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Kudos for being willing to help chasers. The whole fantasy/reality thing can be frustrating to deal with. The only reliable answer to that I've found is to get out to darkrooms, parties, saunas and cruising grounds where guys are more genuinely up for it, but that's a bit tricky in the current covid situation.

Agree with this. My observation and personal experience is that when guys are on the hunt - online or in a cruising situation - they can get really focused on looking for cock when ass in abundance. I have to make a real effort to remember my other 20-25% - and for me that usually manifests in the finale before leaving. Some guys may lose interest after they've shot their load, so they focus on bottoming first: Then it is easy to become obsessed and forget about giving. If everyone behaves in a similar way it creates a natural shortage. It's a rare find, but for me it is a massive turn on to take loads from guys at the end of the night having witnessed they've been prolific bottom sluts and taken a lot of cock that night. Living vicariously through other guy's loads, maybe.

I really like your definition of Pig being into quantity over quality. I think that totally nailed it. Interesting definition of Pervert being a corrupting influence - I guess that's why the shortened form means what it does and is banned here. That's pretty much what the dictionary definition is too. In the UK you sometimes hear a group of friends accuse one of their number of [banned shortened form]-ing over someone. This is usually noticeably paying excessive attention to someone they desire, but from a distance rather than being direct or cruisey. Usually if the target is considered to be above the league of the admirer, or if the attention is making them noticeably uncomfortable. You also often hear the banned shortened form used to describe someone who's paying unwanted attention to someone and ignoring social cues/body language to stop. eg: That guy in the darkroom who won't take no for an answer.

Agree with this but would add that this more common as use of drugs has become more popular: it seems to prevent a lot of guys from getting hard, and then they can only btm. I've always thought it's kinda good cruising karma to be versatile and give a little of what you want to take. The numbers game is such that we have to as there are simply not enough tops to go around! I'll add that one thing I love is taking a load from a guy who has just taken a lot of loads himself. So a cumpdump who will top at the end of the party is awesome, but a very rare find.

Thanks... I never knew that! 😱

Rarely I top and if I use poppers then when I cum it is usually 5x the amount as without. And I'll be unlikely to want to go again for long time - maybe 12-24hrs. The other thing to factor in is the very high risk of using viagra and poppers... and in group/cruising situations that may be required to stay rock hard for a long time.

I may be wrong about the raunch/dirty thing - it would be interesting to get some more opinions on that from this side of the pond. I think my interpretation comes from it's use on GayRomeo which is a predominantly mainland Europe site which has a yes/no option for "dirty" and mostly this means into yellow and sometimes brown. However I will say since Romeo is based in Berlin, this was likely translated to English from German, so it may have been lost in translation. I agree about breeding... I always thought that 'breeding' was no-pull-out bareback with the intent of passing on something from the top to the bottom. My sense is that it now is used to describe any bareback when the top cums in the bottom regardless of status or intended outcome. Gifting/Chasing seems to be the term used for that now, although not very common to see someone openly advertise as a gifter in places other than here.

One I forgot: the shortened form of Pervert, which I can't write on here because it is a banned word. Does the shortened form have a different meaning to the full length form (pervert) which would explain why one is banned but the other not?

When browsing sites like NKP or BBRT you sometimes see terms or phrases in use that have for me unclear meaning - some of them on here get auto replaced with "[banned word]" For me these terms are a little vague: maybe the point of their use is to start a conversation. But some of them make me reticent, as they could mean anything - and I'd rather not associate with someone who's definition is something that could result in a stretch in prison and being put on the sex offenders register. So, is there an unwritten collective understanding of these terms? Does their meaning change when spelled with numbers? (I can't imagine it's done to fool filters as these terms aren't banned - and disguising them makes it hard to search for them) Also interesting does their meaning change US vs British English? Here are some examples and what they conjure up in my (British) mind as a meaning... Raunch - unwashed, sweaty, pheromones, unwashed socks/underwear, man smells but not "Dirty" as defined below. Dirty - could be brown, yellow and/or cock cheese - rarely means mud (a shame!) Dirty load - spunk that contains one or more infectious STDs. Sleazy - darkrooms, cruising, restrooms/bathrooms, orgies. Dark - Satanism, Rituals, Occult. Pervert - Predatory, stalking, older. Extreme - if you took the a group of guys into whatever it is, then only the top 10% would take it this far. [banned word] (and not the Boy George musical) - something you wouldn't want your colleagues, friends or family to know about because it would cause outrage. Fetish - being turned on by specific item(s) of clothing or object(s). Breed - used to think this was about gifting/chasing but it seems to be general term for bareback Pig - generic term meaning any of the above may apply. Used by tops and bottoms. Any others? Be interesting to see if you agree??? (edited because of banned words on here)

