Dry Orgasms?

[WastelandMO]

Late last year or early this year I started to notice that I don't ejaculate any more. I can orgasm, but that's all. Nothing comes out. On the few times it has, it's comes out like an hour or so afterwards. I've searched online and found it could be dry orgasms. Most of the issues it says that lead to dry orgasms I am currently dealing with (nerve damage, diabetes, meds for mood disorders). It doesn't really bother me, but wonder if it will bother the next person I get in a relationship with? Should they be bothered or not? I know I can discuss this with my doctor, but I have sever PTSD from issues in my childhood, and I don't do anything to involves being naked around others, unless it's my partner, which I've only had two, so it wasn't a big issue on that part.

[BootmanLA]

Technically, I think the term "dry orgasm" is used when no seminal fluid is produced period, as in the case of men who've had their prostate removed. What you're describing, with cum showing up later, more due to gravity and/or being washed down, is a retrograde ejaculation - instead of being propelled outward, the semen is backflowing up from the urethra, and then it's working its way back out.

That may be something that can be treated. I'd consult a urologist.

[Oldercumslut]

What you're describing is more likely retrograde ejaculation.   It doesn't really back up the urethra it ends up in the bladder mostly.  Like you found in your search, Diabetes, BPH or benign prostatic hypertrophy, high blood pressure and the medications used to treat can affect the plumbing.  For the most part it shouldn't affect the orgasm itself just the direction the semen flows.   Talk to your primary care provider and maybe a urologist if you're worried.   Just means you won't be doing any money shot porn shoots anytime soon.

[WastelandMO]

I thought retrograde too, but wasn't sure, as out of say 100 times, it's only come out later about 3 times. 😕

[Nclchub]

As someone who occasionally has retrograde orgasms due to an injury it definitely worried me the first time it happened. When this happens to me I sometimes get a big glob of cum coming out of my dick when I piss but other than that there is no cum from me.

Aside from the initial panic it hasn't negatively impacted my sex life. If you're a top the bottom will get plenty of indications you're cumming inside them even if you don't produce semen (increased breathing, the sensation of your cock throbbing inside them as you orgasm etc). 

Best of luck.

[WastelandMO]

Sorry it has taken this long to respond back! I kinda let it be a year ago. I read it is most likely retrograde and can be caused by neuropathy in diabetics. I am a diabetic and have serve neuropathy, so I just chalked it up to another issue due to my uncontrolled blood sugar. However, a few months ago it started to sting with I would piss. I ended up taking like 30 minutes to piss because it hurt so bad. I ended up at my doctor, they did a UTI test on me, negative. The next morning my underwear was covered in blood from leaking out while I slept. I went to urgent care who tested me and said I had a bladder infection. Put me on Cipro. After few days the pain started to wear off, and about a week later I was good. But I still have sharp pains in my dick like a needle just stabs it. I ended talking to my doctor about retrograde. I thought maybe when the cum going into my bladder, it could be what is giving me bladder infections? Doctor set me up with a urologist. I went to him 3 weeks ago and I just felt uncomfortable! He was in his 70s/80s. He would not even discuss retrograde with me. Instead he put me on another antibiotic for a UTI that was cleared up a few months ago. He even said my urine was clean. He also asked if I had a girlfriend, I said no. He asked how I ejaculated if I don't have a girlfriend?? I said I'm gay. I do it with a man or my hand. He said "OOOHHHHHHHHH!" gave a long pause then told me it was best I stop having sexual relations with men??? He said bacteria is spread amongst men and women, but with women it's less risk, and I need to stop having sex with men. I don't know what you think now?!

Edited August 16, 2022 by WastelandMO

[Beetle]

3 minutes ago, WastelandMO said:

Sorry it has taken this long to respond back! I kinda let it be a year ago. I read it is most like retrograde and can be caused by neuropathy in diabetics. I am a diabetic and have serve neuropathy, so I just chalked it up to another issue due to my uncontrolled blood sugar. However, a few months ago it started to sting with I would piss. I ended up taking like 30 minutes to piss because it hurt so bad. I ended up at my doctor, they did a UTI test on me, negative. The next morning my underwear was covered in blood from leaking out while I slept. I went to urgent care who tested me and said I had a bladder infection. Put me on Cipro. After few days the pain started to wear off, and about a week later I was good. But I still have sharp pains in my dick like a needle just stabs it. I ended talking to my doctor about retrograde. I thought maybe when the cum going into my bladder, it could be what is giving me bladder infections? Doctor set me up with a urologist. I went to him 3 weeks ago and I just felt uncomfortable! He was in his 70s/80s. He would not even discuss retrograde with me. Instead he put me on another antibiotic for a UTI that was cleared up a few months ago. He even said my urine was clean. He also asked if I had a girlfriend, I said no. He asked how I ejaculated if I don't have a girlfriend?? I said I'm gay. I do it with a man or my hand. He said "OOOHHHHHHHHH!" gave a long pause then told me it was best I stop having sexual relations with men??? He said bacteria is spread amongst men and women, but with women it's less risk, and I need to stop having sex with men. I don't know what you think now?!

