Love Berlin. How does you cope with being unfit and ageism in sex clubs.

[Leather-lee]

On 4/21/2023 at 11:06 AM, Spunkinmyarse said:

Interesting account. I’ve never been to Snax, and although I’ve always wanted to see the interior of Berghain in all its glory, I’m not sure I can be bothered with all the aggro. You reach a certain point in life where the idea of standing in a queue for 3 hours, with the very real possibility of being rejected at the end of it, just really doesn’t appeal anymore. I literally have far better things to do with my time. I’m sure it’s “amazing” once you’re inside- if you’re really into music, dancing, and all that shit-  but I’m only in it for the sex, and I’m just as sure I can get the same or better sex elsewhere- hell, in those 3 wasted queueing hours alone I could probably have scored a dozen loads somewhere else.

Perhaps that’s why the crowd is getting younger- older guys with a bit of life experience just won’t put up with that kind of treatment. I’m sure it’s music to some people’s ears that the oldies are staying away, and who knows? Maybe the chaotic door policy is a deliberate ploy to achieve just that end! I for one am only too happy to leave the young to do their thing- it sounds like an awful way to spend a night in Berlin. I’ll stick to my policy of only visiting that city outside of the main events: there’s always plenty of cock to go round, and it just sounds like it’s a lot less hassle.

 

If you're still keen on going to Lab/Berghain, plan a trip outside of the big events, i.e, Folsom, BLF, Snax etc. It's worth it.

I don't think the change in the crowd is intentional, I'm seeing it everywhere on the fetish scene, especially with the increasing popularity of the pup/handler community. Younger non-fetish guys are venturing out to the bigger events for sex, which is fine, but 20 year-old twinks in pink plastic harnesses does nothing for me.

The older guys were all over Berlin for BLF, just not at Snax, which is a shame as 6-7 years ago, it was much more sleazy.

[stef85hki]

I would love to go to Lab. I fly to Berlin this Saturday for business, but hope to have some time and pay a visit there. 

[insatiablebot]

On 8/19/2021 at 10:00 AM, AirmaxAndy said:

I used to visit berlin in the days when I was a lot bigger, and I think it massively depends on the places where you go.  I always study the schedules and have a Plan A and a Plan B just in case. 

I've never seen or heard of on the door discrimination at Laboratory for their usual parties, although Snaxx has a reputation for stricter door policy we've never had a problem - but I hear the door guy dislikes tourist twinks. Like most places, be prepared than once inside you will be pretty much invisible to most guys if you're not conforming to the ideal type. Biohazardmen at Connection was similar - easy to get in, but tough going in the cruising spots. I (and others) have been turned away from entry to Jaxx (too old when I was 43). The guy on the door of New Action who is the owner of New Action and Slut Club in Hamberg begrudgingly let us in, but was *exceptionally* rude to us. He told my friend he should pay triple entrance fee because of his size. Actually I remember a barman at Slut Club coming on to the same bear-ish friend, only to ask him in the darkroom "I don't want to do anything, I just wanted to know,  how do you even have sex if when you look down you can never see your penis?"

On the positive side, some of the smaller less commercial clubs and venues are *far* more welcoming... to name a few:  Scheune, Bull Bar, Ajpnia, Woof, Quaelgeist, Bose Buben... 

We've always avoided the tourist seasons of BLF and Folsom as the city is saturated with ultra competitive bottom guys, and I think a lot of the locals are put off by that. Much better to plan a more relaxed trip during normal times and experience Berlin with real Berliners. 

  

I have booked myself a ticket for the 'BiohazardMen' party this coming Friday at Under Tage in Berlin. Now I am wondering if I should skip it. As I am not white, and I am chub. Don't wanna make the effort of going to the venue to not get any loads 😞 Should I just host an anon cumdump session at my hotel in Schoneberg ? It's a popular cumdump hotel.

[AirmaxUK]

On 7/6/2023 at 2:17 AM, insatiablebot said:

I have booked myself a ticket for the 'BiohazardMen' party this coming Friday at Under Tage in Berlin. Now I am wondering if I should skip it. As I am not white, and I am chub. Don't wanna make the effort of going to the venue to not get any loads 😞 Should I just host an anon cumdump session at my hotel in Schoneberg ? It's a popular cumdump hotel.

I realise this is too late, but I'd go. You can host in your hotel anytime and most guys into raw fucking will be at biohazardmen anyway. Have a plan B - if it sucks, go somewhere else... there's tons of choice. 

Did you go? How was it?

[NordicBtm]

On 4/25/2023 at 1:15 AM, Leather-lee said:

If you're still keen on going to Lab/Berghain, plan a trip outside of the big events, i.e, Folsom, BLF, Snax etc. It's worth it.

