barecubtop

Somehow Indianapolis still has two...I don't know how.

Good for you. I haven't been on BZ nearly as much as I used to be, but I had some time to browse around this evening and saw your initial post and could definitely relate. I've put on some weight over the last couple years, and while most things in my life are good (employed, own a home, "comfortable" in many ways), I am definitely not feeling as desirable as I used to....whether it's because of the weight, my age (41 now), or where I live in the city I'm in (a few miles away from where the majority of the gays live downtown). I know that I need to make some changes, large or small, to start losing some weight and eating healthier, etc...and I want to, not only to look better but also just to feel better, sleep better, etc... However, knowing/wanting and taking action are different things. I have always enjoyed going to the bath house, both here in my city and places like Chicago, and have always had good experiences at those places (i.e. getting action). I recently went to Chicago with the intent of going to the bath house (Steamworks) and hopefully having some slutty fun. I knew going in that there was a chance I wouldn't have as much fun as I used to, and set my expectations accordingly. Sure enough, I didn't get much action...I sucked a few cocks (none to completion), got a little head (not to completion) by people stopping by my room while the door was open, and fucked one guy before I left...while pre-pandemic I would fuck at least 2-4 guys each visit. Since I had set my expectations realistically, I didn't leave angry/upset...it was still hot to be in that atmosphere to see all the naked guys, hear others having sex, etc...but I am using that recent visit to help motivate myself to act on those changes I need to make. Good luck!

Every few days... I end up "watching" porn while I edge and look for hookups on the apps. So, putting "watching" in quotes means that I'm not really watching it too closely...but the sounds and the occasional glance at it keep me going for awhile while I hope someone will respond on the apps and want to fuck.

Me on my knees sucking a daddy bear who's wearing a leather harness, a ripe jock (pulled aside while I suck), and smoking a cigar. He's talking dirty to me, maybe texting a buddy of his to come over and join us. Maybe he blows a load down my throat and then shows me how to puff on a cigar while he recovers for round 2 where he fucks me... Maybe after i get him nice and hard he tells me to turn around and blows the cigar smoke at my hole and rims me before he pushes in and fucks and breeds me. Maybe it's a combination of both, he feeds me the first load, we relax a little, I start sucking him again while his buddy comes over to join us, daddy 1 fucks me while I suck the new daddy...then they just take turns fucking me until they both breed me. Could probably think of another fantasy where I top some twink or cub or something too, but been in more of a bottom mood lately.

Option 1 or 2....too loose and sloppy won't get me off.

The response is pretty overwhelming that verbal tops are better... However, as an introverted (mostly) top myself, give us quiet ones a chance. lol I try to be verbal sometimes, but it can be awkward - like some of you have said, I don't want to do the "porn talk". I always try to grunt or somehow let the guy know I'm blasting inside of him, for sure. As a suggestion, if you're with a top that's sorta quiet, initiate some talk...ask him how that hole feels, etc...that sometimes "breaks the ice" enough to get me a little more vocal with someone. Just my two cents.

I always laugh at the ones that go something like this: Them: You looking? Me: Yes Them: You host? Me: Yes Them: Address? Mind you, at this point they don't have any stats or pics in their profiles, nor have they expressed anything about what they're into or looking for...do they really expect me to give them my address?

I live in Indianapolis and (somehow) we have two bathhouses that are still open. Club Indy is downtown and The Works is out by the fairgrounds. I went to Club Indy this week after several months without going (no particular reason other than scheduling and convenience). Over the last couple years they've replace the hot tub with a larger dry sauna, and they rearranged the dark room to be a little more maze-like with a sling and some gloryhole booths. When I was there this week, it was pretty dead in terms of a crowd, but I fucked one of the employees. I agree with others who have said Steamworks in Chicago is pretty amazing. I was up there in December and it was just as great as before the pandemic. I need to get up there more often.

Back in the day (15-20 years ago now), I did the foot tapping thing in the restroom stalls of a rest area I stopped at sometimes....usually was a waste of time, but got some head a couple times too. Never went back to their truck, though.

I went back to Steamworks in December for the first time in over 2 years...had a great time. Hoping to find another weekend to get back up there and whore around a bit.

