Is “fear” an aphrodisiac for you

[onlyraw]

So I was just on the phone sex line (I prefer it most times to watching porn … I get off on the interactive aspect)

anyway

i was exchanging messages with this guy who said he was older (mid 50s) married to a woman… his best friend of many years is gay (gbf) 

Awhile ago gbf made a move .. and ….long story short (details of the seduction are hot but not the point of this question)

He is still married… but now a definite item with gbf  and a total bottom… sucking off and getting fucked (raw) by gbf

my messages back to him were egging him on to get more cock … anonymous cock … the thrill of pubic sex (or at least an audience in a back room) etc. to fully experience what it is to be gay

And he replied that was too scary 

which got me thinking about “fear” as an aphrodisiac 

is it/ was it ever …. a turn on for you?

being on your back looking a total stranger in the eyes while he fucks you raw and cums in you?

being fucked in a dark room - or while hooded or blind folded - and having no idea who is fucking you?

Sucking cock of getting fucked in a public cruise spot knowing you might get caught?

or just doing it in public at the baths and having guys watch you (maybe someone you know or work with) will be there and see you being a shared cum slut?

or just the first time (for us older guys - after 1983 when condoms became the rule) for you younger guys anytime …. you took your first raw cock ???

curious what you guys think… I know “fear” is frequently a thing in porn fiction….i just wonder if it is in real life for any of you..

[verbalBTTM]

That fun is reserved for men who no longer care what other people think of them. A true pig knows what he wants and will not allow childish opinions of him shame him away from glorious hot sex. 

[20cmcock]

The risk and fear is definitely a turn on for me.

I've been in all the situations you've described above and the fear and risk is what got me there

[hntnhole]

I can't say that "fear" is an issue for me. 

Fear of exactly what, I wonder?  All those acts you list are things rawguys do with each other, and that's a "freeing" thing from any "fear", not an inhibiting factor.  My friends know what I do, why I do it - if they had rejected me for what I do, then we wouldn't be friends, would we?  

I think culturally-based fear is nothing more than a reaction to social "norms" that simply don't apply to me.  It is what it is, and they can take it or leave it.  

[Fprefect570]

I definitely understand the fear part. 
 

I remember feeling it back in the Craigslist days. I’ve never interacted with this man outside of emails and now I’m at a strange location, sometimes not even knowing what they look like, and I’ve agreed to let this absolute stranger fuck me. I would get nervous and grind in my seat to feel my buttplug push deeper in. 
 

it helped with the excitement I felt. 

[Rawonly06]

I think that. As risk is a real turn on but fear is not so exciting. When i get breeded in sexshop, the possibility to get pozed make me loosing all control.

[norefusal]

it's only fear in the way it's fun to watch horror movies and scare yourself although it's all fake. 

i often host blindfolded door open for anon and thrilling yes, fearful, no. 

the only times i can ever recall feeling fear were a few seconds when i was young: 

like the time i was sleeping and suddenly a huge stranger jumped in my bed. within seconds my roommate was at the door saying "wrong room! come'on follow me" and it was over. 

another time i decided to go home w a guy from a bar who was a tad bit weird. inside his bldg but before we reached his apt he made a "joke" about being a serial killer. haha. only it wasn't funny. i got weirded out, said i changed my mind and left asap. 

fear isn't sexy. but "dangerous" rollplay is, kinda like a haunted house at halloween 

[partying.hard]

Yes. Fear and risk both send shivers through my balls - in a good way.  🐷

 

which phone line?

[BBBxCumDumpster]

2 hours ago, norefusal said:

it's only fear in the way it's fun to watch horror movies and scare yourself although it's all fake. 

i often host blindfolded door open for anon and thrilling yes, fearful, no. 

the only times i can ever recall feeling fear were a few seconds when i was young: 

like the time i was sleeping and suddenly a huge stranger jumped in my bed. within seconds my roommate was at the door saying "wrong room! come'on follow me" and it was over. 

another time i decided to go home w a guy from a bar who was a tad bit weird. inside his bldg but before we reached his apt he made a "joke" about being a serial killer. haha. only it wasn't funny. i got weirded out, said i changed my mind and left asap. 

fear isn't sexy. but "dangerous" rollplay is, kinda like a haunted house at halloween 

When I first got to NYC, I met a guy at Uncle Charlie's. (Who remembers that? Lol) I had just turned 18. And I agreed to go to Woosbridge, NJ with this guy.  While riding,  I thought I barely knew how to get home on the subway and I'm going to another state. This guy could be a serial killer.  Make small talk.  "So what do you do for a living. "                           "I'm a serial killer." He said.

For a moment I felt sheer terror.  Then he let out a goofy laugh and said he was an accountant. For some reason, the fear was gone. We had a good romp.  He was a gentleman and drove me back over the river in the morning.  After that, I discovered rough trade and really got into fearful foolish situations. They were the best. Now I have the mosr fun with guys with dangerous minds!

[NWUSHorny]

I never really thought about fearing any of those things, and have done most of them many times. i do have a slight fear about what a stranger may do to me if I go to their space or allow them into mine, but it isn't an aphrodisiac for me and prefer to meet in and fuck in neutral settings with their like minded guys at least within shouting distance.

[onlyraw]

2 hours ago, partying.hard said:

Yes. Fear and risk both send shivers through my balls - in a good way.  🐷

 

which phone line?

I call “the back room” it’s free … and like the bars or the baths it is hit or miss …. Sometimes there are hot guys who are open about barebacking …. Some even into hot poz talk…. Sometimes it is really vanilla …. And sometimes it is all pe**v**y guys - which can be a real turn off …. But at least as the call is free you just waste your time and not your money 

 

[onlyraw]

Moderators 

am I allowed to give the phone number?

it is a free line … so it is not “advertising” for them …. And (being totally selfish) I would love to get more barebackers calling the line 

[partying.hard]

58 minutes ago, onlyraw said:

I call “the back room” it’s free … and like the bars or the baths it is hit or miss …. Sometimes there are hot guys who are open about barebacking …. Some even into hot poz talk…. Sometimes it is really vanilla …. And sometimes it is all pe**v**y guys - which can be a real turn off …. But at least as the call is free you just waste your time and not your money 

 

I know that line. I’ve called a few times.  Hit or miss. But when you hit it, those are some amazing men.

[Hungryforbbc]

It’s more like anxiety for me than fear- I’m pretty fearless but there’s always the feeling of not knowing what you’re in for and the anticipation that makes it more exciting. I’ve found that anxiety makes the actual experience more exciting but it does sometimes make me so anxious that I have admittedly been known to last minute cancel. It’s not often but sometimes the circumstances or something about their energy turn my anxiety into feeling uncomfortable and that’s when I try to listen to the universe and apologetically cancel or call it.

 I just had a beautiful young “straight” Jamaican king who i met on Adam who came over and was everything he said he was but his energy was all wrong so after sucking his lovely dick for a few minutes I sent him on his way. Disappointing for both of us but I am experienced enough to know when it’s not right and having ignored the feeling before and ended up being disappointed I know better now.