Baralvr26 Posted 8 hours ago Report Posted 8 hours ago Im 25 and been dating this guy for 4 years and honestly has been the most emotionally fulfill relationship but at the same time I crave sex with multiple guys and want him to join me in the sex adventures. I personally feel board with only one dick and miss the rush of going to a bathhouse or video porn theater getting loads from other men. Was anyone here ever able to go from a monogamous relationship to a sex filled open relationship while still maintaining intimacy? Like I want to have a partner who can show intimacy but also genuinely enjoys being cum hungry together. im on the verge of just ending things with my current bf because of our differences and how I feel trapped and forced to be someone else. the dating scene is already tough and a lot of the bathhouse sluts near my age either are competitive/territorial over the amount of dick they can secure or have zero ability to emotional connect with someone. sorry for the mess of pacing in this post. 😔 1 Quote
bareback-flipflop Posted 7 hours ago Report Posted 7 hours ago I totally understand you and have sympathy for your problems. I can’t open the secret box for you because I don’t know the trick. I lived with my boyfriend for more than 16 years and we not only didn’t have sex with a third, or fourth one but even with each other. I cheated on him from time to time and suffered from remorse sometimes for a year. After he had left me (not because of this) I enjoyed the free life of single sluts for almost 7 years. I tried to find someone, but I always shared the fact at the very beginning that I was not able to be in a monogamous relationship. The first date was the last date. 🤣 I accidentally found my love less than a year ago, who is thinking about this like me. We are in a strongly bonded emotional relationship with open doors (more precisely open pants and holes) and it works and we are happy. So, you know your boyfriend. You can carefully mention the opportunity to open the relationship. Probably he will be in. If he strictly monogamous, you should consider what you won and what you lose. Then I decided on keeping the relationship. Although it worked sometimes I felt awful because of cheating, lying and being afraid of meeting anyone in the sauce or the apps who can cover up my secret. Finally I was left because he didn’t feel free in our relationship 🤷🏻♂️ A slut can’t be kept in a cage for a long time because it gets away from there sooner or later. 1 Quote
RubberAustria Posted 7 hours ago Report Posted 7 hours ago 44 minutes ago, Baralvr26 said: open relationship You two must find your definition for an open relationship. It can also mean that you two go together to bathhouses/ sexclubs/ sexation- but always go home together. Maybe he is ok with that and he can also fulfill his (sexual) dreams which he certainly has. Quote
Pozguyinchi Posted 3 hours ago Report Posted 3 hours ago I have been in a few Dom and submissive relationships where it was open for him and he would select who bred me. It didn’t work out because ultimately the sex between us stopped and I was just waiting around to get used. I think a true open relationship is hard to find. As you get older you will appreciate the fulfillment of a true loving realtime you have now. It may be worth it to stay. I have been getting used by random men for decades now and it’s not fulfilling. Quote
TownTravellerMan Posted 2 hours ago Report Posted 2 hours ago (edited) 5 hours ago, Baralvr26 said: Im 25 and been dating this guy for 4 years and honestly has been the most emotionally fulfill relationship but at the same time I crave sex with multiple guys and want him to join me in the sex adventures. I personally feel board with only one dick and miss the rush of going to a bathhouse or video porn theater getting loads from other men. Was anyone here ever able to go from a monogamous relationship to a sex filled open relationship while still maintaining intimacy? Like I want to have a partner who can show intimacy but also genuinely enjoys being cum hungry together. im on the verge of just ending things with my current bf because of our differences and how I feel trapped and forced to be someone else. the dating scene is already tough and a lot of the bathhouse sluts near my age either are competitive/territorial over the amount of dick they can secure or have zero ability to emotional connect with someone. sorry for the mess of pacing in this post. 😔 I would say just be honest about how you feel. I wouldn't phrase it as bored with one dick though maybe just say how you crave more and want to open the relationship. Maybe it's something he wants to. You can also maybe see if he wants to try to play with others with you together as well. It's both of your relationship though so you can both define and talk about how you want it to be. I can understand completely being nervous of the dating scene if you become single afterwards. I don't know if all the bath house sluts have full territory over everything though lol. I know exactly how you feel though. I've been in a monogamous relationship in the past where after getting fucked too sometimes I wished I could have just gone out after and gotten more. The intimacy aspect of relationships are nice though. If worst comes to worst and you do end up being single it has advantages and disadvantages too. I will say that trying to surpress the urges or just stay monogamous because the other wants you to or you feel that they want you to might not lead to the best results later on. But I would start with open communication and talking and explain what you want and ask what he wants. And go from there. You never know he might surprise you. Best of luck though. I hope that he is also open and wanting to explore other things with you as well. Edited 2 hours ago by TownTravellerMan Quote
bbpigbtm Posted 1 hour ago Report Posted 1 hour ago Finding the person for you is hard( and don’t always happen) i have seen friends leave true loves - thinking better coming, alot it didn’t. I also left partners who i knew was not right, but if you find a person who you bond with, ( sex fades) but love is love , stay, now i do stray , and i know my partner couldn’t handel truth, ( but he knows) so i keep that separate , life short, we gay men, do u Quote
Moderators drscorpio Posted 1 hour ago Moderators Report Posted 1 hour ago My first husband insisted on monogamy even though we had both been very promiscuous up until that point. After six years, we decided to try being open. He quickly discovered how much he enjoyed watching me take loads and then fucking my cummy hole. After a few years, he had to be a couple of hours away taking care of his sick mother a few days each week, and we started to play separately. Our intimacy and connection never suffered from being open although he eventually died after a stroke. Quote
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