I didn’t grow up with my dad but my best friend lived on the same street as me, and his dad was like a stepdad in a lot of ways. He was very caring and affectionate and he’s taken up a lot of room in my thoughts ever since.
Incest seems to be growing into a more common kink/fantasy lately, or at least more men are open to talking about it. I wonder how much of that stems from not having a good relationship with our fathers when we were younger? How much of these desires are really about us wanting healthy male relationships (either now as adults or when we were younger), but having that need being tangled up in our sexual urges? I think I was about 13 when I first learned about incest as a concept and it very quickly became a fantasy for me, and I’ve always attributed that to wishing I had more contact with my own father combined with puberty and teenage hormones.
Strong and positive role models are important for boys to have - I’m not against those relationships becoming sexual if that develops naturally and both consent, but it’s clear a lot of the replies in this topic are wild fantasies and I think it’s interesting how many of us share them.