I don't think the change in the crowd is intentional, I'm seeing it everywhere on the fetish scene, especially with the increasing popularity of the pup/handler community. Younger non-fetish guys are venturing out to the bigger events for sex, which is fine, but 20 year-old twinks in pink plastic harnesses does nothing for me.

The older guys were all over Berlin for BLF, just not at Snax, which is a shame as 6-7 years ago, it was much more sleazy.

I was at BLF this year and all the stuff going on in Schöneberg was super fun, but I was one of the ones not allowed into SNAX bc of the not outfit kinky enough reason.

they did this across the line, I’d say about 75% of guys were not allowed inside and really rude doormen as well. They did not decide it based on looks as many gorgeous guys were given a blank no.

plan to visit on more relaxed normal weekends from now on, totally agree that it’s better fun and guys are less pretentious!

[Murmillo]

I am in my mid-40s and in my 30s I used to go almost every year. Last time in summer 2020, so I was already beyond 40. I concur: the ressources applied (money, emotions, the Mission to Mars-logistics sensation etc.) from the moment the intention of going there pops up in my mind until I am in a club. I have never been turned away at the door, but inside other disappointment traps are lurking. Connecting can be challenging. And as a bottom, as I am, getting older, in this regard, truly is a challenge. 

[muscmtl]

And yet a out of shape 60 yrs old guy i know, fat 11 inch top, GETS EVERYTHING HE WANTS

forget ageism/bodyism, it's all and only dickism now

[hntnhole]

1 hour ago, muscmtl said:

forget ageism/bodyism, it's all and only dickism now

Agreed.  While the body-sculptors always get admiring glances in the fuckjoints, the Cocks getting the most Hole are the regular guys - the experienced, regular guys that love raw Hole, and act on their Lusts regularly and often.  

[ellentonboy]

Someone on here posted "A BiG DICK MAKES UP FOR A WHOLE LOT OF UGLY".   Truer words were never spoken (or posted).😁

[muscmtl]

On 9/11/2023 at 9:48 AM, ellentonboy said:

Someone on here posted "A BiG DICK MAKES UP FOR A WHOLE LOT OF UGLY".   Truer words were never spoken (or posted).😁

Soooo. That means

"MUSCLE GORGEOUS HAIRY STUD CAN'T MAKE UP FOR SMALL DICK"

[hntnhole]

A hard, raw Cock on an "experienced" Top can go a long way in making up for some lack of visual enticements.  The nights are made for group Breeding.  Pictures may supplant a thousand words, but no Top fucks photos. 

[NWUSHorny]

On 9/12/2023 at 12:56 PM, muscmtl said:

Soooo. That means

"MUSCLE GORGEOUS HAIRY STUD CAN'T MAKE UP FOR SMALL DICK"

If you are willing to top, try seeking out someone who is stereotyped as a top. I know I'm always glad to bottom regardless of dick size, and since I'm verse I'm always happy to return the favor.

[hornybrownbottom]

On 9/11/2023 at 8:48 AM, ellentonboy said:

Someone on here posted "A BiG DICK MAKES UP FOR A WHOLE LOT OF UGLY".   Truer words were never spoken (or posted).😁

TRUTH!!!!!!!!!

[Guest]

This topic is ever so fresh for all of us lucky enough to make it past the age of 50. So, here's my experience and tidbits of advice as a 100% vers, over 50 gay man:

- Wear and act your age. Dressing up like a 20 yo twink will not match your facial features and colour of your hair so while our hearts and inner desires may be stuck at 21, our physical appearance changes with time so wear your age with pride.

- When you get naked, have the confidence of your desires not that of your body appearance. Ageing is natural and so are the changes in body shape and fat distribution. Keeping fit is one way to attract a wider range of men. The more you're trying to hide certain features, the more it has the opposite effect.

- Keeping fit doesn't mean just muscles. It can be a toned body, it can be a nice, straight-up posture, etc. Spend some time every day taking care of yourself: a few situps, a 5 minute dance on your fave Backstreet Boys or the Pet Shop lads will do wonders to your physique at any age.

- Going to a sex- club means you're horny enough to want to have sex. So show it. If you're in Berlin at the Lab, Berghain, the Bull or any other fine establishments, don't just sit in a corner, feeling sorry for yourself, sipping from a glass of rose and yapping with your buddies. Lab is not RuPaul's werk room for throwing shade. Go out there, put your ass up in the air, get yourself in the sling and show everyone you mean business. You are not at the Lab for the fashion show and not there for your company dreaded xmas party. You're there to suck cock, get fucked deep in the ass and stick your cock in a man's ass. 

- While a 25 yo may have little difficulty getting cock (or ass), as a 50+ man, one needs to do a bit more work than just sitting by the bar and looking pretty. You need to be more assertive and initiate contact. There's plenty of young tops turned on by the daddy looks and butts. 

