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Unfortunately there are both tops and bottoms that can't seem to figure out the physics of how to fuck. I'm pretty adaptable so I can find something that will work with most, but not all guys. Locally I run into a lot of guys that only fuck in one position, typically one that isn't all that comfortable for me either as a top or bottom.

Doggy is one of my favs. Sure, you don't see the tops face when he cums. But you can concentrate on your own lust. Usually makes me cum.

Which really, really sucks if you moved from a city where it was easy to find guys to fuck. I found myself spending twice as much time looking and only getting maybe a quarter of the fucks I was used to. I had never had a problem finding bottoms prior to moving to Portland.

This is an interesting question because a condom has not been seen, nor has mention of it been heard, in like a decade. I genuinely didn't know that anyone still used them (well, straights and high schoolers I guess)...

So there's two separate things here, a loose sloppy hole, and puffy lips. We need to take them in turn: 1. A loose sloppy hole is achievable by regular stretching, but it's important to define how you want it loose and sloppy. A plug like Mr S's WMCBP is great for feeling stretched on the inside, but doesn't work the hole at all (other than insertion/removal), rather the neck is tiny AF to make it comfortable for long-term wear. Or a Mare Maker from Topped Toys goes deeper and stretches the hole in more directions than a Square Peg egg plug. Meanwhile one of the Hankey's penis-shaped-but-very-oversize toys will stretch you out but also will go deep, and by riding it, there's no narrowed neck so you also train your hole to loosen. Whatever metric you're using for "loose sloppy hole" you train your hole by taking what is comfortable, then pushing to what is past comfortable a bit more every time until what's not doable is the new baseline, and you keep pushing it forward. So if you have a toy you can't yet take, find something else with slightly smaller measurements, and take that before working up to the "reach" toy. Also, though, if you can take it and it hurts, you can still take it. At that point, it's all mental, not physical, just breathe, hit the poppers, and try and hold it for a count of 10. Or, push it out, wait for the hole freakout to end, and pop it back in. You aren't a failure if you can't take it like a champ, everyone's hole is different. Just keep putting in the work and you'll get there. 2. Puffy lips - that may or may not happen for you, point blank. Everyone's hole is different, and some guys get a beautiful deep-looking hole that rosebuds like nobody's business, others get a super puffy punched-out look, others it's almost visually like a thin rim, and so on. If you're pummeling your hole (or someone else is) and when it's at its most use and worn and blown out it's not looking puffy, that's probs just not your hole type, and chasing that visual might lead to hemorrhoids...

Usually happens. When guys ask if I play safe or say they only play safe meaning we should use condoms, I say I use prep to play safe because it's more reliable than condoms for HIV. And for everything else you'd just get whatever in your throat when you blow each other anyway. Not that I worry about it, I've had all the vaccines and test regular. Been fucking raw for about a decade now and barely had any problems, and anything that could happen is temporary and treatable. So I'm totally fine without a condom, but it's ok if he wants one, no pressure. At this point most guys just say ok or whatever, and when we meet we don't talk about or use a condom. Most times I think guys just want to hear it's ok and safe enough, and they're not going to be judged for doing it raw. If they're new or I think maybe don't know about stuff I say to guys it's good to get tested, get vaccines and prep so they don't have to rely on their partners doing this. I've met and talked with a lot of dl bi guys who didn't understand prep or that there's vaccines and I know some went and got them, and I've encouraged guys who were nervous to go to the clinic for this stuff that it's normal, not something to worry about doing, and some started going. As for guys who really want to use condoms, it's fair enough. I won't blow a guy with one though, that's my hard limit. I can't have something with that rubber feel and gross taste in my mouth. Yuck.

I normally get anal orgasm quite easily but I hardly cum but the top know I'm having anal orgasm as my whole body start shaking and my ass tightening.

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@wannaBTM I'd take @Pozguyinchi approach. He's an uber slut from what I've read ! 🙂

I plug most day. I am not trying to get bigger I just like it. It’s calming. I have been doing it for many many years. My pussy is sloppy and my lips are puffy. I’m not gaping but I am not tight either. I say just keep stretching. It’s a slow process. Don’t rush it. You may hurt yourself.