Agree that Darlaston is a better setup and a larger venue. Darlaston is popular with south asian guys - Luton you do get some as there is a big south asian community in Luton, but you also get a lot of Eastern European guys at the Luton Sauna too. They did refurbish the darkroom in the Darlaston basement a while back, and when they put the sling back up it is really badly adjusted as the chains are at such a wide angle you have to kinda do exterme splits to rest your feet on them. Likewise the height adjustment was all wrong. I did ask them to adjust it whenever I visited, but they never did. Similarly the sling in the upstairs playroom has very wide chains - although not as bad as the one in the basement - it is just about usable. Luton Greenhouse has a license, so they sell alcohol there. Darlaston they didn't. Also call ahead to Luton if the weather is windy as they had a problem where their boilers and heat stops working when it gets windy, so you can get there to find the Jacuzzi and steam isn't working and the place is cold. The manager and staff of the Darlaston GH were always amazingly helpful and friendly. There's a skinny guy who I think is the manager at Luton who is less than friendly and can be really "off" with customers. He hates people calling to see if it is busy or that all the facilities are operating. It's not so much what is said, but the way it is said... Tutting and sighing if you ask for a something from the kitchen or bar. I once approached him for first aid after I'd cut my foot on broken glass from a discarded broken poppers bottle in the steam room and his reaction was pretty nasty - as if I'd been careless and done it on purpose, and now he had to clean it up. First Aid? They sell plasters and antiseptic cream in the supermarket down the road.

There seems to be a trend toward monetisation of everything. I'm seeing more and more on instagram in the fetish community lads asking for specific items of gear to be bought for them so they can post pictures of themselves in it - a teaser since they save the juicier stuff for OnlyFans... Then there's the "cash master" phenomenon - this seems to be dying out a bit lately, but you do still see guys advertising on social media and some hookup sites that you need to buy them something from their Amazon wish-list or add to their PayPal before they'll answer your messages. Skirting carefully around the edge of what's allowed... Maybe pay for play is what comes next: I've had a guy online saying that sorry, you're not my type, but if you get me these £170 sneakers they'll meet for a date. He got blocked. There are other similar examples. Businesses have realised that subscription models are the most lucrative rather than single transactions. Extrapolate that: Will we be paying for "friends" or to follow influencers? (we likely do now through advertising) I wonder where we'll end up?

Not for the squeamish: In my younger years, I had a very tight foreskin which was quite inhibiting and difficult to live with. When I became more sexually active around age 20 or so, a rather over enthusiastic hand job put me in Hillingdon Hospital. I am sure the lad I was playing with was somewhat traumatised by what happened... Anyway, they decided to snip it rather than fix it, and I have to say that as an adult it was a deeply unpleasant experience. It needed stitches to heal and whenever I got hard it was gory agony until they were removed. The other thing was the super-sensitivity of the now exposed parts... I remember sleeping with a box to stop the bed covers touching me for the first few weeks. Short term, it was a real pain (literally), but long term it means I get to have a lot more fun than I would have had. So I don't miss it. As for my preference - so long as it hard, I really don't mind 😉

Yes - I had a phase of enjoying rimming guys in Laboratory - but I eventually got a gastrointestinal bacterial infection that was particularly nasty and no amount of immodium would touch. The NHS being what it is, it took nearly two weeks to see a doctor who ordered a test which was abandoned because the paperwork was filled out wrong. They wouldn't give out any antibiotics until the test showed what was in the sample. Anyhow, faced with another week's wait for an appointment, then the test and follow up, I paid to go private and saw a specialist, got tested and got some meds all on the same day. I forget the cost - but it was enough that I decided that giving rim jobs to random guys was and expensive and painful risk... Having said that I do appreciate that having my hole rimmed makes it exceptionally hungry...

