guys in their early 50s. If they bottom, no problem. Tops, if its a first time hook up with not much pre planning or chatting there won't be a second time. If its a long term bud or someone I know a bit better, I'll take the top bunk. In my head, I've knocked them down a few pegs on the fuck bud list. I have one guy that I'm seeing next week and  I plan to mention it and will provide a Cialis or Viagra if he's comfortable with it. He was a great tight when I first got to know him. Good size, passionate, connected, but can't keep wood these days so I end up topping or limited his top time and then flip him over.

Messy bottoms: unless we hit it off really well, there won't be a second time.  I'll normally rinse off and excuse myself. Later on in the relationship, once or twice, no biggy, go clean up and we'll finish another way. If it consistently happens, I demote or remove people down my mental fuck bud hierarchy. One guy I don't see anymore because he's made a mess and shown that he doesn't clean or know how to (guess the first clean time was a fluke) AND he suffers from ED. Sucks cause I'm quite attracted to him.

Btw, as a top, I can tell when you didn't make an effort to clean out or when you "missed a spot" or put too much water up there. Either way, I have no problem with you saying "you're unsure" or "not today."

Another thing I can't stand - I always try to make sure I'm completely cleaned out `downstairs` and even when I top I do so in case the bttm wants to rim me finger my hole as part of the play. Small accidents do happen and are forgivable once in a while yet repeated I just drop them. As it happens most guys are pretty clean in that respect.

[NLbear]

Erection problems can happen but if a top wants to hook up with me I expect his dick to go into my ass and I expect that's his purpose too. If he knows he may have problems getting hard then take a blue pill before the meet. That takes some time (an hour?) to kick in so do it upfront. I love sucking a guy but after half an hour I at least need to see some response in his equipment or I take it it's not going to work. So be prepared. Don't expect me to provide viagra/kamagra/cialis and then wait for an hour for it to rise to the occasion. I prepare my hole so you prepare your dick.

[bbzh]

I am not too hard on people if things don't work out as planned. I think it's an unwritten rule that if the hook-up fails, then there's no need to try again - unless it's a regular fuckbud. As someone who bottoms more than he tops, I can tell you that (for me at least), my cleaning out routine works well 95%-98% of the time. There's always the possibility something could go wrong. The ass has a day job, folks. I ask guys their dick size, not because I'm a size queen. It's because it affects how I prep for them.  

I tend not to top as much because as topstud127 said, some guys are just not making enough effort to clean out. And even though I hate it when guys do it me, I will do the finger test on a bottom in a minute. If I smell ANYTHING, my dick is not going in the hole, no matter how horny I am. So bottoms before you complain about there aren't enough tops, how many have you grossed out because you painted their stick??? LOL.

As for tops not getting hard, I don't experience this much - thank goodness. One of the reasons I don't top more is because I do think I have a bit of performance anxiety. This is why you won't see me cruising bottoms online for a fuck. I have Cialis here in abundance, but I find that I don't cum as fast as I would like when I use it. It's ok in a setting where my goal isn't to cum. I'm proudest of myself when I am spontaneous and see a hole, fuck it and blow. 

[Llcj]

15 hours ago, bbzh said:

I am not too hard on people if things don't work out as planned. I think it's an unwritten rule that if the hook-up fails, then there's no need to try again - unless it's a regular fuckbud. As someone who bottoms more than he tops, I can tell you that (for me at least), my cleaning out routine works well 95%-98% of the time. There's always the possibility something could go wrong. The ass has a day job, folks. I ask guys their dick size, not because I'm a size queen. It's because it affects how I prep for them.  

I tend not to top as much because as topstud127 said, some guys are just not making enough effort to clean out. And even though I hate it when guys do it me, I will do the finger test on a bottom in a minute. If I smell ANYTHING, my dick is not going in the hole, no matter how horny I am. So bottoms before you complain about there aren't enough tops, how many have you grossed out because you painted their stick??? LOL.

As for tops not getting hard, I don't experience this much - thank goodness. One of the reasons I don't top more is because I do think I have a bit of performance anxiety. This is why you won't see me cruising bottoms online for a fuck. I have Cialis here in abundance, but I find that I don't cum as fast as I would like when I use it. It's ok in a setting where my goal isn't to cum. I'm proudest of myself when I am spontaneous and see a hole, fuck it and blow. 

Perhaps i was a bit harsh. Yesterday i took 25mg of Sidenafile as an experiment. It certainly was enough for a c2c sesh though 50mg would be the right dosage for 121, group or orgy.

[Leather69]

I'm no "spring chicken" and the days when I could pump out two or three loads in an extended fuck session just aren't there anymore.. I do however find that a hot passionate leather/skin boy will have my cock up and rearing to go.. it gets a little help from a Cialis from time to time..

[scott0882]

I top almost all the time and only one time a bottom couldn’t get me off. It’s something that I want forget for one reason. He was upfront about being HIV poz which I had no problem fucking raw. However, he had active case of syphilis. Of course, I got it and found out with routine blood work 3 months later. To this day, I wish I never hooked up with his nasty ass off CL. 

[KindaBasic]

As I’ve gotten older I’m much more understanding when it has happened to a top. Not saying it’s not disappointing, but life happens. 

[CumBustion]

All the tops I ever encountered that had difficulty getting it up or staying firm was easily solved with one quick move: pulling the damn stupid rubber off. That simple act alone vastly improved penile rigidity and ability to ejaculate. 

[breedmeindy]

3 hours ago, CumBustion said:

All the tops I ever encountered that had difficulty getting it up or staying firm was easily solved with one quick move: pulling the damn stupid rubber off. That simple act alone vastly improved penile rigidity and ability to ejaculate. 

That's one of the major reason I tend not to top much.  I can't stand using condoms, and I'm not that into fucking ass either.  I get in the mood on occasion, but I can't get and stay hard knowing there's a condom involved.  My gf has to be on PrEP and birth control so I can fuck her bare.  Otherwise I wouldn't be able to fuck her (or barely would be able to fuck and couldn't get off).

[BottomKink]

I've only had one incident where I forced myself to (almost) finish sucking a guy's cock in an arcade booth. I left him with blue balls while he was trying to fuck me. Other than that, I never had a problem and my men seemed to like how I performed since they all drained their balls. 

[Read1]

Sometimes guys can't perform (from my experience) because they're really too drunk or have done T. But they do love to get fucked. My two cents.