Do you live alone or share with people?

[NewtoBare]

Do you live alone or share with friends/family? Do you think it negatively impacts your sex life sharing with friends or family or do you still enjoy your sex life?

I'm moving out of my family home soon and all i can think about is how much i want to be a slut in my own place. 

[concerned1]

I live in London, England where it seems like the majority of people live in some type of shared accommodation (sometimes with friends but usually just with other random people). Also, I think London is a city of renters - fewer and fewer people actually own property here, it's just so unbelievably expensive - even a large proportion of very wealthy people in London are renting as opposed to owning.

Because London has so many people (8 million is the official figure but there are around 2 million unaccounted for on official census, so it's probably actually 10 million or more) they are having to cram lots people together now. There are fewer houses and I think most people here now live in shared flats/apartments and rooms ...and that even goes for a lot of wealthy people with good careers.

Anyway, to address your question, even in shared accommodation it is really easy to accommodate someone for "fun" if the other people you share with are out at the time or if you share but have a separate room from everyone else (like, if you're not living in a dorm room). But it's obviously better to bring casual fucks back to your place if you don't share, as this avoids the need to potentially explain to your flatmates who your "visitor" was or things like that. And for making noise while fucking, it's obviously so much better to be living all on your own. 

Edited December 21, 2018 by concerned1

[drscorpio]

When I was younger and routinely shared a house or apartment with platonic roommates, it was always possible to have tricks over. We always worked out a plan that allowed everyone to get their needs met. Even if that occasionally meant hanging out in your bedroom, so he could "entertain" in the rest of the house. 

After my husband and I opened our relationship, it was not a problem either. Even when he didn't want to play with someone I had over, he was always happy to watch. For a while, he was traveling out of state to look in on his ailing mother, and I often had the house to myself for days at a time. Then she got so ill that she had to move in with us. This has put a major crimp in our sex life. I only get to host when they are both out of the house, so I have to travel more. Not being able to host is a major drag on my sex life. 

[tallslenderguy]

i've lived alone since getting divorced in '08. So much of my sex life with guys has been anonymous hook up where i almost always host. Most often, it's walk in and i have the perfect set up for it. i have a house in a historic district setting, smallish town (pop. 60k).  Guys can park in my driveway and i leave the side gate open for them to come into my back yard. The backdoor to my house is off of a deck in the back yard and leads directly into a powder room that is right across from my bed room, so guys can see me ass up on my bed as soon as they walk in, and can use the bathroom on the way out if they want to clean up.  in the summer when its warm, there's been several times when i've been bred on my back yard deck... you can see over the fence, but night time is pretty easy to get away with it.

[Guest faggot hole]

i share a house in the burbs with 4 other guys (and the girlfriend of one of the guys).  The deal was that i would get reduced rent in exchange for keeping the place kind of clean.  But this has morphed into a situation where i am providing comprehensive services.  i do their laundry, i make their beds every day, clean their bathrooms, do the cooking, and grocery shopping, i run their errands.  i wash one of my house mates' car every Saturday, and make sure it is always filled with gas.  They are all straight, and total Alphas, but one of the guys will occasionally let me suck His cock, especially when He has been unsuccessful with the ladies.

[Guest BBBoyfromTN]

My mom works as a nurse with a varied schedule, but it was usually late afternoons/evenings. She'd leave us dinner ready to heat in the oven but it was just me and my younger brother at home when I was younger. We made an agreement that we would bring over whoever we wanted and we wouldn't say anything to mom. The deal was just don't let it get out of hand. He soon realized I was bringing home both guys and girls and soon he was doing the same. It didn't really cramp our sex lives as we knew mom's schedule and all we had to do was hope she didn't come home unannounced. Even being able to bring guys home I'd still only do that with buds, preferring to hook up with random dudes elsewhere, usually in the nearby park, their car, my car, the gym, bathrooms, or wherever. At one point my mom figured it out and laid out the ground rules we'd pretty much come up with. I don't think she knew or realized how many guys either of us were hooking up with but as she said, "I'd rather you did it at home where you're safe, than somewhere where you aren't."

