Thanks for all the advice and giving me your thoughts guys. As someone still relatively new to the BB scene (about a year, or just over), ir's comforting to know that there's places like this that exist where you can go with questions and leave with answers, not shame or embarrassment.
To elaborate on some of my original post's subject, his VL was just a tad over. He actually debated even calling and mentioning it, but felt it was the right choice (and I agree) since he knew of our relationship and my status. I think the increase is honestly just stress, or at least stemming from it. We're in the process of renoing his house for sale, so it's been a pretty tense past couple months, which is also why he has missed some doses. I don't want to give the impression that he doesn't cqre abput his health or that he missed his doses, quite the contrary, but his mind hs been elsewhere as of late, so I can understand. We've also been partying a lot more frequently (partially to stay up later to get more work done), so that's the other contributing factor.
At the very least, this has got the conversation started between us, which is progress in of itself. I think I may need to go without him breeding me for the next bit, and I will use condoms if he insists. But i'll make sure its known that I don't approve of this blasphemy lol.
As far as PreEP goes, it's not an option for me at the moment. I'll admit I haven't been following this subject all that closely the past couple years, but when I first found out about it people were looking at massive payments here in Canada since it was not covered. The one guy I knew that was on them was paying about $875/month, which was outrageous. This was also in Ontario, however, and I am in Alberta now. Alberta has HIV meds paid for in full, while Ontario does not, so there might be a bit of a regional loophole worth investigating...