Long time vers guy, I'm 37 now. I mainly top nowadays but used to love bottoming. However, when I feel the need to take dick nowadays, I still get frustrated because it seems my ass is just not 'deep' enough for dicking. The top gets about three or four inches inside then hits my second hole.
So my question is, do some guys have longer back passages than others? It just seems like there's very little room for manoeuvre back there, ha. I can stick my middle finger in and if it's fully inserted I'm pretty much nearly inside the second hole. That's only a matter if inches at best. I watch porn guys and gals who take such deep dicking, and even amateur gay guys, (before you say 'don't expect porn to mirror reality') and I've stood and watched dudes in bath houses take slammings with ease. I have played with my ass for years so I don't think it's a question of 'training' or anything.
Strangely enough if I relax I can actually take my 7.5 inch dildo relatively easily past the second hole. So is it just a mindset thing? Or is it because I don't use poppers? I honestly don't know.