PozToxVersPig

LOL - I think you have SOME sense of me by now - virginal is NOT a word anyone would think applied to me. That's helpful though cuz I don't want people to misunderstand 🙂

Taking someone's virginity. These are MY preferences. #1) I don't like inexperienced people generally sexually, and 2) I really don't think they are cut out for me being their first, and I'd rather not be. Other people might be in to it

Yo @rawinme - I think what you're talking about sounds fucking awesome. Sorry things with that guy fell through. While writing for my blog about a significant BDSM experience of my own. I ended up spending a few months off and on learning a lot about BDSM. I would NOT consider myself an experienced practitioner, though I think spending 6-days as a sub to three doms gives me some cred - even if that was the only time 🙂 Among a couple others, there are three core principles I think that really matter in BDSM - Communication, Consent and Respect. And I believe it's more than possible to have the thrill of being "helpless" even if you do establish limits. My argument in what I wrote last night is - having clear understanding of limits on both sides ACTUALLY INCREASES your ability to push further in to exploring those limits...and your question was - "how do you establish that trust" - I think it starts there. Here's the blog post I made last night, which is a background post to the experience I described above - my 6 days as a sub. I also included a quick glossary of shit related to BDSM! Would be happy to chat! 🙂

Jock strap is good, wifebeater is good, pants just pulled down can be the way it goes in public fucks...not sure I care all that much!

I didn't realize Square Peg had a "try at home" program - you don't really get to try it, but you can hold it and feel it's firmness before buying. If you open the tamper proof packaging, you bought it, but otherwise can return. I just ordered 5 to "try out."

There are 37 truck stops within a 25-mile radius of my house, 4 within a 10-minute drive (incl. a pretty "busy" one). All of them lining any place you'd want to go, north east south or west. Within a 100 mile radius, there's over 100. Plent of lot lizards around! 🙂 Especially north and west of the city. Depending on the type of truck it is and whether it's a day-cab or sleeper, both can work. Day-cab they need to have window coverings cuz you're fucking in the front passenger seat. Sleeper cab it's just a matter of getting in and out without drawing too much attention. A few ways to hook it up: Sniffies works really well for this in my area if you want to find specific dudes. Some have outdoor seating areas like the Luv's near me. In the summer, that's where people eat, and the lot lizards collect. Hang out in your car with the window open. Don't park right in front of the front of the entry to the truck stop main facilities. If they have a separate outbuilding for the showers part near that, though generally, people don't fuck in the showers cuz there's monitored cameras (outside the showers, but in the facility) Or, so I've heard...

FWIW that's supposed to look like a "cum puddle" but I don't think it fully stuck the landing! 🙂

