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[Guest]

I hooked up on sniffies a couple times . Got fucked on a picnic table from a guy I met on that site. Also had my first 3way from that site.

[Njn0mc]

1 hour ago, chrisjoci said:

I hooked up on sniffies a couple times . Got fucked on a picnic table from a guy I met on that site. Also had my first 3way from that site.

Thats hot 🔥

I use sniffies for nights that other apps are quiet. Not too many older guys on it but hooked up a few times at parks with younger guys in the woods at a park. Got bent over a down tree and got fucked. We got all dirty. It was a fun day.  This park is a hot spot for sniffies. 

[Guest]

When I got fucked on the picnic table I let him cum in me. I fucking loved it. I hope people were watching.

[bluedragon]

Just joined Recon. Anyone have much success on it?

I'm interested in kink, as a dom at least to start off with, but i feel like there's an expectation that all doms will know it all and will be able to create the perfect scene for the sub easily....

[hntnhole]

5 hours ago, bluedragon said:

but i feel like there's an expectation that all doms will know it all and will be able to create the perfect scene for the sub easily....

I understand how you might get that sense, but Dom Tops are just like everyone else, in the sense that they must learn their craft, just as everyone else must.  Plus, it's necessary to learn some of the acts in depth, so as to be able to a) recognize, b) deliver, and c) wrap up a B/d or S/m scene successfully for the sub.  Thus, before any in-depth "scene" takes place, the sub should do what he can to inform himself before any scene takes place.  

There are many skilled Leathermen around, talented and experienced in their craft.  There are also a number of men who have all the right impulses at heart, but have not gained the experience to deliver a first-class scene to the sub.  Fucking is probably the very last thing to take place in an authentic B/d S/m scene, so inform yourself as much as possible before you agree to participate in a scene.  Read books on the subject; there are many out there.  Talk to other Leathermen about what you're feeling.  Recon can be a valuable place to start your investigation. 

Good Luck !!

[bluedragon]

Thanks for the advice. I think what would work best for me is for someone patient and sympathetic to work with me as a learner, but that might be hard to do while still keeping that sub mentality. Maybe a more senior dom would take me on as a junior partner ;_

[ejaculaTe]

7 hours ago, bluedragon said:

Maybe a more senior dom would take me on as a junior partner ;_

"Apprentice" might be a better choice; for whatever it's worth, a guy who uses that word certainly gets my attention.

[ErosWired]

7 hours ago, bluedragon said:

Thanks for the advice. I think what would work best for me is for someone patient and sympathetic to work with me as a learner, but that might be hard to do while still keeping that sub mentality. Maybe a more senior dom would take me on as a junior partner ;_

My arrangement with my former Master was along these lines, except that I wasn’t training to become a Dominant myself. I assisted him in his work with other submissives. I wasn’t his apprentice, which would have implied that I aspired to his craft; rather, I was his assistant. It was a very flexible arrangement in that it allowed him to both involve me in helping him administer to others, as well as use me in my submissive capacity for public demonstrations.

Because I don’t have a single Dominant bone in my body, however, there were things I couldn’t do. I simply could not flog someone, or apply CBT, or cause pain; I didn’t have it in me. He had a particular device - a kind of very strong vibrator - he used to use to force me to have repeated rapid orgasms until they became torture, and it got to the point that every time he turned the horrid thing on I wanted to curl up into a ball. One time when he went to use the device on another submissive, I was unable to stand by and watch and had to leave the room. He was not amused.

Be mindful that if you want to continue as a submissive, there may be things that you might not want to, or not be able to, do as an ‘apprentice’ Dom. You can’t really be a Dominant submissive, or a submissive Dominant, and be really successful at either, in my experience.

