phillygwm
-
Posts
274 -
Joined
-
Last visited
.thumb.jpeg.e040d7c29d05d87da8d223aca91a030e.jpeg)
Recent Profile Visitors
1,442 profile views
phillygwm's Achievements
-
I'd suppose it would depend on context. If you're looking for advice (i.e. "I'm not chasing but how can I find out his status before we hookup?") this might be the appropriate place. But if you ARE talking about chasing, Backroom would make more sense.
-
Ten lessons from my first pump and dump
phillygwm replied to NJRawDaddy's topic in General Discussion
I think this is ALWAYS a good idea but especially so if you want to be impaired. Fucking someone who is unconscious or so out of it they're barely aware where they are is a bucket list thing for me. But having someone there who can make sure the bottom is safe and handle any situations would be a must. -
Ten lessons from my first pump and dump
phillygwm replied to NJRawDaddy's topic in General Discussion
Exactly. There are no load refused bottoms as well as tops who can fuck anything that provides a bit of friction. I can't. I think the face down ass up guy would have been able to get me off orally; feeling his mouth on me would have gotten me hard. But touching anything but his hole was off limits. He was basically a human fleshlight. It's like the guys who post pics of their holes. I don't find that arousing in the least. ASSES can be sexy but if you're going to zoom in that tight, just post a video from your colonoscopy. 🙂 -
Ten lessons from my first pump and dump
phillygwm replied to NJRawDaddy's topic in General Discussion
Judging from your post, we're roughly the same age. I'm a top. And yeah, I have the same body dysmorphia issues as so many others. A few months back, I went to my first pump and dump. I thought I'd enjoy it, instead, I couldn't perform, even with Viagra. I thought it was a new med I was on, so I eventually gave up and went home...then I jerked off with no problem. I came to realize that face down, ass up, and in a jock didn't do anything for me. I never even saw his face; he was nothing more than a hole and I was nothing more than a cock. I suppose when I was in my 20's I could get hard when I felt a slight breeze but in my late 50's I need some attraction/interaction. I later went to another one where the bottom was getting spit roasted while others watched and waited their turn. He was totally nude, didn't mind you diddling with him (though he never came himself.) Basically, it was much more interactive and I found it was super hot. Not that one scene was "right" and the other "wrong" but if I might offer a suggestion to those wanting to host, setting expectations for the attendees would be helpful. -
As in the above comment, it could be a physical inability to perform for any number of reasons. In that instance, there are people who specialize in that (there's a Japanese video where they're referred to as "angels.") In the context I was referring to, I purposely used quotes because pretty much anyone able to perform can get laid, if their standards are low enough 🙂 Just as there are no load refused bottoms, there are tops who will fuck any hole. Personally, I have to have an attraction to someone, otherwise I can't get hard. That obviously makes things more difficult. Depending on the situation (it's all in the details!) if I knew someone was trustworthy and would be willing to keep me drained, I'd be perfectly happy to pay or conceivably even provide a place to stay.
-
Well said. We're conditioned from an early age that sex is supposed to happen within a loving relationship. I think most of the people on here realize that isn't necessarily true. I just spent a couple hours looking at the apps in the hopes I could find someone but it didn't work out. If I had a "regular", whether someone living with me or something that is more short term, I'd be perfectly OK with that.
-
I think it's a matter of shame for some people because they "can't" get laid without paying for it. For most of us, it isn't that. I can get laid by guys my age, but not usually by the type of guys I like. So I wouldn't be opposed to paying for it, though it isn't something I seek out.
-
I never have but I would offer a place to a guy I found hot, as long as he was there when I wanted him and maybe handled some jobs around the house. The concern is trust. I wouldn't rush into that kind of situation unless I knew there was no problem with drugs etc. I just don't need my stuff to start disappearing.
-
The less the better. Totally naked, if possible. Grey sweatpants with no underwear is also nice...
-
I'm a negative top. I don't even bother to ask because I'm not inclined to trust some anonymous guy in a bookstore. Most poz guys were converted by someone they thought was neg, whether because they didn't ask, the guy didn't know he was poz, or he lied. I'm responsible for myself. I know U=U and most guys who know they're poz are on meds and undetectible. I also know that if playing with someone is a possibility, I'll go on 2-1-1 PrEP. Hopefully, I wind up with a regular bud where it makes sense to be on it every day.
-
Pretty straightforward. If you're sucking me, I may or may not be in the mood to fuck. At a gh, I usually prefer oral. But if you turn around and put your ass against the hole, I've been known to invite a guy into my booth (when possible) if I really want to fuck. I just like holding on to a guy while I thrust, plus, I can get deeper inside.
-
Wow. So I have to ask: Does it look different (a bend etc.) now?
-
Has anyone been seriously injured while having sex? Could be something consensual or not. I'm not talking about a rough fuck that hurts but something that actually did damage. I remember many years ago I was with a tiny Asian guy. I'm a fairly tall white guy and I was in the high 200 lb range at the time (~130kg). He was having trouble taking me and when I finally got in I tried to start slow but when I was close I was really railing him. When I pulled out, he was bleeding. Not profusely, so it wasn't truly serious, but I felt alternately guilty and like a stud because I thought I ripped him apart 🙂
-
When I was a teen, I could occasionally touch the head of my cock with my tongue. It was nothing pleasurable because I was so contorted and just barely made the slightest contact. Didn't stop me from trying 🙂
-
For me, it isn't necessarily a dom/sub thing. Sure, if my partner wants to submit, I can dominate but it isn't a must have. I've shared my "sub test" here previously: If a guy can get himself off, then submit to me, he's a real sub (and I'm wildly turned on.) Too many guys are submissive until they shoot their load, then it's game over. Personally, I'm a top because I simply have never enjoyed bottoming. But I'm more than happy to reciprocate orally and I'll almost always swallow.