@bareback-flipflop I made you an award you can wear proudly! 🙂

Are there activities you like sexually more than others? LIKEY (PREFERENCE) Are there certain activities that you'll participate in but don't really favor? NO LIKEY Are there activities which you simply will not participate in and there is no negotiation about it? LIMITS/ABSOLUTE NO I'm willing to bet that not a single person reading this hasn't been asked at some point: "what are you into?" or "limits?" Back in the day and before more kinks were out in the open, this used to be a way to determine if someone would bareback. Today, it's less about that and more so trying to determine if someone would fuck without a condom and more what COULD occur. And even if something could occur (say, WS), maybe you are good getting it in your ass and sprayed all over you but don't prefer swallowing it (like me!). I've learned a lot about BDSM recently, and written about it here, and that reflecting made me realize something: it is far more energizing, limit-pushing, and boundary busting when people know these limits and preferences and agree to uphold them. It actually allows you to let go of any concerns you might have that things go out of hand as opposed to worrying that something might go too far. Take the WS example: my response to the question might be "love WS" and the other person might interpret that as "I can do ANYTHING involving piss." So, while I'm blowing the guy, all of a sudden, he pulls me forward by the back of my head and starts to piss down my throat. I know why I don't like that and why I don't want to do it, but we're in a dom/sub situation and I can't speak. I have to recoil and pull myself away. Vibe on ice at this point. "I don't really like to do that. Makes my stomach upset." Nothing makes dicks hard while in the midst of hot sex like talking about an upset stomach. A more extreme example: "No Limits!" or "Anything goes!" is a common response to the "WU into?" message. Responding this way is a blank check to people and in certain social circles and sexual situations, that can be abused or at least become uncomfortable. I have twice been in such a situation - where the nature of what I thought was happening. I may have said yes to everything that transpired after but in both cases wasn't asked, didn't have the option, and was incapacitated to the point where I couldn't respond. Much of I take accountability for because I didn't establish my limits. A core principle of BDSM is communication and consent; consent requires some specificity. This is especially true in enhanced situations. And I'm not saying you should be a hardnosed teetotaler about limits and I've had really great eye-opening experiences going past them, but it's good to know where those limits are so that YOU can adjust them. I start with my list if it's anything more than anon hookup. Given there's time for an arranged hookup, good to talk about things. What I learned about writing The Trunk and the Cage was how thoughtful the 3 Doms were about the limits/preferences conversation and how it was absolutely upheld. Once I got used to what was happening, it was so much easier to know they were watching out for those limits, which made me able to let go and relax even more. And believe it or not, now that I've folded this into hookups, it's a fuckton easier to just go with the flow and enjoy it and turn-up! I have fantasies about non-consensual sex, about being pushed well beyond my limits, of being kidnapped, etc. Many of us do. And I used to say things like "No Limits!" cuz it sounds better than a bulleted list of things that are and are not okay. FUCK THAT!! Some dom top knowing exactly how far he can push me without any stress on his part makes it so much easier to FUCK ROUGH AND RAW without hesitation lingering at all. Limits and boundaries create far more potential to really push your limits. Here are my preferences and limits as of today - it's a living document...

@Fistcumslut COULD NOT AGREE MORE. I have more detailed instructions from my health provider if needed, but Trimix NEVER as an IV administration. TriMix is formulated for localized administration and effect. Here's another injection "how to" -

It has been over a decade since I've used this method, but after particular heavy item use, top rack of dishwasher, tiny squirt of dish soap in soap dispenser and filled with distilled vinegar, rinse cycle (no heat). 10-12 minutes - a weekend's worth of use, gone! Run for second cycle (no soap/vin) if you want to eliminate any vinegar smell, which will dissipate in a couple of hours.

Most/all HIV medications influence your blood comp - which is why, if you're tested for VL/CDF, you'll also probably get a CBC (comp blood count). Depending on your schedule with your doctor, this might be as frequently as every 3 months. The HIV meds generally influence your platelets, white/red blood cells count(s), and iron levels [all influence clotting, vascular system things. There are some supplements (Vit K, not iron - it can fuck with your meds) that can help but talk to your Dr. If you get a significant bruise (I did many times) you can try: 1) mark the outer edge with a black permanent marker (if it's somewhere it won't be seen) - you want to watch for ongoing growth of the bruise after the first TWO days. 2) After 24 hours it shouldn't continue swelling, have any discharge, etc. If it spreads / swells after those timelines, I'd see your doctor. 3) cold compress for 15 minutes. The bruise is not likely to do #1/#2.

The Golden Bull in Santa Monica, CA right off of PCH. [think before following links] https://goldenbullsantamonica.com/ It is also a steakhouse. The owners are/were a gay couple. In my family, we have 8 gay cousins spread across, 5 that are now in late 50s to mid 60s. 3 of us now 45 or 46. Back when the younger ones (me included) were together for family functions, the older ones were left to the care of us. So me, my 2 cousins - perhaps first at 12-13, got taken by our older cousins because at night it became a gay bar. A popular one too. The elder cousins were 25 or older but the youngest wasn’t yet 21 but didn’t look like a child either. I don’t know what the elder cousins were off doing, but me and my two younger cousins would sit and play cards and the owner would bring us glasses of what I learned was Galliano. We’d end up drunk and sleeping, the cousins would have their night. We’d all end up back at my grandmother or cousin’s house somehow. As we got older (and all of us could legally drink), it stil remained a tradition for all of us to try to go together once a year. At 18 I did blow one of the Mexican bus boys behind a fence in the parking lot. After that, it was my 21st birthday. First bar was Mother Lode for pregame followed by the Abbey, both in WeHo (back when it only had one tiny toilet in a tiny bathroom for the whole place). I did C off the back of a cop car and drank too many sour apple martinis. Then had sex with my boyfriend at the time and some trick.

