Were you born a bottom? Or made one?

[Marlin]

I didn't start having sex with men until I was in college and for a long while it was only oral. I loved making out, kissing, sucking dick and getting sucked. I loved swallowing cum from the very beginning and expected men to swallow mine. All my encounters were public....cruising bookstores, known parking lots, and college mens rooms which were conducive to sucking and not fucking. It was also the height of the AIDS crisis and although sucking dick wasn't totally safe it was safer than fucking.

I soon met a guy who i really liked. We met at my place and for the irst few times we made out and sucked dick. While making out I always ate his ass. One night he said he would like more than my tongue in him and within a few minutes I was inside him....no condom, no talk of status....and I shot my load. We dated for a year and I always topped.....Still sort of scared of bottoming. I saw how much pleasure he got and I loved the intimacy of sharing my semen and I yearned for a dick and cum inside me. 

I hooked up a lot and a few times i asked to get fucked but every time i could not get passed the pain. When I jerked off I would play with my hole and was soon putting objects in me, the most common were candles lubed with vaseline. I would cum so hard. I practiced relaxing my hole, pushing out a bit and hitting poppers. 

I began dating a new guy who was a bottom but had a nice dick, always raw. One day while we were making out I took the lube, wet his dick and sat down on it while hitting poppers. It surprisingly did not hurt. Soon I was riding him and took my first load. 

 

 

[Barebacksletje]

On 5/22/2023 at 1:39 PM, YourNoLimitsBottom said:

Watching straight porn, I identified with the woman and imagined being in her place. My first sexual encounter was sucking cock and you would have never known I hadn't done it before, it was that natural and instinctual. So I'd say I was born to bottom.

Hahahaa fucking great. You are the same. I started with straight porn and Imagining I was the women. I only watched anal movies. The gayporn which I could find was with a condom and I could not watch that. Nowadays plenty of gay  raw breeding vids. I never watch straight porn anymore

[Bimarried001]

I cannot say I born a bottom. I’m not even sure I was born gay. I always knew I was a pervert but I think I turn to men because I could not get any girls to do freaky stuff with. 
 

I remember I started letting guys suck my dick and I would say his mouth is no different from a girl’s mouth. Then I started fucking guys using the same rationale. I would always so that once I meet a girl I would never touch another guy. 
 

All this was happening in public places, theater, ABS or other sex joints. 
One day I was in a theater and saw this sexy girl there so I approached her and ask if she wanted to fuck. She said yes but she wanted to cum as well. I said sure I will make sure that you cum.
Long story short, she had a dick (my first encounter with a shemale) and she ended up fucking me in the ass. That got me hooked and I started to bottom more and more to the point where I am now strictly a bottom. 
 

*footnote it wasn’t my first time getting fucked as I was raped by my uncle from age 7-12 but I had successfully wiped that from my memory for many years.

 

[hntnhole]

1 hour ago, tallslenderguy said:

i suspect neuroplasticity plays a part, that the pleasure response i have to receiving a Mans cock gets triggered and exercised every time i get fucked and those neurons multiply and become stronger in my brain reinforcing my being bottom

Interesting issue to reflect on: 

Not being medically trained at all, I have a question:  is the "neuroplasticity" applicable to Tops as well?  If so, would the sex-act trigger the neuroplasticity, regardless of the position (T or b)? 

More, could that be  - would 'triggered' be the right word? - by non-sexual experiences?  I mean, preferring to hang around with boys as a kid, finding girls irritating, without any actual (or at least realized) sexual thoughts?  

Lastly, is neuroplasticity an in-born thing?  Does every human possess it from birth?  Or is it something that develops, and might be guided(?) by learned/developed 'likes' or 'dislikes'? 

[MountMe63]

On 5/22/2023 at 12:13 AM, blackfeeder said:

You're a bottom. How did you become one?

The start of my taking it up the ass is probably the pretty routine way guys my age got into trouble. I somehow got my hands on a Penthouse magazine when I was very young, (don't remember the age) and I was reading the letters which is something everyone did. 😆 I don't know if gay letters showed up a lot in Penthouse or not, but in there with all of the letters about getting poontang in the most weird and unlikely ways was one that was from a guy who got turnt when he went camping with another guy that talked him into taking it up the ass in their tent. Today, at the ripe old age of 60 I realize that story is so boilerplate, (especially for that time) that it was likely total BS, but I was enthralled. I particularly remember a line that said something to the effect of how at first the guy was nervous, but how it made him feel complete to have another guy "inside of him."

I was so fascinated by the thought of having another guy "inside of me" that the letter has stuck with me all of these years. I'd just about pay anything to have a copy of that magazine today just as a keepsake. Penthouse letters put the idea in my head, so I guess it was Penthouse that made me into a butt-whore. Ironic. 

It was many years later before I finally worked up the nerve to suck off a black dude in my car at a cruisy local park and then it didn't take any longer than another week for me to pick up another black man at that park, have him take me home and after sucking his dick for a while I looked up at him with dreamy eyes and asked the fatal question, "Do you want to fuck me?" Spoiler alert: he did. 😀 a LOT. 🤪

Thanks Penthouse!

I do think about that second guy a lot. After he broke my virgin ass I showed up at his apartment again the next day and he pounded me multiple times again. Afterwords he asked me to move in with him and I should have, but I was young and stupid. Regret number three. I never went back to him again after that. Stupid. Regret number two. I never told him he was the first man I allowed in my ass. Regret number one. 

