I'm 25 and I want to have unprotected sex

[Guest]

I have a nice cock. I want to start fucking dudes raw maybe even get fucked. How do I get over this fear of catching something. I have moments where I don't care but I always chicken out. I want to let go and just be a slut. Go to Chicago steamworks and walk around naked, lets strangers suck my cock. I want stick my cock through glory holes and let people use my cock, ride me till I cum. If I see a guy in a sling with cum leaking just walk over there and start fucking him. Cum inside him. Ive sticked my cock through the glory hole couple times but I always wear a condom. I want to feel what its like going raw. Theres a part of me that doesn't care if I catch hiv because this lifestyle seems fun. Just having unprotected sex all the time. Not giving a fuck. Then theres a part of me that gets nervous. 

Edited October 23, 2022 by Selfsucker9382

[Bwccummer]

A option is look into prep. However is not foolproof as may catch something but reduce risk of Hiv and aids.

 

[Guest]

not taking prep is more exciting; real raw is no condom , no meds.......

[Treehugger]

Lots to think about. Do you have a healthcare provider with whom you are comfortable with total honesty? That’s a big hurdle if you are nervous about sti’s whether it’s HIV or something less serious. 
     If you are going to play raw you need to be okay with regular screenings and candid talks with healthcare professionals. If you are squeamish about it I recommend sticking with condoms and this is coming from a bareback cumdump. 

     Doctors are going ask you about your sex life, what you do and how many partners you have. It’s not fun. I am not trying to scare you away from a bareback lifestyle I just want you to understand the downside. 
     On the upside the sex is amazing and the connections you make both mentally and physically are satisfying in a way safe sex never did for me. 

[Leather69]

I can understand your reluctance. PReP is the go to go to very significantly reduce your chance of HIV . All other std's can be treated with current medications .. hep C is the outlier but there are cures, and it is very rare . You will need a competant Dr with a medical plan. Basically... go for it! 

[ErosWired]

7 hours ago, galanya said:

not taking prep is more exciting; real raw is no condom , no meds.......

Do you also have fun playing Russian roulette with a loaded pistol? It’s not more “exciting”, it’s just more risky, and more foolhardy. The consequences can far, far outweigh any “fun” that might be had.

To the OP: If you’re going to fuck bare, you will always be at risk of catching something. That’s the price of the ticket. You can reduce the risk, but you cannot eliminate it. Saying you want to bareback without risking an STD is like saying you want to go skydiving without jumping out of an airplane. If you aren’t willing to risk it, don’t do it. It’s as simple as that.

Edited October 23, 2022 by ErosWired

[tallslenderguy]

8 hours ago, Selfsucker9382 said:

I have a nice cock. I want to start fucking dudes raw maybe even get fucked. How do I get over this fear of catching something. I have moments where I don't care but I always chicken out. I want to let go and just be a slut. Go to Chicago steamworks and walk around naked, lets strangers suck my cock. I want stick my cock through glory holes and let people use my cock, ride me till I cum. If I see a guy in a sling with cum leaking just walk over there and start fucking him. Cum inside him. Ive sticked my cock through the glory hole couple times but I always wear a condom. I want to feel what its like going raw. Theres a part of me that doesn't care if I catch hiv because this lifestyle seems fun. Just having unprotected sex all the time. Not giving a fuck. Then theres a part of me that gets nervous. 

Couple of thoughts on fear.

"Fear" can be natures way of trying to protect us, giving us a heads-up.  Fear can also be a conditioned response and is not always reasonable. And a lot of times, it's some of both. i think one can push back against fear, we often try to meet it with reason, but fear isn't something that can just be easily turned on or off.  '

i agree with those who advocate facing the reasons for fear with reason. Add parts to your life that will address the reasons for fear: e.g., get on PrEP, get protective vaccines like Covid, Monkey Pox, get routinely checked for STD's.  These are things we can do to help protect us. On the other hand, life is full of risk. Do we stop driving a car because of the risk of an accident? Do we stop going to the theater or grocery store because we might catch the flu?  Do we stop eating because we might get food poisoning? Do we stop having sex because we might get an STD? 

Some find they can crowd fear out by telling their self that getting a disease, or risking the same, is 'fun.'  You do not seem to fall into that category.  i'd like to underline that one and weigh in on not joining the disease if fun idea. You are 25. At this point, HIV is a lifetime disease where you have to take expensive meds daily to survive. Unless you are into FinDom, i cannot see the fun in that.  

"HIV treatments can be expensive. HIV care involves a type of medication called antiretroviral therapy (ART) and regular visits with your doctor. One study estimated that costs of this care could run anywhere between $1,800 to $4,500 each month during a person’s lifetime. Most of this, about 60%, comes from the high cost of ART medications."

[think before following links] https://www.webmd.com/hiv-aids/hiv-treatment-cost

[hntnhole]

Thanks, Selfsucker9382, for the post.  While there have been similar threads here on BZ, it's worth reading and reflecting on older ones, and then asking again.  

