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Tony was one of many performers who died of AIDS prior to the advent of ARVs.
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All discussion of porn should go in this forum - everything from talk about studios, to talk about particular DVDs and porn stars, to talking about amateur porn you shoot of yourself... HOWEVER, there can be no discussion of how to get pirated porn. That means no discussion of illegal tube sites. No discussion of bit torrent sites, etc. Legal tube sites are fine (XTube, Rocket Tube, etc.) There will be one thread per studio, porn star, DVD, porn site, etc. The first post in that thread should give some sort of review or videography of the porn star / studio / site. Then discussion can follow. I've moved old threads into this forum. They don't always use that format, but going forward that's how I want things structured... Have fun!
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How old are you, and what's your longest relationship? Talk to long-term heterosexual couples and you'll find even the monogamous ones will say the relationships turn pretty much non-sexual after a while. Relationships that are based on sex or sexual monogamy don't last because that's not what relationships are about. Relationships are about being the best friend to your partner. Relationships are about being their for each other. Relationships are about companionship and mutual support. None of that is sexual. If you have sex with your boyfriend - great. If it dies out and you have sex with other guys - who cares? It doesn't change the fundamentals about why you're together. While society puts monogamy on a pedestal, I put open relationships on one. Open relationships are far more balanced.
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What Happened To the Dates on Forum Posts?
rawTOP replied to NYCPissBear's topic in Tips, Tricks, Rules & Help
I'm on Mac (no IE), and HungLatinDom is on Linux (also no IE). Next time I fire up my PC laptop I'll check it out (it's a piece of crap and takes forever to start up). -
Being poz is inevitable for some guys (and they're generally the type that would be on a forum like this). In fact it's inevitable for most bareback bottoms/versatiles who enjoy getting fucked by strangers - and there are a lot of guys who fit that description. In those cases I'd rather they come to terms with being poz while they're still neg than stick their head in the sand and be devastated and feel like a victim when the inevitable happens. Thing is, guys who understand that they'll become poz sometimes do aspire to it. For them it's about accepting who they are - and from that perspective it's a very good thing. All they're doing is being honest with themselves.
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What Happened To the Dates on Forum Posts?
rawTOP replied to NYCPissBear's topic in Tips, Tricks, Rules & Help
Well, it's not a date exactly, but it tells you how long ago they were posted. And if it's long enough in the past, there's a date... I've checked and I see the same thing when logged in as a regular user (admins see different options for some things).
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I know only one gay couple of >10 years that says they're monogamous. All the others admit to an open relationship. For the VAST majority of gay guys if you want an enduring relationship it's going to be an open relationship. Monogamy/jealousy kills relationships. It's sorta funny when I see monogamy types wanting what I have with my bf... I feel like telling them to stop being so jealous - then their relationships will last longer.
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A Late Night, First-Time Breeding in NYC
rawTOP replied to Hotload84's topic in General Bareback Sex Stories
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If you can't get in with missionary position, then I don't think it's gonna happen...
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PLEASE tell your wife you're gay... Not knowing isn't fair to her. If she wants it to continue after she knows, that's one thing... But don't keep her in the dark. I have a sister who's husband told her years ago that he was bisexual. While I think she should have dumped him (for a variety of reasons), at least she's not being deceived...
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The level of abuse that 'boyhood' experienced is pretty remarkable and can't be typical for very many people. I had a good friend a few years ago (have lost touch with him) who's mother was abused by his step father (apparently she had a series of relationships with abusive men). However, she had the good sense to to lock my friend in the basement to keep him away from her abusive partners when she wasn't home. Not much of a childhood, but she bought him this enormous play city and told him she wanted him to be like Frank Lloyd Wright. He spent hours with that city and went on to get his Ph.D. in environmental psychology - basically a field of study that blends psychology with architecture and urban planning. He had his demons, sure, but they didn't get the better of him - not at all... My point is that parents should be held accountable when a child is abused over a long period of time. It's their job to protect their kids. Even parents in bad circumstances can do things to protect their kids - even if it means locking them in the basement with a play city. In the case of 'boyhood' I blame his parents for not teaching him to stand up for himself. It appears no one told him he could say 'no' to abuse. If they had given him a sense of self worth he could have avoided a lot of that abuse by just saying 'no'. My friend knew his mother was proud of him and thought he could be a great architect. That's all it took to get him through a bad childhood... A parent who genuinely believed in him. By contrast the there are clearly some of you who sought out sex with adults when you were still "too young". While it was technically rape, it wasn't abuse (IMHO) because you were at least in some way in control of the experience. Empowerment is key. Empowered kids don't become victims (very often).
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I see 83 vists (48 new) in the past month to BreedingZone (most of which have been in the past week). This site isn't exactly a hookup site, but you're the 2nd person I've heard that hooked up off the site. I want to increase that, but it'll take come tinkering... I've pissed off a number of guys to achieve that harmony... My moderators and I use the site's infraction system pretty liberally. There's just zero tolerance for guys who are divisive. A point of view can always be worded politely... But honestly, most of the infractions we give are just slaps on the wrist for putting a post in the wrong section. There just aren't that many guys who cause real problems. Guys are just here for sex.
