Rough fucking

[DenverBtmDude]

On 10/21/2025 at 7:27 AM, BreedingTop71 said:

What about pain? Does it matter to you if he hurts you on his way in or during fucking?

For me the pain turns quickly into pleasure bro.....get it on like donky kong!

[tallslenderguy]

On 10/21/2025 at 8:17 AM, BreedingTop71 said:

Yes. Example: every time I tried with a bottom who tried to control my pace, or direct me into what he enjoys it’s a massive turnoff. I don’t take instructions from the hole I’m using. 
 

Faggots are my perfect match. They are just glad a real man is using them and will put up with anything we serve. 

Preface: Answering this as an individual, i don't presume to answer for anyone else. i believe we're all individuals on an infinite human sexuality spectrum, even though we use broad labels to make communication and identification easier. 

i never want or try to direct a Top while He is fucking me... but my profiles, or any online exchange  can be very specific about wants and turn offs. AND i want the same ahead of time from the person i am exchanging with.  Why? because we all do this because of want/need, so it makes sense to me to be self aware and skilled enough in communication, from both parties, with that info.  In that vein, i appreciate your query and openness about what you want/need. 

For whatever reasons, i'm wired bottom. What that means to me is not a short answer, and how much of the answer one gets depends on their degree of interest.  But some basic stuff?  my lust/desire/need connects to a Tops lust/desire/need as a 'bottom.'   If a guy is just 'willing' to fuck me, i'll take a pass. It's often why i do not hook with some versatile guys.  Some can choose to be top or bottom, others need/want both. i can connect with the former, but not the latter. Why? Because i cannot satisfy their need/lust. 

There are some Tops i will take a pass on as well, if i know in advance... i've never stopped a Top while fucking, but i will not knowingly have sex with a Top who wants me to be something/someone i am not. It's a turn off for me to "direct" a Top "into what enjoy" while having sex. But it seems to me, anyone who lets another know they wanna be fucked is giving direction initially?  Controlling pace? That's contrary to me connecting to Him and His need/desire.  i've told more that a few Tops upfront that it doesn't matter to me how big or small their cock is, how long or how short the fuck is... what matters is they are getting what they want/need, and for whatever reason, that evokes, connects and even seems to control my own want/need. i think that may be why i'll receive things in the middle of a fuck that i might not agree to ahead of time?  And, for me, it's not just about "the load." Sure, that's important, but i can get that from discarded condoms. And it's not just about the physical penetration, i can get that from a dildo (which i never use). It's the desire and intent the results in those things that matters most. 

Bottom line, i'd rather go without than have a guy fuck me in any particular way because it's what i want. To me, the best sex is when it's symbiotic  so that takes me back to the self knowledge and openness part prior to sex. To me, that is not about direction, but about identifying and matching up needs/desires. Which gets into a discussion of hook up vs ongoing relationship. Plusses and minuses to both i think.