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How do you feel after the healing time? Any regrets?

Exactly that... Well said. I love to be gang bred... ass up in the dark room of a gay sauna... No questions asked, and always bare. Sometimes the first load is the hardest to get, but when there are enough guys watching, the scene will often get them hornied up and they often want to participate... A gangbang is often in the make and I am a willing cumdump, doing my best to use my ass muscles to milk them and getting to fill me up.

I really try to keep the load in but my hole loves to let it leak out. Never the less i dont mind it running down my leg, makes me feel like a whore

Yes, and also puting it in my ass

I was in Amsterdam Sauna a year ago... Ass up on the bench in the dark room and getting fucked big time with another bottom [he was kinda high on dope or so] next to me and we got alternating tops fucking us both and when the guy shot his load - sometimes a little in both our asses, we got the next one, and the next one... I gotten so sloppy and filled up that I didn't really feel the cocks anymore, eve though I tried to milk them of all their cum. In a certain break, my bottom neighbor was still on his knees, ass up and I moved on top of him, backward with my ass on top of his. I cupped my hand into his ass and let all the cum out of my ass flow directly into his. I'm not sure if he knew what was happening even though I told him what I was doing... He was so fucking sloppy and filled up then, that he wanted me to fist him. Even though he was sloppy and loose as hell, I couldn't move my hand in. And I am quite experience as a versa fister... After the first top, if he unloaded his cum into my ass, I often immediately want the next... I am a real cumdump and I get extremely hot and I love the feeling of getting used. But the next cocks and loads I don't really feel... the banging of course, I do feel and love. The best is the sloppy loose feeling of my ass, the wetness and my ass is so open and loose by that time that I hardly manage to keep the cum inside.

I tried to hookup with quite a few guys here in Portland on BBRT back in 2019 before it went completely dead, that indicated on their profile that they either gave or received loads anally even though what they wrote in their text blurb was exclusively about sucking, that told me after they were sucking my dick they didn't do anal "until they got to know someone", that contacted me to hookup again, but admitted they wouldn't do anal on the 2nd hookup either, so there wasn't a 2nd hookup. So not everyone takes it for granted that a hookup is about fucking.

I’ve practiced a LOT…..lol

I actually got banned from A4A when I was stuck in Portland for several weeks in a row a couple of years ago, For being offensive I can only assume it was because I was very forward about looking to hookup and actually fucking.

I'm not taking a shower just to suck some dick. Please! haha I also feel like "oral only" is a lie....so yo uhave to prepare just the same. I can jerk off in 30 seconds to some porn versus spending however long trying to find a BJ. heck no! 🙂

The general ones I was thinking of are Fetlife and Recon, on the cuddling side, pun intended, Cuddlelist, CuddleComfort, and a lot of local cuddle clubs that I have intentionally blocked the names of from my mind, that have online tools for their members. That's what it was supposed to be, but not what I've observed in Portland. It is almost exclusively ads for guys looking for a party buddy and maybe JO, or guys who list their sexual position as a HJ top (I had to Google it after seeing it 10 or 20 times). I'm not sure how much luck you would have finding a dick to suck, but you could find plenty of guys looking to suck your dick on Grindr, Growlr, BBRT, Sniffies (once you sift through all the cuddler profiles, what's left are cocksuckers) and Squirt. Squirt isn't very active, but probably has the highest % of guys that are willing to entertain the notion of fucking. That said, I use most of the general hookup sites some when I travel.

WAIT! A4A has become ChristianMingle for people looking for LTR? That's insane to me - that's not what it was like in the years gone by. In the BURBS, Sniffies was good for commuters and married guys. Quick pump/dump scenarios . Wasn't DoubleList supposed to be the Craigslist M4M replacement? What are the fetish sites you mention? Also, I agree. With my dick healing for the PA upsize, my friend was like "you should just be sucking a ton of dick." First of all, I didn't think people still went online just to suck dick...seems like a ton of trouble.

