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  1. rawTOP
    Unless you're one of the 1% of Northern European guys who are immune, then there's no way you'll stay neg taking anonymous loads.
  2. rawTOP
    Yup. You just described what I tell bottoms I see with little dicks - almost word for word in some places.
  3. rawTOP
    I think shame is just one of a few factors. There are clearly cases where there is physically abusive rape and in those cases shame has nothing to do with why it's a negative experience.
  4. rawTOP
    That's a tricky statement. If the teen enjoys it then you're saying the older guy should be thanked, but if the teen didn't like it then the older guy should be put in jail for rape. Complicated. Then add to that equation that the teen may not like it at the time it happens, but then comes to think it was hot later. It's not an approach that can be enforced. The laws are simplistic for a reason... But from a non-legal point of view I agree that you shouldn't let someone make you feel like a victim if you don't feel you are one.
  5. rawTOP
    To me the issue is that so many people try to make a complicated issue black and white. We have age of consent laws that are just too simplistic. When you say a child can't consent. The issue is that it's impossible to define the dividing line between "child" and "adult". I'd say prepubescent guys are clearly "children". But everything between 13 and 18 is a question mark (as is reflected by the varying age of consent laws). Some guys are just into older guys (for whatever reason). If they realize that at a "young" age then it gets really fuzzy. Unlike guys who are attracted to guys their own age, they really have no way of exploring their sexual desires. IMHO, it's a mistake to make guys like that feel like victims when what they're doing is completely normal (for them). On the other hand there are cases which are clearly sexual abuse and they have huge repercussions for the victims. IMHO, the mistake is to think all the sex kids have with adults is abuse on that level. Based on the poll above about 7-10% of gay guys are victims of real abuse, and another 15% may have encountered it but find the experience resonates with their emerging sexual desires. Most important is to talk about it and understand that different people have different experiences. It's also vitally important to take real abuse completely seriously and punish the perpetrators.
  6. rawTOP
    Well, so far my observation years ago that half of all gay men were raped as kids, is holding up as true. Luckily, fewer than 10% remember it as a bad experience. I wonder what the numbers would be among heterosexual women?
  7. rawTOP
    It depends on the motivation behind the hitting... If it's just sex play it can be fine. I still remember a bottom proudly showing me his bruises at the end of the IML weekend and wishing they were darker and bigger... He was hit, but not abused.
  8. rawTOP
    Some tops give small loads.
  9. rawTOP
    I think this is a really important topic. Right after I came out a friend got me into group therapy and I was struck that about half the guys in therapy had been raped as kids. It makes me wonder how common rape is for gay guys. But I've also found rape is a complicated subject. sometimes it's just technically rape 'cause the kid is an active willing participant who's just into older guys. And other times the guys get turned on by it after the fact and it shapes who they are sexually and they start seeking out similar situations. And of course then there's the cases which are just clearly rape and horrible memories for the guys who got abused. I've added a poll to the thread to delve into those issues.
  10. rawTOP
    A buddy of mine runs Best Male Blogs, which is a pretty popular site that lists the top gay blogs. I recently added the member blogs section to here and was thinking you guys should vote for it to make it show up better on BMB so your blog posts get better visibility... And, of course if you'd vote for my blogs, I'd appreciate that too Vote for the Breeding Zone Member Blogs Vote for rawTOP's Bareback Porn Blog Vote for rawTOP's Personal Blog If any of you have blogs that are listed on Best Male Blogs, reply to this thread with a link to the page where people can vote for your blog. Let's use the power of our little community to make our blogs get more attention and visibility!
  11. rawTOP
    I merged your post into this one which deals with a lot of the same issue...
  12. rawTOP
    Not exactly a bug. Widen your browser and it will display properly. You're probably also having a problem with the nav bar with the search area going over things like "gallery"... You may also have your font size set larger than normal. Command/Control + 0 will put the fonts back to normal in most cases if that's the problem.
  13. rawTOP
    It's important to note that there's a high mortality rate for these treatments. So you're more likely to die from the treatment than from HIV/AIDS... Unless they can distill the treatment down to something that's simple and not so dangerous it seems like an incredibly dumb idea to me.
  14. rawTOP
    Firefox should be good now. My bf found the problem. Yeah, I probably spend more time running this site than I should (ditto for the guy who works for me). But my long term goal is to do more and more with this site - build it out with more features, etc. With all the piracy out there, the future of porn is uncertain, but community sites will always be a solid bet so I don't mind putting in the time to get this thing off the ground and where it should be.
  15. rawTOP
    I see that, but will have to research how to fix it. There are also problems with user profiles...
  16. rawTOP
    The site has been upgraded to the latest version of the forum software it's based on, and in the process all the problems with RSS feeds have been resolved - so the updates from different bareback bloggers should be working again. And oddly (without my changing anything) there's now a line above the signature - another request someone had...
  17. rawTOP
    See my post immediately above yours. Same issue.
  18. rawTOP
    Sounds a bit like what we did at MAL... It'll be a year (+) before I can do something like that here in NYC... I usually just do it on "sex holiday weekends" 'cause otherwise organizing it is disruptive... Maybe for Mates Leather Weekend this fall, but not sure how big the crowd would be in P-Town...
  19. rawTOP
    I'm aware of it. It started when I migrated to another server. I need to reinstall the forum software to get some cron jobs working again and fix a few other things you can't see. I'll be taking care of it later this week.
  20. rawTOP
    Yeah, that's one I've been thinking about... Should have time to get to it in a week or so...
  21. rawTOP
    Back in 1990/1991 I was in a dark room at the Limelight here in NYC. This guy came up behind me and tried to shove his dick in me. I elbowed him in the abs HARD and his response was "What did you do that for? I have a condom on!" He thought just 'cause he was wearing a condom he could fuck whoever he wanted. WRONG! Even in a dark room there are rules...
  22. rawTOP
    BarebackRT lists a bunch of different parties in NYC... That's your best option for multiple loads in a night. Hit me up if you want my load (though I haven't been hooking up much lately - busy with life)...
  23. rawTOP

    You've got an incredible ass!

  24. rawTOP
    So how many loads did you guys give or get last year and what are your goals for 2011? I had a relatively tame year - hooked up 51 times and gave 39 loads, which was about the same as 2009. Realistically that's probably how this year will go as well (though I'd like more)...
  25. rawTOP
    Spit for lube or spit as in spitting on another guy?

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