Love & Sleaze ? 😉

[Carlos1881]

Hey guys so I was rummaging through tumblr and came across a profile where a guy was looking for a one on one love and sleaze relationship .. 

Can love and sleaze coexist ? 

If asked would you consider it ? 
 

Look forward to hearing your thoughts guys 

Karl 😀

[ssoranaid]

Sure it can

[ErosWired]

You’re going to have to define “sleaze” in the context of this question.

[NJBiGuy]

It sure can. 

[AirmaxUK]

Absolutely. My partner and I share a philosophy that differentiates between "play" and "intimacy". We realised that although well suited for each other in most respects, in terms of kink and sleaze there was some stuff we were into individually, that the other was not. We developed a few ground rules, and it means we can play with others without fear of making the other feel uncomfortable or jealous.  It works well for us. 

[SpectreAgent]

8 minutes ago, AirmaxAndy said:

Absolutely. My partner and I share a philosophy that differentiates between "play" and "intimacy". We realised that although well suited for each other in most respects, in terms of kink and sleaze there was some stuff we were into individually, that the other was not. We developed a few ground rules, and it means we can play with others without fear of making the other feel uncomfortable or jealous.  It works well for us. 

I know it works for you and it would for me. My ex and I shared many passions - and some that we didn’t. We had a similar relationship to yours and that wasn’t the reason he’s now my ex. In fact, he remains my best mate who would get a kidney if he needed it. 

[BBArchangel]

40 minutes ago, RawPlug said:

I know it works for you and it would for me. My ex and I shared many passions - and some that we didn’t. We had a similar relationship to yours and that wasn’t the reason he’s now my ex. In fact, he remains my best mate who would get a kidney if he needed it. 

 

40 minutes ago, RawPlug said:

I know it works for you and it would for me. My ex and I shared many passions - and some that we didn’t. We had a similar relationship to yours and that wasn’t the reason he’s now my ex. In fact, he remains my best mate who would get a kidney if he needed it. 

I’ve generally found that setting rules and boundaries do not work. Sooner or later one partner starts to stretch the rules, tries to make exceptions and justify them, or just outright begins to lie and deceive.  I have a husband of almost 20 years. In that time, he’s broken every rule and every guideline we’ve tried to establish. My firm belief is that, no matter what they promise, all men are liars and cheats and dogs, and it’s always best to keep that in mind. I finally told my husband that the only promise II would make him was this, that I would tolerate as much as I could tolerate and when that point came, twenty years or not, I was done.

[AirmaxUK]

When I talk about ground rules - perhaps those are too harder words for what it is. Guidelines maybe better. We're both human and recognise not perfect: so neither one of us has the right to take the moral high ground over the other. Both having the same understanding of this really helps. 

[Guygonebad]

Hmmm...unsure for myself. I had a longer-term relationship when I was younger, but I needed more and he was somewhat traditional. So we parted ways; no cheating. He’s happily married today with another man and has kids...definitely not for me!!! We have kept in touch, but wouldn’t say we’re friends. 
 

With that relationship experience, I’ve thought about a relationship for me over these past years as I’ve really explored my sexuality and found myself as a true CumDump “no load refused.” I don’t think I want a relationship right now. I know “I” don’t want a DOM man to control me.
Would I like a sleazy partner to love and be with all the time? I do t think so.

Though if true love and sleaze (yes we need a better definition) can be together, I wonder if two CumDumps or sleazy bottoms would be a better couple, versus a bottom/top/versatile being together. I don’t know...I m unsure about the concept of “love/sleaze being together. But what I think I know, based on solid relationships of a few of my friends/my uncle, is that it has less to do with if the two can love each other and do sleaze, it has more to do with, love and being absolutely best friends, sharing intimate thoughts regarding your sleazy/nasty/whoring needs with no judgment, and finally being totally open to let the other partner go play as he needs.  I know three of these relationships. They seem to work, but maybe also it just takes a certain type of person who just doesn’t  get jealous...is that possible?

