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Hot. Did you tell #2 that you had cum in there? If not, did he notice?
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Attraction vs Fetishism: Racial Preference
phillygwm replied to KindaBasic's topic in General Discussion
A fetish is objectifying. if you were ONLY interested in someone because of [whatever] to the exclusion of other traits, including personality, for instance. They're not a person, they're a giant black dildo, in the case you describe. And you might have a whole unique "scene" built around those guys, like race play in this case. Personally, I tend toward Latino guys but I can be attracted to others (and obviously I find some Latino guys unattractive.) I don't consider that a fetish. But if I sought out uncut guys solely because they were uncut, that IS a fetish. But ultimately, it's semantics. I know "fetish" has negative connotations but if you're with someone consensually and you both enjoy it, does it really matter? -
I'm torn by this one. Obviously, I wouldn't use the term "clean" but I question the value of asking the question, however it's phrased. Of course, some people are ethical and will disclose they have whatever bug, but others will say "Yeah, I'm clean, let's fuck." So the question becomes how trustworthy the anonymous guy in that dark room is. Just like picking up a twink. He can tell you he's legal but at least there you can use some judgement (gee, he looks 12 to me). Hard to tell a guy has syphillis by looking at him. If you're going raw, there are some risks that come with the territory. Some can be mitigated (i.e. HIV/PrEP) but others you just need to choose whether it's worth it.
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I'm "average." Maybe a bit on the thick side but if there's one thing guys like, it's my balls. If someone is a size queen, they aren't going to seek me out but guys can feel me when I'm inside 🙂 From a standpoint of giving oral, too big isn't great for me (or, I suspect, most people.) I mean, it's nice to look at and play with but I'm not going to take it all. Someone smaller will get throated and will generally enjoy themselves more than someone with 10". But maybe I'm unusual: I lack the patience for a long head session. I'd prefer a guy I can get off quickly and easily. Especially if he stays enough in the mood to get me off after,
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Do You Discuss HIV Status Before Barebacking?
phillygwm replied to rawTOP's topic in General Discussion
I'm not very sexually active and, for me, sex (or potential sex) usually involves some planning. I went away last weekend and thought sex would be a possibility, so I started back up on PrEP. If I thought I'd be getting laid more consistently, I'd be on it regularly. So HIV isn't really my primary concern. If someone wants to know my status -- and trusts me enough when I tell them -- we can discuss it. I don't bother asking because, aside from PrEP, why would I trust some random to be truthful about it in the first place? Even before PrEP, I know I've fucked poz guys for decades. Nobody ever disclosed to me beforehand; I found out later (or, I'm sure in some cases, never have learned their status.) -
As others have already said, you're a good uncle. But even though you're supportive and generous, you really should come out to him. He needs more than an ally right now. Yes, that might alienate you to your sister and others in your family, so it would be a courageous move. But your nephew needs you more than they do...and hey, if the smart, successful guy in the family turns out gay, maybe some will reconsider their opinions on the subject.
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There's a middle ground. If you tell me I'm so big I'm hurting you, I'll slow down or stop. Just tell me you like what I'm doing (assuming you do.) Gay men tend to have seen a few penises over the years; we know whether it's big, small, or in between. Why be patronizing?
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Damn, I love when I start making out with a guy and slide my hand down his shorts and realize he's uncut. I was almost 20 by the time I saw my first one in person (I'd seen pics). I still feel sorry for my first guy; I pretty much did everything you're NOT supposed to do to a guy with a foreskin 🤣 Like directly rubbing his head. I tell guys that now and you can see them going into a fetal position. But I promise I've gotten better. Of course, one could always use more practice.
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I was one of multiple (3-4) tops with one twink bottom, whom I was really attracted to. I was in my 20's and the other tops were probably 50+ So I came several times in both holes over (for me) the course of an hour or so. They kept going after I left. I've always had to stop immediately after I cum but my refractory period was short back then so when I got hard again, the older guys gave way to let me have another go. They were trying to last, probably knowing they wouldn't be going multiple rounds. As someone in that age range now, I can now understand that perspective!
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That's the thing. If you could set the wayback machine to before the gangbang, it probably would have been better to make sure they both knew about the other's attraction and let them do what they will with that information. Maybe it would have led to a discrete, ongoing thing. At this point, I'm not sure it ends well. Uncle is on a guilt trip and probably paranoid that others in the family will find out. Nobody knows how nephew will react if he ever finds out but you can probably surmise that he would have wanted to know up front that his uncle was going to fuck him.
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A long time ago, I read an article that opined that most people have a natural "ick factor" with people they grew up with. Maybe it's just one of those things that's been conditioned over tens of thousands of years to reduce inbreeding. But obviously, incest has always been a thing with some people. I've always fantasized about being with two brothers or maybe a father and son, as long as son was legal and dad wasn't too old. I always thought, if I had a brother, he would have been a natural playmate, at least while we were hormonal teens. But how would it have played out in reality? I dunno... I do enjoy twin porn, though most of the time they're not interacting with each other.
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Everyone has a plan until he gets his cock in a hole
phillygwm replied to yoursinmine's topic in General Discussion
If a guy is a talented cocksucker, I'd prefer to cum in his mouth. I'll communicate that to a guy, because some people don't care how it happens, they just want my babies. But if he has his heart set on getting fucked, I'll fuck him. That's in the context of a "date" or at least an arranged hookup. Obviously, in an anon situation, it's different; if there isn't communication to the contrary, it's shooter's choice. I understand if you're with someone inexperienced who couldn't help himself but most of us have been around the block and "I couldn't help it" is a poor excuse. -
If your body count is in the hundreds or thousands, it's inevitable that you've had disappointing encounters. Probably many. I've had guys who were paranoid the entire time we were together. One guy came out of excitement before I even touched him, then it was game over. Others weren't clean (not just a little mess, which is an occupational hazard, but they didn't even try,) still more with whom I was sexually incompatible, and many who were just selfish. On the whole (hole?) I've have many more good experiences than bad but a certain percentage of guys are going to be duds, for various reasons.
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Damn, I love seeing a dick that's fully covered even when totally hard.
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Finding guys online for relationship
phillygwm replied to tallslenderguy's topic in General Discussion
I'm naturally cynical so I don't fall for the scammers. I probably rule out some well meaning guys because something strikes me as strange. I put my cards on the table and prefer others do the same: Let's talk for a bit, then meet (and yes, sex), then wherever things go from there. I rule out guys who are impractical. You might be my dream guy but if you're 5000 miles away, it simply won't work. For a serious relationship, anything more than an hour's drive probably isn't sustainable long term for me. That isn't to say we can't be FBs, or that situations could change, but if I'm in Philly and you're in Boston, logistics are a problem...and it gets expensive! I also lose interest in guys where there's a prolonged online exchange. If we correspond for a month, I'm idealizing you more with each email. There's no way someone can live up to that. So I don't want to plan things more than a week out, for the most part.