- Don't be put down by a rejection or two. We all have our likes and dislikes. Sure, as I said, you won't get all tops in the room to like you, but there's always more than a few who will gladly shag you.

- Confidence. Be confident and show the world what you want. When I top, I am looking for that ass or hole that insipires me at that moment. It can be a twink, a 35 yo bodybulder, or an experienced sloppy hole of a 65 yo man.  If I'm looking to get fucked, I put my ass up in the air on the fuck bench or in the sling and let the audience know what I'm looking for. And if you have your ass up in the air, you can't really afford to be too picky or choosy. Be grateful for (almost) any cock willing to get inside you. 

- The Lab in Berlin is the grand daddy of the sex clubs. So yes, you will have competition. As a 50+ yo, you will get less action than the 30 yo body builder with the perfect skin and bedroom eyes  being fucked in the sling by 100 men. But getting fucked by 20+ men in the dark room is still a decent outcome.

- A lot of people come to Berline from afar and they all have different customs and habits of initiating contact. And remember that for every German in the room there will be  at least 10 non-Germans. Also not everyone speaks English and that body signals are the best way to communicate. 

- Rudeness is universal. Get over it. You are going to Berlin to a sex club to have sex. You're not there for a deep meaningful spiritual contact. If someone is rude to you (or what you consider rude), move on. Cultural differences are sadly ignored. A grunt from a hunk may be interpreted as rude by a polite, proper Oxford educated gentleman, when in reality the hunk is from Serbia, has a 9 inch hard cock, and has a soft spot for 50+ English bottoms. But he doesn't speak a word of English and in his culture the grunt you just heard is a deeply admirative signal that he wants you. However, a push away, is a push away. And while you may think this is rude, you gotta move on. No point in wasting your time.

- Lower your expectations. I read and hear all the times stories about bottoms get tens and hundreds of loads in their asses in one go. With the very, very, very few exceptions, these are just that: stories and fantasies.  Because tops want to fuck as many holes as they can and once they come, 3/4 of them are done for the day (or night). So no. You will not get 20+ loads at the Lab or any other sex clubs in one go. If you're lucky, you may get on average anywhere between 5 and 10. If you're super hot, you will get fucked. But not easily loaded. 

- Don't waste your time with standoff-ishy people. Ignore them and move on.

- Not being let in to a club. I've been going to Berghain/Lab frequently for the past ten years or so and the only people whom I've witnessed not being let in are when they are heavily drugged, drunk, or not dressed up for the event. And yes, sometimes, you are at the mercy of the doorman who's on a power trip. And that's that. If that happens, move on to the next club. There's more than plenty. 

- Do a bit of research upfront. There are many sites listing sex clubs and their events. Spend a bit of time upfront to know what's going on throughout the year and plan around the time that suits you best. Also, do a bit of research into the type of crowds you expect to find at each establishments and events. Don't go to SNAX if you're a bear whos only sport attire is a pair of worn out Sketchers. You won't get in, and even if you get in, the crowd is mostly 20 to 40 yo. I said mostly, not exclusively. As a 50+ bottom, overweight and not fit, your best bets are the glory holes or darkrooms. Leave your ego at the door and be thankful for any cock you get in. 

- Big events in Berlin, or anywhere else for that matter, do attract bigger crowds and as such everyone has high expectations.  The reality will be different for everyone. And to stay focused on the theme of the OP, if you are a bottom over 50, no matter your shape, consider some extra time in grooming yourself. I am always amazed of how many bottoms come to a sex club with a dirty hole, drunk and drugged to extreme, untrimmed hair (for those fortunate enough to still have it on their head), and generally unwashed. Don't mistake man smells for unwashed. (Although there is a market for those into dirty stuff as well).

- Everyone's experience is different from others and different on separate occasions. One time you may have the shittiest of all times, and next day it will be the pinnacle of your sex life. You just never know.

- World gay scene is constantly evolving. Berlin is still holding the crown when it comes to crazy sex, but do consider places such as Barcelona, Madrid, Paris or Maspalomas.  Sure, they attract smaller crowds but that's constantly changing. In my lifetime I've seen Amsterdam sliding from the most desirable place to a nice, decent, good place to have sex. I've seen London going down the same way: With only two or three small-ish venues London has lost its appeal it once had in the late nineties and noughties. Now, although Berlin is still top, Barcelona and Madrid are rising fast as the place to be for uninhibited sex.

- And the last piece of my wisdom:-) Go easy, Go very easy on the drugs. Smoking a joint and sniffing on the poppers is probably enough. Any more than that, your sex vibe will be lost and there aren't too many tops turned on by a drunk and drugged 50+ unfit hole. 

Happy fucks people!

 

[Spunkinmyarse]

Such good advice! As a 50+ bottom recently back from Berlin, I think you’ve got it spot on!