Having moved out from home to Dallas I did have a roommate initially and then he moved out. I'd let this cute homeless gay teen couple move in with me some months back while they could get on their feet. Neither the roommate nor the couple have cramped my style any. My roommate was cool with me bringing guys back so long as we took it to the bedroom for making out and sex. I do have sex with the couple living with me now, both separately and together and they're pretty chill. They'll bring guys home two for three ways and group play and I don't care. They help out with the cleaning and cooking and it's nice to have someone around as I don't really like living alone. 

[ErosWired]

23 hours ago, faggot hole said:

i share a house in the burbs with 4 other guys (and the girlfriend of one of the guys).  The deal was that i would get reduced rent in exchange for keeping the place kind of clean.  But this has morphed into a situation where i am providing comprehensive services.  i do their laundry, i make their beds every day, clean their bathrooms, do the cooking, and grocery shopping, i run their errands.  i wash one of my house mates' car every Saturday, and make sure it is always filled with gas.  They are all straight, and total Alphas, but one of the guys will occasionally let me suck His cock, especially when He has been unsuccessful with the ladies.

Do you feel like this had “kind of morphed” into a situation where you’re being exploited? How reduced is this rent? If you calculate the value of the services you’re performing for them (let’s ignore the cocksucking for the moment) at even a minimal rate, is the value of that daily service spread over a month equivalent to the amount of the reduction in your rate? Are you having to pay out-of-pocket to fuel their cars? Because it sounds to me like you’re getting the raw end of this deal, and not in our favorite way around here.

Not trying to tell you what to do, but it sounds as if a renegotiation of the rental agreement might be in order.

The fact that you have found yourself in this situation with a bunch of Alpha male-types suggests that you are yourself a more submissive type. I might gently suggest that if you find it difficult to assert your best interest in negotiating an equitable agreement, you might consider moving - lest they begin to take you even more for granted.

Of course, if you’re happy as Beulah the cow with things as they are, then ignore all of the above - not trying to sow a seed of discontent, just giving a perspective from the outside.

Edited December 22, 2018 by ErosWired

[FJLinNYC]

On 12/21/2018 at 11:37 AM, faggot hole said:

i share a house in the burbs with 4 other guys (and the girlfriend of one of the guys).  The deal was that i would get reduced rent in exchange for keeping the place kind of clean.  But this has morphed into a situation where i am providing comprehensive services.  i do their laundry, i make their beds every day, clean their bathrooms, do the cooking, and grocery shopping, i run their errands.  i wash one of my house mates' car every Saturday, and make sure it is always filled with gas.  They are all straight, and total Alphas, but one of the guys will occasionally let me suck His cock, especially when He has been unsuccessful with the ladies.

They'd have to be fucking me, with one of them just letting suck his cock when his girlfriend is out for the above to work for me. 

[Guest faggot hole]

23 hours ago, ErosWired said:

Do you feel like this had “kind of morphed” into a situation where you’re being exploited? How reduced is this rent? If you calculate the value of the services you’re performing for them (let’s ignore the cocksucking for the moment) at even a minimal rate, is the value of that daily service spread over a month equivalent to the amount of the reduction in your rate? Are you having to pay out-of-pocket to fuel their cars? Because it sounds to me like you’re getting the raw end of this deal, and not in our favorite way around here.

Not trying to tell you what to do, but it sounds as if a renegotiation of the rental agreement might be in order.

The fact that you have found yourself in this situation with a bunch of Alpha male-types suggests that you are yourself a more submissive type. I might gently suggest that if you find it difficult to assert your best interest in negotiating an equitable agreement, you might consider moving - lest they begin to take you even more for granted.

