Cheating

[sluttony]

I am just curious as to how many guys here cheat regularly?

I'm bi and divorced. My ex-wife and I were into swinging and she always took the guys bareback, no questions. If he pulled a rubber out, she'd let him use it otherwise there was no conversation and I watched her take loads from multiple strangers at swinging parties, even taking bare cocks through glory holes before or at dogging.

For my part I would do the same. I found women easy to bareback - go down on them for long enough and they are usually dragging your bare cock into their sopping cunts no questions asked. Mind you I think being vasectomised helped there for the pre-arranged meets.

For men, I am a pure, 100% cum-addicted slut bottom but I do occasionally enjoy fucking a woman. Less and less so these days, mind you.

I work away a lot and could usually find 1 or 2 guys to load me a night. I've done sauna's, clubs and cruises and would generally whore out at will everywhere I stayed away. I never felt any guilt because of the swinging we did and I always rationalised that the ex wife was ok with risks she was taking and if the worst did happen, we wouldn't know if it was from my cheating alone or our swinging.

She knew I was bi but didn't have a clue how many loads I'd had up me or down my throat.

I genuinely believe that there is no chance I could be faithful to any one person. That craving I have is insane and it isn't just for cock - it's for new cock. For random, stranger cock. I see no point in trying to have a "vanilla" relationship now because I know it wouldn't work for me.

So my question is how many of you cheat without your partners knowing? How do you rationalise the risks you're taking/exposing them to? And do you feel any guilt? How do you handle that, if you do?

[Kimberley]

A lot of married men cheat. i have sucked many and been fucked by many married men. i also have cheat myself when i lost my anal virginity while i was in a relationship

[jamie6369]

More of an amusing anecdote - I'm actively looking for crabs - yea, I know it's mad, but it's a fetish I have to itch 🤣

Anyway, I've basically stuck it on all my kinky profiles everywhere. I got a message from a lad that went along the lines of

"if you get them, will you sleep with my cheating ex-boyfriend, he deserves them, he'll sleep with anyone"

I was never sure if the last bit was about the boyfriend, or that I'm old and ugly! 🤣🤣

[Bicycledude]

This married guy will go back to cheating around April fools day when my second Covid shot is fully effective 🐷

[Buck33]

I have cheated in every relationship I’ve been in- and it doesn’t bother me

i hook up at saunas- bookstores- on the road- public places- gyms- online -the more cock I can get I’m happier I am.
I am always horny- always. And I’m constantly looking for dick. The pandemic really didn’t slow me down on average last year I was getting fucked or fucking outside my relationship 18 times per month- normally I’m closer to 25-26 times per month- 

I take it raw and only fuck raw- i crave hot cum

looking forward to after pandemic life so I can get back into group scenes which have been difficult to find during the pandemic 

the best thing about cheating is that I’m cheating- the thrill of getting off with other like minded filthy pigs- my bf has no idea that I’m such a fucking dirty whore- or how much cum is pumped inside me on a monthly basis

 

Currently I’m getting barebacked several days a week by a neighbor in his basement- he’s a kinky fucker who busts a nut in my ass- sucks it out of my hole and feeds it to me into my mouth-

we laugh at my BF because he has no idea I’m getting fucked in the house next door

i will not break up with him as I like the security of a relationship but I also love being a nasty fucker plus he has a big dicj

[drscorpio]

I have been single since my husband died two years ago, so I don't have anyone to cheat on. I don't concern myself with whether or not my sexual partners are cheating.

My husband and I were open the last eight years of our marriage. We were not supposed to keep anything secret from one another, and for a long time, I always told him because it almost always resulted in him fucking me with his big dick. The last year or two of his life he lost all interest in sex; after he died of a stroke it became apparent that he had probably been having smaller strokes for a long time which is almost certainly what happened to his sex drive. Once he lost interest, he didn't enjoy hearing about my exploits anymore. In fact, he would get resentful towards me for having fun. So I started keeping things from him. I felt bad about it, but we weren't having sex any more. I did what I felt I had to to stay sane. 

[Guest STLjeffDadd]

Cheaters make my cock even harder and better to please by bottom cunts 

[BBArchangel]

I hate cheaters and I hate being cheated on. It’s not the sex - it’s the lies and deception and frankly the disrespect that too often go along with cheating.  I have an open relationship now with my husband of twenty years. Complete openness and complete honesty. That’s not always easy, but it’s the only thing that’s worked for us this long. I -hate-being lied to. And I hate having my health put at risk because he decided to dick-wrestle with the wrong person.

if you want the security of a relationship, whatever that means, then build and work on the relationship. If, on the other hand, you just want to stick your dick in any dog that walks up, just stay single and have a good time. Fewer people get hurt.

[BootmanLA]

2 hours ago, drscorpio said:

I have been single since my husband died two years ago, so I don't have anyone to cheat on. I don't concern myself with whether or not my sexual partners are cheating.

My husband and I were open the last eight years of our marriage. We were not supposed to keep anything secret from one another, and for a long time, I always told him because it almost always resulted in him fucking me with his big dick. The last year or two of his life he lost all interest in sex; after he died of a stroke it became apparent that he had probably been having smaller strokes for a long time which is almost certainly what happened to his sex drive. Once he lost interest, he didn't enjoy hearing about my exploits anymore. In fact, he would get resentful towards me for having fun. So I started keeping things from him. I felt bad about it, but we weren't having sex any more. I did what I felt I had to to stay sane. 

FWIW I don't think that qualifies as cheating in any event.

Cheating is the act of breaking a promise of fidelity (at whatever level it's promised). That means what is cheating, and what is NOT cheating, depends on the people involved.