Went up to Chicago last Friday to meet a friend who flew in from the west coast. We caught up, had some deep dish pizza, and went to Steamworks bathhouse for a few hours. It was technically a bear night, but of course there's always a mix of all different body types, ethnicities, etc...refreshing to see so many hot men all in one place since I hadn't been up there since before the pandemic began. Several guys came into my room to suck me when I had my door open. I ended up getting one of the daddy types off before he left the room - nice load down my throat. Another muscle daddy came in and we sucked each other - easily the biggest cock I've ever seen; people talk about "beer can" size, this guy was more like those energy drink cans that are a good 2 inches in diameter and 10-12 inches long - I could barely get my mouth around his head. Turns out I was the first guy he played with, so neither of us got off since we wanted to hold off for others. Ended up doing a lot of mutual oral, making out, etc...with a fellow cub type guy who i'm guessing was around my age. I let him fuck and breed me right before I had to go meet my friend to leave. He bred me, got his towel back on, and left pretty quick. Surprisingly, I didn't stick my dick in any ass that whole night...it used to be that I'd fuck and breed at least 2-3 guys when I was there for a few hours. Funny how things can change over time....but of course, I have been looking for a nice ass to unload in all weekend since. Hoping to get up there again soon..was nice to get back up there after so long (for both the sex and the city in general).

Been a long time since I had anything to post here... I've been craving some dick lately, and it's been a good week for it. Last Sunday afternoon/evening, I finally got two daddy types that I've been chatting with for over a year to stop by. First one was late afternoon...did the usual where I had him come in, drop his pants, sit in my chair, and I got on my knees in front of him. He was a kisser too, so did some of that before I got to work. Didn't take long before he unloaded down my throat. Second guy was someone I always see online pretty late (around midnight), and I should have been in bed for work the next day, but I was still horny. Same situation, he came over, got naked, sat in the chair, and I started sucking...he had some trouble getting hard but said I was doing a great job. I let him finger me a little - I had been playing with a butt plug all evening - and that got him going a little. Then, he said he wanted to jack to get himself close...so I got on the couch with my ass in the air and within 15-20 seconds he stood up and came over and shot his load all over my hole. I told him to rub it into me and he did. Fast-forward to tonight (Friday)...I hit up this guy that I had chatted with last weekend, an older daddy type in a hotel. Did the usual chatting about what we were looking for and into. Asked him if he wanted me to come over to his hotel and he said "sure". So I got my lube and poppers and started driving the 15 minutes to the hotel....had not heard from him during the drive, and he didn't respond when I said I was in the parking lot. Hit him up on another app and asked if he was ghosting me, and he claimed internet was being spotty (not sure if I believe this or not)...but when I asked whether he wanted me to come up or not, he said yes. Got up to the room, and we went at it...body contact, kissing, sucking...and he was like "Daddy wants to fuck that ass". He lubed me up, I took a hit of poppers, and he slid in...hurt a little, since I hadn't been fucked in months...so we slowed down a bit, but then he got inside again and it felt great. He got into a pretty intense rhythm, I told him to breed me deep, and he did. Kissed a little more and I asked if he could get hard again and he sorta laughed...but we might get together again tomorrow before he leaves town. Of course, I'm still looking for more tonight....

Been a long time since I've posted here... I've had a long dry spell lately, other than sucking some daddy dick occasionally. Chatted with a younger (early 20s) guy a week or two ago, but it didn't go anywhere at the time (of course). Decided to "tap" him on the app a few days later and he messaged me back...went through the whole "what's up" back and forth but pretty much got to him saying "I want to suck your dick". He asked me if I could host and when I told him I could but my housemate would be in another room, he said he was fine with it. He actually showed up (sort of a shocker lately), and he was cute as fuck. Got to my bedroom, made out, clothes came off, told each other how sexy we thought the other one was...I laid on the bed and he went to town sucking me, with occasional trips back up to make out some more. At one point I flipped over on top of him, he spread his legs, and I was sort of dry humping him while we kissed. We hadn't talked about fucking, so I didn't do any more than that...but after he got back on top of me and sucked me some more, he straddled me and (without lube, he must have either taken a load before coming over or pre-lubed before he drove over) lowered himself onto me. Damn his hole felt good. Flipped over into doggy and we both hit the poppers a couple times before I started slamming myself hard into him for a few minutes and exploded. I started heading into the bathroom to rinse off and he came in right behind me and started feeling me up again, sucking me a little, etc...while we chatted for a few minutes. Pretty sure he would've wanted round 2 had I been up for it (and I should've). Said he and his bf were going out of a town for a couple weeks but he wanted more when he came back. Hope he keeps his word.

I'll echo others and say that I appreciate this post. I skimmed most of the responses, but some things that stood out... * no longer being as interested in the cumdumps that already have loads in them * feeling like the weight I put on makes me less attractive and that's why I'm not getting any action * wanting more connection * getting older (milestone birthday today, actually) and re-evaluating what's important Nothing much more to add that other people haven't already said. Good luck finding what you want/need everyone!