[metroguy]

The apps are very hit or miss but thats also depends where you are. When Im in big cities for work I have good amount of luck in finding fun, providing that said city doesnt have a bathhouse I can go to instead. However even if there is a bathhouse Ill still use the app and list myself being at said bathhouse to meet

[hntnhole]

10 hours ago, ejaculaTe said:

17 hours ago, bluedragon said:

Maybe a more senior dom would take me on as a junior partner ;_

It's entirely likely.  Most accomplished Leathermen also recognize that a new crop of Dom's need to be brought along, just as when they first began their Journey years ago.  There must be publications specifically aimed at Leathermen in your area.  That might be a good place to look.  And never forget that your local Leather bar is always a good place to ask for advise.  I very much hope you find what you're looking for.  We need you, and other younger men like you.  

[Leather69]

I have just read that n County Sligo (Ireland Republic) that a guy using Grindr to meet up has been arrested for the murder of two locals who were bound and severely beaten. Authorities were alerted after another guy was able to escape..

Would mention more but the censors on this site wouldn't agree.

 

[hntnhole]

That happens every so often in Chicago, generally in the boystown area.  The general m.o. is, some guy that doesn't know what he's getting into, hits one of the Leatherbars and gets picked up by a disturbed wanna-be Leatherman (who, never-the-less, knows enough to impress the newbie), and winds up dead.  

It's a sorrow when a man hates himself so much, but lacks the backbone to seek professional help, that he commits acts like this.  Still, it happens, and usually the authorities try to look the other way.

[hermarbi]

Gotta agree recon is more wannabes than serious!  Been on it for years, its shit now that chatrooms are gone!  

[bluedragon]

On 4/14/2022 at 4:55 AM, ErosWired said:

 

 

Be mindful that if you want to continue as a submissive, there may be things that you might not want to, or not be able to, do as an ‘apprentice’ Dom. You can’t really be a Dominant submissive,

Thanks - I'm not really a submissive tho. I'm somewhat interested in it too, but I'm not sure how much pain I would want to take. I've been fairly vanilla up to now, apart from some light stuff (verbal, spit, did a little bit of flogging/hitting with keys) generally because I usually just meet up with guys in random hookups and it seems like kink needs to be more planned./looked out for on specialist websites. There's an FB group for kinky guys in Dublin anyway, which I have joined, and I'm also moving to London for the summer!
 

 

18 hours ago, Leather69 said:

I have just read that n County Sligo (Ireland Republic) that a guy using Grindr to meet up has been arrested for the murder of two locals who were bound and severely beaten.

 

Yes - that was grim. It' s being treated as a hate crime because of the amount of violence inflicted on the body of at least one victim I think. Very much not something that ever happens in Sligo. I'm not sure this was a kink situation gone wrong.
One of the victims was an organiser in the political party of the Tanaiste (Deputy PM), Leo Varadkar, who is himself gay and gave a quote about it on the news.

 

[ErosWired]

1 hour ago, bluedragon said:

Thanks - I'm not really a submissive tho. I'm somewhat interested in it too, but I'm not sure how much pain I would want to take.

Pain is by no means a requirement to be a submissive. Submissive does not necessarily equal masochist. I’m not a big fan of pain myself in general, and certain types of pain are out of the question - I can take a flogging, but you’re not whipping me with a single-tail. Nope. Plenty of scenes involve no pain at all, just power exchange and/or humiliation and/or mindfuckery. And yes, BDSM requires not just planning, but also negotiation.

You don’t have to definitively label yourself a Dom or a sub any more than you have to firmly choose Top or bottom. You can play either role when the mood strikes. My former Master used to say that in reality everyone’s a Switch, but I do have to differ on that - I don’t have a Dominant bone in my body. What you like you’ll naturally gravitate toward as you explore. Just remember a couple of constants to always live by in the lifestyle - ‘Safe, Sane and Consensual’ and ‘Your Kink Is Not My Kink’ (each to his own).

 

One other thing: If you’re going to use ‘Bluedragon’ as your username in kink circles, someone is eventually going to expect to be fucked with a blue dragon dildo. I’m just telling you. You may as well shop now.

Edited April 15, 2022 by ErosWired