Get yourself a 21st century dr!

[ErosWired]

Tell your regular doctor that this urologist’s performance was unacceptable and that you would like a different referral. If he insists on knowing why, tell him that the urologist attempted to apply his personal moral standards to your healthcare under the guise of s flimsy medical pretext, and that you have zero confidence in the man’s ability to objectively treat you. It’s your body - you should never settle for substandard medical care.

[BootmanLA]

4 hours ago, WastelandMO said:

I don't know what you think now?!

I second ErosWired's response - tell your regular doctor you want a new referral to a different urologist and it had better not be a homophobic one.

I'd go a step farther and file a complaint with the board that licenses doctors in your state. That was thoroughly unprofessional. 

[onlyraw]

2 hours ago, ErosWired said:

Tell your regular doctor that this urologist’s performance was unacceptable and that you would like a different referral. If he insists on knowing why, tell him that the urologist attempted to apply his personal moral standards to your healthcare under the guise of s flimsy medical pretext, and that you have zero confidence in the man’s ability to objectively treat you. It’s your body - you should never settle for substandard medical care.

I totally agree- it sounds like you have a good relationship with your primary dr - so I would give him the full story so he can make sure not to refer any of his other patients to this quack 

I can remember back in the mid 90s when I finally got a job with insurance- but not one taken by the gay health center so I had to ask around for a dr - at my first physical he took my history and I told him I was gay and he gave me a long talk on monogamy…. Admittedly this was before any of the AIDs meds around- so not totally bad advice… but I was stunned- it was only only way home I realized that I should have said “you find me a  boyfriend and I’ll be monogamous “

fortunately tge next year my co changed insurance providers so I could switch to the gay health center (good timing as i became poz a year after that)

moral of this long story- we all deserve medical providers that respect who we are and with whom we can have open frank and honest discussions about what we do and what are concerns are

Get yourself a new Dr - and good luck!

[WastelandMO]

Oh I plan on telling my regular doctor. I see her later this month. The urologist made an appointment for me to come back in a month, but I see my primary doctor before. She offered to check me, but IDK, I have this thing about women touching me... lol... I will say this that quack also checked my prostate. It was the first time I have had it checked, but my gawd, he was rough with that finger. Even it being lubed it felt like he was trying to make a hook shape and rip me open! When I left, the receptionist asked if he had explained everything to me. I was like he didn't shit! She literally rolled her eyes then gave me a pamphlet on retrograde and said if his meds didn't fix the issue (I already know they won't) to call her back before my next appointment. She was nice and caring, but I won't be going back.

[hntnhole]

17 hours ago, Beetle said:

He said "OOOHHHHHHHHH!"

How on earth were you able to contain yourself, in the face of such destructive commentary from a clearly impaired 16th-Century "doctor"?  That "advice' is simply beyond the pale, and he richly deserves sanction, if not legal action.  If he's 70, he should reach 71 in the unfriendly confines of a nursing home for the hate-infused cretins who have outlived whatever usefulness they ever possessed.  I'd have counsel after that institution in half an eyeblink.

At the very least, make sure your internist knows chapter and verse about this sad interaction with that man.  

[steve-tmq]

I'v had dry orgasims when I have cum too often.  I mean after 5 times in a day I can get horny and orgasim but there's nothing left to cum.  In a day or two or .... I am back to normal.

[WastelandMO]

Sorry for the long delay in replying. I managed to see a new doctor who prescribed Imipram HCL 50mg once a night. Didn't even exam me, just heard my issue and wrote it up and sent me on my way. I don't know if that's a good thing or bad, but the meds don't work for me. After a few days on them I managed to cum once and never again, and that was a few months ago. He said basically this is the only pill to treat it? I don't know. I received a letter last month though, telling me my doctor will long longer be there, and if I find another doctor to have them ask for my records... I just don't know.