Of course, if you’re happy as Beulah the cow with things as they are, then ignore all of the above - not trying to sow a seed of discontent, just giving a perspective from the outside.

i feel that the situation has morphed into the ideal for me.  i know that i was born to serve Alpha Men and to enrich and enhance the pleasures that they derive from life.  To be honest, i would pay more for the privilege of serving them.  To answer Your question, sometimes He will reimburse me when i gas up His car, sometimes not.  Same when i do the grocery shopping.  i do not feel that i am being abused or taken advantage of, rather, i feel that i am privileged to serve them.  i certainly am a "more submissive type."  i am a faggot, who was born for this.  So this arrangement allows me to give purpose to my life.

[Guest faggot hole]

23 hours ago, FJLinNYC said:

They'd have to be fucking me, with one of them just letting suck his cock when his girlfriend is out for the above to work for me. 

It is possible that one or more of them eventually will realize thr advantage of fucking me.  a faggot can always hope.

[BBCowboyNC]

I live alone. Charlotte North Carolina 

[ErosWired]

1 hour ago, faggot hole said:

i feel that the situation has morphed into the ideal for me.  i know that i was born to serve Alpha Men and to enrich and enhance the pleasures that they derive from life.  To be honest, i would pay more for the privilege of serving them.  To answer Your question, sometimes He will reimburse me when i gas up His car, sometimes not.  Same when i do the grocery shopping.  i do not feel that i am being abused or taken advantage of, rather, i feel that i am privileged to serve them.  i certainly am a "more submissive type."  i am a faggot, who was born for this.  So this arrangement allows me to give purpose to my life.

I’m glad that you’re finding fulfillment in your arrangement, then, and congratulations. If you hope that they will begin fucking you in future, do you ever do things to promote the idea of the possibility to them? For instance, allowing yourself to be “caught” playing with a dildo or watching hardcore anal porn? It’s another way you could be enhancing their enjoyment of life, if only they knew. 

[yngguy712]

On 12/22/2018 at 5:35 AM, BBBoyfromTN said:

My mom works as a nurse with a varied schedule, but it was usually late afternoons/evenings. She'd leave us dinner ready to heat in the oven but it was just me and my younger brother at home when I was younger. We made an agreement that we would bring over whoever we wanted and we wouldn't say anything to mom. The deal was just don't let it get out of hand. He soon realized I was bringing home both guys and girls and soon he was doing the same. It didn't really cramp our sex lives as we knew mom's schedule and all we had to do was hope she didn't come home unannounced. Even being able to bring guys home I'd still only do that with buds, preferring to hook up with random dudes elsewhere, usually in the nearby park, their car, my car, the gym, bathrooms, or wherever. At one point my mom figured it out and laid out the ground rules we'd pretty much come up with. I don't think she knew or realized how many guys either of us were hooking up with but as she said, "I'd rather you did it at home where you're safe, than somewhere where you aren't."

Having moved out from home to Dallas I did have a roommate initially and then he moved out. I'd let this cute homeless gay teen couple move in with me some months back while they could get on their feet. Neither the roommate nor the couple have cramped my style any. My roommate was cool with me bringing guys back so long as we took it to the bedroom for making out and sex. I do have sex with the couple living with me now, both separately and together and they're pretty chill. They'll bring guys home two for three ways and group play and I don't care. They help out with the cleaning and cooking and it's nice to have someone around as I don't really like living alone. 

So your bro is gay too? Ever mess around?

[Guest BBBoyfromTN]

On 1/9/2019 at 1:45 AM, yngguy712 said:

So your bro is gay too? Ever mess around?

Yeah...while I’m more bi he’s straight up gay. We have played with some of the same guys and have played with a few guys at the same time but we draw the line at fucking each other or sucking each other. It was a little weird at first and a little odd, yeah. Again, it’s more about attraction and we aren’t sexually attracted to each other. That said, I’m not repulsed either. He has a nice body and dick and like me he barebacks. If he weren’t my brother I’d probably have sex with him

[orionboy1]

I live alone and the freedom to invite guys over whenever I want is a big reason I live alone.