Is sex addiction real?

[scotty9]

9 hours ago, partying.hard said:

SA meetings are great to hook up!

My buddy says the same thing, he doesn't think he's a sex addict... but he goes to SA meeting and AA meetings to hook-up with me. LOL it's kinda crazy, but it works for him. 

[hntnhole]

23 hours ago, BootmanLA said:

People with addiction use substances or engage in behaviors that become compulsive and often continue despite harmful consequences,

Yes, and ....

23 hours ago, BootmanLA said:

then I think most "sex addiction" can be excluded from this clinical definition.

Why do you think that "s/a" can therefore be excluded?  It seems that the quote applies equally to both substance use, and compulsive behavior, rooted in the same end-goal.  

What am I missing here?

[hntnhole]

On 5/11/2024 at 2:49 PM, Yultidelog2009 said:

Do I have an addiction and what exactly is it?

I doubt it; some folks just feel good themselves about doing good works for others.  Pretty much the goal everyone should try to advance within themselves.  

Oh - and a verry Merry Christmas to you too .... and whoever you share that log with !!!

[BootmanLA]

On 5/18/2024 at 11:11 AM, hntnhole said:

Why do you think that "s/a" can therefore be excluded?  It seems that the quote applies equally to both substance use, and compulsive behavior, rooted in the same end-goal.  

What am I missing here?

I don't think I said that "sex addiction" is necessarily excluded from addiction's definition; rather, the point I was trying to make is that most people who claim 'sex addiction' don't really (a) suffer the kind of physical dependency that "classic" addiction (drugs, alcohol, tobacco, etc.) is characterized by, or (b) have the kind of life disruptions that truly addictive behavior causes. If "sexual addiction" isn't causing you to miss work, miss important life events for friends and family, causing you to routinely cancel planned non-sexual events in favor of getting laid, etc, then I don't see the "consequences" that would normally define addictive behavior.

For those that do, of course, it's a compulsion that certainly should be treated, if possible. But I think "sex addict" is more often than not used as a bragging point, not an acknowledgment of a problem.

After all, for "classic" addiction, the addicts can be broadly grouped into those who deny having a problem, and those who have come to realize they have a problem and have tried (successfully or not) to treat that problem. I don't know anyone who both admits to being an alcoholic AND who gleefully touts how much beer, wine, and booze he's going to consume each week.

[FilthySTDPig]

I can only speak for myself. I think it's definitely an addiction. There have been several times that I've placed sex above other needs such as work obligations, physical/psychological safety, etc. I've often found myself in bed from sun up to sun down thinking about nothing but sex. I've spent weeks caught in cycles of doing nothing but watching porn, fucking, and hitting poppers. It gets even worse when I'm in a bottoming mood. My whole existence becomes dedicated to catching as many random loads as possible despite any consequences. Sometimes it can get scary. But this is who I was born to be.

[topblkmale]

 

The gay hook-up apps (Grindr) contribute to the 'constant 24/7 cruising' sex addition.

 

[JamesL100]

3 hours ago, topblkmale said:

 

The gay hook-up apps (Grindr) contribute to the 'constant 24/7 cruising' sex addition.

 

I think the apps contribute to FOMO and a 'just browsing' culture. The desire simmers in the background but can't be followed through effectively and instantly due to other commitments like work, family, friends, shopping, sports, cinema etc etc.
As profiles used to state: just because my profile is showing as online doesn't mean I'm sitting at the screen ready for sex ..

[sleazyskank]

It is for me. Think about it 24/7. Engage in BB sex just about every day of the week. Sometimes multiple times a day! Drive from one cock to the next. Always loads in my ass!! Luv it!!

[hntnhole]

On 5/21/2024 at 3:21 AM, JamesL100 said:

I think the apps contribute to FOMO and a 'just browsing' culture.

That makes sense to me too. 

The "online-life" can become so insistent, people can fall into destructive (I don't mean sexual, I mean emotional) habits too easily.  Folks "meet" - like on BZ, for that matter - without actually meeting face-to-face.  It's important to interact with other people, even if just in the grocery store.  

Spending too much time on the apps can easily result in the FOMO mentioned by JamesL100, when in reality we're furthering that feeling of  "missing out".  

Lets all meet up in the canned goods aisle at the grocery store and fuck like pinto-bean bunnies.  At least we'll be emotionally healthy when we're all tossed in the clink together ..... 😁

[norefusal]

honestly, my entire life is ruled by FOMO for better or worse. 

i don't know if the apps feed it or not. i do know the door open face down ass up nights i spent at the bathouse were 100% FOMO but the apps just helped it along. one night a guy off grindr came to the baths just to fuck me, which i agreed to because the dozens of men milling about all night didn't seem to be fucking anyone. 

[Willing]

BBC is addictive too👄