Agree with this. Working from home means I am in the chiltern hills, outside of London. As Viking says you see the same ten or twelve faces on all the apps and after a few years it's either happened or it'll never happen. When I got bored and horny, I took to Grindr fishing, where you drive to another town/city, park up and see who's near. Had a couple of memorable fucks doing that. As more and more people live in shared accommodation most are on the look out for guys who can 'accom' so that's can be an issue unless you do a cheap Travelodge or something. So I completely agree, the time/space issue that @Viking8x6 mentions is often the issue. Some apps attempt to solve this by allowing you to virtually travel to another area to make contact and plan ahead, but this is suboptimal because: If you arrange a meet 'right now' there's a 50% chance it'll work out If you arrange a meet for 1-2 hours time there's a 20% chance it'll work out. If you arrange a meet for 2-12 hours time there's a 10% chance it'll work out. If you arrange a meet for 12-48 hours time there's a 5% chance it'll work out. >48 hours and it's <1% So for me the answer is (or was pre-covid) the saunas, bars and clubs. Because of Covid these are mostly closed in the UK and some permanently closed. So a rediscovery of Hampstead Heath has happened this year, and I've had good fun up there. Now the infection rates are up again and total lockdown starts in a few days, most guys are using the apps for window shopping and wanking.

The most used items are: shower attachment douche, play sheets, electrostim box with metal conductive butt plug, electro nipple clamps, collection of plugs and dildos of various sizes (glass ones are current favourite), Austrian army boots (used for huffing poppers), Gas mask with eye lenses painted out black, Long thick industrial rubber gloves. More rarely used: Speculum, Vacuum cylinder, Cock rings, Rubber hood with only nose holes, Rubber hood with built in medical breathing mask, Black rubber rebreathing bag, Funnel to fit hood, Collar, arm and leg restraints, ropes and straps, pegs and clamps, sharpie marker, Pallet wrap, knee pads, body armour, full rubber suit, rubber replica Adidas Chile 63 tracksuit, 1pc bike leathers and various accessories. I also tend to use items from the local DIY/hardware store than buy specialised toys. Examples are cable ties and cutter, chain and carabiners, clamps and clips. My play sheets are actually Wilko shower curtains which were £2.99... bargain! Looking at getting a sling and making stand from "tube and bracket" for use at home.

I just tried from Virgin Media UK and I get the "You must be over 18" screen, then I click OK I get the login screen. From here If I register a new account I get the screen that asks me for all the details to set it up. I didn't go any further. If you want me to set one up for you, DM me.

I don't know if it's related but I had a lot of problems with BBRT when I was with BT as my ISP. Sometimes I had to use my mobile phone 4g tethering to get it to work. As I remember it was something to do with the encryption/security in https: being messed with by BT. It was a bit of a pain, and I eventually switched to Virgin Media and that worked no problems. But I will say this was using the site not registering a new address.

That seems very expensive. Back when I was buying PReP I was paying £80/month in 2018. It's been a while, so I just checked and it's now down to £20-£60/month: [think before following links] https://www.iwantprepnow.co.uk/buy-prep-now/

Definitely. Hampstead Heath mostly.

The reputation score on here is a pretty good indicator of how engaged someone is in the community and I imagine it is difficult to keep up a charade for a long time and get a good reputation on here if you're a fake. It's only an indication: even with reasonable reputation scores, there are sometimes suspicious posting patterns that do make me wonder if one person is using multiple profiles to promote themselves. That said, I believe we shouldn't discriminate and we should always be welcoming and accepting of new members who will naturally have low reputation scores. I quite like the way you can leave encounter feedback on people's profiles on Squirt.org. You can also do the same on NKP but the nature of that site is that you tend to get some sub/btm guy with a load of comments on his profile from other bottoms trying to attract attention from any tops browsing rather than useful feedback. BBRT has the option to link profiles with play buddies and this is usually a good indicator of how engaged someone is in playing.

Argh... I sooo miss Pants, SOP, etc. :...(

Mine are sensitive and wired to the horny part of the brain. Squeeze them and it causes an instant hard on. I'll probably tell you to squeeze harder or use fingernails or teeth to make it more intense. Squeeze them real hard and I'll do pretty much anything asked of me. It's great when you find someone who knows how to make you dance on the edge of intense pleasure/pain.

Hmmm well my March visit got bumped to October - silly me thinking this covid thing would be over by then... Anyhow deciding whether to go or postpone again

Don't mind it generally if it doesn't get in the way of fun. I was up Hampstead last night in the darkroom area there was a guy who kept filming using his phone with the light on and taking pics with the flash. He wasn't really involved with the action just being a nuisance with his phone. It kinda spoiled the vibe as it lit up the darkroom area so much and ruined everyone's night vision. The point of the darkroom is that it is dark and anonymous - not a source of free material to fill up someone's profile with images - especially when he wasn't engaging with others.

Also seeing this on Mac OS 10.15.6 / Safari 13.1.2