Anything is possible. I have been to Hungary before! 🙂

I think that's awesome! Congrats. I certainly enjoy your contributions and in honor of your achievement, I'd be more than happy to flip fuck with you!

I'm not taking a shower just to suck some dick. Please! haha I also feel like "oral only" is a lie....so yo uhave to prepare just the same. I can jerk off in 30 seconds to some porn versus spending however long trying to find a BJ. heck no! 🙂

WAIT! A4A has become ChristianMingle for people looking for LTR? That's insane to me - that's not what it was like in the years gone by. In the BURBS, Sniffies was good for commuters and married guys. Quick pump/dump scenarios . Wasn't DoubleList supposed to be the Craigslist M4M replacement? What are the fetish sites you mention? Also, I agree. With my dick healing for the PA upsize, my friend was like "you should just be sucking a ton of dick." First of all, I didn't think people still went online just to suck dick...seems like a ton of trouble.

Poppers + TriMix if you're a bottom who likes poppers. I don't have strong feelings about them so it's not a consideration. TriMix is now, enduring, and effortless.

....like what would a gay man call another gay man as a derogatory insult? Our insults are the same as our complements according to AI Here are some of the most commonly used terms that gay men sometimes direct at other gay men in a derogatory, mocking, or insulting way (especially within the community itself). These often stem from internalized homophobia, femmephobia (disdain for femininity), or body-type/age/status hierarchies in gay culture. Many of these words can be affectionate, playful, or reclaimed in friendly contexts among close friends, but they turn sharp/insulting very quickly when used with bad intent, to shame, or to put someone down. Common internal insults / derogatory labels Queen (or "bitchy queen") → Often used to mock someone perceived as overly dramatic, catty, entitled, or stereotypically flamboyant. ("Stop being such a queen" = stop being dramatic/diva-ish.) Bitch → Very frequently thrown around as a general insult ("What a bitch," "That bitch," etc.), especially to imply pettiness, meanness, or attitude. Fem / Feminine / Femme (as an insult) → Used to shame men for being "too feminine" in voice, mannerisms, interests, or appearance. Frequently tied to "no fats, no fems" dating profiles. Twink (derogatory sense) → Originally just means young/slim/hairless, but often used to imply shallow, stupid, immature, or "only good for looks." Bottom / Bottom energy (as an insult) → Mocking someone for being perceived as sexually submissive/passive, implying weakness or "less manly." Flamer / Flaming → Derogatory for very effeminate or obviously gay presentation. Mary / Marys → Old-school camp term sometimes used mockingly for effeminate or gossipy gay men. Not like other gays / "Straight-acting" superiority → Not a single word, but a whole attitude/insult category where masculine-presenting men put down anyone more visibly gay/feminine. Important context notes (2025–2026 vibe): Femmephobia remains one of the most persistent forms of prejudice inside gay male spaces — many gay men still weaponize femininity as the ultimate insult. Dating/hookup apps and social media comments are where these terms most frequently appear as straight-up insults. The same word can be loving banter between friends one minute ("Yaaas queen, work bitch!") and a cutting insult the next ("You're such a messy queen"). Language in the community is fluid and context-dependent — tone, relationship, and intent matter enormously. What slays in one group can genuinely hurt in another.

yeah i like that one. I kept the compilation videos out of my favorites since it sometimes cut the video off....and they are easier to find! 🙂 the video names on some of the posts are absolutely insane!

My minimal amount of videos is here: I uploaded a bunch more months ago but they don't show up. [think before following links] https://barebackbastards.com/users/ToxicVersPozPig/