Cumdumps - Do you need to ejaculate anymore?

[ErosWired]

This question is for my fellow cumdumps - When you came to the realization that you were a cumdump, did it have an effect on your need to ejaculate? I have found that now that I understand my role as a vessel for semen, for some reason I just don't have as great a desire to shoot myself. But my case is odd - my former Master went to great lengths to train me to orgasm without ejaculating, and I do that a lot, so I get my O without the white stuff. I don't know if my lack of a need to shoot is related to accepting that my purpose is to take cum rather than release it, or just my particular relationship with orgasm.

It's not that I never shoot - sometimes I do when I'm home alone and can't get cock, and sometimes when I'm being prostate-fucked, the tap turns on and the faucet runs like crazy. Sometimes a Top with intentionally take the time to milk me (doesn't happen often). But most times when I'm taking cock, there's no need for me to produce, and I don't feel a need.

Anyone have any insight?

[Guest fuque_toy]

The Man I'm with now is trying to train me to cum only when I'm being fucked so, anything outside of that isn't allowed right now.

I do notice however,  that I don't feel the need to cum when I'm seeing someone. My focus is on their pleasures. 

Hope that helps. 

[Guest KptNLine]

Let me be clear - my desire or want to cum is as strong as it ever was. That’s the key word there - “want.”

When a Top cums, he inseminates the bottom. A Top’s orgasm is necessary for the sex act to occur. In contrast, the bottom’s orgasm (my orgasm) serves no practical purpose. It gets me less horny, less submissive and makes being fucked less enjoyable. This has made me realize that whereas a Top needs to cum, a bottom simply wants to cum, and there’s a difference between the two.

The other piece to my puzzle is that my Husband (the Dom in the relationship) prefers me to cum solely from his cock when I’m being fucked. 

To answer the question, when I realized and accepted that I was a total bottom and cumdump, I found myself wanting to cum less, because being horny and pent up made anal more enjoyable for me. And then my desire to be the best submissive possible for my husband also minimized my desire to cum even more. I think everyone is unique, but it does seem like many bottom cumdumps focus more on the Top’s orgasm then their own.

 

[ErosWired]

Hm... There may be something to that. When a Top’s excitement builds, I find mine building too, and when he cums, I feel a crescendo of sorts. Not an orgasm as such, but I do experience a “climax” that I can get absolutely no ther way than another man cumming inside me. And the deeper and more primal he is about it, the stronger the feeling is...

[Guest KptNLine]

23 minutes ago, ErosWired said:

Hm... There may be something to that. When a Top’s excitement builds, I find mine building too, and when he cums, I feel a crescendo of sorts. Not an orgasm as such, but I do experience a “climax” that I can get absolutely no ther way than another man cumming inside me. And the deeper and more primal he is about it, the stronger the feeling is...

Yes, Eros, that is a great explanation. You can tell (as the bottom) generally when a Man is getting close - he starts fucking a little faster and deeper and more rhythmically, his breathing picks up, he may start quietly vocalizing as he struggles to hold back as his orgasm builds.

When I’m with a Man and I know he’s nearing an orgasm, I get “excited” in the same way. There’s no “orgasm” in the traditional sense, but as I feel the warmth of his cum as he breeds me, there’s this intense sense of satisfaction I feel. I relax and breathe heavily with him, almost as if I’d cum, but the orgasm is more psychological, if that makes sense.

I think the satisfaction comes from knowing that you’ve given the Man who just fucked you this incredible physical release and accepted part of him inside of you. Sex, in my opinion, is largely in your head in terms of the sensation, satisfaction and connection to your partner you feel. There’s no closer you can get to a Man than to accept his DNA inside your body. That psychological high is powerful and mimics the after effects of relaxation and bliss that a traditional physical orgasm creates.

[drscorpio]

I don’t have any real need to cum during the scene. A lot of tops in a one-on-one want to see me cum, so I wait until he is done. Lately, I have noticed that fewer tops care about me getting off which is cool. I might beat off by myself once I am sure I don’t want to keep looking for more cock. 

[Guest SpermaFF]

Anyway you will cum later

[Cumfilledbottomboi]

6 hours ago, drscorpio said:

I don’t have any real need to cum during the scene. A lot of tops in a one-on-one want to see me cum, so I wait until he is done. Lately, I have noticed that fewer tops care about me getting off which is cool. I might beat off by myself once I am sure I don’t want to keep looking for more cock. 

Exactly this. I’ll cum from masturbation but only if I know I’m unlikely to be bred anytime soon. Otherwise I’ll orgasm when he or they pump loads in me as I presume buckets (while soft or semi soft). 

[tranny-trixie]

I always spunk in my panties as I feel him spurting deep inside me. The feel of satin rubbing my hard cock while a nice big cock makes my hole stretch with each thrust into me makes me spunk. And the guys love it. 

[Guest hodannyboi]

I WANT to cum while getting fucked but it almost never happens anymore.  I try but as I get close I either tense up or psycho myself out or seize up frustrated or--

However I can almost always shoot my load when jacking off, by myself, with some carefully curated porn on.  And I like to finger those loads into my hole because hey free lube for the next top.

[Guest BBBoyfromTN]

I guess I must be wired differently because I have no problems cumming when I'm getting fucked. Sometimes I don't even have to touch my cock and I'll just orgasm. Some tops will jack me off, some won't...doesn't matter to me. Sometimes I wanna save my load to fuck a guy.

[Dee82]

Guy I'm dating right now has me in a chasity cock cage most of the time now.  If I'm getting fucked by anyone other than him, I have to be in a chasity and in panties. I'm not allowed to touch myself in anyway.  Only way for me to cum is to cum with a chasity.  Only managed to cum a few times while caged up.

[bareback-flipflop]

Usually I am jerking while I am being fucked, but my cum depends on the situation. How intense the fucking is, whether I cummed before or it is the first time in that session, etc. Actually last times I couldn’t cum during fuck but later. I don’t know why, maybe the way my fuckbuddy fucks me is so intense I don’t concentrate on my cock but my hole. I just let me enjoy the sensation in my ass. 

[backdoorjimmy]

I've always been a cumdump (well not always, but for as long as I've been having sex) and I've never ejaculated before in my life. I don't even get hard anymore because I just don't think about my dick as a sexual organ. My hole is my only sexual organ so as long as it gets satisfied I don't need to cum with my dick. 

[ErosWired]

9 hours ago, backdoorjimmy said:

I've never ejaculated before in my life. I don't even get hard anymore because I just don't think about my dick as a sexual organ.

You’re 19 and you’ve never ejaculated before in your life? That’s most unusual. Have you never tried? It might change the way you think about your cock...