[MuscledHorse]

It can and does. My other half and I both find sexual monogamy among males to be unnatural. We males are beats of Lust. The result  is that we have a relationship NOT based on Jealousy of the Other, which is how relationships operate today. If we fuck around with other guys--together or separate--we know it is to satisfy our Natural sexual drives as males. He has been the camera guy on a number of my porn scenes, spending hours watching me getting fucked, fisted and cock milked for the cameras. He was with me for part of Pig Week a couple years ago and was in a sling getting fucked by a line guys while I was being held down on a leather covered picnic table and getting fisted by 5 guys. He returned home after the first 3 days of it knowing that I was there for the remainder filming porn scenes and getting heavy open use at the daily/nightly sex parties and totally fine with it because we each know the other takes the priority in our lives. We Love each other deeply and the commitment is an emotional one. We encourage each other to indulge in the carnal pleasures the male body is made for.  People need to stop buying into the false Xian construct that conflates sex and Love as synonymous (with Lust being evil and bad). Guys also need to stop confusing the dopamine high of a good fuck as the foundation of a good relation.

[shinelover]

I certainly hope it exists because that is the ideal relationship I'm looking for. I want a man I can love to death, who loves me to death, but who also gets off on sleazy, slutty, piggy sex.

[tallslenderguy]

i think it depends on the individuals involved. From the responses, clearly their are guys who can be sexually sleazy and emotionally committed, while there are other guys who connect the two.

It can be complex though, life is just not predictable or compliant with rules, even when we want to make it fit. i've been with complete strangers, walk in anonymizes breed, where i had to literally bite my mattress to keep from declaring my love for them while they were fucking and breeding me. Sometimes there is an inexplicable vibe and connection with a guy you did not reckon on, it just happens. i have guys who collared a piece of my heart years ago and still own it to this day.  Even though we have had no contact. they have a leash on me and if they pulled on it, i'd respond. 

[gamerslut]

It's definitely not for some, and I respect that. But I believe it's possible if both parties have the right mindset.

My ideal involves an emotionally supportive, loving husband who enjoys lots of sex, both with me and other guys.

I think there are a lot of guys who (understandably) would not be cool with seeing their partner engaging in piggy sex with lots of other people. But as long as we come home to each other, that feels right to me. I find that I just need someone to connect with.

As for whether a top/bottom couple would work better than a bottom/bottom or top/top, it comes back to personalities. Top/bottom seems more compatible, but anything's possible. A top/top couple taking turns plowing a squealing bottom? Hot. A bottom/bottom couple competing for who absorbs the most loads of the night? Also hot.

[BlackDude]

Been burned and lied to too many times. Not that the “parties over” and your no longer the hottest thing going You want to settle an some stability ? No thanks!!

Being friends is cool, but other than that, if your not fucking, goodbye. You can spend the night once, but not two consecutive nights.

 

Yes, I’m bitter but I own it! Lol

[HOtter]

On 3/22/2021 at 7:40 AM, AirmaxAndy said:

Absolutely. My partner and I share a philosophy that differentiates between "play" and "intimacy". We realised that although well suited for each other in most respects, in terms of kink and sleaze there was some stuff we were into individually, that the other was not. We developed a few ground rules, and it means we can play with others without fear of making the other feel uncomfortable or jealous.  It works well for us. 

Same minus the groundrules. We've never really needed to, perhaps? Ultimately he loves my cooking and doesn't love change. And he's a fine piece of ass and fulfils me in other ways. We've agreed before that 'if one says no, then you both stop' but it's never been a thing. We realised after we split up almost a decade ago that we can just happily go elsewhere for the bits that aren't catered for. There's no jealousy, only high fives and great stories to tell. I agree wholeheartedly it's a philosophy. It took a very long time to find someone who shared it. The biggest shame is when people cut their noses to spite their faces and go living a life unfulfilled.