Timing IS everything.... Logged in specifically to check out the forums other's perspectives, or suggestions, as I feel that urge to go down on and service a masculine, married/straight, hung dude... No reciprocation expected.
I've had varied experiences, but invariably they end up down between my legs having a go on my cock. What I've worked out this far is:
When posting profiles, less is more, be direct and then followup via chat, text, etc what's on the table... Leave no room for interpretation.
Resist the impulse to explain or justify all the bullshit challenging 'Tops don't suck cock' thing... Just do it mate, because you fucking can¡