Thanks! Maybe I should aim for being plugged 24/7, even if it's just a small one? By "hurt," it hurt in the sense of too much stretching, like trying to shove a traffic cone up there, it just wasn't happening. Never felt any ripping/tearing. Once or twice, tiny bit of blood, but that was not from inside, that was from a stretch outside and I think dry skin (TMI, sorry?). I'm old enough that I recently had my car insurance go down. 🙂

@wannaBTM you'll get there. Not sure how old you are or how love you've been at it, but you'll get there. Every plug when I upsize can be overwhelming at first. You want to avoid tearing, but if you me "hurts" but you mean it's just really hard, that's different than hurts as in ripping your skin and muscle. I'd make sure i had plug time every day minimum at once. and wear a plug you can for however long you can when possible.

Thanks! I had a few friends give me things as gag gifts (most of the Bad Dragon stuff), though I'm not entirely sure if they really thought it was a gag gift or if that's just what they said, and they had other hopes ... . I've tried firmer stuff and it just hurts 😞. I was kinda hoping I could go for medium/soft and as my hole got more used to it, sizing up would get it bigger while still being medium/soft plugs/dildos. I'll add ('cause I can't edit ... maybe 'cause I'm a new member) that it's not just a fist, but wanna also be able to be DP'd by two really hung guys without feeling pain from even just one.

TLDR: 20 yo male, 6’ 5, can’t find topping appealing, looking for a man to fuck my ass for the first time and teach me the ropes. Location: Los Angeles Into: Pretty much any body type/ethnicity. I Love: Dominant confident guys. My Stats: 100% clean, white male, brown eyes brown hair, 6’ 5 My body: slim but not impressive, not overweight or stocky, light body hair My Energy: masculine, deep voice I have: excellent hygiene, trimmed nails, exfoliated skin, etc I’m 20, I am ridiculously tall at 6’ 5, and you read correctly I am a bottom. I’ve heard all the jokes, thank you. I have persisted in my attempts to be turned on by topping, but it’s just not in my nature. I have had sex with girls and received head from guys before. No matter how hard I try it doesn’t turn me on. I go crazy for men, I drool at the idea of being submissive to men and having a man bend me over and fuck my ass. I need a guy that is willing to go slow and talk me through it at first (because I am a virgin). Once that’s done, I am very open minded and you can fuck me rough, slap my ass, pull my hair, call me names while fucking me, lightly slap my face, and you can even spit on me (ex. spit on my back while you fuck me). I’ve trained my ass with butt plugs and have practiced douching. I am very hygienic. I drool extra hard for bigger men (stronger or bulkier), Latino men, and bigger dicks. If anyone’s interested in dominating a 6’ 5, 20 year old guy’s, fucking his virgin ass, and teaching him the ropes, add me on Snapchat. My Snapchat is: natepatters2025

You have quite the collection. I have 31 years of getting fucked by tons of dick and my hole still snaps back. I literally just received TODAY two new buttplugs to use. I did research on this. They have dilators you can try which are very rigid and don't allow the muscles to relax so help stretch more aggressive. Generally looking for harder (as in not soft) plugs. The people I talked tot said you have to do at least 15min a day of in and out action. Keep it in for as long as you can. Two sessions a day if you cn. And get a friend who will help push you because it's harder to push yourself doing yourself. Finding one you can wear all day is good too - long wear sessions help. I don't have the answer though. Kinda on the same journey.

Hi Guys! First time posting here, I found the site when I was looking for recommendations on getting a sloppy hole. Maybe a New Year's Resolution? I've had my eyes set on this for awhile and gotten several plugs and dildos*, but my eyes are a lot bigger than my hole right now. 😞 Do you guys have any suggested stretching routines on how to get to that stage? Is it as simple as setting up some regimen and following it religiously, making sure my hole has something in it at least once a day? To give you an idea of where I am, I can get a Large Square Peg egg plug in, I have trouble with XL; I've only occasionally been able to get the Blunt in and it hurt like hell. I can get the Deep Space 80 in but it hurts, I've never been able to get the Mare Maker in. I've been able to get my Pearce Bad Dragon dildo in but only for a moment before I had to take it out. My goal is to be able to take something at least 3" wide (fist?) and penetrate my second hole without discomfort. *I tried to make a list of what I have, and it's kinda insane. See the attachment. Some measurements I couldn't find online so I need to go make, and the items in grey I was looking at but am shoving my wallet away until I can actually take what I have because this is a ridiculous collection built over the last few years.

For a week now the website, thisvid has been down for maintenance; anyone else experiencing this?

Guilty ass charged, when being fucked just right I will have multiple. The tops know when it's happening, I get more wet and they can feel me tighten and push out.