Someone needs to start a hookup site that is explicitly geared toward guys who fuck and get fucked. There has been a proliferation of hookup sites for kinks and activities that aren't fucking, but none that I know of for that are explicitly for fucking. In areas where it is difficult to find guys who like to fuck the general hookup sites get quickly overrun with guys looking for anything and everything put a guy looking and willing to fuck. Locally for me Sniffies seems to be primarily for guys looking for a cuddle buddy Doublelist is for guys looking to hang out and party without doing anything sexual. A4A is like the gay Christianmingle with every one seeking LTRs. Most of the rest are for guys seeking oral only with 95% of them being oral only committed total "bottoms".

Do NOT Do the Blue pills with poppers. An adult theater near me had to haul out a dead body because of that. Lowers the blood pressure too much.

If you have a good relationship with your Dr ….. talk with them. …. Maybe they know a type of ED drug that can be used with poppers ….. or provide alternatives …. but please….. get advice from a professional…. Safer that way…..

I don't think bare backing is about depression, in particular. Bug chasing to me is another [banned word], and those fuel sexual fantasies. I'm a bottom and I love to lick ass, which some people think is crazy. DOESN'T STOP ME!

It’s funny the times I have gotten fucked from The Blowers have been GREAT fucks, but they are not that often. I actually love giving head, so I’ll jump on here and there when I need some dick stink in my face. Plus, living in NYC I get some good tourist dick off the app.

Poppers + TriMix if you're a bottom who likes poppers. I don't have strong feelings about them so it's not a consideration. TriMix is now, enduring, and effortless.

Take the pills, and sniff while you jerk off.

....like what would a gay man call another gay man as a derogatory insult? Our insults are the same as our complements according to AI Here are some of the most commonly used terms that gay men sometimes direct at other gay men in a derogatory, mocking, or insulting way (especially within the community itself). These often stem from internalized homophobia, femmephobia (disdain for femininity), or body-type/age/status hierarchies in gay culture. Many of these words can be affectionate, playful, or reclaimed in friendly contexts among close friends, but they turn sharp/insulting very quickly when used with bad intent, to shame, or to put someone down. Common internal insults / derogatory labels Queen (or "bitchy queen") → Often used to mock someone perceived as overly dramatic, catty, entitled, or stereotypically flamboyant. ("Stop being such a queen" = stop being dramatic/diva-ish.) Bitch → Very frequently thrown around as a general insult ("What a bitch," "That bitch," etc.), especially to imply pettiness, meanness, or attitude. Fem / Feminine / Femme (as an insult) → Used to shame men for being "too feminine" in voice, mannerisms, interests, or appearance. Frequently tied to "no fats, no fems" dating profiles. Twink (derogatory sense) → Originally just means young/slim/hairless, but often used to imply shallow, stupid, immature, or "only good for looks." Bottom / Bottom energy (as an insult) → Mocking someone for being perceived as sexually submissive/passive, implying weakness or "less manly." Flamer / Flaming → Derogatory for very effeminate or obviously gay presentation. Mary / Marys → Old-school camp term sometimes used mockingly for effeminate or gossipy gay men. Not like other gays / "Straight-acting" superiority → Not a single word, but a whole attitude/insult category where masculine-presenting men put down anyone more visibly gay/feminine. Important context notes (2025–2026 vibe): Femmephobia remains one of the most persistent forms of prejudice inside gay male spaces — many gay men still weaponize femininity as the ultimate insult. Dating/hookup apps and social media comments are where these terms most frequently appear as straight-up insults. The same word can be loving banter between friends one minute ("Yaaas queen, work bitch!") and a cutting insult the next ("You're such a messy queen"). Language in the community is fluid and context-dependent — tone, relationship, and intent matter enormously. What slays in one group can genuinely hurt in another.

I've frequently responded "you bet your ass I am...."

Any suggestions for place to stay? Looking for hotel or apartment with easy access. Prefer blindfolded and open doors, no loads refused