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Just wanted to keep everyone up-to-date about the status of the site... Visits to the site are growing steadily... Since the site was launched we've had almost a quarter million people visit the site, almost a half million visits total, and over 4 million page views. That's a great start, and I want to say thanks to everyone who's participated, but I'm hoping the site will get much bigger, so tell your friends and fuck buddies about Breeding Zone. If you have a blog, put Breeding Zone in your blogroll. In terms of enhancements. Looks like I'll get a chat and cam feature implemented early this week. And I want to upgrade the user map feature to show profile names so you can use this more like a hookup site. That means I'll also be working to beef up the user profile pages. And most importantly, I just want to say that by and large you guys have been great. I've had to ban a few people, and people keep posting bug chasing stuff outside the backroom, but all in all you get along with each other really well. That's really what makes this site a special place.
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Unless you're one of the 1% of Northern European guys who are immune, then there's no way you'll stay neg taking anonymous loads.
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Yup. You just described what I tell bottoms I see with little dicks - almost word for word in some places.
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I think shame is just one of a few factors. There are clearly cases where there is physically abusive rape and in those cases shame has nothing to do with why it's a negative experience.
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That's a tricky statement. If the teen enjoys it then you're saying the older guy should be thanked, but if the teen didn't like it then the older guy should be put in jail for rape. Complicated. Then add to that equation that the teen may not like it at the time it happens, but then comes to think it was hot later. It's not an approach that can be enforced. The laws are simplistic for a reason... But from a non-legal point of view I agree that you shouldn't let someone make you feel like a victim if you don't feel you are one.
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To me the issue is that so many people try to make a complicated issue black and white. We have age of consent laws that are just too simplistic. When you say a child can't consent. The issue is that it's impossible to define the dividing line between "child" and "adult". I'd say prepubescent guys are clearly "children". But everything between 13 and 18 is a question mark (as is reflected by the varying age of consent laws). Some guys are just into older guys (for whatever reason). If they realize that at a "young" age then it gets really fuzzy. Unlike guys who are attracted to guys their own age, they really have no way of exploring their sexual desires. IMHO, it's a mistake to make guys like that feel like victims when what they're doing is completely normal (for them). On the other hand there are cases which are clearly sexual abuse and they have huge repercussions for the victims. IMHO, the mistake is to think all the sex kids have with adults is abuse on that level. Based on the poll above about 7-10% of gay guys are victims of real abuse, and another 15% may have encountered it but find the experience resonates with their emerging sexual desires. Most important is to talk about it and understand that different people have different experiences. It's also vitally important to take real abuse completely seriously and punish the perpetrators.
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Well, so far my observation years ago that half of all gay men were raped as kids, is holding up as true. Luckily, fewer than 10% remember it as a bad experience. I wonder what the numbers would be among heterosexual women?
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It depends on the motivation behind the hitting... If it's just sex play it can be fine. I still remember a bottom proudly showing me his bruises at the end of the IML weekend and wishing they were darker and bigger... He was hit, but not abused.
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Some tops give small loads.
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I think this is a really important topic. Right after I came out a friend got me into group therapy and I was struck that about half the guys in therapy had been raped as kids. It makes me wonder how common rape is for gay guys. But I've also found rape is a complicated subject. sometimes it's just technically rape 'cause the kid is an active willing participant who's just into older guys. And other times the guys get turned on by it after the fact and it shapes who they are sexually and they start seeking out similar situations. And of course then there's the cases which are just clearly rape and horrible memories for the guys who got abused. I've added a poll to the thread to delve into those issues.
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A buddy of mine runs Best Male Blogs, which is a pretty popular site that lists the top gay blogs. I recently added the member blogs section to here and was thinking you guys should vote for it to make it show up better on BMB so your blog posts get better visibility... And, of course if you'd vote for my blogs, I'd appreciate that too Vote for the Breeding Zone Member Blogs Vote for rawTOP's Bareback Porn Blog Vote for rawTOP's Personal Blog If any of you have blogs that are listed on Best Male Blogs, reply to this thread with a link to the page where people can vote for your blog. Let's use the power of our little community to make our blogs get more attention and visibility!
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Poz Guys: How Has HIV Changed Your Life? (aside from sex)
rawTOP replied to komfort570's topic in What's It Like To Be Poz?
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Encountering any problem? Post them here...
rawTOP replied to rawTOP's topic in Tips, Tricks, Rules & Help
Not exactly a bug. Widen your browser and it will display properly. You're probably also having a problem with the nav bar with the search area going over things like "gallery"... You may also have your font size set larger than normal. Command/Control + 0 will put the fonts back to normal in most cases if that's the problem.
