Taboo question to ask a poz guy?

[BlindRawFucker1]

You are healthy, right?

 

So, i would have asked, “What look?”

 

I love and respect the guys who are proud of their poz status.

[PozBearWI]

Indeed, it seems to be fashionable these days to jump to taking offense.   I think it is a lot less dramatic and more productive to just answer the question.  

[Poz50something]

2 hours ago, PozBearWI said:

Indeed, it seems to be fashionable these days to jump to taking offense.   I think it is a lot less dramatic and more productive to just answer the question.  

I mean, most gay men earned their stripes the old fashioned way, as is the case with STDs.  I am pretty much open about my status, except for work. Some people get antsy because they’re ignorant, and don’t know that a massage can’t transmit the virus. Other than that, pretty much everyone I fuck is Poz. 

[PervBugChaser]

Once I met an old guy with wasted body at Spa EX. I sucked his cock and he sucked me too. Then I pulled him to corner and asked if he is POZ. He said yes. Then I asked if he is toxic or off meds. He stormed away. 

[partying.hard]

Considering my group of friends and the people I play with, I don’t consider that to be a [banned word] question. I think it’s a fair question, and to be honest, it turns me on to know.

[SPUNPIG]

I don’t mind being asked I always tell them that I’m toxic 

[ellentonboy]

I don't mind if someone asks how I became poz, or did I know who pozzed me.  What I do find offensive is when I am asked "did you deliberately do this to yourself"?  (Or something along those lines).  I just shake my head, absolutely not.  Considering the year I became positive, there were medications available, though not as many as there are today,

But still, why would I want to do something like that to myself?  I don't understand the attraction......

 

[SPUNPIG]

I remember ICU2 back in the mid 2000’s

[UKNegBoi]

On 9/16/2025 at 11:43 AM, BlindRawFucker1 said:

You are healthy, right?

 

So, i would have asked, “What look?”

 

I love and respect the guys who are proud of their poz status.

Yeah I don't get that either tbh. Unless someone's covered in biohazard tattoos or something I don't know what the look would be lol

[SFCumdog]

On 9/16/2025 at 3:43 AM, BlindRawFucker1 said:

You are healthy, right?

 

So, i would have asked, “What look?”

 

I love and respect the guys who are proud of their poz status.

It's not like I've never looked at someone and thought he "had the look," but it's one thing to think it and another to verbalize it directly to them. If I thought it, it was usually in the context of trying to serosort with partners especially in the days when people readily rejected you when you told them you were Poz.

So saying that to someone can be rather insensitive when you don't know them or their story. I would venture to guess that for a great many of us, that look is not the badge of honor that so many on here (most of whom it would seem were not even poz) feel that it is; especially as we age. More power to those though have accepted it with no issues.

But those of us who have aged prematurely because of it, and those who were never allowed to age gracefully due to it, don't all find it such an awesome thing. And just to be clear, being Poz has not been as bad as I thought it was going to be. I really don;t mind it. It's really been very liberating in a great many ways. But if truth be told, "the look" and the attendant rudeness from others that often came/comes with it, is the one thing I haven't always enjoyed.