A couple who has agreed to be absolutely monogamous: cheating occurs when either one has an encounter with an outside party that can be characterized as sexual (whether that's mutual JO, oral, or anal sex).

Anything less is a (possibly partially) open relationship, and the rules for those vary: e.g. No anal with anyone else, no oral or anal but JO is okay, nothing with any of our friends, nothing with any one guy more than one time, nothing in our own  house, nothing in our own bed, only when we're in different places for work or vacation. Whatever those rules are, if one of the partners breaks one (or more) of those rules, it's cheating. And personally, I don't respect cheating.

Cheating shows (as BBArchangel noted) a complete lack of respect for the other partner and for the relationship. I'm not going to call names, but if some asshole thinks it's hot to cheat on his partner even as he loves the stability of his "relationship" (a relationship he's busily shitting all over) and his partner's "big dick", I think it would be karma if his partner discovered the cheating, cleaned out all joint bank accounts, sold all the cheater's personal property, and arranged for the cheater to be caught transporting child pornography near a school. The consequences of that might - MIGHT - come close to being sufficient, karma-speaking, for being such a dick of a person. 

[sluttony]

2 hours ago, drscorpio said:

I have been single since my husband died two years ago, so I don't have anyone to cheat on. I don't concern myself with whether or not my sexual partners are cheating.

My husband and I were open the last eight years of our marriage. We were not supposed to keep anything secret from one another, and for a long time, I always told him because it almost always resulted in him fucking me with his big dick. The last year or two of his life he lost all interest in sex; after he died of a stroke it became apparent that he had probably been having smaller strokes for a long time which is almost certainly what happened to his sex drive. Once he lost interest, he didn't enjoy hearing about my exploits anymore. In fact, he would get resentful towards me for having fun. So I started keeping things from him. I felt bad about it, but we weren't having sex any more. I did what I felt I had to to stay sane. 

I am sorry to hear that Dr. It must've been incredibly tough on many levels. 

[drscorpio]

46 minutes ago, BootmanLA said:

FWIW I don't think that qualifies as cheating in any event.

Cheating is the act of breaking a promise of fidelity (at whatever level it's promised). That means what is cheating, and what is NOT cheating, depends on the people involved.

I appreciate what you said. He caught me a couple of times, and he thought it was. But that just made me more careful. 

[BootmanLA]

51 minutes ago, drscorpio said:

I appreciate what you said. He caught me a couple of times, and he thought it was. But that just made me more careful. 

The way I see it is: you had an open relationship already. The fact that he was no longer interested/capable (in some balance between the two) of participating himself doesn't (or shouldn't) mean you are similarly restricted. And he put you in an untenable place: you'd agreed "no secrets", but he also wanted to hold it against you if you DID have outside fun - damned if you do, damned if you don't. In my book, that changes the terms.

And I should add: I'm opposed to cheating, but there are times when it's the least bad option: married person, spouse loses all interest in sex but refuses open arrangements, divorce would be devastating for all including possibly children, access to health care for one party might be jeopardized - in a case like that, sure, cheating to preserve one's sanity, if it's done discreetly and without taking time away from family responsibilities, is probably the only workable solution.

But (not addressed to you, DrS) bragging about your cheating to the joint friends of you and your partner? The lot of you finding it funny that he's oblivious to it - and to the risks to his health you're imposing on him? That's shit moves by a shit person.

[Guygonebad]

This whole topic is very interesting...as a CumDump, my goal/role is to take all cocks and tops that want to bred me; not to dissect a tops ethical status before he fucks me. I see/hear a lot of guys and what they are doing, but they are the ones that have to live with themselves.
 

Cheating to me is like what was said above, being deceitful, violating promises made, and generally just being a dishonorable person. Though their are many exceptions (in my mind) like @drscorpio situation, a partner who is sick and off sex and the other partner requires it to be a healthy functioning man.  I think one thing every single man on BZ can agree with is men need sex. I think another good exception are guys that have open relationships; they work it out, getting their needs taken care of. 
 

I have two regulars who’ve been breeding me for years, older (70s) married to women, children and grandchildren, but their wives only want sex a few times a year, but want the intimacy. These men want intercourse, but don’t want to do it with another woman (cheating), so I provide a “safe” alternative (still raw)...a community service...cheating is a complex discussion...

[Bicycledude]

33 minutes ago, Guygonebad said:

This whole topic is very interesting...as a CumDump, my goal/role is to take all cocks and tops that want to bred me; not to dissect a tops ethical status before he fucks me. I see/hear a lot of guys and what they are doing, but they are the ones that have to live with themselves.
 

Cheating to me is like what was said above, being deceitful, violating promises made, and generally just being a dishonorable person. Though their are many exceptions (in my mind) like @drscorpio situation, a partner who is sick and off sex and the other partner requires it to be a healthy functioning man.  I think one thing every single man on BZ can agree with is men need sex. I think another good exception are guys that have open relationships; they work it out, getting their needs taken care of. 
 

I have two regulars who’ve been breeding me for years, older (70s) married to women, children and grandchildren, but their wives only want sex a few times a year, but want the intimacy. These men want intercourse, but don’t want to do it with another woman (cheating), so I provide a “safe” alternative (still raw)...a community service...cheating is a complex discussion...

This last paragraph pretty much describes my situation. I don’t want sex with another woman either.

[YourNoLimitsBottom]

I don't cheat when I am in a relationship, and if I am single and am talking to a guy and I find out he is married or in a steady relationship of some sort, I gracefully back away.

I've been cheated on, and it sucks. Mind you, this is a personal choice, I'm not saying anything bad about anyone that does cheat, hell I imagine there is added excitement for some of those that do. My views are from my own experience of being cheated on and how I felt.