I agree with tallslenderguy and similar preceding replies.  The will surely be a price to be paid for realizing your dreams, but that price can be mitigated by getting all the inoculations, taking the pills, and being aware of what probably will, and what probably won't happen.  I see you're 25 - and it may seem like your life will extend beyond the horizon.  I'm not trying to guide your decision - that's entirely yours to make.  If you do follow your Lusts, you will surely pick up std's occasionally.  If you take all the precautions, they will probably be the treatable kind of bug, and your internist can give you stuff to clear them up.  

Unless you've inherited a lot of dough, it can be expensive, as tsg noted above.  Some guys have a chunk of change, some don't.  Be aware of the financial considerations as well as the health-related considerations.  Do the intellectual work before you make your decision.  It's your life, and you get to choose; no one else.  

13 hours ago, Selfsucker9382 said:

Theres a part of me that doesn't care if I catch hiv because this lifestyle seems fun. Just having unprotected sex all the time. Not giving a fuck. Then theres a part of me that gets nervous. 

Of course there is.  There are different facets of life for every guy, and it's up to you to decide which part outweighs the other parts.  Understand that there's a lot of imaginary jo stuff that gets posted here on BZ, so be sure to consider only your own hopes, dreams, life-goals.  There's a reason for the various sections - some for actual discussion, some for fantasy, something for every guy.  I'm not encouraging or discouraging you to jump one way or the other.  I am encouraging you to do the intellectual work before you actually do jump one way or the other.  When you do the work, you'll be confident in your choices, and find fulfillment in whatever you decide to do with your life.  

Good luck, and be sure to share more with us.  

[verslut]

I've been barebacking for over a decade now. I've never taken prep, I use condoms sometimes and I get tested every six months. I accept some risk to maintain my lifestyle. Not giving a fuck about sexual health makes you nervous for good reason. It's a bad idea.

[NWUSHorny]

I recommend you go on PREP. Don't make the same mistake several of have made, having HIV can complicate your life in many unexpected ways. They caught mine when I had an unrelated serious health issue, so while I haven't suffered the bad effects of HIV itself it did effect how to treat my other medical issue. Also don't buy into the idea that it is relatively safe to be a bareback top, I was a bareback top/safe bottom until I found out I was positive. I too love fucking slutty bottoms, and fucked hundreds if not thousands of cum filled holes in the 15 years before I found out I was HIV positive.

[KylerIsTrash]

I miss Chicago SW. So many hot fucks like you described. Like others have said get on PrEP so you can fuck BB with minimal regret. Learn to love breeding. Easy to stop later if you change your mind.

Edited October 24, 2022 by KylerIsTrash

[Guest]

I think im going to do it. Get on PREP and start fucking bottoms raw. I have a really nice uncut cock. Every time I go to a porn store that has glory holes and theatre so many people grab my cock. I get so much attention. Im tired of turning them away. I want to be a slut and just fuck. I want to know what it feels like fucking a bottom raw. I want to experience cumming inside a hole. Every time I stick my cock through the gloryhole i always wear a condom. Ive gotten around 10 blowjobs thats with a condom. Three times the person on the other end bend over and started riding my cock. First time I went in shock and ended up cumming fast. The next two times I fuck them so good but I wanted to take the condom off. This is the lifestyle i want. 

[NWUSHorny]

The fact that you are uncut is another factor on deciding to go on PREP. There is at least some evidence that it makes you more vulnerable as a top.

My recommendation is have fun. I don't know if it is still true but uncut cocks were pretty rare in the Midwest 30 years ago and having a nice sized uncut cock certainly worked to my benefit. I started hooking up through glory holes, parks and tearooms with various kinds of action at 20. I didn't go to a bathhouse until I was 30, and it was almost all safe sex back then. I envy you on being able to bareback so readily in your prime.

[pussyboy82]

25 and never done it bb......you're missing out! All screams insecurity to me.

If I were you I'd work on relationships rather than all this promiscuous fantasy you seem to be having. 

I think you should think about self respect and why you have these urges.....why is the anonymous sex urge so important to you?

I think you have enough to sort out yourself.....why not have a relationship where you can have a bareback relationship with another person and take prep as a precaution. Do things like sti checks together.....

 

[ErosWired]

On 10/23/2022 at 8:48 AM, tallslenderguy said:

"HIV treatments can be expensive. HIV care involves a type of medication called antiretroviral therapy (ART) and regular visits with your doctor. One study estimated that costs of this care could run anywhere between $1,800 to $4,500 each month during a person’s lifetime.

This is somewhat misleading. Yes, the cost of ART can be extremely high, but your out-of-pocket expense depends on your situation. In my case, my ART is covered in part by my insurance, and in part by the copay assistance program offered by the pharmaceutical company. Between the two of them, when I go to the drugstore to pick up my meds, I pay $0. Now, I have excellent (if pricey) insurance, and I qualify for the copay program; not everyone will check both boxes. But ART can be obtained with financial assistance. HIV + poor ≠ death.