[Alpenasub]

I was a 7th grader in military school, played dr with the girls even got head from one.  I was small for my age late developer. An upperclassman tricked me into giving him head then blackmailed me for weeks threatening to out me unless I continued sucking him off.  It was probably a month or so later that he wanted to pop my cherry.  It hurt so bad he had a pretty good sized dick. Opened me up good finished in me.  Left me alone after that for a while then outa the blue I told him I wanted to try anal again.  After that he and eventually a couple of his friends used me frequently till halfway through the 8th grade. One of them set me up with a new guy the second I had my lips around his cock he pulled back ran down the hall yelling I was a fag.  A couple weeks later the headmaster called my parents told them to pick me up informing them I was expelled for seducing other cadets to perform oral sex on them.  6 hour car ride home not a word was said.  Howe Military School was the academy i attended.  That place shut their doors a few years ago.  I don't regret it happening at all it made me the hungry submissive bottom I am today!!

[Cumfilledbottomboi]

On 10/19/2023 at 4:01 AM, MuscledHorse said:

Of the choices, I have to say I was born a bottom. Yea, I was masturbating at a very young age, but i saw penis and new what  wanted to do with it . I wanted to taste it. i wanted to feel it in me. First time I had a penis in me, I was hooked. Even though i have a sizable penis that gets milked daily, my ass is always wanting to be filled with cocks and toys and hands.

Same, save for the sizable cock, that is. My small cock belonged in the chastity cage it now lives in.

[Atnrave]

I started out as a top but it wasn’t until my mid 20’s that I learned about consuming Metamucil and douching correctly. I think secretly I was always nervous that I’d shit everywhere if anything was inserted into me. Once I learned how to douche, I began to explore my hole with toys, gradually increasing the size of them till I could take cocks and fists…and can do all of it without the aid of poppers… which I don’t enjoy. The rest is history.

[tallslenderguy]

21 hours ago, hntnhole said:

Interesting issue to reflect on: 

Not being medically trained at all, I have a question:  is the "neuroplasticity" applicable to Tops as well?  If so, would the sex-act trigger the neuroplasticity, regardless of the position (T or b)? 

More, could that be  - would 'triggered' be the right word? - by non-sexual experiences?  I mean, preferring to hang around with boys as a kid, finding girls irritating, without any actual (or at least realized) sexual thoughts?  

Lastly, is neuroplasticity an in-born thing?  Does every human possess it from birth?  Or is it something that develops, and might be guided(?) by learned/developed 'likes' or 'dislikes'? 

Neuroplasticity is complex and an emerging science... so i'm speculating. Since the brain is connected to our sex drive and function, i figure neuroplasticity also figures in. The brain can form new neural pathways to accommodate demand and need. Also, new pathways can be formed working with existing ones. Sort of like exercising muscles, lifting weight, makes the muscle bigger (if only it worked that way with the cock?).  

When pleasure centers are involved, there's the added 'trigger' of wanting to repeat that pleasure. For instance, we know that sugar lights up the same area of the brain as cocain does, so their can be a similar addictive response to repeat that pleasure.

Speculating, i 'd  think that Top or bottoms would both experience strengthened neural pathways for their particular position. i don't think there would be a discriminating factor between the two?

Yes, we are born with neuroplasticity. A newborns neuroplasticity is enormous, new pathways grow at leaps and bounds. What more recent science has discovered is the ability of the brain to build new pathways does not go away with age, it is not as substantial, but it is still there.

Sorry it took a bit to reply... working yesterday and today, so catching this before i leave for work.

[Teeslad70]

This is a very interesting and informative topic. It makes sense to me, so probably something in it.

[hntnhole]

3 hours ago, tallslenderguy said:

so i'm speculating

Far better than I could have.  Thanks for the explanation; it's a most interesting subject - particularly that the brain can still perform that function in middle-age and beyond.  

[Hole4u]

I was definitely born this way. Being a bottom has always been instinctive in virtually every situation. 

[faggotsub]

I totally believe it's in our genes not only to be gay but to be either submissive and a bottom but also to be a Top and Dominant.

my best friend's sister and her friend pulled their pants down and spread their legs for us when i was 8, i was repulsed but that same year my friend and i camped out and each of us had our cocks in the others mouth. I don't think we even knew what we were really doing.

Whenever i found an adult magazine i only looked at cock.

I had another friend i camped out with when i was 12, we wrestled naked camping one night. I lost. He forced his cock up my ass, i resisted so he tried to force his cock in my mouth, I resisted, but i didn't want to, but i knew he would tell everyone and back then i was afraid of being branded the town queer.

Maybe we are influenced by life events but i think it brings us to where we are suppose to be

i had a therapist years ago that stated it is becoming more and more agreed by experts that being gay is in our genes so why not whether we are Tops or bottoms as well?

Despite that i was married for 19 years to my first wife. After 3 years i was in the rest areas taking as much cock as i could.

i fucked a couple guys along the way  3 and it just kind of happened and i didn't enjoy it in the least, 

it was just natural to go behind a tree,  pull my pants down and have some guy unload in my ass. In the beginning i didn't even like it but i couldn't stop. The psychological need was there., And it's never gone away and i believe that's because it can't, its what i am

I've never had a desire to fuck anyone and don't even care to get blown. If anyone is interested in my cock i don't hook up with them unless they are into some kinks and have an alternative use for it

[Dexxxt]

I was born a bottom.In my early years I struggled to fully understand homosexuality, but there was always this desire to be dominated by other men within me.And as time passed I discovered a way to express this desires in a sexual manner and it just felt right to be a bottom , instinctively I didn't even question the choice being a top.

[PozFunBER]

Born bottom… I mean look at that cunt ☣️😈